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Hey everybody! My name is Ann, and I think I give pretty good advice. I am nineteen, my favorite color is orange, I love pasta, am the oldest child out of five, am Catholic, and am a music education major with flute as my principle. Feel free to ask me anything, and I'll do my best!

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hey, im 17 and i have a 9 year old little sister. she's literally the biggest brat i know. i just want to help her. she's really beautiful, but i'm worried that when she gets older, things aren't going to go so well for her unless she learns how to respect and listen to her elders. she has adhd and has ocd. if things aren't going her way, she throws a tempertantrum, and when people tell her not to do something. she pushes their button and takes it too far. im also worried about how she's doing in school. i believe she's one of the smartest kids i know, but she's so ignorant. when it comes to learning, she gets too aggrivated and gives up. so now she just hates learning and doesn't listen when anyone who is trying to teach her something important. also she has a problem with keeping up with her stuff and a problem with putting things back the way they were istead she ignores it and does what she wants. it seems to me she has no motivation or drive to improve, all she's interested in is having fun and getting what she wants. all i want to know is: what can i do to help her?

i thought about briving her, but i don't know if that's a good idea.

Hi,

Being a bigger sister really is a job. I have four younger siblings, and my youngest sister is also nine. I've learned (well...I'm still learning) that there is a line between parent and sister. Your concern is completely justified...it's just natural to want to help your sister. I think it may be a good idea to try to calmly talk to your parents about what worries you. As far as what you can do, try to bond with her doing random activities. If you're seventeen, then she's bound to look up to you or think some of the things you do are cool. Try to do "grown up" fun stuff with her. When your bond is stronger, maybe she'll follow your good example more often.

Hope I helped,
Ann

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15/f
Hi I found out about 3 years ago that my friends parents parents both smoke weed. They dont do it around me or my friend they do it in there room, so were not around it, and they both are good parents, they both work and have a house of there own and there very responsible people, and I still have that thought in my mind that they both do it, and my my friends mom knnows I know about it and she tells me not to talk about it. what should my friend jasmin do?

Her parents would get in serious trouble if this was ever caught. I would hate for Jasmin to have to deal with what might happen to her if this ever happens. It's cases like this when there is no cookie cutter answer. Maybe she should try really talking to her parents about these concerns. I know that's a lot easier said than done, but it's also a lot easier of what could happen if things were to go badly.

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i am very shy around my dad and stepmother. i'm not really sure why. we see each other a lot, i mean at least five or six times a week. my dad teaches me to drive, takes me to movies and dinner, etc. my stepmom takes me shopping and to the salon. we do things as a group, too. we're really close.

but for some reason, i'm never completely myself around them. depending on my mood, i might talk freely or keep to myself. i don't understand why i do this. i notice it happens more frequently when i'm with both my dad and my stepmom, or just my stepmom. so i'm kind of guessing it has more to do with her.

i also have anxiety when i realize that i'm being too shy. i'll give them one word answers and then think, "oh god, why am i doing this?" and then i feel like crying and i ask them to drop me off it home. it hurts my feelings because they never call me afterwards to ask if i'm okay, and as a result, the next time i see them, the shyness is even worse.

my stepmom has been around since i was four, and i don't even speak to my birth mother. the weird thing is that it's just them. i am usually not this shy around anyone else. i'm also seventeen years old and i think i'm too old to be feeling this way. please help me; i hate feeling this way. thank you in advance.

Hey,

I can imagine that this would be very stressful. It's hard when you act someway and you're not sure why. You should probably know that feeling like this around your parents is normal for any teenagers. Our lives are just very different from our parents, even if we love them and enjoy hanging out with them. Do they realize that you're feeling this way? If you thought you might be comfortable with it, you could try talking to them about it, or maybe just your dad. Don't worry about being too old for this. Often, it's even weirder as we grow up. I hope things work out for you.

-Ann

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I really like this guy named Zach. Zach is my best friends older brother. I am in 9th grade and he is in 12th grade. I really like him. He always gives me hugs becuase like he thinks of me as his little freshman friend. I want to go out with Zach, but I don't know how to ask. I know people are reading this saying "Ask him out..." It is not that easy, if he says know I will be imbaressed and I doubt he will want to go out with a freshman. What are some ways I can let him know I like him, not just telling him tho, LOL!!

Thank youuu!

Kayla ♥ ♥ ♥

That's tough because you might not be able to tell whether or not he is interested in you. I don't know how much this helps, but: if you like him, then it is probably worth the risk. I suppose you just have to take the plunge and ask him, or (as is the easier way) have a friend ask him in a non-revieling way. I wish you luck!

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This is... kind of odd, I suppose.
Please only read this is you are female.. and know what you are talking about?
I'm 13. I've had my... yeah...
But I've never liked a guy. Ever. Been kissed. Wanted to kiss. Never had a crush or a boyfriend or anything.
I have no interest in girls, either. Nothing.
I'm not shy around boys or girls.

