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I'm going out w/ the greatest guy ever, but unfortunately he lives like, 45 mins. away. so anyway, there's this kid, matt, at school who's always kinda had this crush on me. well 2day in school, i hugged him like usual, cuz we're such good friends, and he gave me a kiss on the cheek. i just wanna know if this is ok, cuz i would never wanna cheat on my bf.
thx
Erin

Well, it is ok...if and only if you feel that you are doing nothing wrong. You feel that you two are friends, just make sure that you make it clear to him that you guys are JUST FRIENDS. I hope that the relationship that you have with your boyfriend is going to go well...take care. Tommi

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my boyfriend is awesome on the phone and stuff but then in person hes like distand he doesnt hold my hand, put his arm around me or anything like that...he hugs me when he says good bye and soemtimes kisses me ..i know hes not prude or anything like that because ive seen him with his ex girlfriends and i know hes not a virgin but i hate it like i hangout with my friends that are dating and theyre all over eachother and im lonely which is pretty sad when i have a bf what should i do

I know everyone sats this but tell him how you feel. You feel as if he neglects you and your relationship with him. All you have to do is tell him straight out and if you do not, it will eat away at you because there will be a need that you are not gtting addressed by him. I know how you feel. I had a boyfriend like that. There's is nothing wrong with him. You said you two have nice phone conversations, chill out. He still has time to get to know you. Maybe he doesn't kow how to act around you. He is still figuring you out. Things will be fine.

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If anyone has Internet Explorer, please help me..

You know how you click the arrow on the right side of the address bar, and all the sites you've recently been to show up?? Well how do you clear it? My friend told me how to "Clear the History" on it, but I forget and I forget who told me. But if anyone knows please tell me, thanks!!

u push crtl+h. thats how u delete the taskbar's history

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hi am 17 senior in h.s i was planning on going to college and everything. i was dating a guy who 25 and we broke up 3 weeks ago about one week ago i found out i was 5weeks pregant should i tell him?? how can i tell him??

TELL HIM!!! If the baby's his (which it sounds like it is) then you should tell him. You don't want to dissappoint your baby's future.

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Ok i've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months and all we've done is makeout everytime he goes down my pants, he pulls out his hand really fast. and i shave so i dont know whats wrong. what should i do?

Ask him why he does that. I believe that he is afraid or shy. When he gets close, he just holds back and maybe feels embarrassed. Talk it out like a couple should.

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I don't think I react to things the way I should,
I lost my father in 97 and I didn't cry all the much and I loved my father very much, then in 2002 I lost my Brother to A Car Crash, and I just don't think I was as sad as I should have been I know you guys are probally think I am cold hearted and made of stone. I fear the same I mean I feel regular emotions like LOVE and anger, and Joy. But when it comes to sadness I just kinda of go numb is something wrong with me, or am I just worrying too much?

That's your defense machanism. You numb the pain just as a drunk or addict would, but in a healthier way. But, what you are doing is unhealthy mentally. You are questioning yourself (and may feel guilty) about why you don't externally express yur feelings inside. You have to remember, people cope differently. A sensitive person may cry, an artist may paint, a dancer might dance to seek consolement, but you just try to block it. If that's how you cope, then so be it. It seems as though, though that this has been effecting you. I suggest writing, if you're not a scribe, do what you do best. Just make sure that whatever you do is safe and rewarding. Your pop and bro are probably communicating with you now and are trying to help. If they are, just listen.

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hey everyone ok im gay for starters and i have been made fun of my whole life for it and now people at work are starting too and i think im going to kill myself so please talk to me.:(

DON'T KILL YOURSELF!!! You have chosen a lifestyle that many people are against so tha must've taken some kind of heart, don't stop being you now. Many people are teased or tormented over all types of things: skin color, nose size, breast size, gender, capabilities...etc. What you have to keep in mind is this: the things that people aren't accustomed to, they make fun of and blind themselves of the chance for understanding and learning. You have to stay strong, live your life. Hate me for being so blunt but that's how it works. Block out the negativity. Don't change yourself for the things they do. When it gets unbearable, put it in ink and on paper, talk it out with someone you trust. I love gay, lesbian, bisexual people, and heterosexual people. When it comes down to it, that's what we are...people. Some just can't (or refuse) to see that. I know people who are religious (Christians to be exact) that don't accept gays. They judge. Being gay is a sin to them. But...!!! Judging is a sin also. So, when you block out different things that are other than you, you're the one that loses. Keep your head up and make sure that YOU don't fall into the rhelms of judging because we all mess up sometimes. Hope I helped....Tommi Browne

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I'm 15 n I love my boyfriend with allll my heart n we've been together for a long time n we really want a baby. It might sound crazy but. Dont call me a slut or anything, cuz im not. I wouldnt just want a baby with any guy. I love my boyfriend n he loves me n we feel we're ready to take care of a kid. We'd be able to raise it no problem, we have money n stuff. I just dont kno what people would think. My boyfriend promises he'll never leave me, n I kno he will be there to support me in anything...what do you think..

Well, my mom recently had a baby. My baby brother is now 3 months. Anyway, he's not my child but he consumes a lot of my time also that I need for me when I get home from school. Basically, have the baby.....when you're not one anymore. Now, I'm not calling you immature, naive, or anything. You are a teen just like me and i'm not trying to sound like anyone's mother, okay? You and your boyfriend seem to have a grounded foundation, don't ruin it. A baby will take all your time, love and most importantly, your childhood. I bet high school is enough so having a baby will just add more stress. Stay with your boyfriend (if it works out) and see in the future (like when you're 25-30-ish) if you two are ready for a baby... hope i helped..

