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I am here to help teens like myself deal with pressure of relationships and parents and sex! Things i go through as a teenager are normal but i can't talk to my parents about them . That is why i am here because i know there are other girls and boys out there that have the same problem and i can help.

~***HAnnah***~

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I really like this guy and we dated befor and are good friends now. Well i also dated his brother a few years ago too and he just came back to my school and I've been talking to him a lot and all the feelings are coming back but i don't think he likes me. Meanwhile he also dated my best friend for a long time, well she still has feelings for him but she doesn't talk to him. She knows how i feel about him and she doesn't care but i dont know if i should tell him or play it out or what. And i'm not sure if id want to date him because of my best friend and i still have a lot of feelings for his brother. wat should i do?

Hey this is hannah!

i think that you should tell him how you feel. but if your best friend likes him than you shouldnt act on it because she has feelings for him and it could hurt her. also, if u really like his brother than maybe u shouldnt focus so much on the guy you like now. find out if the brother likes you the same way you like him. If he does than go for and ask him out. You've been crushin on this guy forever and its about time you do something about it! lol

No one can tell you what to do but i hope i helped you out!

Love ya,
~*~*Hannah~*~*

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OK my best friend went out with this boy four about a month, and he broke up wid her....well now hes asking me to go out wid him and i really like him and he really likes me. But, i dont kno wut to do.... I mean she says its ok if i go out with him becuz hes been askin me everyday if i will but i keep saying i dont kno. If she says its ok should i?¿ PLz help me...... i RATE very well....
~*~Confuzed~*~~

OK...you like him and he likes you. Well, right there that is a good reason to go out with him. Also, your best friend said it was ok. but maybe you really want to make sure she is ok with it. She sounds like she doesnt have a problem with it. I was in the same situation when i was in 7th grade, my friend dated this guy Andy. Well, after they broke up he asked me out. I was confused because i wanted to make sure she was ok with it. She was and we dated for awhile. Go for it! I hope I helped!


~***HannAh***~

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I didn't know what to put this under. My mom and I want to help out with the tsunami disaster by sending $, but my mom doesn't think it'll help. Like it won't be enough. What do you think? Should we send the money or no?
Thanks

Yes! It could help rebulid bulidings and homes or given to families that need it. It could help out a lot. If your mom doesnt feel like it is enough than maybe she can go on the net and see some ways of helping with the tsunami diaster. I think that sending money is a good way of helping. I hope I helped!


~***Hannah***~

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hey this is for guys mostly but if girls want to answer ok. so anyways im going out with this guy we have been dating for 2 weeks and i really need 2 buy him a christmas gift but he wont tell me what he wants. guys when u say that what does it mean. and any gift ideas would be soooo great. thanks.

My friend is dating this guy for 3 weeks and she had a little trouble picking out a gift also. Get him something that he is interested in. For example, if he likes sports then you could buy him a jersey of his favorite team and/or favorite player. Or you could buy him a CD of his favorite band. My friends boyfriend is a redndeck lol and she bought him a redneck t-shirt. lol it is supposed to be a joke, i think. Even though youve only be dating for 2 weeks you should have an idea of what he likes. Find something youll think hell enjoy! I hope I helped!


~***Hannah***~

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Hey Hannah... since you're one of my best friends.. i'll ask you too. but please dont mention this to anyone else!!!
okay theres this really hott guy that i like. It's my BEST FRIENDS BROTHER!! he knows i like him alot! i was with him Saturday night and Sunday night. i stayed at his house with his sister. bUT ANYWAYS.... okay.. my friend and her boyfriend were wrestling.. me and (lets call him Skipperdy) well me and skipperdy were wrestling and having all kinds of fun. He'd like lay on me, out his arms around me.. breath on my neck(i thought i was gonna get a hicky) but anyways i didnt. It was really dark in the room. Anything that made light... it was covered. We tickled eachother and we got really close to kissing but didnt. I was like OMG!!! WOW!!! i mean words cant even explain how i was feeling. Then his hands were on my hips and were moving down slowly.. i didnt care.. later he grabbed me.. didnt care.. only becuase we were having so much fun. we were watchign movies together with our friends and things like that. It was the most fun i have ever had with a guy. And he ws the only one (guy) that ever touched me that much. I was so happy to be in his arms. i liked him once before for a while. We held hands alot the alst time.This time he always lays beside me... he lays sideways on his hip and curls his knees under me then i lay on my back and put my legs over his... then he put his hand on my stomach and alittle up my shirt. i thought he was gonna do "something" but then started tickling me again.This happened all night. As u can see i had a lot of FUN!!! It was the best night i have ever had!!
My question is... how do i know if he likes me? i really like him and his sister told him that i do. i didnt care if he knew. I think we're all doing something this weekend too after we get done working. Should i talk to him about it or just ignore it and have MORE fun than saturday night?
Should i talk to him about it or what? i sat with him again at lunch today and i might stay at his house again tonight. and i'll be there this saturday night too. i was supposed to stay last night but i didnt. What should i do?

