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friends parents keep tagging along
My friends parents keep tagging along whenever we hang out somewhere, my mom trusts me to hang out with people by myself. But I have never had this experience because my friends parents are ALWAYS there. So, what should I do?
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This is one of those question where knowing your age is important to the way any of us would answer you. Also knowing if you are of the same or opposite sex would be helpful.
You use the term "hanging out," not dating. So I will key in on that as an age reference." I am also going to assume you are of opposite sexes.
Assuming you are in your early teens or preteens having your friends parents tag along is not that inappropriate. Especially if you are a year or two older and of the male sex. In the dark ages of great-grandparents this was called chaperoning and was very normal. There are some places in the world to day where chaperoning is till very normal.
If you are 15 or 16 years of age or older and this is happening. Then something is wrong here. These parents are for whatever reason they have, be it religious or otherwise not trusting of either you or your friend.
If it is not for religious reasons which you cannot combat. Then a discussion would be in order to find out why and see if there is a way to resolve this. When I say discussion I mean just that. If you come at them in any way other than a sincere manner to ask why they need to follow you around when your together you will not get to a point where you can find a resolution.
Example. When my Son was young until he was old enough to drive; we would of course have to drive him and his friends different places. The Mall was a favorite hangout. On many occasion we would drive them there, drop them off then my wife and I would go in have dinner and shop or just hang out ourselves until it was time to pick them up and return home. It was easier then going home and coming back.
We made a rule with them, or rather them with us. They needed to acknowledge us first if we happened to come together while strolling the Mall. If they were with girls we should not attempt to acknowledge them but to walk on by as if they were any other teenage. This worked for us.
We were not there to check up on them. It was a convenience for us and sort of a night out as well. At the same time we were there a cell phone call or page away should they need us for any reason.
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There is really nothing you could do.
There could be tons of reasons why they tag along but if your friend has a problem with it too, then they should talk to their parents.
Every parent is different. I had a friend I hung out with when I was younger and her parents came with us everywhere too. I never really had a problem with it though.
I don't know how old you are. If you are in your early teens or pre-teens, it's a little more understandable they are with you guys when you hang out. But if you're like 16 or 17, then maybe it can be a little awkward with them being their all the time.
Well, just talk to your friend. Other than that, there's really nothing you can do.
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Hard to know how to answer since i dont know the age group or gender of the friends.
I can see parents wanting to be present if the two young people are 10-13 or so and the opposite sex.
At that age, I told all my daughters they could make friends with males and invite them over to our house and/or maybe come along on a camping trip or something.
It sounds like the parents here are not doing the initiating as i would but tagging along like a younger sibling.
If we are talking 2 girls or 2 guys, then it becomes a little more serious.
It could be the parents have a trust issue with your friend or with all young people. Perhaps they imagine the worst might happen such as their child making bad decisions, like getting into drugs and such.
It's not like there is something you can do. Its not your parents. If your friend doesn't like it, they should say something to the parents and find out why they come along every time. I don't know how well your friends know the other parents. If they do, tell them and ask them what they think.
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