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I like this guy who is a musician...actually he's in three different bands. So, every weekend he has shows that he plays. Being supportive, I come to see him play, but since he's playing we hardly get to talk, and when we do he's worn out and tired. Our conversations are pretty much meaningless online , and I don't like to call guys- I wait for them to call me.
Lately he's seemed pretty distant. Is this a sign for me to back off, or is he waiting for me to make the first move?
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i would back off for a while!
hope this helps
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I think you should chill for a little bit. Guys normally show their feelings even when they don't mean to. Let him make the first move. If he really likes you and wants to be with you, then he'll take the initiative.
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He sounds pretty busy. My boyfriend is also a musician. He has been playing guitar for 15 years. He is not in a band, but jams with people once in a while. Anyways, we've been together for 6 years and in the past when we've fought, he accused me of taking away his dream of being a successful musician. That hurts. But he gave me an ultimatum years ago that said, "If you aren't going to be with me then I am running away to California to find some good band mates." Well I chose to be with him, but now sometimes I feel like that thing that is keeping him from flying. So just be there for this guy, even if he seems distant, don't take offense. Just always be there for him to come back to if you love him that much. Support whatever he decides. So don't back off completely or think to much about what is going on...he is simply busy doing what he loves to do, be the girl of his dreams by letting him do it. Going to watch him play is a good thing too. That probably means a lot to him. Hope I was helpful.
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Oh I know what this one is like. My boyfriend is a DJ. Three bands! Wow. Why don't you pick a day a few weeks from now, and ask him to keep it open to spend some time together so that he can plan his rehearsals and shows some other day? One good date is better than 5 lousy ones. Be aware that going to see the band may be the only way you see him on the weekends. If he isn't wanting to carve a few days a month out for you, then I would move on.
Guys are a silly bunch. It is ok to call him because as busy as he is, he may not get to it. I would only call him once in a while so as not to pester him. Let him know how you are feeling.
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wow, kool a musician... but anyway my advice... lol.
It seems kinda hard to tell but he might want alittle more space, but to me it sounds like he's waiting for you to make the move. So call him when you think the time is right.
simone
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It may be.. but sometimes people do that playing hard to get i would just call him to see whats up and then go from there but if you get continous signs then back off
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i, being a musician myself, know that they are really busy. I wouldn't say to back off... I just think his priorities are in a certain order. Music, being pretty high up there, is probubly more imporatant than a girlfriend...not trying to be rude....just honest!...but i have heard that some gys like it when girls make the first move....and then again...he could be completely oblivious to the whole situation and not even realize that you feel this way.
I for one love musicians..you have great taste!
hope i helped!
~*~Aria~*~
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ahh musicans...i have found myself in that same situation a million times. Yeah, just talk to him, because really there is nothing to loose. He could be waiting for you and or not, there's only one way to find out, IM him!
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Three bands! Geez! Now are you guys a couple, or is he just a guy that you like? Either way, just be supportive! Even if you're not a couple, being supportive will earn you brownie points. And yes, make a move and see how he responds. But keep in mind...Normally a guy who's really into you will at least try to apologize for not being able to hang out with you a whole lot. And I like to wait for guys to call me too!!! Luck! :)
-Berri
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