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Q: IN 2002 I was in an auto accident which was not my fault I did have surgery in 2003 and several other treatments done it has been three years and what I would like to know is , is there a time limit on how long before the lawsuit is setteled and can my laywer make the other person come up with a settelment so that it does not have to go to tril.

yes it is called the statute of limitation and it is a 3 year deal. hope i helped

Q: Someone told me that dieting wont help you lose weight. IF i eat a salad for lunch everyday, will i lose weight? OR do i have to do other stuff too?

If you ONLY eat salads for lunch and then go and eat like at mcdonalds for diner then of course it won't help you need to change you eating habits totally cause just eating one meal right won't help. so you can eat like a peice of fruit or something for breakfast, lunch a salad, and for diner something like fish or chicken and some vegies. And if you don't drink sodas and you meanly drink water that will help alot to. hope i helped if you need anything else leave me a questions. *STEPHANIE*

Q: OK, so my dad has cancer, my mom needs 2 hav surgery, my sista is a diebetic, my other sis just had a baby, and we hav alot of other things like that going on in my family. I really need an additude ajustment. When ever some1 else says somethin negitive, i become negitive, and every1 gets mad at me. How do i change this?

I know how u feel i feel the same ways ALOT of times but you just need 2 find a close friend that you can confind in and tell them anything and they can help you work out problems and is just there for you. because that is what i did and i feel alot better cause they help me out alot and make me feel better when i really don't wanna care about anything else. well i hope i helped but if you need you can im me or email if u want someone to talk 2 at anytime my im and email address is xomustangurlxo@aol.com hope everything gets better for you girl love *STEPHANIE*

Q: I'm doing Varsity Cheerleading, and I was just wondering if anyone has any good ideas for hair styles besides the regular pony tail, or bun..for games, and for competitions..I'd like to do something really different for the games this year to draw more attention to myself..Maybe some cute new makeup ideas would be good too..thanks alot cuties*

hey my friends were cheerleaders and they would but there hair up in a ponytail after a shower then put sponge curliers in and sleep in them over night then take them out and recurl them if they r messed up and use alot of hairspray *hope i helped* U can ask me nething else hehe*STEPHANIE*

Q: I meet this guy at my best friends school dance. We danced and talked, and he seemed pretty cool so i gave him my number. Well a day later he texted me on my phone to say hi and to just see what i was doin that night. We haven't actually talked on the phone yet, but it has only been 3 days since i met him. Should i call him, or wait to see if he calls me?

And if i do call, what should i say???????

wait 2 c if he calls u cuz u don't wanna sound desperate. hehe *STEPHANIE*

Q: I'm 15 n I love my boyfriend with allll my heart n we've been together for a long time n we really want a baby. It might sound crazy but. Dont call me a slut or anything, cuz im not. I wouldnt just want a baby with any guy. I love my boyfriend n he loves me n we feel we're ready to take care of a kid. We'd be able to raise it no problem, we have money n stuff. I just dont kno what people would think. My boyfriend promises he'll never leave me, n I kno he will be there to support me in anything...what do you think..

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U might feel that u r ready to have a baby wit ur bf but it really isn't a good idea. i highly advice u 2 take my opinion bcuz u don't u have the education level nor the physical ablity 2 bare a child witout complications. And i know u and ur bf really believe that but no one at that age can really take care of a child wit all the difficulties that come along wit it. have u thought of all the consequences wit havin a baby and takin care and raisin a child? And if ur bf really loves u he and u will wait 2 have a baby when u r out of college and old enough and u can get birth control bcuz u mom should let u cuz if u were gona have a baby neways that y would she might u gettin birth control cuz she would obviously she would know that u r havin sex. * hope i helped, rate me* *STEPHANIE*

Q: hi am 17 senior in h.s i was planning on going to college and everything. i was dating a guy who 25 and we broke up 3 weeks ago about one week ago i found out i was 5weeks pregant should i tell him?? how can i tell him??

definetly, he needs 2 know that way he can help u take care of the child. r u gona keep it or not ? * hope i helped some * u can ask me nething else u want *STEPHANIE*

Q: well i want to put conditioner on my hair and then sleep with it on... sounds crazy i no but i think it would help. i mean my hairs not really dried out of anything but it could prob use the shine and moisture. what do u think?
lol thanx

y dont u buy the leave in conditioner it works really well and it is the best for ur hair instead of regular conditioner. *hope i helped, rate me pleaze* *STEPHANIE*

