OK, so my dad has cancer, my mom needs 2 hav surgery, my sista is a diebetic, my other sis just had a baby, and we hav alot of other things like that going on in my family. I really need an additude ajustment. When ever some1 else says somethin negitive, i become negitive, and every1 gets mad at me. How do i change this?
You are definitely going through a stressful time. Find someone to talk to that will help a little bit. If you start acting positively even though you feel like crap, it actually helps you turn that way.
Just try to relax a little. This happens to me too. I think I am an attitude sponge.
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Hey, it's Siren here...my best bud and I have known each other for 13 years. We're both seniors in high school. All of a sudden, this year, I feel like we just...split. I can't talk to her about the important things in my life the way I can talk to my other friends. Like, a couple of my friends from band and I - well, I guess - bonded one night and I feel like I can talk to them more than I can talk to her, and I've only known them for 2 years. I can talk to them about things like french kissing with pop rocks (just an example, lol) and if I tried to talk to her about it, she'd just go "oh...um, okay," and change the subject or something. She's always been a little less mature than me, I suppose, even if she is a year older than me. But it's never bothered me until now. I want to be able to talk to her about these kinds of things, but I can't, and it's bothering me. Because of it, we're pretty much splitting. It really sucks because we used to be like sisters. She used to know all my secrets. Now only one person does, and it's not her. I wish it was, though. I mean, I miss being able to talk to her about anything. Help if you can?
-Siren =(
As people grow up, they sometimes grow apart. Even those you have been friends with for years. This happened to me in seventh grade when my friend decided she wanted to be popular. I said bye because I felt that meant she couldn't hang out with me anymore. And I didn't like the popular people so I settled for infamous. Your friend may have finally jumped ahead of you in the maturity area, but that doesn't matter.
Anyway, don't let it bother you and enjoy the ear of your new friends.
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ok here is the thing my mom is really annoyin she is always gone with her boyfriend but it "also has to do with business". And me and my brothers don't like my moms boyfriend but if either of us tell her that she will say ' what i can't have my own personal life' but the thing is she always asks us if we like him and if we say how we really feel she will just change it around so it is our fault and she can't have a life. O yea and she is ALWAYS down where her bf lives on business and stays there for weeks at a time sometime. but my question is how can i tell my mom how i feel with out her changing it around so it is my fault cause i have tryed telling her how i felt before and she started crying and said fine then i won't have a personal life or make us more money when i would rather have less money and a mother then more money and a mother that is NEVER home??? i need help because this is ruining my life please help i don't know what to do anymore!!!!! thanks
Your mom has issues. She needs counseling. If she is abandoning you for weeks at a time, you need to find a relative that can help you. If there is no relative, child services needs to be involved, which sucks, but someone needs to be there for you. There is no excuse for leaving you alone for that long. She should have thought about having a life before she had kids. Being a mom means giving up everything you have if necessary to support your children. It is not your fault whatever she says.
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i'm 13/f and i skateboard but like no other s in my school do... besides like this 6th grader, but thats it. and i wear "punk" cloths i guess, like skateboarding shoes and element shirts and hoodies and dickies skateboarding pants, but idk if thats like a turn off for guys that skateboard cuse thats kinda how they dress... i'm not like a tom-boy, god no, but i feel kind of weird around guys that are wearing the same stuff as me, if u know what i mean. help please!! thanks so much
All right let's see if I can really confuse you. It's ok to wear whatever you want, but if you wore something completely different then you would have their attention. I don't mean they ignore you now, but if you switch it up they have an instant conversation starter. Be comfortable with yourself, and others will be comfortable with you.
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hey um this is kind of awkward, but i'm 14 going on 15 in a couple of months, and i belive i have met "the one" i've know him sience i was 2 1/2 and he wants to um finger me, and i am totally comfortable with it, but my parents arn't. should i do it behing my parents back, or listen to my parents and not do it at all, but my mom is the one whos conserned my dad doesn't care. i've haven't talked to them about it they kinda listen in my phone conversations with one of my good friends, have you ever got fingered or done it to someone? if not then how old were you when you did it, please.... im so CONFUSED! i'll rate!
It's nice that you can talk to your parents about these things. They just don't want you to grow up too fast. I think I was 16 or so. But sometimes it can lead to other things, and that can get you into real trouble. You have to really trust the guy not to do anything else. I doubt seriously that you have met "the one" this early. There is so much out there to experience and with those experiences you change your mind because you have matured. I am not saying that he couldn't be "the one" in the future, it is too soon to tell that right now. I didn't even want to think about settling down until after college.
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I just heard through my friend that our friend ran away this afternoon. My friend heard about his running away through his boyfriend who he called before he ran away. His boyfriend said that he is at his father's apartment which we had previously thought was in California but the number on his boyfriend's caller ID was local.
