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OK, so my dad has cancer, my mom needs 2 hav surgery, my sista is a diebetic, my other sis just had a baby, and we hav alot of other things like that going on in my family. I really need an additude ajustment. When ever some1 else says somethin negitive, i become negitive, and every1 gets mad at me. How do i change this?
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I can relate to this. Both my grandma's have cancer. My uncle is living in ICU because he needs a heart transplant and his mechanical heart didnt work out. My other Uncle needs a kidney. My aunt has really extreme bladder problems. My cousin got married.. so she isnt around. Good thing i am answering. I told my mom that i need counsoling. Youth works.. if you have that by you go. Its $5-$10 a night.. doesnt matter the amount of hours. And you dont have to pay if you cant. They help you out and you just have someone there to help you through anything. HoPe i HeLPeD ((RaTe Me PLZ) TRiX
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I know its hard not to become negative but try not to. I've had a great-grandpa die (old age), grandpa (heart problems) and uncle (paralysis after 4 years of struggle...he was also my god uncle...) and it was all really strong. Soon everything will get better though. I mean, diabete's isnt that bad. My friend has it and she survives every day. A baby is a blessing!! Surgery is possible, and cancer has a chance of surviving. At least your okay! So next time somebody says something negative, just say "Please, don't." Or something like that.
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maybe you need to talk to someone. make an appointment with your guidance counselor..maybe you just need to get some stuff off your chest, and talking will help.
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I know how u feel i feel the same ways ALOT of times but you just need 2 find a close friend that you can confind in and tell them anything and they can help you work out problems and is just there for you. because that is what i did and i feel alot better cause they help me out alot and make me feel better when i really don't wanna care about anything else. well i hope i helped but if you need you can im me or email if u want someone to talk 2 at anytime my im and email address is xomustangurlxo@aol.com hope everything gets better for you girl love *STEPHANIE*
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if it were me, i could get around the diebetic part and if your sister is at a reasonable age i could handle with the baby because i have a 1 1/2 little sis and a 5 year old bro. hope that your dad will fight cancer and make it through, look at the positive side it must be really hard for you. ive never lost a family member and i wouldnt understand on how hard it is. your mom having sugery i could live with, depending if its serious or not hope shell get well. just look at the bright side of thinks like that. im a pretty positive person, lots of stuff happend to me but i look at the bright side and make it better. sorry if i dont help at all
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You are definitely going through a stressful time. Find someone to talk to that will help a little bit. If you start acting positively even though you feel like crap, it actually helps you turn that way.
Just try to relax a little. This happens to me too. I think I am an attitude sponge.
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Aw, I'm sorry! You have to talk to everyone about what's going on. Once, they know, they'll understand and won't say anything negative anymore. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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well first of all i have had a time in family recently that was like that and i found that its best to comfort those who are negative give them advice and just try ur hardest to b happy no matter wat.
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Have you ever thought about going into therapy? By the looks of it, you're home life sounds like a stressful situation that in every case, you can't do much to change that. The only thing you can really change is you and how you feel and your attitude. I think you should start going in to talk to a therapist about your homelife and maybe figure out some things you can do to make your life easier and less stressful on you that way you can help the people around you without everything turning negative like you said things seem to do a lot. Hope this helps.
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think positive thoughts
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look at the more positive things, if someone says "well yeah, moms getting surgery" then you could just be like "well at least she`ll be better afterwords" if you think something negative, dont say it, I know its hard, but there are some things that just dont need to be said. Its really hard and I know that this probably wasnt much help, but good luck and I hope things work out for your family. -Angel
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Try to be positive around them so that they don't feel worse then the already do. It's hard at first but when you so your loved ones in pain all you want to do is make them happy. Praying is good too. Good Luck with your family!
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