Talk to "Skipperdy" and ask him if he likes you back. From above ^, it seems to me that he likes you. But im not completly sure. Anyway, go over and hang out with him and have TONS of fun! Hang out with him a lot and you might be able to tell if he likes you or not. You guys would make such a cute couple! GOOD LUCK!! Love ya! I hope I helped!


~***Hannah***~

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well for as long as i can remeber i havent gotten along with my mother... and i know she hates me.... she causes me to cut myself a lot too.. right now i have a a broken knee cap and 2 broken ribs becuase i got beat up by a bunch random people becuase i had to walk home at 1130 at night through the projects cause my mom made me get out of the car... she always told me that her life would have been better if i wasnt born... she left me outside when it was 40 degrees outside and i only had a t shirt and shorts on for 3 hours..... i dont nkow what to do... how can i make things better

Love always
Kryysti

You need to tell you r mom how she is making you feel. If she doesnt listen or doesnt understand then you might want to talk to either a grandparent or another adult you trust. They might be able to help your mother. She needs to know that your are her daughter and no matter what you will always be there. You need some help, maybe therapy so you can talk to someone (both of you) and not be judged! You need your mom and she needs you and loves you...whether or not she wants to admit to it or not. GOOD LUCK! I hope I helped!


~***HAnnnAH***~

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How do I change my password on advicentators? I'm a computer retard and I can't find it on the help stuff! thanks in advance!

See on the side panel where it says 'Welcome....'? Well click on where it says Profile Settings. Well, at the very top it will sat Part I: Stuff we never show anyone (seriously, we never show anyone) anyway, there will be a box under the first one that says Password: (only if you wish to change it). Type in the the new password you want. Then in the box under it all you have to do is confirm it (rewrite it) and then go to the bottom and click submit. I hope I helped!


~***HAnnaH***~

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okay theres this guy that likes me.. and i used to like him. I sit with him evryday at lunch. Hes so controlling. I cant stand it anymore. All my friends say i should ask him out or he should ask me but i cant stand him anymore.!! Seriously. He really bugs me!! i turn my cell phone off just so i dont have to talk to him at night. He asks whats wrong with my phone, i tell him i couldnt talk anyways or that my older sister was using my phone and it went dead. That was true Wednesday Night tho. Yesterday in the note he rote me.. he told me.. "Dotn make any plans for Saturday night. We're doing something. What we're doing i dont know.. but"
See i cant put up with that anymore.
What can i do?
Please help me...

Christine

hey kels

talk to him and tell him you dont like him anymore. I think if you ignore him it would hurt him worse than telling him the truth. No one wants a controlling guy so tell him what he is doing. he might change...he might not. also, goody is better i think LOL!! so talk to him, tell him that you dont like him and that you want him to leave you alone. It might suck at first but he'll understande eventually. I hope I helped!!

~***HAnnAH***~

P.S I only think you and him should go out if you want to...i want you to be happy and he is clearly acting like a dickhead right now. LOVE YA!

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16/f/Ca

I'm going to be a Senior next year, which means I need to start thinking about colleges, majors and such. Even though I've only done 1 play in my life, I was in show choir for one year, and when I was little I was always in chorus in church musicals, I really want to study theatre. When I was little I hated performing, but as I got older, I've just been more interested in the whole acting thing. I've taken an acting class (for television, not for theatre) and even though it was two hours of notes and some acting, I LOVED it. I loved learning the techniques and its something I'm interested in. I'm a shy person when you first get to know me. The second day of class we had to cry in front of the class and I was able to do it, and I loved it. That was probably one of the best moments of my life. The whole class was silent (I was the youngest one. Second to the youngest, was probably a 20 year old), watching me and when I was done, the teacher said I was the best one.
The problem is, is that I'm never in the school plays, or musicals (even though i was in show choir--singing and dancing--musicals aren't my thing, I'm more into acting) because the director picks and already has his favorites and he is so wierd in a freaky way... Anyways, even though I LOVE acting, going to movie sets (I was an extra in a movie) I haven't used my talent at all except for the little things I listed above. If I want to major in theatre, is it bad that I haven't done much yet? If I study it in college, I know that I'll most likely be very active in it (I'm a good liar--which is like acting...so I kind of have a little natural talent). I mainly want to do television/commercial. I've been to plays as well as numerous of movie/tv sets and I think I would love commercial acting better. Is it something I should go for?

If you love acting then i say YES go for it! It might help to have some experience though. But do what you love to do and dont have any regrets! Good luck with everything!