The simple thing to do would be to have his boyfriend call the number on the caller ID but the father has on occasion beaten the both of them for being gay. So it's probably not a safe idea.
Both my friend and I are terribly consumed with worry about our friend. See, he is manic depressive and has ADHD which he takes many many medications for. We're pretty sure (along with his boyfriend) that he wouldn't have remembered to take his meds along with him, it's just not something he'd think about. Everything is the cello with him. Once, he came to school not having taken them and he was uncontrollable. Around noon he wanted to "whisk me away to an ethnic market for couscous". I'm really worried.
I don't actually know what I'm asking for, but I feel helpless in all of this.
Have someone else call the number on the caller ID. He might actuallly pick up. He will probably be ok without the medicine for a day, but he needs to get them. You could try to involve another adult that you trust about the situation so that maybe something can be done. I don't care who the guy is, but beating someone due to their sexual preference is only making things worse. The abuse may actually be the cause of the problems that he has. If you can get him somewhere safe, and another member of his family can help out, that would be ideal.
And couscous is pretty good stuff. Well anyway, best wishes.
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i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little while now.. we were really good friends before we started dating and he is so awesome. he lives down the street from me and comes over alot and my parents like him. but they are really overprotective so i havent told them that i am dating him yet. im really worried about what they would do because i dont want them to stop letting him come over and stuff.. i meet his parents the other day and they think im a good person & his mom want to take us to a movie. but im afraid that when she meets my mom she will tell my mom that i am datin her son. so i dont no if i should tell my parents or not? what do yall think? i will rate 5's
ps. my sister knows that we are goin out but is waiting for me to tell them.
Ok you gotta tell your parents. They may feel more comfortable if they meet your boyfriend. And they would probably be impressed if you let them meet his mom. She sounds cool, and if she is taking you to the movie, then they would be happy that you had a chaperone. You just have to spill the beans.
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Ok i am DAting this guy and i am like the kind of girl who likes to take things slow and build up are relationship first and on or third date hoe is already wanting to kiss me i dont want to hurt his feelings but i do want him do be my boyfriend _HELP_
Tell him that you aren't ready for kissing yet. There is nothing wrong with that. If he can respect you for waiting until you are ready for this one little thing, then you have a really good guy that you can trust. Just let him know that you need to take it slow so that you can enjoy being with him instead of checking off "things I think I must do in a relationship to be cool>"
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Ok so when I was six (i am 18 now) my mom died from Multiple sclerosis (MS), I never really knew her because she suffered alot of the years when I was young with MS and she could hardly communicate and move and do things, I have a few vivid memories of her but nothing really happy. (one memory was she asked me to get her something from the cupboard because she was in a wheel chair and to weak to do it and i couldnt hear her or understand and we both ended up being mad because of it) Well for my whole life I have never really had a motherly figure or knew how to be a girl like the other girls my age , like i try being really girly and do make up and such but i cant do it, my older sister was never really around much to help ... like i get upset all the time and I feel that I am never going to be a normal person because I was "abandoned" like... when I have children i will have NO idea what to do, like my boyfriends sister just had a kid and i was trying to change his diaper and a 12 year old but in and was like "this is to big of a job for you" . I am always upset over the fact that I have had no mother and am totally jealous of everyone who has had an easy life growing up with a mom. I guess i am asking what should i do to gte over this? And please no one respond with "get over it loser" blah blah... i dont want to hear it, i just want to know what someone else would do in this situation.
Well, your friends have moms. You could ask one of them for help. Taking a home economics class can help with taking care of a home, if that is part of what you are worried about. And there are babysitting classes probably at your local Y. Have you contacted Big Brothers/Big Sisters? They could help you find a girl mentor to help you through some of these rough patches. Don't be afraid to ask for advice. If you are doing things about it, you will start feeling better about the whole thing.
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Ok one day I was skateboarding and I turned because my friend called me and the skateboard ran into something and I fell off. I was having pains in my knee after that(I landed on my hands and knees) so I went to the doctor and it turns out I tore ligameants in my knee and have to wear a knee brace for 1 month! I dont know what to do. I skateboard all the time and rollerblade(and play TONS of sports) but now I cant do any of the things I love for a whole month. I hate it. Any ideas on how I could play sports & skateboard again?
15/f
You have got to stay off of it to heal. That is just the way it is. You may ask your doctor if you can go swimming. That way you can still get a little exercise without putting too much pressure on the knee. But with torn ligaments, it's serious. I suggest catching up on some DVDS, writing poetry, reading a book, etc. ad naseum.
