Holla, My name is Heather
I am 15 and in 9th grade and i go to school at Ferndale High School. I love to talk on the phone and comp, hang out with friends and of course give advice. I am a cheerleader, takes dance at school, volleyball player. I am single and looking right now. If u wanna know some thing u can im me on aim or msn or yahoo or email me.
E-mail: troubleinventor@hotmail.com
Location: j-town
Occupation: student at Ferndale Area Jr/Sr high school
Age: 15
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Member Since: October 20, 2004
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besides cd's and money what do you get a girl for her 15th birthday? (link)
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make up
cloths
or if she is into something like frogs find out something like that
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i really like this guy and he likes me but i don`t want a boyfriend at the moment cuz of all this drama thats been going on and im just not sure..whats huld i do? (link)
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i would do is just keep talkin to him to make sure that he knows that u are still instreasted in him but just tell him that friends would be better for now
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im 16 and my girlfriend and i are thinking about having sex but ive held back a bit my worry is my penis is not real big and im not sure what she'll think should i worry and does it matter to girls? (link)
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don't sweat it it will be ok and if she really liked u than it don't matter of how big ur penis is so just be kool with it..
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my names Sue n Im 16... me n a friend John were planning on having sex... n everything for a while now... well I think we are acctually going to do it soon... but I dont know if I should shave there or not.... should I?
I know this probably sounds so bad but im just trying to get anothers girl opinion instead of telling my mom! thnks (link)
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well it depends on if u want to or not thats ur choice i mean it really doesn't matter but if u do it well than ok of u don't than ok thats ur tp u hun
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I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way. (link)
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well being self confidence is something u have to do by ur self to get over just keep tellin ur self that u are and u gotta belive that u are pretty cause i used to be the same way but it took awhile for me to actully believe that i was pretty but now that i do i get somewhere in live by believein my self so try ur hardest to get over that.
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What do I do when everything is way too much for me and I'm so angry that I'm afraid I'll hurt my friends, I never get this angry, it's driving me nuts, I have always been so calm and sweet, now I'm some bitch that goes with the crowd. What do I do now? (link)
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ur growing up and u don't mean to be but mood swings are makin u do that so just try to be nice and if some one is getting on ur nevers just walk away instead of flipen out thats the best thing or talk to ur parents..
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i hope you can help because everythings really weird and i cant figure out what to do. ok there's this guy and i met him about to years ago over the summer. we went out for about a year all together (it was an off and on relationship & he had other girls and i dated other guys) but i cant shake the fact that im in love with this kid... even though its been about 3 months since the last break-up and hes had 3 other girls. i like too other guys and the both like me. ones older ones my age (im 15 - if it helps any) the older one i like more ... alot more and hes always there but he wants sex. the one my age we hang out and always have fun but im not quite sure if hes on the same page as me... please help!! soon
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well u got to talk to him about how u fell and if u are a vigin than tell him that u wanna stay that way orwhatever just tell that u want to wait and how ever u feel and if he acts like a dick u didn't need him it seems like u are a beautiful young girl who can date other ppl who will understand
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OK Well, I am depressed, like i know i am... my mom does too (which is who i live with) and i dunno if i should be put on meds, because i heard that they can make u randomly want to kill yourself and stuff like that. and i've been seeing counslers all my life, and as a matter of fact they are more wacked out than me, its totall crap, i mean they get me to answer questions, which i can't do without crying, because its yearss and yearsss of crap in my life, i mean most of the tim ei just say i don't remebr what happened and stuff, because i start crying and i hate that because then they are like oh i ahve to keep another appt. and so i leave. i mean its not my choice to be there its part of the court order, frum the my parents divorce and stuff. I mean one counsler i saw actually started crying, after tlaking with me...but i sleep way to much, i mean i don't see the harm in that really, its just its gotten so bad that i can't sleep at night and i sit there for 2 hours looking at the ceiling. I mean i questioning everything, io don't really care what happens to me really. what do u do whne u realize your friends and most people are fake. So what the hell should I do. So many people go on meds for being depressed, honestly i can't see how my mind would just change about everything. I mean i am depressed but i don't think i am wrong bout things, I just finally came to the realaity bout people, and life, and how things freakin suck. (link)
