I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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because..I had a dream that I kissed a previous crush...previous to my actual boyfriend..meaning that..i didn't kiss my boyfriend in my dream..but kissed someone who I used to like. =X And I mean..I still like him..but I have a boyfriend..and this just makes me doubt my relationship with my boyfriend even more! (We're having some trouble in our relationship, actually...)
can it mean anything? 16/f. my boyfriend's 16 and the guy in the dream is 16..lol this is a bit ridiculous..but it might mean something..o_o (link)
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I believe that dreams are a way to project what we really think, feel and want which we don't acknowledge in our 'conscious' state. But in our 'unconscious' state, we see what we truely desire. Messages if you will.
It could be that your dreams are projecting what you feel for your ex, which tells me that somewhere deep down, you're fighting between your current boyfriend and your ex and which one you want, even thought you aren't aware of it. Since it happened during a period where you're having trouble in a relationsip, your brain is playing with what your feelings to show you what you really want which i think is a nice, strong realtionship which has love printed all over it.
It isn't cheating since you aren't doing it in real life so you can relax on that one.
But if you want these dreams to stop, i surgest that you work through the issues with your current boyfriend becasue once tey've been worked out, the dreams should stop.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Okay, my situation is kind of complicated so I'm going to try to explain to the best of my ability.
Some background info: I have a best friend, he is a guy. I can genuinely say I love him, he is always there for me and we hangout all the time.
Alright, so it all started a while ago, I learned he liked me, but at the time I didn't feel the same about him. Time passed and my feelings for my best friend kept getting stronger, but i just couldn't bring myself to tell him about it because I didn't want to ruin the friendship, you know? Well, I just kinda hid the feelings, even though I knew they were there. So just recently, he got into a relationship with another girl, which I'm okay with because all I want is for him to be happy. And the weird thing was that I got into a relationship the same day he did. I like the guy I'm with now, but I also have feelings for my best friend. Is that wrong? Part of me feels that I'm kinda not being fair to my boyfriend. I still want to be able to hangout with my best friend though. I just don't really know what to do.
If any of you watch or have watched Boy Meets World, I kinda feel like my situation is like Shawn and Angela. Two friends who are destined to be together, but go separate ways, date different people, and seem to never cross paths.
17/f. (link)
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I think what would be best is to try and sort out your feelings for each of the boys. I think that it's understandable as to what you're feeling but you need to talk to your friend and see what he says. After all, he did fall in love with you at first, you just took more time.
It's an awkward position to be in and i can understand that you're not sure as to whom to be with at the moment, which is why i say to take a break from the current relationship to see how you feel.
I was in a similar situation to this, except she told me how she felt and i had nothing to give back. I still feel nothing so we're just friends.
Take most of the oppotunity which you've got. Get him back whilst he's still in your grasp.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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40/M
I've known this woman for many years. In fact, I am and always have been very much in love with her, but since she was happily married I have always kept my stronger feelings to myself.
I say "WAS happily married" because about six months ago, her husband died after a long illness. I have comforted her as a friend, but so far that is all I have done. I want very much to tell her of my deeper feelings, but I'm not sure when it would be appropriate.
Let me stress that I'm not thrilled that her husband died - he was a good person who made her very happy. It's just that I also want to make her very happy, and though it happened in a tragic way the fact is that she's available now (I know that sounds really awful put that bluntly, but it's the truth). I have to admit that it's getting very, very hard to keep a lid on my feelings - especially since when she IS ready to start looking for a new relationship, I want to be sure she looks at me first!
My questions:
How long should I wait?
Would it be appropriate for me to tell her NOW how I feel, but also that I am willing to wait for as long as it takes for her to be ready? (link)
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I would wait for a little longer. Why? Sh may be on a rebound and therefore, she's looking for a relationship to distract her from what's happened. Even though it's been six months, sometimes, people can try and cover up their pain by focusing upon other things.
I've always said that when the time is right, then you shall know in your heart. Just wait until you feel it is the right. But listen to your instincts, listen to what they say.
One final point and please keep this in mind: what you feel for her may not be what she feels for you. She may only view as a friend and would be quite taken aback when you tell her about what you feel.
Give it another month and see what happens, just be there for her as a friend and wait for the right moment.
I hope this helped and good luck for the future,
triquetra
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hi, i was wondering: is it normal to be like 15 and have the life of like a little kid.?
my friend is like 15 and her mom treats her like a little kid. its kind of weird going over her house.
