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heyy i`m lindsay -- fifteen -- and currently loving the life that i have =) ask me anything and i`ll help you as best as i can!!
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Is it wrong to cry if your dog died and you've known her since you were a toddler? My friends would think it's silly, and when you think about it, it kind of is. Does anybody else think it's silly?

NO! Not at all. i bawled when my dog died! shoot, i cried when my fish died. don`t let your friends make fun of you for something like that. i`m sorry about your dog=(

my friends just wrote something in my advice colomn and its about me and this is wut it said...

okay well me and my friends have this REALLY weird friend! and omg she is s0o0o0o annoying! she wears the gayest cloths ever and the gayest shoes and like no one likes her. she used to be our good friend but now she is just sooooo weird and its so annoying. plus none of the guys like her and neither do the girls. i mean she is just soo weird its like ahhhh! and she copys EVERYONE on EVERYTHING! and we are just like tired of it cuz shes so gay and so annoying! should we tell her or just keep pretending to like her?

i dont know wut to do...im so flippin hurt and im so frustrated...plz..i need advice...i rate high (i dont wear the gayest clothes or the gayest shoes ever either)

~thanks in advance..~

are you sure it was them that wrote it? and are you sure its about you? because thats REALLLLLY low & shallow and RETARDED that theyd do something like that. id say..time to find new friends. what bitchesss

Well this question os for mostly guys, age 15-17 or any girl who has gotten a guy a gift 15-17 guy. I need to know what to get my Boyfriend over a year for this valentines day!! thank you so much!!

I'll always rate a 4 or a 5 or nothing if you give me a bogus answer!

thanks!!!!!

*KelSA*

I had this really cute picture that my friend took of me & my boyfriend ( who i`ve also been going out with over a year) And i went to this store in my mall (Coachouse Gifts, idk if you have one where you live) And they made a picture frame for me -- i had them engrave bryan & lindsay ( our names) and August 27 2003 ( the date we started going out) It was pretty cheap too-- only about 20.
Orrrrr you can always go to the mall together, and have him pick out something he wants, buy it for him, and then walk to the nearest resturaunt and pay for it all.

ok well im a little overweight and when i wear tight shirts you can see my stomach ... so my question is, is there ANYTHING i can do to temporaraly make your stomach flatter. i thought of duck tape but that would hurt like a mother but i want to wear a cute outfit tomorrow but it is pretty tight on me. but i am going to work out every day after school and tonight so PLEASEEE answer ASAP!!!! thank you in advance and i will rate 5s to almost anyone :) but i need your help cause even my mom calls me fat
:(

chubby lil me

pS i asked this before and you deleted it but please dont this time i really need some answers and this is not a joke question

well i dont know anything about taping dwn your fat? But do lots of lundges because those tone up your legs reallllly well & reallly fast

Is there anything you can do to make your hair heathier. I deep condition my hair every other day. I've died my hair over 24 times and I know its really really bad and now I've stopped and I haven't died my hair in like 6 months, and my hair has almost grown out my the ends of my hair are really hard and prickley. I can't stand it, I use everything I can possibly think of to make it soft. I get my hair cut every month and I really don't know what else I can do. Any suggestions?

Use Suave professionals -- it works REALLLY well. Also, you can buy some leave-in conditioner..which is where you can put it in and it doesnt come out, so it helps make your hair feel softer & look shinier. Every now & then take a break from the heated things like blow dryers & straighteners so your hair gets a rest for a while. Also...its old fashioned but washing your hair with egg yolk works REALLY well.

okay i believe in god but i guess i doubt it somtimes, i get scared of "what if there isnt one" and is there a heaven :/ i think i should go to church to build up more faith but then again i dont get how that could actually help... I really get upset over this, any suggestions?

i know how you feel..i always believed in him, but it was just because thats how i was raised and brought up. Then something would happen like someone i new died, and then id wonder how there could be a God if he let that thing happen. Then last year, i went to Minnesota with my youth group at church and i dont know, something happened there and made everything click and now i understand. Yeah it may sound cheesy but whatever. I think you should try going to church for a little while, because if you do want to believe in him, all the people in the world are there that can help you, and they can answer questions that you have.

