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Stay friends?
Ok..this may be long..I go to school (I'm in 8th grade) like everyone else and I hang out w/ my little group consisting of 6 people including myself. Well, one of the girls is completley attatched to me even though she is annoying and I don't want to be her friend. Well she invites herself over and does w/e she pleases and my mom does not like her or her family at all! Well how do I turn her down in a nice way and move away slowly? (that's just my first problem) Then there is another girl that I absolutley adore! We are just getting close b/c my first friend talks bad about her constanly I never wanted to be friends with her...well anyway I want to be her friend and be close with her but not the immature childish one...any suggestions on how to solve this? Thanks alot!
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well be friend with her! and the annoying one well just tell her that you are not sure that yall can be friends
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Talk it over with her. Find ways. Think this through, and you should be able to come up with a solution. For the first girl, tell her straightforward that it's not okay that she brings herself to your house without saying anything to you. Write a letter, talk it over on email or IM, just find a way to get it through to her. For the girl that you adore..just stay being her friend. Talk to her daily and just try to get to know her better so you can become a better friend of hers. She'll notice eventually how cool you think she is and how badly you want to be friends with her. Hope I helped.
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YoO can tell the one yoO dont lyke that you just don't want to be as close as she thinks yoO are. And when she invites herself over tell her your mom said yoO cant have ne friends over then. Hope I helped <3 Good Luck
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FOR THE ANNOYING PERSON:
Just say that you feel like yall are growing apart and ya'll need to spend some time apart for awhile to sort things out. Maybe if she starts to spend time with other people she will foret about bugging you. Also, you can tell her that you don't like that she back talks that other girl and tell her that you don't want to ne friends with someone who talks trash about them
FOR THE ADORIBLE ONE:
Keep getting closer to her. She could become one of your really good friends you never know.
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Talk to the first girl about how you want your space. She'll probably understand. She probably just needs a friend, and is excited that she has one. Just don't be rude about it. And tell her to stop talking bad about your other friend, because it's hurting you. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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For the annoying one: Just say that you feel like yall are growing apart and ya'll need to spend some time apart for awhile to sort things out. Maybe if she starts to spend time with other people she will foret about bugging you. Also, you can tell her that you don't like that she back talks that other girl and tell her that you don't want to ne friends with someone who talks trash about others.
As for the adorable one: Keep getting closer to her. She could become one of your really good friends you never know.
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You shouldn't reject your friend! But you certainly can move away from her. When she invites you over, don't make excuses, just say you can't make it. If she asks why and how about another day, say I'll have to check back with you. If she simply brings herself into your house, then say your in the middle of something and can't play now. If she lures you into coming over, escape and no matter what, don't give in. And about her family, maybe it's time to stop sending the old Christmas card, and giving a friendly hello. And tell your friend at lunch when she sits with you, say I was planning on sitting with another girl, if you don't mind. (referring to the girl you want to get close to) and have her over, and share your interests, but not jump inot things. I hope everything works out
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I get where you are coming from. Junior high is awful, lucky you are almost through it. Your friend does not sound as mature as you. However, she'll come around. I wouldn't give up on her. My best advice is to try to talk to her about more importand stuff. You know what I mean, stuff thats not immature. Then she may be the friend you need. As for the other friend, continue growing close to her. It is great to have a good friend. But, don't talk bad about the other. That way, you'll end up with as much intergrity as you sarted out with.
Lots of Luck,
Ann
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just hang around with who you want to, if you want to be close with some people but not others it can be that way. tell the girl that comes to your house that she needs to stop. she may be mad at you at first but you cant just let her keep coming over like that. as far as the other people, just hang with the people who ya wanna hang out with, no ones forcing you to be around anyone. if you see them just ignore them or say hi and then dont talk to them unless you have to.
hope this helped
~~STEF~~
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