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well thats what i said when i was depressed i slept alot more than usually than i was put on effexor 120 mg and i am still on and to tell u the truth i feel so better and i like i am like my self again so goin on meds arn't as bad as u think and what the do is ur brain is chemically umbalanced so the meds fix that to not make u depressed trust me meds do work
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I am no stranger to the behaviour of most guys. Very sexual, like the jokes about sex but I have a slight problem, I don't know how to react. I have a few guys that are bothering me at this time I will explain. Well this boy called karl right he's 17 and i'm 14, well basically he wants sex and he keeps pestering me he tried to touch me up and I don't know what to do. Some boys just fancy me and I can take that. There's this other boy called Steve who's 16 but he thinks i'm going to go out with him and tries to get me to cheat on my boyfriend and his girlfriend which gets me in trouble with his girlfriend. Another boy I don't see but he's really nice, prob is he calls me all these names and keeps asking me out. A little younger boy who's a few months younger than me is asking me to strip i don't know how to answer these there a no but how do I say that assertively? (link)
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well if ur not ready to do this like have sex cheat on ur b/f or strip than say no and stick to that no matter what the say to u
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what does getting fingered from a guy mean (link)
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when his fingers go up in ur vagina
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okay, I didn't really think I'd get any more answers to my previous question, so I'm going to put my addition to my additional answer here.
Here is my question. When you cut yourself, which by the way I'm trying to stop, so I don't really need help there, I was wondering, will the scars ever go away? Because I cut first letter of my first name in my arm, and now I regret it, and it's not that deep. None of the cuts I made had actually bled, they jstu got scabs over them. So will the scars be there forever? (link)
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well i used to cut my self and i still have scars even still when i craved a name in it but my sister told me to use cocco butter and since i use that my scars has been goin away but ur scars will prolly be there for a while give it time and use cocco butter
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Hey, i'm a 15 year old girl turning 16 n a few months. I'v never had confidence in myself and to be conpletely honest i kinda hate myself. I think im fat and ugly and i try to lose weight but nothings good enough.I'v never had a boyfriend in my life let alone had a guy tell me im pretty. My friends are pretty and they always have guys asking them out but i juss feel stupid hangin with them sometimes, like i dont belong. For the past few years i have resorted to cuttig myself. I'v only done it 3 times but i dont wanna go to counscling or anything cuz my parents and every1 will think im crazy i dunno what to do can you help me? (link)
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well first off u arn't ugly or fat ur beatuiful with in ur wself and u have to keep tellin ur self that right now i wouldn't be worry about a boyfriend all guys are dicks and they just want sex and ur turn will come when u find the most prfect boyfriend and all ur friends will be jelous when u find some one who like u for u and about cutttin it don't help much it hurts u more in the end i should know i did it and some guys get turned off when u tell them u cut ur self so i would stop and about the counslor thing if u really have to go them tell ur parents be like mom dad i think i need to see a conslor and if they ask y be like i need some one to talk to beside u guys and hopefully they will understand just plz stop cuttin u are beatuiful u don't need scares to prove that hope this helps
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i need help FAST how do to get rid of a hickey!?!!?! thankx!! (link)
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well u could use some cover up or if that doesn't work than if u have long hair where u hair down a hickey dosn't always go away in 24 hours it is broken bloodvessel under u skin and there really isn't anything u can do what i did one time was use a comb and brushed it out yeah it hurt but it went awya faster i did that every day hopefully this works
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What do I do to get a guy to like me and want to ask me out, or be noticed in a innocent way? Also what are some signs of whether a not a guy likes you? (link)
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just flirt around with him u can never be sure if the guy likes u or not but keep talkin to him and try to go up to him and say hi..