EX: like her bed has one of them fence things so the baby wont fall out.
she even has a pacifier =| =o =[
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this is weird!!! what should i do? idk if she knows she's like 15.
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Could it be that she's got a small mental problem which you don't know about? It's a possibility or it could be that her mum is over protective of her.
I've got a friend at my school and he just acts weird, like i mean he says random words and acts more like a 6 year old, even though he's 15/16. Even his younger brother has matured quicker than him and it's weird and he embarrasses him to no end. Try and living with him for two terms (I board at my school) with the endless weirdness.
I would just let her be for the moment until you begin to see something wrong. But you can ask her and if that is the case but be careful, if she takes it the wrong way, then that could lead to trouble. So word it carefully like "I was just wondering ........., why does your mum put railings on your bed?". Make it sound more like an enquiry and not a investigation.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Well we're in grade 9 and two of my closest friends hate each other to the guts! They have just been confessing about it in the beginning of the year and now it's been pretty rough all around with the hating and the insults when they meet each other in the halls. And the worst part, I'm just a bystander and i don't know what to do. They always talk about each other behind their backs and talk about it to me and I just don't know what to say and sometimes they'll get mad at me for nto agreeing or not saying anything.
What can i do? (link)
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Well, you need to find out as to why they hate each other. Nobody can hate unless they've got a pretty good reason to.
Talk to at least one of them and ask why do they hate each other? I mean, that would be a sensible place to start and then work from there. Don't under any circumstances sit both of them down together because past experiance has told me that that will only make things worse. Help them through their issues seperately and if they ask "Why are you doing this?" just simply say that you don't like to see them fight.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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I don't know what to do about him, i love him so much and i thought he loved me to but he actually likes one of my best friends and i hate this because to me thats all the talk about=( well they only talk about to me is how much they love each other and i don't know what to do because i seriously like him and i want him to be mine. not trying to be selfish but i love him and she doesn't deserve him she can be so mean! i hate this!! (link)
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I know what you're going through, having experienced this myself. Watching somebody whom you love getting drawn away and they not knowing how you feel about them is horrible. I had a tough time getting through this and it was hard because i kept on seeing that person and knowing that we can't be together or tell that person how i felt was heart breaking (literally) for me.
But then, i had a revelation. I had to trust that there was somebody else out there who would be worthy of that person because compared to that person, we're opposites. I'm more reserved whilst the other was more open and strived to do well in all that that person did.
So, I'm now wanting to be a friend to that person, to help whenever possible and this is what i suggest that you do: just be there for him and support him if the relationship doesn't go well.
I know that this may not be what you want to hear but think about it. If he's happy with her, then let it be because if he's happy, then you should be happy for him. I'm not saying to give up the love you've got for him; just wait and see what happens.
I hope this helped and good luck with the future,
triquetra
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How can you tell someone you like them by not telling them that you like them?Like how can you show that you like them and not tell them? (link)
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Well, you can make simple gestures like talking to them, helping them through a tough time (be there for them (and if it's for school, help them with homework which they may not understand)), letting them know that you're there for them, sitting with them.
If it's for a relationship, do exactly the same.
Flirting i feel doesn't really work unless the guy/girl (I don't know what gender you are since you write it down) likes people who flirt.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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ok so i never have anything to talk about with guys...what should i say/do?? like how do i get a convo going and i never have any idea what they would like to talk about so i just never really say anything to them-please help! just give me some ideas as to what to say and what will start a good conversation and what guys like to talk about (besides girls, sports, and cars cause i kno nothing about those) THANX :) (link)
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Really, you can talk to them about anything which you want, as long as it keeps them interested in you.
There is a book by Debra Fine called "The Fine Art of Small Talk" which may or may not help you (it's definitely helped me in the past) but give it a shot and see what happens. It helps you to gain confidence in starting a conversation in any situation and then it can continue you on from there. I don't think you've got a problem in talking to others (which i'm sure you don't), it's just trying to find something senisble to say which people won't laugh at or will just ignore.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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So i'm pretty much the typical good girl but i've recently been talking with a guy in my english class who is the opposite of me. He uses drugs and skips classes, and there are many rumors going around about him all the time.