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I'm a 30 yr old male. My situation is a bit complicated. Several years ago I became very close to this girl. Problem was she was seeing someone else and her family expected her to remain with this person. Our relationship was never really defined, but we were close. Abruptly, things changed. She wouldn't see me or talk to me anymore. I suspect that someone may have mentioned me to her family,which caused a problem. We were supposed to talk about it but were not able to after that. Anyway, this was seveal years ago and I've always regretted not getting the chance to say goodbye or tell her what she meant to me. I would like to write a letter resolving these issues, but seeing as so much time has gone by, I don't want to come across as a nut or scare her off.
What kind of things should I write and what should I avoid writing? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
You might come across as a nut anyway after all these years. Sometimes you just have to take that chance. It's only a letter; it's not like you are stalking her. Don't say I want to marry you. You might mention that you would like to just meet for coffee and talk about it. Honesty is probably the best policy. You never know, she might be in a place where she would like to see you again and/or start dating. Just do it.
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I have this guy friend, we can call him Rob. Well Rob lied to me about something and i got mad and stopped talking to him. He was begging for forgiveness and asked my friend, let's call her Barb, to try to make me forgive him b/c he was seriously sorry. And i could tell that he was sorry, but i don't want people walking all over me, you know? But then he told Barb these things he wanted to tell me like "i'd swim the whole ocean to get to you and apologize" and he said i was beautiful. And no guy has ever said that about me. I've pretty much forgiven him but he tried SO hard to make me forgive him and it sounded like i really meant a lot to him (man that sounded snobby) and i'm wondering if i should ask him out. Does it sound like he even likes me? by the way, i REALLY like this guy! Plz help!
He's groveling, cut him some slack this time. Explain to him that this was the last time he lies to you because if you are going to have any relationship, you have to trust the person you care about. If he didn't like you, he wouldn't be trying to walk on water to get you to forgive him. At least he has the good sense to know that he was wrong.
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Hey okay i am 14 f... a lil over weight, okay actually pretty big n all! but neways i like this guy.. we will call him "Teddy" neways, I like him sooo much, and were friends n all but i have like a big attitude n stuff but yeah neways... he likes one of my best friends n she likes him.. i dont wanna interfear but i liked him first.. he says im not fat n im not ugly, but i know i am!! but also i mean i liked him first and it really makes me jealous! does anyone have anyways i can get into shape loose weight n look good.. so he likes me even more i am currently 5'7 and almost 250 lbs.. i know about but still help me out here!! maybe making a big change n my life will help.. i mean my life is a lil messed up with family n all at the moment so yeah! please help me out here i'm really confused .. thanks soo much! *K*
Well the good news is you are 14, and it might not be as hard to lose weight. Second of all, if you are going to lose weight, DO IT FOR YOURSELF NOT SOME IDIOT GUY. If he likes you for who you are, that's great. I am 5'7" and 250, but I am 32. It sucks. I am trying to lose weight all the time. Cutting back on sodas and sugary stuff helps tremendously. And it will cut down on future health problems. I am currently facing blood pressure and cholesterol meds if I don't get some exercise. The good news is that being tall helps in you looking slimmer faster. Best wishes.
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My ex boyfriend used to tell me he loved me and that I am beautiful even after we broke up...he loved me more than anyone and anything in this whole world. he told me that I was the only thing that matterd to him and that I was the only good thing in his life. and I know what his life is like, and believe me...its TERRIBLE. Anyways, I was to stupid to see how much he really meant what he was saying. and everyone else was telling me that I mean the world to him and I wouldnt believe it. But now I understand. And I want to fall BACK in love with him. I was in love with him once...at least i think i was..it didnt last very long. ive had a thing for my other ex 4 a LONG time and he came back into my life and I up and left the first guy for him. But now I want to fall back into love with him and I dont know how. I mean I love him, but I'm not in love with him. How can I fall in love with him again?
First of all, you cannot force yourself to love someone. Just start seeing him again. Explain to him what is going on, i.e. "I don't want to say anything I don't mean. I do like you, but ever since we broke up I haven't felt that strongly. Please just give me time." The more time you spend with him, hopefully, the more time you want to be with him. It sounds simplistic, but its difficult. I did this with my current boyfriend, and we have been dating a year since I said "I love you" again. I had to get the guy I was dating out of my life (he should have been long gone), and I wanted to feel like I used to feel before he dumped me. Of course, he had been chasing me for a few years, but finally I conceded to start dating. It took several months, but it happened. Just let him know that you care, and be patient.
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I can never have a good day at school. I have alot of frieds but being that i have to get up in the morning i get cranky and when i get cranky i am just really quiet.. i know you'll tell me more sleep.. besides that what else could i do? because i sleep from 10:30-7:15
Breakfast and going to bed early is a good start. Try not to eat anything two hours before going to bed. Get a few minutes of exercise, even walking helps. I know its hard to do when you feel tired, but you feel tired because you aren't getting enough exercise. Avoid doing exercise an hour before going to bed. Get some sunshine whenever you can.