What's up with me? :/

There is probably nothing wrong with you. I think all girls start liking guys at different ages. Don't be worried about it because you're young and that's fine. Liking guys, dating guys, and kissing guys doesn't need to be on your mind right now anyway.

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what do u do when all ur friends turn on you

Talk to your friends. There is not much to go on here...but in the long run...your friends are your friends for a reason.

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I have a really hot boyfiend thats cute,funny,nice and caring but I have the biggest feeling that he's cheating on me and I don't wanna be hurt what should I do?

Talk to your boyfriend. You like him enough and will be able to tell if he is lieing to you by the look is his eyes. If he likes you, then he will feel guilty about it and it probably be apearent. Make sure you don't do anything drastic because if he really isn't doing anything wrong, it will hurt him that you don't trust him. I understand your delima and I hope for you that he is not.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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My parents might get a divorce. And i feel like i should do somthing to try and save their marriage. Is there anyone who has gone through the same problems that i am and can help?

I know that you already have a lot of answers, but yah...I do know what you're going through because I went through it last year. All I can tell you is that I know it will hurt to see you parents divorsed, but they wouldn't be doing ti if they didn't have a good reason. If your parents can't be happy together anymore, then you can't do anything to hold them together. I know it will not be easy to deal with/get used to. However, all I can tell you is that in my experience it was not as bad as i thought it would be by far. I can only hope that your experience is the same.

Best Wishes,
Ann

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Ok, I have a friend, let's call him Nick. I went out with Nick August through September. Well, he broke up with me because he got into smoking, drinking, dipping, and stealing again and he didn't want me to get started and make me all freaked and stressed. Me and him always talk, well used to at least. Now the only time we talk basically is in the mornings at school for breakfast. Now he has this girlfriend, let's call her Samantha. She's a total whore and they've had sex 3 times that I know of and they've done some sexual things with eachother. When I was going out with Nick he was still a virgin, and now all the sudden hes doing all this stuff every day. He's obviously gotten well over me but I still like him a lot and no-one knows that I do. The very few times that we talk it's always Samantha this Samantha that. And everytime he says anything about her it breaks my heart but he has no idea. I just don't know what to do to get over him, I'm so confused and lost. Please give me some sort of an idea. Sorry that it's so long..

Well, I am very very sorry. There is probably a reason he is acting like this. If you care about him, you need to find a good time where you two could be alone and talk about it. He sounds like he is a good person going through something he just can't deal with. Right now, he may just need a friend, which you could perfectly be.

Lots of Luck and best wishes for your friend,
Ann

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I hardly see my mom and she goes to work at 5:30 in th morning and if I don't say goodbye to her befor she leaves I cry for an hour! I don't usally cry but I have been lately but only if I don't say goodbye to her. What is wrong with me?! Am I a baby or is something else going on with me?Please help me!

I am sorry about how bad it hurts you. Firstly, you are most certainly not crazy. Secondly, nothing is going on with you, you just miss her. I would advise that you talk to your mom. Let her know how much you've been missing her. And, maybe you'll reallize whether or not there is a deeper reason for this concern about your mom. It may not be real easy to talk to her about this, but don't feel stupid. She loves you and she will understand.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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is 13 too young to get married. i mean yeah it is but like i mean if you really felt you were ready could someone marry u without a parents consent. or even with one

I think that if you are thirteen then yes, you are to young to be married. You need to do so many more things. Like finish high school at least. Yet, the person may be really special (as you say). And if that is the case, then i suppose you could be engaged to that person. And that would be fine to do until you really were ready to get married. Besides, I don't think you could legally get married at that age with out you parents consent.

Best wishes,
Ann

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How do you give someone a hickey? How come it really is that color? Also.. What do you do when a guy is giving you a hickey.. is it normal if a girl were to give a guy a hickey?

Sorry, I wouldn't know.

Ann

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I am 14/f and don't tell me i`ve made the biggest mistake of my life...i know i've made a mistake and i`m gonna follow my responsibilities. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 11 months, has been in jail for 6... he just got out and we really like each other you know? Well, while he was in jail-i had a little side thing...with a 16 year old black male...lets call him mike..me and mike really liked each other and did it a lot..but when we did it on the first day of my period-something happened. Last night, my stomach was hurting sooo bad while talking to my boyfriend. So bad that my mom took me to the emergency room. She decided to give me a pregnancy test..and it`s positive. I`m nervous and all and 6 weeks pregnate in the 9th grade... I have the money and skills to support it..but MIKE doesn`t want anything to do with it. My dad wants it aborted but I want it...my mom does too. What would you do in my situation? And how do i explain to my boyfriend who is trying to get his life back on track?

Oh man, you have certainly gotten yourself in a bad situation. I know you definatly don't want a lecture, but I just want to say that at 14 you really should not be doing that; however, I think you get that now.

