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I'm shy around my parents.
i am very shy around my dad and stepmother. i'm not really sure why. we see each other a lot, i mean at least five or six times a week. my dad teaches me to drive, takes me to movies and dinner, etc. my stepmom takes me shopping and to the salon. we do things as a group, too. we're really close.
but for some reason, i'm never completely myself around them. depending on my mood, i might talk freely or keep to myself. i don't understand why i do this. i notice it happens more frequently when i'm with both my dad and my stepmom, or just my stepmom. so i'm kind of guessing it has more to do with her.
i also have anxiety when i realize that i'm being too shy. i'll give them one word answers and then think, "oh god, why am i doing this?" and then i feel like crying and i ask them to drop me off it home. it hurts my feelings because they never call me afterwards to ask if i'm okay, and as a result, the next time i see them, the shyness is even worse.
my stepmom has been around since i was four, and i don't even speak to my birth mother. the weird thing is that it's just them. i am usually not this shy around anyone else. i'm also seventeen years old and i think i'm too old to be feeling this way. please help me; i hate feeling this way. thank you in advance.
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When i'm around my dad, I get so shy! Like sometimes I say about two sentences and i'm quiet for the rest of the time.
I find its because I don't know what to say, and i'm paranoid about saying the wrong thing. Its like the expression walking on egg shells.
The best thing here is just don't stress about it. As teenagers we're in like a completely different world to our parents. All we can do is just relax and be yourself even if you are scared. Also they are probably trying to do whats best for you,taking the cues from you. So the whole not calling to make sure you are ok, is probably because they think you want space.
Also maybe try spend some time with your step mom and get a bit more comfortable with her.It might make things better. Its easier to be comfortable with a step mom when you are younger than when you are older. So don't worry about the age thing!
Goodluck!
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Hey,
I can imagine that this would be very stressful. It's hard when you act someway and you're not sure why. You should probably know that feeling like this around your parents is normal for any teenagers. Our lives are just very different from our parents, even if we love them and enjoy hanging out with them. Do they realize that you're feeling this way? If you thought you might be comfortable with it, you could try talking to them about it, or maybe just your dad. Don't worry about being too old for this. Often, it's even weirder as we grow up. I hope things work out for you.
-Ann
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