Hey everyone!! Well where should i start? Well my name is Chelsey, i live in Connecticut. Ever since i was a little kid i was sort of the person that everone runs to and tell them their problem, and they knew that i would never tell anyone. Also I have a lot of experiance in helping people i am a Peer Mediator in my school and i have been one for 4 years now. I have heard probably every problem that you can imagine from little things to very very dangerous issues. I can't really say some of the things that i have herd because that would braking my code of confidentiallity but i'll tell you some of the things that i have been through. Well I have delt with a lot of love issues from boyfriends to even your family neglecting you from love. For example my Father was a great dad when i was younger but what happened is my parents got divorced because my Father used to abuse my Mother and my Mother knew that she had to get out of the relationship for me because she didn't want me to grow up to that and think that it was a healthy relationship. So at first he was a perfect dad like he was when he was married to my mom but soon he became a deadbeat father never paying child support and never caring about me. He became a criminal which is in prison right now. Well yeah thats all i'm really going to say about that. I have also had a whole lot of experiance with self injury because i used to inflict injuries on myself (a.k.a i used to be a cutter). Also i have had a lot of friends in the past that used to cut and i have helped them all quit because i have helped them through it but i didn't make them top i gave them the comfidence to make themselfs stop. Because i have always said you can never make anyone do anything you can only suggest things and try to make it happen. Only them can have the power to make themself do something. I also know a lot about abuse because my Mother used to be abused by my Father, her Mother and her Brother. And she has told me all about it. Also one of my close friends has been abused by her Father. I know a lot about friendships too and how to make them better. Well thats all i have to say but i am excited to be giving everyone advice soon!!! Lots of Luck to everyone but making their lives better!!
Lots of love xox,
Chel
Gender: Female
Location: Branford
Age: 16
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hey, i am a 16 year old female and im really upset and i dont know where else to go. my mother has Fibromyalgia and borderline Lopus. ok thas not the thing tho. she has always told me that children coudlnt get it and that it wasnt something that she could pass onto me. ive been really sick over the last 2 years and they havent been able to figure out what with. i have been to it seems every dr. possible. well then today i went to a rheumatologist and he told me that i need to go see a specialist who specializes in Fibromyalgia cause he thinks that i have it or that i could have lopus. OMG im just like freaking out now. im soo upset cause ive seen how its taken over my mom's life. and with me- i have had to give up cheerleading, work, driving and socializing in general. i am in the 11th grade and its an important year.. the problem is that i only make it to school once a week if im lucky. i just want to get better. now ive heard that if they find it early enough they can prevent me from having it all my life. does anyone know if thats true? or have any thing that they can tell me about it or anything for support? im just so upset and i want to get better! (link)
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Oh My God i know how you feel becuase i grew up with my mom all my life and she has fibromyalgia and lopus. also There are ways that you can make fibromyagia better but you can't make it go away sad to say...but i know how sad and bad it is i've been affected by my mom all my life becuase she can't do normal things becuase she never feels good very raely she feels good!...We can never make plan becuase we hav no idea how she's goin to feel. all my life i've always worried about getting it nd i hope i dn't becuase i have my dad's health but i feel so bad for you and your mom. you should really try to get in to a suppot group with you and your mom. Also i would love to talk to you anytime! my AIM screename is punkbabegurl900. You could IM me any time (when i'm on) but i would love to talk to you cuase iknow what it feels and i've never met another person in my life that has someoe that has it and goes through the same thing with there mom!
~Goodluck!!!!!!!!~
xoxCHELLYxox
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ok well ever since I first met him in high school I kinda started to like him and well not so long ago maybe 2 weeks ago I told him I liked him in an email and well he didn't talk to me well maybe small things like hello and something but not like before after that but he just looked at me all the time then when I told him to just forget it cause I knew he'd act different well he stopped talking to me and looking at me he like avoids me I'm still deeply in love with him but all I know is he likes hot girls and I'm not hot and iunno he isn't that hot but looks don't count and he just won't even bother saying hi to me or anything. can u plz help I don't know what to do (link)
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You should really try tot alk to him and ask him why he's tring to gnore you and avoid you and see what happenes!...i wish you the best of luck and if things don't work out try to find a new boy and try to get over this one!
goodluck!