~***HAnnah***~

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im 15 and f ... there is this guy that was "really hott" and i had a big crush on him but finally i got over him because i realized that we are two totally different types of people, he does drugs sometimes and im one of the most innocent girls ever. But now a few months later we've been talking more just as friends and he's telling me he likes me and i dont know what to do because i do still like him but i dont know if its such a good idea we go out. please help im very confused.

You shouldnt date him if he is totally different than you. Like you said, he does drugs. Unless you feel comfortable around him while he does drugs (most likely if you date he will do drugs around you) then don't date him. I think you should think if he is the kind of guy that you like for a relationship. If not, let him down easy. I'm sure he'll understand. I hope I helped!


~***Hannah***~

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I've never really been shy around guys but theres one that i like now but and really shy towards. he nos i like him but i just got my heart broke so could that be why im afrid to talk to him?

Yeah, it could be. You might be afraid of getting hurt again or something. All i can say is get to know him and become friends with him. It can help you feel more comfortablr around him and you will be able to be yourdelf around him and not be so shy. I am really shy around guys until i get to know them and become friends with them. Then i feel that i can ber myself around them. Maybe once you know him you will know he is the type of guy who will break your heart or not. I hope I helped!

~***HAnnah***~

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My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for a little over 2 years. I know he really loves me, and I really love him too. The thing is, is that he has always had a fantasy of having a 3-some with me and another girl. He said it's only going to be a one time thing, and that the other girl isn't going to mean anything to him- it's just his fantasy. I understand what he is saying and I want to do this for him, but I know I would feel REALLY uncomfortable doing it and I'm not quite sure I could go through with it. I keep telling him I don't really know if I want to- but he keeps bringing it up every now and then. It makes me feel bad when I tell him no. What am I supposed to do, or what should I say to him?

Tell him that you don't want a 3 way and that you wont change your mind. Tell him that you would feel uncomfortable. Make sure he understands how you feel. Tell him you love him and that you want to be with him but if he loved you than he would understand how you feel. If he keeps asking you then be firm and confident and tell him "NO". If you sound unsure then he might think he can persaude you into it. I hope i helped!

~***HAnnaH***~

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im going out with this guy that goes to a different school. i see him only about twice a month and i dont think our relationship will last. is there anything i can do to see him more often because i really really like him.

thanx.

Try and get together with him on the weekends. Maybe when you have breaks from school you can see eachother. Talk to him on the phone alot so you can still be in contact with him and maybe IM him also. But just try and get together with him as much as you can. I hope I helped!

~***Hannah***~

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how hard is to get pregnate at the age of 37? ia there any helpful method to make pregnancy happen? my husband and I want to have a baby and we are afraid because , as i said, I am 37 and he is 41. Thanks, ceci

My aunt recently had a baby six months ago. She was 37, turning 38 in March. All i can say is keep trying. My aunt had a few miscarriages before she gave birth. I'm going to be serious...it might not be easy. She had problems during her pregnancy. It might not go perfectly...i think she had problems because of her age but im not 100% sure. If you want, you could always adopt. Ihope I helped!

~***Hannah***~

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when it comes to asking ppl out...am i wrong to think that guys should ask the grls out? be serious plz..

Girls can ask guys out. It's the 21st century! If you want to ask a guy out then ask him out. The guy might not ask, guys are weird like that LOL. I hope I helped!

~***Hannah***~

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At school a few weeks ago, I walked into the assistant principlals office to get my locker combination because I couldn't remember it. While I am in there, the assistant principal takes me into her office and informs me that several teachers and staff that walked into the office said that it smelled of alcohol, and that the strong scent of alcohol was coming from me! She asked if I would be willing to take a breath alizer test and I told her yes, I will take one. Well, I obviously passed the test and then she kept talking about how strong the smell is. I told her I couldn't smell anything! I told her that maybe it's the halls in my mouth that is making the room smell like alcohol, but we both agreed that a tiny little halls can not stink up the whole room with a strong scent of alcohol. So, she brings me all the way out to the front of the school so I can smell fresh air and then back into her office, and I informed her that I still can't smell any alcohol. She was very surprised at this, and kept saying how the smell of alcohol was so strong. She asked if I smoke cigarettes. I told her yes. She asked if I had them on me. I told her no. She asked if I could prove it. I confessed that I did have cigarettes and a lighter on me, but I do not smoke in school and I only carry them on me because I walk home from school and smoke on the way home. She then, searched my things just to be sure, but she asked if she could beforehand. I didn't have anything else on me, and then she suspended me for 3 days. Well, just yesterday, I got a letter in the mail ordering me to court for this. For having cigs and a lighter at school. I just wanted to know..do I have an argument? Was she allowed to do all those things? Do I have any argument at all? I'll rate 5 for everyone. I really need help on this.