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Ok i've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months and all we've done is makeout everytime he goes down my pants, he pulls out his hand really fast. and i shave so i dont know whats wrong. what should i do? (link)
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maybe he is shy and don't know if u will let him so next time u guys plan on doin this and he starts to go down ur pants tell him that it is alright and u will let him and of thats not the reason ask him y he does it i know that it is a weird ? but tell u were wondering
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iight umm my bf is 15 and i'm 13 and we've been going out for say bout...a month or so,maybe a lil longer.okay and i really dont get to c him often but when we do c each other we make the best of it! and well like each time we c each other we kinda get more involed{ya no grabin and touchin,more kissin,and biting} okay i'm still a virgin and well hes not,but besides that i mean when we could have the chance to have sex,i dont no if i'll be....good or bad or somethin and i mean i no he really shouldnt care if i'm good at it or not but it'll be my first and i no some of the things that'll happen like:u'll bleed,and it'll hurt,and stuff but how much will u bleed? and actually how bad will it hurt!? and also do u think that i should have sex with him the next time we can have the chance?
and if u respond i will rate 5! (link)
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well i really can't tell u if it hurts or not cause i am still a virgin too and i am like u in a way i want to lose but i am also freaked about it and what i say to my self is that if my heart feels the time is right then go for it and there is no rush to go have sex wait till u are more grown up doin oral i mean i do that and nuttin happens bad but stayina virgin is something i planned to do but don'tlet him perssure u into stuff u don't feel comfortable im so we can talk more about it i think u could help me.. troublewithcandi aim
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hi am 17 senior in h.s i was planning on going to college and everything. i was dating a guy who 25 and we broke up 3 weeks ago about one week ago i found out i was 5weeks pregant should i tell him?? how can i tell him?? (link)
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well u have to tell him thats the right thing to do and if he doesn;t want part in it than be like ok than but u should tell him and the best way to do it come right out with it the only best choice u got
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I understand and agree with what your saying but this chick keeps constantly bugging me tell me how she is dating him and how he tells her that he aint with me and stuff like that.. i know that he doesnt say things like that he dont act like that.. but the thing is she is really getting on my nerves and i wish she would just leave me alone sometimes. (link)
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well next time she comes up to u and says that be like u wanna cookie and walk away don't give in and let her no that she is gettin to u and when u see ur b/f hang all over him and kiss him hold his hand so then she sees that u guys are goin out
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I'm 14, almost 15, and I'm a girl. I really like this guy and I thought he liked me too. He hasn't asked me out yet, but I know at one point he liked me because he told me..."I like you a lot but I don't want to go out right now." I've been waiting on him for I think almost a month now, and he's gotten me alone twice, both times he was kind of hinting for a kiss, but I thought I might have imagined it so I decided not to...twice, I kinda just said goodbye or see ya later and walked away. Now I think he's hurt by me doing that, and he hasn't asked me out, but I want to know what to do...he's confusing me. And along with that it was my ex-boyfriend who kinda hooked us up. He's the kinda guy who grinds with all the girls at our homecoming...do you think he's waiting unitl after that? do you think i hurt him by being afraid to kiss him? does he even like me anymore? what should i do?
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if the guy is mad b.c u didn't kiss than maybe u need a new guy he needs to understand that not ever girl is ready when the guy is and if u are waiting for him for over a month hun it is about time u find some new its not like i am pickin on him it is just that maybe he don't like u and he can't tell u in a way that u won't get hurt so just move on some one eles is out there for ya
Also if he liked u he would of already asked u out
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okay well today in sports studyhall i was sittin down next to this kid lets call him *CHRIS* well CHRIS and I were talkin n then he was lookin at my cellphone n i have verizon so u can change wut u want it to say n mine use to say lets call me *ASHLEY* and so it use to say ASHLEY loves you and then CHRIS changed it to say ASHLEY IS HOTT and i was lke um k then i had to go get someone from a teachers room and then i came bak n CHRIS goes i put my number in ur phone book i was like umm ok..but the problem is i dont like him and hes been going out w. a friend of mine and she happens to be on my soccer team too and they have been goin out for like a year..so my question is y wud he do that?
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maybe he wanted to talk to u about ur friend i dk but i would tell ur friend in case something came up about it and ur friendship is messed up about some boy nuttin more better than a friendship that last forever...
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