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I'm 15 n I love my boyfriend with allll my heart n we've been together for a long time n we really want a baby. It might sound crazy but. Dont call me a slut or anything, cuz im not. I wouldnt just want a baby with any guy. I love my boyfriend n he loves me n we feel we're ready to take care of a kid. We'd be able to raise it no problem, we have money n stuff. I just dont kno what people would think. My boyfriend promises he'll never leave me, n I kno he will be there to support me in anything...what do you think..
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sureeeeeeeeeeee he loves you, how can you that sure? just b/c he promises you oh gosh please dont tell me you believe in that shit lol ne ways if you really wants a baby then get on i guess but if you had one and he dont want to take the resbonsble for it dont blame on ne one
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I think that if you know u are ready for a child then you should do what u feel is best. It is ur decision & I wish the best for you. Good Luck!
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First of all.. if u want a baby.. you've GOT to tell your parents about it BEFORE you make it.. you might think your ready.. but your really not.. you still have school n all that stuff.. JUST WAIT.. dooo noooot get pregnant.. it will RUIN all of your fun.. you'll never be able to go out with friends as much.. you won't be able to have sex as much.. u'll get really moody.. u won't be able to finish school.. JUST WAIT AND DONT BE STUPID! YOUR ONLY 15 GIRL!! You've got SOO many more years in your life.. who knows.. u might NOW be with this dude forever.. bcuz u'll get older and prettier.. and there are SOO many other guys out there.. DO NOT HAVE A BABY!
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you know what........ you are way to young for a baby you have your whole life ahead of you, you would need a job, you really don't want to that do you, that would just be another child with there life messed up no offense or anything but a infant deserves a life with a stable mom and dad, your only 15, please dont do anything like that, that is just cruel to the baby and yourself think twice.. alright.. hope i helped hun
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haha im 15 too but a baby is the farthest thing from my mind. But anyhow,how could you posibly have enough money for you and a kid...really i think if you do have a kidd you will regret it...sorry sweetheart :(
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WHAT? you have school to think about your only 15. i know you love ur boyfriend and all but wait!! gosh
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hey! don't have a kid. i went through a stage like that when i was 12 cuz my cuz had a cute baby. i would baby sit and quickly found out BABYS ARE HARD WORK!!!!!!!! don't ruin your life. if he won't ever break up with you as you stated have kids later after your married or at least older. your only 15, wait a few years! you'll thank yourself if you wait!
~*~Natalie~*~
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You are nuts. Have you even been around kids at all? I have two nieces that are under five that I have taken care of since they were born. Taking care of kids isn't an easy thing. How in the hell are you going to provide for this child? You needs thousands of dollars just to DELIVER a baby. Think about how much it's going to cost for all the pre-natal and neo-natal care, not to mention providing for this child for the rest of its life! And, kids aren't all fun and games. You have dirty diapers and being up all night with them and not having any freedom. You need a serious reality check. Oh yeah...GUYS LIE.
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ummmm hellllllo? anything worthwhile in your head?! you're 15. you're still in hs. how would u go 2 hs with a kid? you wouldnt b able to leave it by itself for about 7 hours. and bfs usually say that they wouldnt leave you but look in magazines how bfs leave their gfs b/c they dont want commitment to a child of their own.. im just saying think about it. i think ur 2 young for a kid and i still think ur 2 young for SEX period. but it's your life, im not the one whos going 2 b a slut later on in life.
Steph
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IMPORTANT,YOU MUST READ :
U might feel that u r ready to have a baby wit ur bf but it really isn't a good idea. i highly advice u 2 take my opinion bcuz u don't u have the education level nor the physical ablity 2 bare a child witout complications. And i know u and ur bf really believe that but no one at that age can really take care of a child wit all the difficulties that come along wit it. have u thought of all the consequences wit havin a baby and takin care and raisin a child? And if ur bf really loves u he and u will wait 2 have a baby when u r out of college and old enough and u can get birth control bcuz u mom should let u cuz if u were gona have a baby neways that y would she might u gettin birth control cuz she would obviously she would know that u r havin sex. * hope i helped, rate me* *STEPHANIE*
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You're 15, that's too young to be thinking about kids. He says he'll never leave you but things can change. I'd be interested to know how long you've been together.