Sorry i dont think you do. Having cigaretts in school isn't allowed. She did ask you first and since you gave her permisson she was allowed to search your things. She had a reason to search also, you admitted you had cigarettes. You had the cigarettes so you have to go to court. Sorry hun! I hope I helped!

~***Hannah***~

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Okay heres my story...
I like this guy. Lets call him Jon. He likes me as well... We only knew eachother for like maybe 2 weeks at the most but i sat with him at that table everyday at lunch and in the morning b4 classes start. Anyways.... Last friday we went on a double date with my friend and his friend... Well both of our friends...
Besides the point. We had a great time. At first we went to dinner then played pool for a while then we were supposed to go to a movie but we didnt so we went bowling instead. Well that was alot of fun. Everyday we smile at eachother and talk sometimes but i never know what to talk about around him. What do i talk about? Then when the techers get back from tech (he's one) i always leave homeroom 10 minutes early to see him. I know it's sweet to some people but is it right for me to do that? Im seriously inlove with this guy!! This weekend he's supposed to come over to my house Saturday night so i can see him b4 i go to Punxitauwnii, Clearfield to go hunting for 2 days. So i wont be able to see him Sunday or Monday. Im skippin school.
What should i do with him? Should i make a move or wait for him? I know i need to talk to him more.. Becuase everyday he talks to this girl (i think her name is Jessica) and says like how much he likes me and stuff like that. I mean hes really sweeeetttt!!!! But he also says that i need to talk to him more. I know things about him but not that much. And i reallly want to get to know him more.
Could something happen Saturday night?
What do i talk to him about?

Please give me advice... I'll try anything!! lol

Im seriouslt Happy but Dont know what to do!!!
CEC

hey kels, (i hope this is u! lol)

hun, Jon obviously likes you too or else he wouldnt have went on a date with you and your friends. Does he know you like him? If so, then flirt with him! LOL if he doesnt know, then flirt with him! LOL Ask him what he likes and dislikes...basically get to know him. You dont have to have an indepth conversation with him until you feel comfortable enough to have long conversations. Girl, guys can be dumb! LOL He might not get that you want him to make the first move. If u want or when you are comfortable, make the first move! let him know you like him. Get to know him better also. Talk to him!!!! You aren't going to know him if youy are always quiet around him. Trust me, I know how are it is to talk to someone you like when you are always nervous around them. Write him notes if you dont like talking. Hope I helped and I hope everything works out for you and Jon!

~***Hannah***~

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whats that band that there nickname is A7X??

The name of the band is AvengeSevenFold. I hope I helped!

~***Hannah***~

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I like this site and I goto to this site to try and give helpful advice or even to receive some, why is that people are such jerks on here? They give bad advice or stupid comments to someones advice!! And there will probably be a whole bunch of people who will give a dumb remark to this question! Why do people come an give stupid advice like "go kill yourself" or "your a loser" or some stupid comment! Honestly do these people get a thrill out of making fun of someone ? Why do these people sign up for this website if they are just going to give horrible advice? Does anyone agree? Doesn't it seem stupid and pointless?

People are jerks that's why. They get some stupid thrill out hurting people. Someone in my typing class signed up just to make fun of people and to give horrible advice. He is CAK1990...so never ask him for advice! If you have a problem with someone and/or they give horrible advice then people should report them.

~***Hannah***~

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* My Weird School Dealy*
Posted Monday November 15 2004, 1:30 am
Okay. here it is. I was raped a few days ago. By my neighbor. He lives like three houses down. We went to a house that my brother broke into, so they could have a cigarette break before going to the gym. Well they brough some alcohol and we started drinking shots of all kinds of stuff. I done atleast a whole bottle of GIN! I was drunk of my ass. We played some games. I wasnt all together. My neighbor who is 16 and is my NJROTC Commanding officer, locked me in a room when i was drunk and raped and he had a condom. (how and why did he have a condom i have no idea) I remember him shovin his dick down my throat when i was on the ground and chocking me. The picked me raped my ass and the detective said i passed out and he raped me in my vaginal area. I was so sad. I went depressed after a while. Almost scuicide but i told my parents. The cops and detective wanted to arrest him. They had SOOOO much evidence its not funny. But the detective went to the state and the state said i wasnt drunk enough and dropped the case. Can you please explain to my why would they do that to me? and isnt that wrong? Now im locked in my house and cant go to school. What should i do?
Any one who helps me the most ill leave them a GREAT COMMENT and A BIG RATE!
-Unknown-

Even if you weren't drunk it would still be considered rape! The police has the evidence that proves he did it. Talk to the police and try to convince them to reopen the case. Everybody deserves justice. Talk to your parents also. Let them know you really want to see this guy in jail and they also might be able to help you through it. I understnad what your going through is hard so thats why I belive that this guy should be locked up for good. So yeah, keep talking to the police and try and have your parents help! Good LUck with everything! I hope i helped!

~***Hannah***~

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