~!Chelly!~
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ok im in 7th grade and i have a 9th grade boyfriend and i never see him!!! he went to a party tonight at the movies and i couldnt go bc my mom wouldnt let me.. but he could and this one gurl that i think likes him went too and i dunno if he'll do something with her..shes in 8th grade.. i dont know what to do!? I rele rele like him but everybody says i should dump him but i dont know.. i dont wanna hurt him because i feel if i was too brake up with him, id like him after a day and i would wanna be back with him but he'd say no, thats how i feel and hes so hot and nice but my friend wyatt who helps with anything says im gonna get hurt or hes gonna play me and that he think he likes other gurls..ugh i dont know what to do.. im so confused!! i Mean i love him to death but it just dont feel right i mean im soo attempted to flirt with other guys at my school ugh he prolly flirts with other gurls too...omg i dont wanna hurt him but i gotta do whats best:( what should i do? plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz help me...*Ashlee* (link)
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I think you should dump him because you never get to see him and you seem ike you can't trust him and a relationship is a lot about trust! You have a greater chance of him cheating on you with that other girl! Also you shouldn't feel bad breaking up with him because he probally will get over you really fast he'll probally go out with that other girl in the same day you break up with him...and i know it might be hard for you to get over him but there will be other guys out there that you can go out with in te future!
~goodluck~
From,
Chelly
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my ex boyfriend and i have fights and don't get along very well, and he can be quit of an asshole. But the problem is- were still deeply in love with eachother (sounds weird.. but its really true) We have had problems in the past but we are so in love its like crazy. I lost my virginity to him and we were so close. But we've been broken up for a while and somtimes we fight. I just don't know if i have to move on because he's not 'right' for me?.. [even tho i love him :( ]or i should still talk to him more. Its so hard and i can't get it off my mind ..help (link)
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You should really try to move on and get over hiom and find another guy thats not an asshole becuase he's probally not the one...i really can't deside that for you because i don't know him but thats my advice...i hope i helped!
~goodluck~
from,
~!Chelly!~
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hi there is this one guy in school and we both like eachother. He asked me out and I wanna say yes but I dont know what people will say because I am white and he is black,i'm not racist or anything I am just afraid of what ppl will say.My friend says it shouldnt matter and i dont think it should either but the other side of me is saying don't date him because of what ppl say
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If you realy like him you should go out with him and you shouldn't care what other people think and if they do say stuff there probally just jealous becuase they don't have a b/f. Also i don't think anybody will say anything becuase it's not grose or anything and it's definatly not wrong!
~Goodluck~
From,
~!Chelly!~
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16/f.... this may be a stupid question, but what are those people called that you talk to about your problems and you tell them everything and then they give you advice and everything is confidential. They do it for a living. Nothing SERIOUS is going on in my life (ex. I'm not pregnant, I don't go drugs, I'm not a lesbian, etc.), but I feel like I can't talk to my parents (about guys or whatever) I never have and I probably never will. I'm an only child and I've been the center of their lives for 16 years and I hate it. I always have...I wish I can share the spotlight with someone, but thats not going to happen. Sometimes I wish they didn't care about me AS MUCH as they do. I feel like I need to go see one of those people because I've kept so much inside of me all my life and now I think I need to deal with a professional who can help me. And I'm afraid of a lot of things (I always have visions of disturbing things in my head, but thats a different story). How can I tell my parents I need one of those people without hurting them? (link)
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It's called a gueidence counselor...and if you have thing on your mind and you don't want to tell them you should tell someone you trust a lot and know wouldn't tell!
~Goodluck~
From,
~!Chelly!~
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Just yesterday i was playing on my computer trying to zone out from my problems and my sisters. Well anyways i'm juast asking for tips to help me out because i cant use my computer anymore and i need to zone out instead of remaining depressed like i have been for a while. I would tell people about my depression but i am very shy and i dont really like to talk. I need any tips to zone out and i will rate high for them............................. please help me out im going crazy!!! (link)
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I know your quiet but you relle should tell someone bacause you can't just run away from your problems you need to get them out liike talk to a gueidence counselor at your school and don't say to much if you don't want to it will just give you relief so u can feel like you aren't carrying all your problems on your shoulders.
