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Controlling Guys....
okay theres this guy that likes me.. and i used to like him. I sit with him evryday at lunch. Hes so controlling. I cant stand it anymore. All my friends say i should ask him out or he should ask me but i cant stand him anymore.!! Seriously. He really bugs me!! i turn my cell phone off just so i dont have to talk to him at night. He asks whats wrong with my phone, i tell him i couldnt talk anyways or that my older sister was using my phone and it went dead. That was true Wednesday Night tho. Yesterday in the note he rote me.. he told me.. "Dotn make any plans for Saturday night. We're doing something. What we're doing i dont know.. but"
See i cant put up with that anymore.
What can i do?
Please help me...
Christine
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Don't lie to him because then he'll keep tlaking to you and you're leading him on and that's not fair to him. Just tell him that you don't like him being so controlling and that you want to be asked to do something not told. Just let him know that you make your own decisions and you will decide if you want to do something with him on Saturday or not.
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Just straight up tell him to back off. Say, "We can be friends, but I really need some space and some time alone, OK?" If he keeps up, then just ignore him, and keep your cell off!
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You should really talk to him because if he finds out that you've been lying to him he's probally going to get a little upset or dissapointed that you can't tell him the truth i know it might be hard but you should do it.
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hey kels
talk to him and tell him you dont like him anymore. I think if you ignore him it would hurt him worse than telling him the truth. No one wants a controlling guy so tell him what he is doing. he might change...he might not. also, goody is better i think LOL!! so talk to him, tell him that you dont like him and that you want him to leave you alone. It might suck at first but he'll understande eventually. I hope I helped!!
~***HAnnAH***~
P.S I only think you and him should go out if you want to...i want you to be happy and he is clearly acting like a dickhead right now. LOVE YA!
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He has no right to have this control over you. I think he likes you as more than a friend and by talking and doin g things with you all the time, he doesn't want anyone else to get in the way. He need sto know that you are your own person and that you will do things with him whenever you want to , not whenever he wants you to. Since he has written you a note, write him a letter back saying, thanks for the note but have made plans already for saturday (even if you haven't) thanks though.
By being like this he will realise that he doesn't rule your life. You just have to make him realise this and everything will be ok. good luck
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my boyfriend is like that. just tell him to back off. he can't control your life, if you guys are going to have a relationship, that's not the way it should be. he can't tell you what to do. talk to him, and if he gets mad - let him be. hope i helped :o)
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Ugh. I see this a lot of times around my school. In this case, the key is that he used to like you. Maybe he thinks that you still do? If thats the case, you have to let him know somehow that you dont like him, it might get him to back off a little bit, thus ending the problem.
I hope this helps in some way! :)
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The only thing you can do is to tell him how you feel when you are talking to him in person! Just tell him that you need some space and he needs to leave you alone! You can also say "If you want to be friends with me then you can't annoy and control me all the time! Just back off a little"! Even though what I said is harsh but once you tell him, you will feel so much better and he will leave you alone once he gets the idea! Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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i would be completly honest with him write him a note teeling him how you feel ask for your own space or something like that
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You need to talk to him and tell him to STOP being so controlling over you. You guys aren't going out and even if yall were then i would dump his ass. LOL!!! I mean seriously, he needs to calm down with that stuff... Talk to him about that..I mean talk to him about it FAST before this gets WAY out of control.
good luck
~Sammie~
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The best solution is to tell him straight out that you need space. You need to let him know that you need time away from him. If he doesn't like it, thats too bad for him. You are control of your own life, not him. But don't make up lies because it will only make the situation worse. The best thing is to be direct and tell him that he needs to calm down and let you breathe. I hope this helped ^_^
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christine,
this boy seems obessive and seems like he reallys likes you! well my suggest is to take him somewhere quiet and talk to him face to face and tell him what oyu need to say! "Listen I don't think we should be friends anymore!" you can just end it there and if he says "Why?" Just say "Just Because .." be nice but don't be to soft when u talk to him let him know you mean business!!
*BeSs*
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