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14/f/9th grade

Ok my ex is stopping me from having a bf...

His friends like me and they wanna go out w/me, but they couldn't do that 2 him. This makes no sense b-c his friends say that he doesn't like me anymore, and we went out in 7th grade so I don't hink he likes me anymore! What should I do b-c I really want a bf right now, but HE kind of is stopping that...my life sux..HELP ME PLEASE! I will rate ya 5...seriously!

-cOnFuSeD-

P.S. I was in love w/this boy, and now I am like so over him, so what does this mean?

Dear Confused,

You should NEVER EVER EVER go ouut with one of your ex's friends. I mean, that's too close to home. Don't be desparate (not saying you are) to find and get into a relationship. When you look for a relationship, it seems as though everything is off the market. When you stop looking, the stock comes flooding in. Know wht I'm trying to say. Anyway, find some other field to play in. Even if you two do hook up, your ex is only going to cause problems anyway. When you hang out with your bf, you'll be hanging out with your ex.

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I've never aksed a question..
Anyway, I met my best friend in 2nd grade.. which I wasn't friendw with her then... We became good friends just a couple years ago. We met up and BOOM we were like instantly friends. I've never had a friend better than her. Well, over time our friendship has kinda evolved into sincere love. Not crush love, but love like I can honestly see myself marrying her. My internal problem-I want to have more experiances than just with her. SHould I ask her out now? I'm afriad it might ruin our friendship if something bad happens. I really don't want to limit myself to just her, not till I'm pretty experianced in sex and things. I just want your opinions on things. Wait till college? Just state any kind of opinions! THANX!

Well, my best friend and I have known each other since we were 12. We're 16 now. I love him soo much. He's an older brother, friend, nuisance, and....my boyfriend. I feel the same way. I don't want to be stuck with him because I might miss a great experience or I feel that I'm growing up too fast. My advice is this: Go out with her. Tell her that you really like her. Spill your heart out, or write your feeling down. If she loves you, she'll understand. Ask her how she feels. If you don't want to be "locked down", let her know that in intervals, you'll need space. Space makes you realize how much she means to you. Don't take her for granted though. Don't expect her to come back whenever you want. Taking breaks in your relationship with is important. Soon you'll realize that being with her and taking space breaks will be much more rewarding than shopping around with other females that you're maybe just attracted to. Hope I helped.

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What do I do about an 'old flame' of my wife's that she has emailed recently and that I found out about? The messages back and forth hurt me deeply. I love her very much and she says she loves me and it will never happen again. I believe her but am vulnerable and afraid. I haven't always been the best communicator to her and want to do everything I can to show her how much I still love her, more than when I first met her years ago. The 'old flame' was her first high school sweetheart, way before I met her and I am truly at a loss for what the best way to approach this all is. By the way, we are both in our late 40's.

Well, I'm 16 but I know a lot about this type of situation. When my boyfriend and I had the same situation, the solving of the problem took time. Out of the blue, my ex and I were back in contact again. I believe the feeling that your wife had experienced from the sudden communication with her high school sweetheart was the rush of old memeories and maybe even the sweet fantasization of the "what if" game. If I'm not mistaken, the lack of communication that she gets from you (this is not your fault) she gets it from those emails. What you need to do, as a husband, get into her life. You already are but ask her what she felt when she delivered and recieved those emails. Don't all of a sudden badger her, talk to her more like a friend. Whatever she says, look at it as if you were in her position. When she says that she'll stop, that doesn't mean that she won't stop thinking about him. Take time with her. Spend more time getting to know each other on a friend-to-friend basis. If it's hard for you to open up, just let her talk and vent but GIVE adequate FEEDBACK and tell her how you feel about what she says. If you can't do it verbally, write it down. Well, I may be 16, but you asked for advice. Tell me what you think and if I helped, okay? email:akwariusmeh@yahoo.com.....

Hope things work out.

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ok me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex..i right now am a virgin..my question is, ive never shaved and he wants me to..but like i honestly dont know how i'm suppose to do it..do you just shave everything? or what..and like what about the hair really far back?? sorry if this questions a lil blunt but i really need advice & well thats what this sites for right?..

:) thanx in advance..i'd really appreciate some advice :)

Dear Thanks In Advance,
If you are a virgin and you have made up your mind about having sexual intercourse with your current boyfriend, make sure that shaving is absolutely your decision. If your mind is made up and you go through with having sex with your boyfriend, BE SAFE!! Use a condom and talk over sex issues and safe sex if you two haven't already. You have to be positive that this change for you is what it is...for you. Don't let the fact of you pleasing your boyfriend influence your choice. So, if you have gotten over the bridge of actually shaving, take this procedure:
1. You have to be wet while doing it. Say like during a bath or shower
2. The choice of female shaving razor I recommend would be Gillette for women
3. When you shave, ALWAYS shave down. NEVER go against the natural hair growth's direction
4. When you reach your clitoris, pull it out of they way so you can reach the hair around it
5. Shave evenly and if you want to go further back, just keep the same procedure going
6. When your satisfied, rinse and wash to get all spare hair follicles
7. Before getting out of the shower or tub, massage Johnson and Johnson's brand baby oil on the shaved area to repel itching
That's it. Simple and safe. When you do actually shave, take slow cautious strokes. The oil will moisturize your private area. If you like the results, stick to this procedure until you have mastered your own from experience.

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