~Goodluck~
From,
~!Chelly!~
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Today I found out that my boyfriend may be moving away. There is still a chance that he will be staying but if he does move, I don't know how I am going to cope. It would be very hard to visit him as I am too drive so I would only get to see him once every month or so, probably not even that. If he does move, how do I cope? Is it worth carrying on the relationship or should I just end things? Thank you. (link)
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Well it depends how far he's moving away becuase if it's not that far like in the same state you can still make plans but you won't be able to see eachother as much I KNOW IT SUX! ...I feel bad for you but i think even though it's hard you should break up with him and be still close friends. And try to get over it and try to look for another boy. ~Goodluck~
From,
~!Chelly!~
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i like this guy named connor and i just got asked out by his best friend so now he's not talking to his best friend,zach.wut should i do?i like connor but his friend likes me and i don't like his friend.i dont want them to not be friends and i dont wanna ruin the relationship that we already have. wut can i do?
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You should relle talk to conner's friend becuase you have to tell him how you feel!!!!!! also you should talk to conner and tell him whats going on becuase he has the right to know!
~Goodluck~
from,
~!Chelly!~
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Hey has anyone out there torn their Achilles tendon? I have it is MAJOR pain. For you all who have do you still wear your brace? Well let me know
hooopster (link)
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no i don't after it felt better i didn't but if you have pains now you wear your brace cause you migt cause damage and you should get a doctor's appointment!
From,
~Chelly~
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Hello, I'm 16 years old and I'm female. Let me start off by saying I hate the phrase "Let's just be friends." My best friend is one of those types of people who's actions very easily deceive you. I love him so much, and it hurts so bad. We hold hands, hug all the time, even say "I love you". But he says that to everyone. It's so hard because I'm confusing platonic love with "real" love. I take his gestures seriously though, and I really do love him. I want to tell him how I feel, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. He likes someone else, but he is currently single. Should I even bother trying? Am I too young to even be thinking about love? What should I say to him? Thank you so much! (link)
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You should tell him how you feel noones too young for love an dyou never know he might love you the same way secretly. Also if worst comes to worst and you guys breakup you can still be friends it shouldn't come between your friendship.
From,
~!Chelly!~
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okay theres this guy that likes me.. and i used to like him. I sit with him evryday at lunch. Hes so controlling. I cant stand it anymore. All my friends say i should ask him out or he should ask me but i cant stand him anymore.!! Seriously. He really bugs me!! i turn my cell phone off just so i dont have to talk to him at night. He asks whats wrong with my phone, i tell him i couldnt talk anyways or that my older sister was using my phone and it went dead. That was true Wednesday Night tho. Yesterday in the note he rote me.. he told me.. "Dotn make any plans for Saturday night. We're doing something. What we're doing i dont know.. but"
See i cant put up with that anymore.
What can i do?
Please help me...
Christine (link)
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You should really talk to him because if he finds out that you've been lying to him he's probally going to get a little upset or dissapointed that you can't tell him the truth i know it might be hard but you should do it.
~!GOOD LUCK~!
~!Chelly!~
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i just started liking this guy. lets just call him bob. and about a year ago we were good friends and randomly i started liking him the other day. it was really weird. but i just found out that he has a gf n i know nothing about her or how long theyve bin goin out. im really upset but what should i do? i cant just win him over because i NEVER see him except for in the halls but i dont have time to talk to him then! ill rate u a 5 if u answer! (link)
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Well if you son't know him like at all you should try to at least become friends with him. But if that doesn't work you should try to just get over him as hard as it is and try to find a new love and what i mean by new love is a "SINGLE" guy. ~!GOOD LUCK~!
~!Chelly~!
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Okay, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks. We have gone out for the same amount of time before, and I was the one that broke it off. I didn't feel it was right to go out with him when I just wanted to be friends. Well now, I am not happy in our relationship... AGAIN. He is not supportive at all, and I am the kind of girl that likes the single life. I don't like spending time with him, and I don't feel like there is butterflies in my stomach at all when I see him. But I will feel bad for breaking up with him AGAIN, and everybody will be mad at me and call me a whore. Should I break up with him anyway, or stick with him and make myself happy?