Ok well Ive had this good friend for awhile (not too long) and before everything was fine... But she has been getting on my nerves like crazy for the past months. I'm having this party with only girls and it should be really fun.. but I dont want her to come.. I'm afriad she's going to find out and feel hurt. All i want is someway for her to get plans so she wont be able to come! But i know that I cant set that up! I need advice and not something like "tell her how you feel" BECAUSE THATS NOT AN OPTION

is it a big party or a small party? if its a big one just go ahead and invite her, i mean its not like she`ll be tagging along with you the whoooole night. but if its a small party, dont tell her, and if she ends up finding out say your parents only let you invite a certain amount of people, and they didnt kno you well enough and i didnt tell you because i thought youd be mad.

I'm like 20 pounds overweight and I REALLY need to loose the 20lbs. Even my mom calls me fat! I really am going to go anorexic if I dont find an easy way to loose the weight! Please help me. I dont wanna go to desperate measures, but I just don't want my mom to call me fat, and I know I want to be the right wait. I'd be much happier!
DO you have any easy ways of loosing 20lbs.?

before you eat anything, drink one glass of water, because water helps fill you up and it just comes right out and doesnt turn into fat. Don`t eat past 7, because your digestive system slows down and doesnt work as good so all teh food in your stomach just stays there turning into fat. Only eat when youre HUNGRY, not just because you`re bored orjust because it`s there. Also, don`t eat until youre stuffed, because that stretches out your stomach and makes you look fater.

okay i have HORRIBLE mensrtual cramps and i got my period just last night and i ended up going to the emergancy room because of the pain, i threw up and everything. i got home and i felt better and i took a nap but i woke up in pain again ive already takin every medicine that i can...please help :( how do i get rid of the EXCRUSIATING cramps?!?!?

wowww thats really extreme -- im not an expert on that kinda stuff, but i`d say that cramps hurting that bad isn`t right -- talk to someone, and maybe they can put you on birth control ( people with really bad cramps like you have to take birth control so they dont get them) otherwise take midol, and at night tylenol PM so it puts you to sleep and you arent awake as much from the pain. DONT take asprin, because that does something and makes you bleed more.

Do any of you know how to form negative tu commands? for spanish...

i`m in spanish... but what do you mean by negative tu commands?

I said yes to this guy when he asked me out. I felt bad for him that is y i said yes. My best friend sadi he would like litterly cry if i said no. So what the heck i said yes. I don't like him and i like someone else but we r going out. Is it okay to like someone else but go out w/ someone that u don't like more than a friend??
signed,
lost lovr

ahh i`ve done that and learned the hard way -- the guy i was going out with eventually found out i liked someone else, broke up with me, and to this day still hates me. The guy that i liked didnt want to go out with me because of what i did to the other guy. I say you should just break things off with him, because its not fair to your boyfriend, also you might miss a great chance to tell the guy you do like that you like him, or maybe he was going to tell you.

Ok well I'm in junior high but i still have no friends and the 1st semester is almost over!! Well, I have one friend, my best friend,a.k.a. my soul sista. I couldnt survive with out her!!! So the years half over and nobody wants to be my friend. I'm on the track team, I go to the basketball games and dances, and i'm in the school choir. So you would think I'd be miss. likable, righttt? WRONG!!!!!But nobody wants to be my friend. I'm not a dork and nothing is wrong with me....they just dont like me. I want to swich classes, but now that i think of it, no one in the other classes like me either. I want to swich schools, but i think it would be a hard transition leaving my best friend. What should I do plz plz plz help me i'm in desperate need of guidance right now plz!!!!!!!!!

just try talking to people! Don't always hang around your best friend & ONLY your best friend, but slowly start making small talk with others and find things that you guys have in common! but don't overdo it..also, you can just start complimenting people like 'i looove your shirt where`d you get it?' and then talk about the store that she got it from like 'ooo yea that store is soo expensive but has the cutest outfits'

A dark bruise has appeared on my left breast. i didnt hit it or anything, it just appeared. it started off bluish and now the background is yellowish.Im extremely worried and dont know what to do.what could it be?

ahh i don`t think you need to worry -- it may be there for a while, and it will probably hurt, but other than that it should affect you. But if its there for a looong time, or keeps getting bigger and youre really worried about it tell someone

Okay im DESPERATE for a good Eyeliner and a good Foundation, the liquid one, the ones I wear ALWAYS come off within 30 minutes, and its so annoying! and they smell bad too! I really need help!!

