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A lost cause?
I have this friend who used to be my best friend ever. We still talk alot and she is still a good friend but we have been spreading apart. We always talk about how we dont hang out enough but every time I try to hang out with her she is out with other friends or wont call me back or just doesnt pick up. Its making me really frustrated because she is awesome but I am to the point where I just want to stop trying because she never trys to hang out with me Im always trying to hang out with her. Should I just give up? And is she just trying to tell me she dosent care anymore?
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Well you know you sound like a good friend and like you care about this. I would just leave her a message or something and tell her you have put alot of effort and she doesnt show any so until she does you guys are taking a break or something and i see that you are splitting apart. I split with my 2 best friends .. Krista my first one then Kaleigh my 2nd. I didnt really know what to do about Krista but I found Kaleigh adn she helped me through it. Then i relized Kaleigh was just doing things behind my back so i moved on and perty much met my twin Hanno Banno (hannasch) but What im saying is that you probably most likely wont have the same best friend for your whole life. After all we arent living boy meets world.. which would be cool but we arent. So there for we just sometimes got to let go and move on. Hope I helped **trix** ((please rate))
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I think you should talk to her about it, and see what's going on. If nothing changes, then give up, because she might be hinting that she doesn't want to hang out with you anymore. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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Talk to her in person. Ask her why she is asking this way. Tell her you're mad that she is ignoring you. If she just doesn't care dump her. Hopefully, she'll understand. I hope I helped!
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Well, I'll see what I can tell you, 'cause I'm in that situation with my friend, sort of, except I'm on the other end. I'm the friend who's always busy.
Truth is, she might really be that busy. I mean, I am. I have a ton of music to learn, a job, friends, and a boyfriend to balance, and it gets a little difficult to balance it all sometimes. Sometimes when I'm not busy, I just want to stay at home and rest because I'm never home. That might be another of her reasons. I can see where your friend is coming from, I think, and I really don't think she's just stopped caring. I feel like I split from my best friend, but that's because I have so much going on in my life, and she wants it to be like old times, hanging out all the time, talking about nothing...I mean, I'd love to do that, but life gets in the way, you know? Next time you get to talk to her, talk to her about what you're feeling. Tell her what you just told us, and that it makes you think she doesn't care anymore. I seriously doubt she'll say "you're right, I don't care, go away." Maybe you can resolve this - but, maybe not. Friends do split apart as time goes on, and it sucks, believe me, but it's a fact. Strong friendships are usually salvageable. I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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Neva give up until its ova for sure
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Well, here it goes, I can't tell you if she doesn't care anymore, but, what you can do to find out is that try to get her at a time when shes not busy, pull her aside and look at her right in the eye and talk to her about it. If she doesn't want to then bring up some situations from the past like you said shes always with her friends and is never picking up your calls or never calling you back, and show her how much you really care about her and your friendship it self. The key here is to take action, don't just sit there and let it all happen to you...Hope I helped..
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no, because there is a chance that they might be just busy. that or they might just want to blow you off. but i had the same problem and we didnt talk for a year. and we started just saying hi and then she asked me if i wanted to go to the movies and it was alot of fun. we cought up alot.so dont worry just dont act obsessed.
hope it helps
luv Britt
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ok well see a lot of times people just need time from eachother or time from being friends maybe if this helps... you should sit down with her and just say look i want to be your friend but it seems like u dont wanna really be my friend anymore is this true? Do you really wanna stop being friends or do you really wanna just give up and stop caring... ask her those questions then let me know how it went? hope this helps ~ barbie~
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that's part of growing up. no matter how close you were, you will most likely end up spreading farther and farther apart. even if you weren't as close as you were before, she will be there for you, even if it isn't at this moment. she is just moving on, which i think you should do too. i'm not saying you should totally forget about her, because she is one of your good friends! keep in touch and meet make new friends! she will eventually come around..
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