Q: hey girl cute site. anyway i like this guy kevin. he used to like me .. almost 2 years ago. hes 2 years older then me. but yeah wen i was in 6th .. he was in 8th .. and all my friends were like OMG KEVIN LIKES U HE ALWAYS TALKS ABOUT U n blah blah n i used to be very very shy so i wood just get embarassed n not even look at him cuz he scared me i mean he was so much taller then me n yeah i jus thot it was plain weird! but anyways..1 day before feb. break (wen i was still in 6th n he was still in 8th) he actually came over n talked to me n i jus blew him off .. then wen we got back frum vacation .. it was fine n we never talked or anything .. then like me, him, and this gurl lisa in my grade who i didnt really kno at the time wood fight .. like all 3 of us wood fight online n not talk at skool. but anyways then like the summer b4 7th grade .. lisa n kevin started going out .. n me n lisa started talking n now shes my best friend. and me n kevin are close too. like we will talk sumtimes but now im in 8th n hes in 10th so we dont see each other unless its like skool functions or something. n my friends r like HE STILL LIKES U!! n all that stuff .. n theyve been going out over a yr now but they fight all the time n kevin like will always use me against lisa .. like saying .. FINE THEN I'LL GO TALK TO ANDREA (me) .. n stuff like that .. n wenever we do see each other he always goes out of his way to say hi to me n he'll always stand next to me or something even wen lisa is right there. shes kinda prude .. she doesnt even want him to look at her let alone touch her wen other ppl are around n they didnt kiss till like 5 monthes into their relationship.. n now i have a huge crush on him n lisa has no idea n he doesnt either. all my friends r just like .. hes only with her cusz he thinks he cant get u but idk .. im like in love with him now n it sucksz .. i will see him in october at this skool thing .. n ppl think i shood tell him but i dont wanna risk our friendship .. n he tells lisa everything .. idk wut to do n i reaaaaaaaaaaaly like him =( HELP!

if he still likes u and u like him y don't u try things out wit him and u will b happy so just try things out and if they don't work then hopefully yall will still b friends just try thing out is what i would do *hope i helped, feel free 2 ask me nething else* *STEPHANIE*

Q: ive been seeing my girlfriend for a while now
im 16 and my penis is not real big and im worried
what she might think does it matter?

size doesn't matter that much and if she likes u enought she can work around it. bcuz as alot of ppl think size matters but it really doesn't to many gurls. so hopefully ur gf will b nice and understandin cuz there isn't nething u can do about it. i hope i help and u can ask me ne other ?s u have. *STEPHANIE*

Q: OK im the only gurl i swear in my 9th grade class that likes cars and i sumtimes get made fun of 4 it
should i find sumthin else to be interested in or dont kare wut they say?

definetly don't cuz i am a 16/f and i love cars and i think u should keep likin them some guys like it when gurls like and know about cars cuz that is something that u can talk 2 them about. bcuz i have 4 older brothers so of course i like that kinda stuff and my bro has his own costum shop so i know alot about cars and i even drive a lowered truck. which guys like lol *STEPHANIE*

Q: umm.. dont think im stupid for asking this but i just wanna be safe and sure. if a girl is on birth control, does the guy still need to wear a condom wen they do it?

when u r birth control it doesn't totally mean u can't get pregent. but u should have the guy still wear a condom cuz u can still get std's and it is always safer. *hope i helped, please rate me* *STEPHANIE*

Q: im gay. litteraly... and its really hard bc in my grade everones life revolves around girls...and i dont want to tell them because i know they wont b my friends anymore...help? (btw im telling u vcuz u dont know who i am)

Hmmmmm if u r really good friends and can tell them nething mayb u should just tell them and if they don't except it then they weren't that good of a friend 2 start out wit cuz they should like u for who u r, and if they don't except u for who u r then u should find other friends that will except u cuz u don't want 2 put urself in situation u don't wanna b in so i think they best thing 2 do is 2 just tell them that u r gay and c what they say cuz if they don't wanna b friends wit u nemore then they aren't worth ur time. * i hope i helped if u have neother ?'s feel free 2 ask i will answer nething and if that didn't help give me some more details and i will try again* *please rate me* *STEPHANIE* *X*O*X*O*

Q: Alright well first of all.. I'm 16/female.. if you needed that info to help me out or whatever

Well.. last night I was over at my friend caitlin's house and we got bored so we walked around the corner and met up with some friends(rachel,chrus,anthony,katie) and we were hangin out talkin and what not.. and then we decided to walk back to rachels house.. so we're walkin and talkin and I'm a smart ass.. and someone said somethin stupid so i made a remark about it.. ya know? but chris stares at me and laughs.. like nto staring bad way.. just staring.. but yeah.. then we're back at rachels and chris wanted to swim so he strips down to his boxers and jumps in.. hah it was cute.. but anywhos.. the whole time when we're all sittin out there talkin I would look over and catch chris lookin at me.. I mean it feels like there's somethin there.. but I don't know.. I mean.. he's an awesome kid.. I'd like for there to be somethin there but I don't know.. I mean he's a grade younger than me.. but he's not immature and sldflk I don't know.. I wanna get to know him better to see if there is something there and everything.. but he's not one of the people that I hang out with all the time.. so what do i do?