if you`ve got time & money, go to younkers and they can answer any of your questions as well as pick out the right color for you.
otherwise, try the waterproof stuff. And dont use liquid foundation, that stuff sucks and it does smell.i use eyeliner called perfect point plus.. its like 4.70ish and its everywhere -- that stuff works really well

okay, ive been working out everyday for like 2 weeks now and ive been getting into REALLy good shape. . but i havent really been loosing weight, just getting really tone.. the thing is, i eat ALOT. not like fattening foods, its healthy/okay foods. but i just like overload on it i guess.. and i HATE the idea of "eating in moderations".. its so hard! once u take a bite out of something, you just want to eat more.. any good motivational tips that would help me eat in moderations?? thanks =]

first of all...your very lucky you can stick with this kind of thing. i wish i was that motivated.

i`m working on getting in shape too. SO theres a few junk foods that i ALWAYS eat at home, so i told my mom that i had made a bet with a friend that i could go 2 months without eating those foods..so i asked if she could stop buying them and buy me other things like fruit or jello instead, so i wouldnt be tempted. Also..to reach your goals faster go through catalogs of swimsuits and look at the girls & cut out their bodies and put them places you will see it, so you can remind yourself what you`re working for.

I am a 17/m and i really like this girl. I have a plan to ask her out. The only problem is that it involves two weeks and Valentines day. The plan is to leave notes in her locker with no name just ending it the same way. Should i go for the two week plan or should i just ask her?

i would LOOOVE the two week thing...sounds incredibly romantic, which most girls love. just make sure noone else will get her first

I need help QUICK!! Im getting my braces tightened for the first time tomorrow and I know to expect pain but how much? And do they hurt WHILE he's tightening them or AFTER hes done? Should I take advil first? Will i be able to eat/chew food afterwards? How long does it take for him to tighten them? Thanks ill rate high!!

for me, it didn`t hurt EVERY time i got them tightened, but yeah it did hurt a lot of the time. Take something before you go in, and it may hurt a few horus afterwards, but it doesnt hurt NEAR as bad as it does getting them on, and you`ll be able to eat and stuff..but it wont be too bad when you compare it to getting them on. It doesnt take long at all -- at my ortho i was hardly ever in there more than 15 minutes

whenever i have a boyfriend i have to hide it from my mom. she said its okay to have one but i usually never tell her. but i got one now and i really need 2 tell her bc hes so different from any1 ive ever got with....and shes met him n stuff n she thinks we go out but i dont call him my bf around her. but the thing is she wont let me go newhere (but i do newayz she just doesnt know) but its hard to sneek around her i just wanna tell her but she like wants to "get 2 know him" im like IM NOT GETTIN MARRIED CHILL OUT...she acts like wer gettin married she wants to meet his parents n everything so she knows who im with...how can i tell her to calm down...i tryed tellin her but she always finds a reason for everything...helllllpppp

She just cares about you, thats actually probably a good thing. Just tell her, and have him come over to hang out a few times so that she can be around him more and see what hes like, and when she meets his parents shes probably not thinking abot talking to them for like 30 minutes, she probably just wants to see what they're like and stuff, so she knos what kind of background this guy is coming from. Just tell your guy that your mom is like really protective and she wants to "get to kno him." That way you dont haveta sneak around anymore, and youll probably be able to do more things with each other more often

uhh..ok this is really dumb...Ok well a week ago I had a dream that I had sex with my teacher...he is like 48 or something and I'm in the 8th grade and now when I'm in his class day dream about it...I mean its gross because he is ...my teacher..but i dont want to tell my friend because they will think i'm crazy! what do i do and what does it mean?

Well you can't control your dreams, so it probably doesn't mean anything. And yeah that is kinda weird, but im pretty sure it doesnt mean anything. Also, i wouldn't tell your friends either, becuz something like that would definitly get out to everyone and then everyone would think you were some weird person ahha.

Is it considered cutting if u only scratch to where u have scars? I went to a website and it said it is considered cutting.

If you already cut, then why do you want to kno if its considered cutting yourself when you scratch at scars??

But noo, i dont think that scratching at scars is cutting yourself. Unless your like trying to dig your nail into your skin and break the skin the it probably isnt.

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