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ok me and my best friend have been friends for like a year. she transferred to our skool 2months into the school year during our freshman year. well when she first moved here she still dated her this guy from her old town which is only like 20miles away...maybe less. well they broke up and no its been like 9months since they broke up and lately she has been sayin that i should go out with him. from what she has told me about him he sounds like the kind of guy i would date and i think we could be good together but she is my best friend and i dont kno whether i should date him or not. i mean there is the best friend rule..no dating ur best friends ex...idk i have brought it up to her and how im afraid if i date him it will hurt out friendship but she insists that it would be fine bc she wasnt in love with him and she thinks he and i would be good for eachother and stuff. i just dont kno wut to do....plz i need sum serious advice on this one... ~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
Call him on the phone and talk to him. She has given you her blessing. She obviously cares enough about you both to make sure that you are happy.
I actually sort of did this once. My friend started dating my fiancee with my blessing (well I didn't offer him up, they both asked me). I said that it was ok. They actually got married. I don't hang out much with them since I moved away from home, but they have 2 kids. So as long as she truly doesn't mind, it could be wonderful.
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I like this guy who is a musician...actually he's in three different bands. So, every weekend he has shows that he plays. Being supportive, I come to see him play, but since he's playing we hardly get to talk, and when we do he's worn out and tired. Our conversations are pretty much meaningless online , and I don't like to call guys- I wait for them to call me.
Lately he's seemed pretty distant. Is this a sign for me to back off, or is he waiting for me to make the first move?
Oh I know what this one is like. My boyfriend is a DJ. Three bands! Wow. Why don't you pick a day a few weeks from now, and ask him to keep it open to spend some time together so that he can plan his rehearsals and shows some other day? One good date is better than 5 lousy ones. Be aware that going to see the band may be the only way you see him on the weekends. If he isn't wanting to carve a few days a month out for you, then I would move on.
Guys are a silly bunch. It is ok to call him because as busy as he is, he may not get to it. I would only call him once in a while so as not to pester him. Let him know how you are feeling.
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years and I live with him now. Well, he wants a kid really bad and I told him no because I'm almost 20 and we both work at MAC. And, MAC doesn't really pay us good. And obviously, you need money to have a kid. I'm on BC and have been for like 8 months and somehow I lost my pills. I'm organized, and I dont misplace things hardly ever and I think my boyfriend stole them. I'm getting more pills tomorrow but I just KNOW my boyfriend stole them! He hasint talked to me in two days because I accused him of stealing them. Why does he want a freaking kid so bad!? I dont want to break up with him, its been 3 years and I dont want to throw our relationship away. But what can I say to him to get his mind off kids!!!
If he is trying to sabotage your birth control method, maybe you should temporarily change over to a shot. But that is just wrong. If he wants kids that badly, he should at least offer to marry you.
Maybe you need to send his butt to a relative or something to babysit for a while. That will either get his mind off of it, or help him understand what it like to just take care of them.
Tell him what situation that would induce you to be able to have children. What would make it easier for you? Tell him what financial place you think you need to be in. What schools you want them in, etc. What sort of living arrangements you want. Maybe he would start working towards that if he needed a goal. And at twenty, I know I wasn't ready yet. I thought I would have them around 25 or so. Well, now I am 32, so who knows when it will happen, but children need a stable household to live in. He just needs to understand that. It takes at 28,000 a year to just take care of one child, and that is before college.
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Ok here is the problemo, since i bought my car February 25, 2004 iva had a major transmission leak and ive done everything i can to fix it, the problem is i dont know where the leak is, i dont know if its from the gasket, the pan, or the transmission its self(if its from the transmission im gunna shoot meh self) anyways, ive replaced the gasket TWICE, and looked carefully at the pan and there are no leaks, now i did strip one screw hole in the transmission but it was leaking before that so it was not that, anyways, if your gunna try to act cool and answer with some smart comment just dont waste your time cause im not one that cares for that stuff, if you can help me thanks alot.
Don't use stop leak! It will screw everything up. Just check your transmission fluid everyday until you can afford to fix it.
If you are still having problems with location, park your car on a larg sheet of paper. Leave it a few hours. The pink stuff is transmission fluid. It will help you locate at least a general location of where the leak is.
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this is mostly.. to people.. 18+ just because i believe yall may have more experience with things like this but all opinions are welcome.. okay i've been on birth control for about.. a month and a half.. and well me and my b/f recently started having sex.. with a condom as well.. we had sex tonight and the condom broke he had already ejaculated and was "pulling out".. and realized it was broken.. do u think i could possibly get preg... my BC pills say to use a back up method of birth control for the first 7 days but i've been on it like i said a month and a half.. so give me ur opinions.. should i be worried????
I would go immediately to Planned Parenthood or some clinic to see if you are pregnant. If you go tonight, they can usually give you an emergency pill. They can also test you for pregnancy. The chance is small, but real.
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