Thanks a bunch

y don't u try and hang out wit him more and c if he is someone u would wanna go out wit or just b good friends cuz u never know u might really like each other. *hope i helped some* *STEPHANIE*

Q: Ok,i like this boy but were friends and all.Really good friends.But like everytime we talk i get so into the conversation and just want 2 blurt out that i like him.Should I??

Signed NEED HELP FAST!

you should tell him if u feel comfortable wit tellin him and what will it hurt 2 tell him u like him. if nething he might like u and then u could b more and both b happy and he might have been wanting 2 say it 2 hehe hope i helped *STEPHANIE*

Q: A little less then two months ago I found out my cousin was raped and i've been having some trouble dealing with it.I'm really close to this cousin , she's liek my best friend.when i first found out i just started crying , i couldnt even look at anyone for a copuple days.That i had to cry myself to sleep.i used to live in a house with her in when i was younger,i lived on the bottom and she lived on the top.Whenever i think about her and her baby i cant help but cry and its so hard for me to look at her without crying.I cant help but think maybe if i hadnt moved away i would have been with her and i could have stopped the jerk who did this to her.I seem to be the only person in my family who thinks she can finish high school and still take care of her baby.i mean its her family thier supose to be supportive of her.She was raped when she was 14 and had her baby when she was 15.She was born about 3weeks ago.I still cant help but worry about her and feel like i could have done something and i should tell my parents to be more supportive of her and stop thinking so negative.I couldnt even talk to my best friend about this w/o feeling stupid so if anyone has any advice for me, please send it.

awwww i am so srry! if no one else will b supportive of her and u have tryed 2 get them 2 b u just have 2 be there for her 100% and just let her know that u will b there for her when no else will b. i am sry that something as terrible as rape happened 2 one of ur family members. if u live close 2 her u could go and help her take care of the baby when she is doin school work or something 2 help so she can finish school. *i hope i helped some u can ask me neother ?'s u want netime* *STEPHANIE* *X*O*X*O*

Q: just because i gave my two year boyfriend a bj as an anivvery preasent....does that make me a slut cuz sum how it got out to the girls and im getting alot of crap about it...what do u think?

idk y they would consider u a slut u have been goin out wit him for 2 years what do they expect u 2 not ever do nething 2 him? and if he liked it and he didn't want nething else for then, then y listen 2 them u r not a slut and he is all that matters so if u like him enough then forget about what thos gurl say and do whatever u want wit him and if they have something else 2 say just forget it cuz if u 2 were ready 2 do it then u aren't a slut and just ask them y they think u r a slut and what makes ppl look like a slut in there eyes cuz i know in mine and i lot of other ppl if u have been wit someone for that long and that is what u wanted 2 do with them then they shouldn't consider u a slut cuz that is normal and if they wanna call someone a slut i bet they can find someone that has gone all the way wit someone and they hadn't been datin for as long as u. just don't listen 2 them and forget them *i hope i helped and if there is nething i else i can help u wit just ask * please rate* STEPHANIE* *X*O*X*O*

Q: im 13 and in 8th grade and im 5'3...but i like someone thats 12 in 7th grade and is 4'7. i think he's gonna ask me out, but idk what to say cuz hes so short and younger than me....help! (i like him too but...)

if u like him enought the age and height won't matter so just try thing out wit him *STEPHANIE*

Q: my lil bro had a bbsitter cuz i waz out... and when i came home she was screemin and yellin @ him. She grabbed his arm and he said to our dog.. "Daizee help help! Help Daiz!!!" the dog didnt do ne thing... but ne way.... shud i tell my parents?

YES!!! she has no right 2 grab ur brother at all or even touch him so yes tell ur parents so they dont get her 2 watch him again cuz he is will probably b scared of her *hope i helped* *STEPHANIE*

Q: I find myself really attracted to gay guys. They are very cute and a lot of them are so sweet! And they're funny and fun to be around! Is this abnormal? Since they are feminine, does this make me not straight? Can someone please help me??!!?!

i think it is normal bcuz gay guys can b the best kinda friends 2 have cuz they r so nice and understand u. gay guys r so much fun lol *STEPHANIE*

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hey everyone even tho i am only 17 I have been and gone through alot so I might be able to relate to your problems or atleast i can try my hardest to help you. So feel free to ask me any questions you might have or IM me if u want thanks *STEPHANIE* *x*o*x*o*