I didn't expect him to be a frequent reader of philosophical novels... we discuss ayn rand and many other topics in our english class and i'm kind of falling for him.
the thing is, all my friends hate him. i love my friends a lot and i wouldn't want to hurt them by getting too close with this guy.
what can i do? (link)
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This reminds of this guy at my school. He's really smart and all of that, but he's emo. I've come accept that this is a way to project his personality to others. But the one thing which bugs me about him is the fact that he doesn't put any effort (well, i think) and it's a shame because he could do so well.
But your guy puts the effort in. When he first met him, i suppose that you didn't like him, thinking that he wouldn't come to anything or you didn't think anything. You've managed to see past all of the drugs, the class skiping and the rumours to see somebody whom you like and i think that it is wonderful.
I can see that your friends will ask you "What do you see in him?" and you can tell them what you feel for him and what you do see, beyond what others do. They will in turn want to give you advice and don't brush it aside, accept it and keep it into consideration.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i lost both of my parentss
& i was wonderin if you knew any good REST IN PEACE SONGS
other then the ones ..
slipped away
ill be missing you (link)
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Bye Bye - Mariah Carey
One Sweet Day - Mariah Carey and Boyz // Men (duet)
I will Always Love You - Whiteny Houston.
Without You - Mariah Carey
I'm so sorry for your losses.
May God be with you,
triquetra
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* be prepared, its kinda long.
ohk, so my best friend, who i have known for about a year and a half, we've been really rocky lately.
let me explain:
she is a VERY clingy person. she will cling to 2-3 people for long periods of time. it annoys the shit outta me, but i live with it. we're friends. ive tried telling her, but whenever i try, she always gets so mad + gets VERY defensive. so wuht should i do about THAT problem?
wait, theres more.
2 weeks ago, she had a movie night, she didnt invite me, + she always does, i didnt do anything to her, i wasnt mad at her or anything, + she invited kids who she barely talked to, which i really didnt undertstand. i texted her asking her, + she was just all pissed off, so i just didnt text her anymore.
we rarely talk anymore, + if we do, its alkward. wuht should i do about THAT problem?
theres more:
++ then, we were on the bus coming back from a basketball game, this girl, asked me, "hows yer boyfriend emily?!, i said really good, and then my friend pipes in, and goes, "EW, HES SO UGLY!" + she said much more stuff about that, and i got REALLY mad. wuht should i do about THAT?
two more things:
im nothing but a friend, and a good person to her, and all she does is treat me like shit, so i told her, that ive never gotten so much disrespect from a person, no one has ever treated me with so much disrespect like she does, and that she should be ashamed of the way she treats me. was that good to say?
+ one more thing:
we are going to philladelphia, for a class trip, and i wanted to room with her, so i asked her, she said yes, and then she got put with me, and got all pissed off, because i guess she had already made arrangements with her other friends, which she didnt because i was the first one that asked her, and she keeps denying it. + she wouldn't talk to me + she got all pissed.
wuht should i do about THAT?
thats it, but from wuht i have observed, if she needs to cling to people, shes really insecure, + has low self esteem.
but, i need some help + peoples opinions.
thanks SO much everyone.
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Some people are like that on purpose, whilst some people do it without them realising it. It becomes a habit if you like.
When she invited those people over to her house for the movie night, did you think that she on;y invited them because she wanted to make new friends? Or about this trip, maybe she wanted to go with other people, you know 'spread her wings'. So let her go with others.
Talk to her about what she's saying about your boyfriend and that's it's really hurtful. BUT don't make it seem as if you're giving her a lecture, just quietly and keep to the point.
However, if you think that you don't want anything to do with her, then let her go and find some other people whom respect you.
BUT talk to her first. I still believe that this friendship can continue, but only if both people are willing enough to keep it going.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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[wrong category..sorry]
16/f. i got a new boyfriend 2 months ago. after that, basically, i've completely lost all touch with my inner self. my grades went down. some friends turned their backs on me. my parents are giving up on me. i feel horrible. i've become an attention seeking whore. but i'm depressed (i've been diagnosed.)
all because of a boyfriend..? there must be something wrong. it's very pathetic to see myself like this. it's like a drug to me now, this male affection/attention. and it's not like i'm putting less effort into my schoolwork. the grades just decline..
i'm sure this is not normal. any advice would be very much appreciated. =| (link)
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Okay, first thing to do is to spend some time by yourself and by that i mean, spend some time away from your boyfriend (but not to break up with him).