I am fifteen and I know that I would not want that to happen to me, so I do feel your pain. It will be extremely hard to take care of this baby at your young age, but anything beats abortion (which you should not do). If you can support this child (in all honesty), then thats fine. However, it will make things much much harder. If you don't think that you can handle it, you could always put your baby up for adoption. There are always hundreds of couples out there that would love to adopted a child and as hard as it will be to give up, a good agency will make sure your baby has a good home.

I know that this is probably the worst thing you have ever gone through, but do not give up. The mistake was made, and you are ready to deal with it. I hope that whatever decision you make, that both your life and the life of the child you now cary will in the end be wonderful.

Best wishes and prayers,
Ann

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hey, theres a guy who REALLY likes me, and I kinda like him, but for some reason I feel uncomfortable in the situation(were bf and gf) I dunno what to do, and PLEASSSSSSSSSSe dont delete this, itsmbothering me so much!!

Ok, I really don't understand what you mean be situation, but I do know that if you are not used to having a boyfriend everything can feel really uncomfortable. If things are too fast for you, just let him know. If he likes you they way you say he does, then he will surely be cool with it. I hope that you feel more comfortable with your boyfriend soon.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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Ok I went out with this guy for say about 2 weeks i dumped him cause he started being nasty then we went uptown he pounced on me and i fell in the mud and it turned serious and we ended up dating then he dumped me because he said he had a daughter and a girlfriend then he asked me back out and then dumped me recently he's bin flirting with me and telling me he wants to go back out with me but he lied and said he had a girlfriend then I found out he was lying and was atually going out with his other ex before me I feel really used and he still flirts with me and looks at me with really puppish eyes it makes me feel so depressed last night I cried myself to sleep just thinking about him he doesn't know how much I love him I wish I could tell him but then he'd hurt me even more please help me i need to get over him and fast from Sophie

Dear Sophie,
I am sorry about all your troubles with your boyfriend. If you really and truly love him, then it would be worth another chance. However, if it is not honest to goodness love, then it won't be worth the pain you have gone through. I could always recomend the universal "plenty of fish in the sea; just get yourself some chocolate" advice, but I know that it really isn't that simple to get over something like that. Sophie, I am so sorry that things are going so bad. I hope that either you can talk to him about ALL of this or that you will find another man who will treat you the way you deserve.

Best Wishes,
Ann

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i want to make a quote site.. but i have no idea what hosting site i should use..anyone have any ideas?

It depends on how great of a site you are looking to make. If you want to make a small not real high teck site to give out to your friends then I would recomend expage.com. You can get a free simple one...or pay for a nicer one. But that is all the info I know about hosting sites. Looking it up on yahoo would probably help a lot too.

Loads of Luck,
Ann

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how do you calculate a grade point average? thanks.

A- 4.0
B- 3.0
C- 2.0
D- 1.0
F- ???

You take the grade for every class and replace it with the numbers above that correspond. Then you add them all together and divied by the number of classes you have. For exapmple, if you got 6 A's, one B, and 2 C's then you would do the following:

4+4+4+4+4+4+3+2+2=35
35/9=3.88

Hope that helped,
Ann

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there is this boy in my class who came here in the middle of the year. and now he thinks he owns it. its really annoying!! he thinks he is cute and always brags. but he wears the same pants for like three days straight. its kinda nasty. he smells funny too. but the thing is. he makes fun of everyone, but he doesn't really have any room to talk. what should we do.

confused classmates. ( 9th graders )

Maybe, its because he is knew that he is acting like that. Try to be friends with him. If that doesn't work, somebody is going to have to flat out tell him the impact he has on everybody: in the most constructive way possible. Things will probably simmer down once he gets used to the place, so in the meantime, try to be patient with him.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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okay i just need someone to talk to .. just someone .. i just need a person that will cheer me up everyday .. and be there.. i have problems going on .. and i need help with them .. IM me on aim .. at s0 effin radx or xhugs not drugz

well thanksz rachel;

Rachel, there are so many people here that will be more then happy to be that person. And, I am one of them. If you want to talk to me, email me anytime at panther_grl03@yahoo.com

I hope you find someone,
Ann

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Ok..this may be long..I go to school (I'm in 8th grade) like everyone else and I hang out w/ my little group consisting of 6 people including myself. Well, one of the girls is completley attatched to me even though she is annoying and I don't want to be her friend. Well she invites herself over and does w/e she pleases and my mom does not like her or her family at all! Well how do I turn her down in a nice way and move away slowly? (that's just my first problem) Then there is another girl that I absolutley adore! We are just getting close b/c my first friend talks bad about her constanly I never wanted to be friends with her...well anyway I want to be her friend and be close with her but not the immature childish one...any suggestions on how to solve this? Thanks alot!

I get where you are coming from. Junior high is awful, lucky you are almost through it. Your friend does not sound as mature as you. However, she'll come around. I wouldn't give up on her. My best advice is to try to talk to her about more importand stuff. You know what I mean, stuff thats not immature. Then she may be the friend you need. As for the other friend, continue growing close to her. It is great to have a good friend. But, don't talk bad about the other. That way, you'll end up with as much intergrity as you sarted out with.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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