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i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i love him so much but just recently, i have been getting close with my sisters boyfriends couin, who is 23 years old and i am 17. we ended up getting closer and closer over the past few weeks and talked every day on the phone and he came over to see me everyday and hang out. then, 2 nights ago, we ended up having sex and we stayed up talking for hours and he told me how he liked me and i told him about how i felt the same way. he knows about my boyfriend and he respects the fact that i have a boyfriend but i don't know what to do because last night he came over to hang out with my sisters boyfriend and he didnt talk to me once. usually he wont talk to me in front of them that much because they would suspect something if we did. but, even when my sisters boyfriend was in the bathroom and what not, he still didn't talk to me. i don't know what to think. what are your thoughts on all this? should i tell him i really care about him? this is the first time ive cared for someone like this besides my boyfriend in a while. but, theres something about this boy. please tell me your thoughts.
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Well if he isnt talking back to your or at you I would go up to him and ask him. of course when you two are alone otherwise he would be like.. uhh what are you talking about. Maybe he didnt talk to you when your sisters boyfriend was in the bathroom was because maybe he didnt want your sister to think something was up.
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hey.....well by what i hear he did use you! First of all he just wanted a girl to give him plasure and second of all it seems like he cant find anyone else to have sex with!
and i would call it a rape and i would go to the cops and tell then about it! well i hope this helped
xxoxooxoxo nikki
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Okay I will give you my thoughts, but don't get upset, I am only telling you based on my own personal experience. When I was like 15 I thought an older guy cared about me and then things changed just how they are with you. He told me all the things he told you and we became good friends. And I also had a boy friend too. I trusted him and grew so close to him that we ended up having sex. And just like in your situation, afterwards he stopped talking to me. here's where the mistake was... SEX. You should have never slept with him. He was just using you. See a lot of older guys do this shit to younger girls. They act like they care and really want you despite the age difference and what others think. They tell what you what you wanna hear and reel you in. Then when you give up the drawls they act like they never knew you. I know its some fucked up shit but atleast you went through it now while you were still young and you can take it as a lesson to learn from. I know I did.
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You have to tell him how you feel. Ask him why he didn't talk to you! I know it's hard, but you also have to tell your bf about this, even if it means breaking up. You'll be happy as long as you have this other guy. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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You have to tell your boyfriend everything. It will be hard but in a good relationship you have to tell the truth. Even if it involves him braking up with you. He has every right to know. Twll him what you feel and what you did.
love always,
Down2marz
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oo this is a hard one...well ok first of all it seems you need to break up with your boyfriend i mean obviously if youve had sex with someone you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him you have found someone else and you need to move on... ok but if you really still love your boyfriend then you should try to talk to both guys and for your boyfriend just tell him look i kinda met this other guy and well i kinda made some mistakes i shouldnt have but not only this i need to know if you still love me or not because if you dont then i think its best we move on... after saying this to him see what he has to say .. theres to the other guy thats 23 just tell him you need a little time to think about some things then youll tell him what you decide ok. In my opinion i think its best you have some time to yourself for a while to think about your life and the situations youve been dealt with i mean you are 17 and its about the time to deside if you want to go to collage or such other things So why dont you talk to these boys and just tell both of them the absolute truth and how you feel ok i really hope this helps... ~ barbie ~
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Your young and I think this guy took advantage of you. If he really liked you he would ask you to leave your boyfriend. Instead he said that he respects that you have one. That is just an easy out for him, and then he doesn't have to make a commitment.
I also think that you need to break it off with your current boyfriend. If you can so easily give yourself to another, he is not the guy for you, nor is it fair to either of you that you stay together. Maybe you should take a break from boys and decide what you want first before just taking it.
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