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Well, my mom recently had a baby. My baby brother is now 3 months. Anyway, he's not my child but he consumes a lot of my time also that I need for me when I get home from school. Basically, have the baby.....when you're not one anymore. Now, I'm not calling you immature, naive, or anything. You are a teen just like me and i'm not trying to sound like anyone's mother, okay? You and your boyfriend seem to have a grounded foundation, don't ruin it. A baby will take all your time, love and most importantly, your childhood. I bet high school is enough so having a baby will just add more stress. Stay with your boyfriend (if it works out) and see in the future (like when you're 25-30-ish) if you two are ready for a baby... hope i helped..
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i think that u should wait a while cuz ...i mean ...ur only 15!u have ur hole life ahead of u and u dont wanna deal with having a little kid running aroud all the time..u mite not luv him and jus notno it ...teust me i thought that i was in luv many times and that wasent the case...my cousin had a baby when she was 18 and she still had trouble with it ...she still does and shes 21 now!dont rush into things ok just wait a wile...if u guys r in luv then he will understand! hope i halped hun..if u need more help jus ask
xoxoxo
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i think you should finish up high school first and by the time you get to collage, if you two still feel the same- talk it over with your parents because you don't want the baby to be a bad surprise to them. id recommend getting all your education done first though (high school, collage) and marriage even before the baby. but that's just me- you're decision is your own! =] -ask_anything
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I think you are waaaaaaayyyyyy to young to even be thinking about having a baby!! You are only 15 and you are not physically or emotionally ready for a baby! And what do your parents think about this? Don't ruin your life!! A baby is a BIG responsibilty and I think you should wait 'til you're married to have one! *Good Luck with your decisions!!*
-Emily-
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You don't want a baby at 15! You aren't responsible enough if you use chatspeak, TRUST ME. The kid will be born out of wedlock and it's just too early. WAIT! ~*Jenni*~
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I think you should wait until your older and you know that you stil REALLY want a baby with him. You're only 15. This guy might not be the one your are going to spend the rest of your life with (even tho u think so now). And if you have a baby then you will be tied together for the rest of your life. All i am saying is wait until your 100% sure that this is what you really want to do and you have no doubts about it. Then you will know you did the right thing and then you shouldn't care about what people say then. Think about. It might take a while to come to a clear decison but it will be worth it. I hope I helped!
~***Hannah~***
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i think iT`sz sweet hOw yOu andyOur bOyfriend really care abOut each Other...but a baby!??! uhh yOu`re 15..whUt wOuld yOur parents think if yOu had a baby with this guy and u havent even graduated??bUt iT`sz yOur chOice..if yOu really think yOur ready then qO ahead. i`m nOt callinq yOu a sLut..i wOuldnt!i miqht b havinq a baby and the dad duznt want NOTHINq tO dowith it..actually he dOesn`t knO..but anyway! i tHink yOu shOuld really think abOut this siuatiOn and ifyOu think yOur ready tO handLe the consequences qO ahead..cuz Yeah-yOur friendsz are qOnna think sOme bad thinqsz..alonq with many Other peOple..but iT`sz yOur baby nOt theresz! hOpe i heLped =) -Tiffany
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These are wonderful feelings to feel, and you are probably ready emotionally to take this on. But if things are going so well, things are going to get better. If you two love each other so much and are ready to take on life together then GO AHEAD...finish school, have fun with friends, enjoy your freedom AND THEN have a child together. A child is such a blessing to have, but are SO MUCH work and it would work best if you waited at least until you were 18. If you still feel this way at 18 when you're done school, then all systems go! But 15 IS a bit young you still have so much life to live. I would have hated this answere when I wanted a baby when I was a teenager. Now I am a 23 year old mom of a 10 mo. old baby, and well, sometimes I miss the freedom of being a teenager. Either way you're going to want something different. One day you will make a wonderful mother with that kind of love you hold in your heart, and believe me when I say it all happens so fast, please enjoy the moment you're living in for now. It is what I would tell myself if I could talk to that 15 year old girl from 1995/1996. Also, I don't know your life situation and your heart will tell you what's right, and things will happen as they are meant to be.
