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Success and My Aunt
I'm not sure how to explain this. For example, I'm trying to lose weight, see. And my Aunt tells me that I've lost some weight. I don't like to hear those things from her.
At first I thought it was because I fear success. But if my wife gives me an encouraging comment like that then I take it good. I feel good. I feel encouraged. And it's like that with everyone. But from my Aunt... well, with the weight thing, it'll make me feel like eating more and gaining weight to make her wrong.
It might help if I explain a little bit more about my relationship with my Aunt. She raised me and for a long time I felt like she was my mother; even after she told me she wasn't. In the last few years though I've thought like that somewhat less. I still feel somewhat like she's my mother but not as strongly as I once did.
So what could be the problem?
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I think you are like this with your aunt because you don't believe her and you want to things on your own without getting advice from her or have her interfering. If my mum and boyfriend both told me I'd lost weight I would definitely believe my boyfriend and I'd feel like my mum was accusing me of something rather than being complimentary. You are not alone
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It seemes like you strongly dislike you aunt somewhere inside you. Not to sound like a shrink or anything, but maybe she did something when you were little and you're carrying that resentment still.
Or it could be the way your aunt is saying that. I know how a compliment can sound like an insult coming from certain people. Maybe you think she's implying you shouldn't or that it's nothing short of a miracle.
You should probably talk this over with your wife or someone you trust.
Hope I helped- good luck on your diet!
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you should just tell her staraight out that you don't like it when she gives you a complement becuase it make you eat more and gain weight.
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even if you want your aunt to be wrong, which would you rather- to prove your aunt wrong or lose weight.
all teens want to be right and their parents to be wrong its normal
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It may be possible that your aunt has always been right. Maybe she has done something to make her apear to be smarter then you. In case you are not following, let me give you my example. I am the oldest of five children. My sisters have always been right up there with me. Always...ALWAYS it seems like I am competing with them. If I looked they were wrong, then I felt that I looked better, though that isn't true. I think that you maybe feeling somewhat like this.
As for her being your mother. It is obvious that she is not, but she is a motherly figure. She was the woman who raised you. So, the feeling would be the same, even if she is not.
Hope I helped,
Ann
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