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I just heard through my friend that our friend ran away this afternoon. My friend heard about his running away through his boyfriend who he called before he ran away. His boyfriend said that he is at his father's apartment which we had previously thought was in California but the number on his boyfriend's caller ID was local.
The simple thing to do would be to have his boyfriend call the number on the caller ID but the father has on occasion beaten the both of them for being gay. So it's probably not a safe idea.
Both my friend and I are terribly consumed with worry about our friend. See, he is manic depressive and has ADHD which he takes many many medications for. We're pretty sure (along with his boyfriend) that he wouldn't have remembered to take his meds along with him, it's just not something he'd think about. Everything is the cello with him. Once, he came to school not having taken them and he was uncontrollable. Around noon he wanted to "whisk me away to an ethnic market for couscous". I'm really worried.
I don't actually know what I'm asking for, but I feel helpless in all of this.
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If his father doesn't want his boyfriend calling, why don't you call? Just to see if he is there and if he is okay.
If so, is there any way your friend, yourself, or his boyfriend could pick up his meds and deliver them?
The first priority is making sure your friend is physically okay and not in danger, and this includes trying to find out if he has his meds. After this, I would offer him support - if he is running away from home, then that's a pretty big sign that things are not okay at home. He might just need a hand to hold or someone to talk to.
As worrying as this all is, you are pretty limited in what you can do. If none of you can contact your friend, then it's a waiting game. Chances are that he'll contact his boyfriend, and maybe the most you can do is talk with the boyfriend about things to ask - is he safe? does he have his meds? what can you do to support him?
In the meantime, remember that it isn't your responsibility to make sure he is alive and safe, and that you have not failed if you cannot contact him. Ultimately, he made the decision to run away.
I hope he turns up soon, safe and sound. Best of luck.
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i didn't even read that. but its pretty clear what the answer is.
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your just a fag
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Have someone else call the number on the caller ID. He might actuallly pick up. He will probably be ok without the medicine for a day, but he needs to get them. You could try to involve another adult that you trust about the situation so that maybe something can be done. I don't care who the guy is, but beating someone due to their sexual preference is only making things worse. The abuse may actually be the cause of the problems that he has. If you can get him somewhere safe, and another member of his family can help out, that would be ideal.
And couscous is pretty good stuff. Well anyway, best wishes.
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