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i no this mite sound harsh.but ur only 15.u av u hole lyf ahead of u.imagine wot it wud b like wen u r older n all ur m8s r goin to a club and u wanna go but u av to stay at hm n look after ur kid.i no this gurl hu ad a baby at about the same age as u.she doesnt regret it but really really misses all the stuff that she shud b doin.she feels tied down and doesnt have a life of ur own.also imagine that if u n ur bf do break up.im not sayin it wud happen but imagine if it did.u wud b a single mother.also u r at a tym in ur lyf wen u need to b concentratin on ur skool work.im not sayin u shudnt do it but i wud advise u not to.sorry but its mi opinion.
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your only 15 and its great that you want a baby but your too young . think about it , if you where to have a child your grades at school would drop , thats not a good thing if you want to do to college . your parents probably wount support the idea either . if you really want to have a baby you should get threw high school and college get a good paying job and makesure that your boyfriend still wants one if your together and be ready to become a father .
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girl what the hell are you thinkin?......you are 15 how are you goin to hav a kid now ur still a kid ur wat a freshman or and 8th grader right?!?....... sweetheart im very sure u have a great heart and i dont doubt that you have a boyfriend that loves you but having a kid right now is just stupid.... im 18 n i love my girlfriend but i know that we couldnt handle a kid right now please think about what your doing before you bring a baby into this world
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im nearly 5 years older than you and i would love to have a baby but i know that now at my age its just not possible, if you were to have a baby now you would have to leave school therefore you wouldnt have any qualifications - therefore you couldnt help your child with homework, you wouldnt be able to get a job for at least 3 years or so...therefore there would only be your boyfriends income which at 15 or 16 wont be much. you need to seriously think this over dont just think of a cute little baby think of all the time, effort and cost. if you have a kid now thats your life on hold for the next 18 years at least. think of christmas, how are you gonna afford it? what would your parents think? Go and travel the world, have fun, your too young to be tied down and as for your boyfriend promising he will never leave you, my advice dont trust anyone if your gonna believe all you hear you might as well go eat the grass out side catch my drift? hope i helped :)
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Its great and all that yew love your boyfriend with all your heart! But are yew really sure that your ready for a baby? I mean yeah I know that yew said he "promises that he will never leave yew" but have yew seen the Maury show??? How many girls are having to go through all that stuff with raising a baby on their own because their boyfriends said that they would never leave them but did anyways and most of them even said the baby wasnt theirs! I'm not saying that will happen to yew though but there is always that chance since yew are soo young! And plus yeah yew might have money but are yew willing to stay up all night with the baby and change diapers and have to pay the medical bills if it gets sick? And also since your 15 what do yew think your parents would say? Well I hope yew make the right choice! I hope I could help yew!
xOx Bia!
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wait til your married!!! i dont wanna be like rude or nothing but like if u and your bf wanna baby that bad get a cabbage patch kid or like take care of an egg! i dunno just dont i think u should wait til marriage bcuz yeah
i hope u make the right decision!
PuRpLoPpEr
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YOU ARE 15! You cannot handle school and a baby. I know it may seem like you really want one, but you should wait until you graduate. You really need to wait. Its hard to juggle a child, keeping enough money for the child, and school. It'd be best to wait, so i wouldn't have one.
*Randy T*
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make sure you REALLLLLLY trust this guy, and that youll be able to support this baby no matter what. if i were you, i would try and hold off a few years. And dont worry about what anyone else thinks! Their opinions shouldnt matter to you, especially if you and this guy are REALLY in love
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u may wanna giv this quite some consideration bc u r only 15 and wht would ur parents think? arent u gonna try to go to colege or sumthin? this will affect ur life strongly. im not sayin u shouldnt go 4 it cuz if its something u guys rlly want then i say go ahead cuz i kno other ppl r probably sayin no way! and dont do it! it may be better 4 the baby tho if u get married but considering ur parents may not allow this u may not have many options. i think it would be a wonderful thing if u guys spent like ur whole life together and went through with this and were together till the day u die! hope i helped u! ~steph~ plz IM me at miZZcHeRRyCoKe36 or ilive4summer63 id lov to help u out sum more!
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i had my kid at 16 with a guy i was dating for 3 years. and we loved each other after i had our kid,kris. my brofriend and i decided to "just be friends" and its really hard to balance kris and school and work al at once. i dont regret it you know having kris but i wish i would have waited at least until i was 20 or married
i hope this helped
xoxo OUCH
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First, 15, you're not even an ADULT yet. You're not even fully grown! You're totally not ready to have a baby. Second, you have money. Now. What's going to happen if the baby gets sick and you have to pay medical bills? And this little thing called food...you need it. EVERY WEEK. Unless you have money saved...then...thirt, just because he promises doesn't mean he won't do it. Seriously...don't.
