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he's moving away
Today I found out that my boyfriend may be moving away. There is still a chance that he will be staying but if he does move, I don't know how I am going to cope. It would be very hard to visit him as I am too drive so I would only get to see him once every month or so, probably not even that. If he does move, how do I cope? Is it worth carrying on the relationship or should I just end things? Thank you.
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Well just know that he isnt dumping you for another girl and that he still likes you so stay close in touch and talk alot thru IM's letters emails texts whatever and just talk as much as you can! that happaned to me and my bf taylor awhile ago and i was like at a loss of words.. i didnt know what to do but he moved back a yr later and we went back out but i moved on after we went out the 2nd time because i relized what was there at on point had changed over the time he was gone so that may be the same with you but your probably thinking o I can never get over him!! but i did over taylor
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it might be best for you to end things. long distance relationships arent very fair. lets say you meet someone one day and you get a crush on him.. you'll feel guilty because you know that your boyfriend is somewhere else thinking of you, but they might actually be thinking of some girl they met also.. so you see, they arent fair. youre young, youre supposed to meet new people. how can you meet n mingle with others when you have 'roots' with someone whos not even there? think this one thru a bit...
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try talking to him about trying to maintain a long distance relationship. ya know, talkin' on the phone, emailin' him and maybe even visiting him every once in a while. if your patient, the long distance thing will work and you'll still have a great relationship! hope i've helped!
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Maybe you should talk to him about possibly ending things. Sometimes a long distance relationship does work, but it just depends on the distance of where he is moving and how you feel. Even if you do part, make sure that you both talk and know each others' feelings. And of course, go with your gut instinct. Don't let another person change your mind, stick with what your heart tells you.
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dont end it! see, this is going to be part of life. get his e-mail adress, phone numbere, his new adress( mail a letter), and his new telephone number. Its going to be hard. If things are getting to hard to cope wit just end it and get a new bf. but those are desperate maesures
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I was put in the same sitiation before, except it was me who was moving away. I feel for you, I really do. Having to choose in those odds isn't the best thing in the world. I think everyone already knows long distance relationships dont work out...so as painful as it may be, I'd say you two need to end things. That way, you'll get hurt once instead of hurting everyday because you're so far away from each other. Distance does numb the pain over time, believe me, I know. Just don't end things unless you're 100% sure he's moving. I hope this helps, if not, tell me and I'll try again.
Best of luck,
JyNxiE
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Well it depends how far he's moving away becuase if it's not that far like in the same state you can still make plans but you won't be able to see eachother as much I KNOW IT SUX! ...I feel bad for you but i think even though it's hard you should break up with him and be still close friends. And try to get over it and try to look for another boy. ~Goodluck~
From,
~!Chelly!~
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If he moves, you just have to carry on with your life. It's most likely going to be painful whether you end things now or try to make it work. Ending it now will leave you thinking, "I wonder if it could have worked out if I hadn't ended it.." And not ending it could result in a long, drawn-out break-up process of you two falling out of touch with each other. But hey, like you said, he might not even be moving! So keep your hopes up! I know stuff like this sucks.
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wow! Thats hard! If the realationship is awesome...and you think you really have something...then don't let anything get in the way!...Then again if you are having trouble now keeping the realationship strong...then a long-distance realationship isn't going to make it better...it will probubly get worse! Trust me...if you feel no connection...long distance realationships don't work out.
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Well it depends on how far he's moving. Keep this quote in mind: Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a reminder of just how strong true love can be. My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship... He doesn't live that far away but it is hard not seeing him every day like I'd want to. If you really care about eachother you can make it work even if it means seeing him once a month. You have a phone most likely and obviously a computer with the internet. Call him every night. I personally think that longdistance relationships last longer and are stronger relationships because of the fact that you are able to carry on a relation ship with someone who doesn't live in the same town as you do or go to the same school as you do. I don't think you should end things. Those who believe long distance relationships don't work cannot carry a relationship of any kind themself. Those who believe longdistance relationships can work out and last are those who have the most success in a relationship. I hope this helped. Feel better.
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I will have the same problem in a few months with my girl, so I've been thinking about this a LOT. You have to consider the worst possible scenarios in each case. 1- You end things but cant cope without him. 2- You try to make a long distance relationship but it doesnt work out. Watching a relationship die can be torturous and can spoil everything you've achieved. Think carefully about which one sounds more likely, if you don't think you can make a long distance relationship work, then don't put yourself and your boyfriend through hell without reason. Trust your gut on this one.
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