What ever your spirit is feeling, then your body will show, so in this case, it would be the need to be with someone or someone noticing you and this is what is taking over as priority in your mind.
So, what to do. Try meditation because not only does it help you to centre your self, but to become more concerntrated.
Sit in a chair which will support your back (one which doesn't make you slouch) and in a place where you won't get disturbed. Place your hands upon your lap and your feet should be six inches apart.
Take some long, slow breaths and recognise how you feel, don't dismiss it, accept it. Now close your eyes and as you breath, imagine your body relaxing, all of those muscels in your face realxing, your arms, shoulders, back etc. Now as you take those deep breaths, say under your breath a small mantra (such as 'Mara...' as you breath in '...natha' as you breath out). This is focus your brain to think of nothing, like turning off a computer after a long day (you need to say it more than once). Focus upon your breaths and if a noise disrupts you (and something always does), don't focus upon it, just let if flow by. Just listen to the silence and let that relax you. If you loose focus, listen to a closk ticking or repeat the matra.
You can do this for as long as you want, but at first it would be difficult. Doing it for 20 mins for the 1st time would be a big achievement.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I'm a 42 y/o single man. Less then a month ago my best friend died in an accident. I have not been able to come to grips with his death. I have recently been having thoughts of ending my life. This happens whenever I am alone, especially at night. I have lost loved ones before, including my parents and brother all within a year of each other, but I never felt this type of despair, or loneliness. I am afraid I may eventually give in to my suicidal urge. Can anyone help me? (link)
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
TO overcome your grief, i would surgest that you don't focus upon the sadness, but to focus upon the happy times you spent with your family, friends. Even though they're gone physically, they are still alive within you and you've got to remember that. Do you really think that taking your own life is going to help?
Even though you may not see it, but you've still got a future, a future where you can live life to the full. Do things which you were going to do with your friends, family. Travel, see the world and enjoy what you've got.
If we think of negative energy, then we get negative thoughts, so think of happy things and you'll get good results.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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So, I don't actually believe my Father hates me, but he's deffinetly not like he usto be. He says I've grown up to be a bitch, and all this stuff and he's always accusing me of things I didn't do. He's accused me of stolen beer, messing with the thermostat and missing packs of ciggerettes- when I have two other older brothers who smoke, and drink! I'm 14, I don't drink, I dont smoke, I don't steal I don't anything and my Dad always yells at me. When I ask him for political help for my homework like the war in Iraq, and Isreal and Arabs he yells at me for being soo stupid I don't know, well that's why I go to him! So he can shead some light on the situation and explain things to me. I dont know why he always yells at me. Last year he had a heart attack and hasnt quit anything that would help him- so yehh I usto be horrible with that yelling at him all the time, and just being horrible. ive stopped swearing at him, but he doesnt give me anything to work with. I want him to be there, but he doesn't wanna be. I cook dinner for him, and he always complains that its cold or something and I always say "Well it didnt stop you from eating it" or " If it was so unbareable you couldve heated it in the microwave it's why we have one!" So I know thats being rude, but come one I cook WAY better then my Mother he should be happy! I want him to be, I want him to stop yelling at me all the time, I want him to care about my school day and be there for me. But he's not. He never will be- It's not fair that my brothers do all this stuff and he doesnt do anyything but I forget to start the dish washer and he'll hold it over my head for like years... I am crying right now because it's so hard living here, and putting up with him. I dont know why he doesnt love me enough to quit smoking and I dont know why he doesn't want to walk me down the ile with I get marride. I cant explain why he's always angry with me! Never his sons because they could get arrested and he wont care. And you can say he expects more from me, or whatever. But I wont buy that. If he really truly cared he'd wanna be here and hed want to hear about my day and tell me he loves me but he hasn't. maybe in 3 months..
He hasnt told me he loved me, or that he appreciates me in anyway. And I cant talk to him about it because he wont listen..
I dont know what I did to make him be like this, but I wanna fix it. So he wont be like this. (link)
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STOP RIGHT THERE. This isn't your fault, you didn't do anything to him which would make him like this. I believe that he's got personal problems which he needs to sort out by himself.