~Laura~
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hey..well first off...your 15......
.......yea...plus your probably not finacually stable as you think you are..and money is a real big issue..plus another thing, how do you know this isnt puppy love and you two are just talking crazy?..i mean you might have this kid.. and your parents will most likely disagree and make you have an abortion..and plus it looks really bad in a whole lot of situations...and one more thing..wut if his parents disagree...and he has to leave and your there by yourself..with a kid...someting your body isnt evn ready for yet?..wut about that? how do you really know everything will go good, with yur boyfriend and parents? huh? well you should think about that before doing something stupid like that..i mean really thats just foolish...you naw mean
--PinoyBoi
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just because u and ur boyfiernd are madly in lve with eachother, there a chance that yall wont be together forever. i had a friend who had a baby exactly on her 16th b-day and the baby had complications bcause she was young the doctor said that 40% teens under the age of 18 who have kids, are more likely to have birth failures and probelms with the baby.. the doctor said that since ur only 15 (she was at the time) that her body wasnt fully developed yet so there was no way that the baby could be healthy.. but the baby was born and it only had a few defects but now its almost a year old and its really healthy but she could have lost her child. but to get back to the situation, you and ur boyfreidn really arent ready to have a children even tho both of you think u are. imagine the responsiblity of having one and going to school and gettin a job to support it. you cant turn to ur parents for everything ur gunna have to do things on ur own. i think u should take the circumstances into consideration and think about it really hard and u and ur boyufriendn really need to think of the consequences of being 15 with a kid u should at least wait a few years when u are settled down and are stable.
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No, You're not done growing yourself. How on earth could you raise a baby? People promise all the time they'll never leave you. You're not ready for a baby. How do you have money anyway? I know you haven't been to college... do u plan on going to college (Not everyone should). You shouldnt care what people think, but you are nt ready for a baby. your like still in high school and haven't had enough experiances.
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Umm.. I think u deffinately shouldnt cus i no he probably is a great guy but u should be completly educated and have a good paying full time job, just incase he ever did leave you, u should be able t support yourself... plus u dont no if u really are ready or not until it happens, u never no if he truely is the rite guy until ur married, and even then anything could happen.
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Okay, really think it through. You are 15 years old with your entire life ahead of you. You have to go to college. How are you going to support this kid? You're pay checks and his can't help. You need a REAL job where you're making good money. A baby is a big responsibility, there's diapers, food, clothes all of that stuff. You're still young yourself and you really need to go to college first. My cousin had a baby when she was 18 and totaly regreted it. As soon as her boyfriend of 3 years found out she was pregnant he started denying it was his kid even though he said he'd be there through everything with her. You don't want a baby now. You have to think about yourself first before you can start taking care of someone else. Please, do not have a kid this young. You WILL regret it. I know girls that are 13 years old and have kids. Their mothers wouldn't let them put the kid up for adoption and they are failing out of school, they are broke and the baby's father doesn't want to have anything to do with them. They did it all because they loved eachother and said they'd be there for eachother forever. That's not reality. Wait until your married to have kids. I don't care if you have sex at your age but wait until you're married to have kids. You will COMPLETELY regret it. My ex boyfriend pretty much tried to force me into having sex with him unprotected because he said he'd love me forever and never leave me. A week after I said no to even having sex with him he broke up with me because he was fooling around with a 17 year old slut and got her pregnant. Oh and guess what?? Now he denys he's the father of her kid! Go figure. Really think about what you're getting yourself into. You WILL regret it, I said it a couple times but I mean it, you will. At our age, we wouldn't know what we are getting ourselves into. Even if you say you have money, it's not going to be enough. Who's gonna watch your kid when you're at work? You have to watch your kid. How can you support your kid if your not working and you only have one persons pay check to support you? You can't. PLEASE, really really think about it.Hope this helped.
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well.. if thats what u wanna do is have a baby than go for it it don't matter what ppl think as long as u and ur b/f are ready to commit to this idea email me back and tell me how things are..goog luck
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I don't think u should have a baby until ur married to the guy. Get married when ur older then think about having a kid and i dont mean 2 sound rude but jus cuz ur boyfriend promises he wont leave u doesnt mean n e thing he could break the promise really easily.
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