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You should try to get over him and find a better guy that is more supportive. ALso you shouldn't feel bad breaking up with him becasue it's your life and you should be able to live it to the fullest and you don't want to be misreble!
from,
~!LITTLE HELPER!~
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I am 13 and my brother is 17 and he hits me and I dont know what to do I love him and he cane be nice he just gets mad really mad some times I dont know what to do (link)
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u relle should tell ur parents because thats abuse!! you relle need to tell sum1 u can trust about that! ~!goodluck!~
from,
~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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i have a friend who cuts, she hasnt since the summer but today she came into shcool and told me one of my other really good friends and one of her really good friends and made us sweare we wouldnt tell anyone or shed kill us type of thing.....the whole thing is me and my friend dont know exactly how we should help her we know she wants the help but we cant figure out how to...is there anyone with any experience with this that has any sugestions that worked? were all really confsued as to how to solve this and we know that we cant force her to get help but sugest it and jsut be there for her and tlak to her but there has to be somthing more we can do (link)
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Well this is a good subject i'm good at. I've dealt with 2 of my friends that were cutters and i've helped them not to cut it wasn't easy but i did it also i've been a cutter. Well there is some advice that i can give you well first of all you have to understand cutting and why they do it and you can't get mad at them because that makes them more upset. there already ashamed of themselves. Also you have to ask them if they really want to stop cutting or there just quiting because they don't want people to find out. Also you have to let her know that your there for her and instead of cutting that your there for her to talk to!!! it's ery important that part the greastest feeling for a cutter is knowing someone actually cares about you!!!!!!
and here are some thing you can tell her to do instead of cutting when she gets in the mood:
Rubberband: wear a rubber band around your wrist, you can pull it and snap it agaist you wrist as hard as you want
squeeze ice: take some ice in your hand and do it until it hurts.
draw on your wrists: if there one of those people that just enjoy seeing the blood and a little pain tell them to draw on there wrist with a red pen or mamrker or even food coloring.
wrip paper: take paper and wrip it
write in a journal: write in your journal how you feel and what really helps me is writing poetry but thats just how i am.
draw: draw a picture of the thing your mad at if your mad and stab it with a pen wrip it spit on it whatever pleases you.
from,
~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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do you think it'll be hard to babysit 2 kids(grl-3)(the boy-6)on the first time ever havin to babysit? (link)
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Thats not that hard at all you just have to get a message through to them that your nice and fun but when the break the rules you can put your foot down.
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~!YOUR LITLLE HELPER!~
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I'm not sure how to explain this. For example, I'm trying to lose weight, see. And my Aunt tells me that I've lost some weight. I don't like to hear those things from her.
At first I thought it was because I fear success. But if my wife gives me an encouraging comment like that then I take it good. I feel good. I feel encouraged. And it's like that with everyone. But from my Aunt... well, with the weight thing, it'll make me feel like eating more and gaining weight to make her wrong.
It might help if I explain a little bit more about my relationship with my Aunt. She raised me and for a long time I felt like she was my mother; even after she told me she wasn't. In the last few years though I've thought like that somewhat less. I still feel somewhat like she's my mother but not as strongly as I once did.
So what could be the problem? (link)
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you should just tell her staraight out that you don't like it when she gives you a complement becuase it make you eat more and gain weight.
from,
~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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hi im laura 15 female i need some advice about things/People in my school keep on makin up rumours about me like im a slag and i run away to get attention and stuff but the story gets twisted and i always hear about it from other people and people have been saying stuff about me behind my back and it really hurts and loads of people are making up rumours about me and people are starting to believe them.The thing i dont get is that i have never been nasty to anyone in my school before :( help me wat shud i do? (link)
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If you haven't already you should tell a guidence counseler or something to deal with it. Or tell your parents or an adult that you can trust to help you. But i highly suggest you tell a guidence counsler to help and tell them to stop and also so you can get your emotions out.
from,
~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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ok, well i have a b/f we been goin out for 2 months... well'z it was going really great for the first month... but he has basketball alot.. and so i harldy get to see him alot... and well its sort of a long story but he always says i love you so much to me and stuff like that!! but anyways i need help wellz my friend lets call him bob(and my b/f's bestfriend) keeps telling me that my b/f is talking bout me.. saying stuff like i dont care about her!! and stuff welllz then bob said that my b/f told him about me and my b/f's secret.. then that he told him that he (my b/f) didnt want to go out wit me anymore... but wen i ask my b/f about it he always says no... today i asked him about if he said that he was gunna break up wit me then he said no relly low and his eyes were all watery and stuff!! then he looked really sad/mad.. i dont know!! wat should i do? im confused!!
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Well you should really have a serious talk with your friend, bob, and your b/f all together because it semes that since your friend said something it's started all of this and you need to find that story and then you should have a talk alone with your boyfriend and tell him your serious and that you really need to know because the more time you don't know the more your getting hurt!
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~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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