Think back, when did this all begin: was it right after the heart attack? Could it be that he recieved some bad news which he doesn't want to share? Or could be that he doesn't want you to turn into your brothers. Or maybe it is the anger about seeing your brothers turning into who they've become and he doesn't know how to deal with the anger. I don't really know what is causing this anger, there are loads of possibilities which could be causing, these where just possibilities.
Do you think that you could talk to your mum to talk to him because this shouldn't be affecting you, or he should be taking him anger out on you. Your mum should be able to find out what it is and then help him to deal with it.
Relax and calm yourself. Take deep breaths and let all of your worries and woes escape through those breaths, relax your muscles in you face, your arms etc mentally and feel all that tension leave you. Forget what has happened in the past, focus upon how you'll deal with it in the future. What's happened has happened.
Any further help you want, feel free to pop the question into my inbox.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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what should a relationship be like in 8th grade?
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It should be like any other realtionship which other people have. You like a guy and he likes you and you go out together. There should be nothing different about it.
But don't you think that 13 if a little to young to be having a realtionship?
I don't know if you're planning to have one or not but if you are, then wait for a year or two to have one. Relationships can be difficult, especially since you're going on to choose your senior school (is this right or not?) and if you start a relationship with a guy at your current school and then the two of you go to different schools, then what would happen then?
I don't mean to be a downer but just wait until you've settled down at your new school before starting a realtionship (REMEMBER: this is only for if you are going to start, if you aren't then ignore what i've written).
I hope this helped and thank you for writing to me,
triquetra
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Hey, im 14/f. Me and my mom kinda have a really bad relationship. Ofcourse, being a daughter I want to have a mother to count on and be able to tell her my secrets w/o her yelling or getting upset with me. I would like to have a nice mature conversation with her telling her that i wish to have a mother daughter relationship in which i dont have to be scared to tell her things nor do i have to sneek things by her. I also want her to understand that i am in deed growing and need to be allowed to do more things and have more priviledges. PLEASE HELP. HOW DO I TELL HER ALL tHIS IN A MATURE WAY? Thank you veryyyy much. :) (link)
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Talking I believe in a civilised way is what i call mature, not in a letter form.
Ask her if you could talk to her, as a growing daughter to a mother and tell her what you want to say. If you just talk and listen to one and another, then there will be no arguing and less shouting, for if one pair of ears are blocked, then the other will be as well; but if both are open, you can listen to what your mother is saying and your mothers hears what you're saying (if you get my point).
Don't make it sound as if you're making demands otherwise it will make things worse. Just say things like "I really want us to get on well because i would just like to talk to you in a mature way".
Now, you can read this bit and acknowledge what i've said or you can ignore it.
Your mother, i feel, is doing her very best for you, even though you may not be aware of it. You're in a stage of your development from child to adult, where you're making decisions, your feeling more, your understanding the world that tiny bit better, your maturing into a woman and that is the time when mothers need to be protective because it is at this time where children can go 'off track' (what i mean is that they become emo something like that. I've got nothing against emo's by the way). By keeping restrictions, she believes that she's allowing you to continue to grow up in the safe environment which you were brought up in, therefore protecting you from the 'big, bad world'. Seeing you trying to break out of them would make her distressed and angry at the same time because she's feel as if you don't appriciate what she's doing.
Tell her things which sound mature and grown up, put points forward such as "I'm growing up and i need to do more things to help me find out who i am".
This wasn't a lecture, it was a just a way to help you see what your mum may be thinking.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I have a guy friend who has dated my best friend off and on.Her and him still talk like nothing ever happened between them. My guy friend lets call him S, has a weird friendship with me. He acts like he's my best friend when we are on the phone or not around a big crowd. But when we are with a group for example sitting down at lunch together (which is everyday except for when he has lunch detention or is absent he tells me to sit by him) he jokes about me,says bad things about me & talks about things that he knows & everybody else knows isn't true then I end up cussing him out. Then people are like how can you be friends with him & do that stuff. So its like we can only be friends around each other and only each other. Yesterday he told me I was his best friend that was a girl. And I am thinking are you serious which I knew he was. So should I #1 when we have lunch tomorrow not talk to him or sit near him but with a different group of people. #2 continue treating him the same & just act like nothings happening. #3 talk to him about the way he treats me. #4 none of the above if you choose this give an explanation. AND THE BIG QUESTION is he my true friend. PS is this signs of him liking me even though I don't date my bff's exes (link)
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Well, what do you think? Do you want to sit away from him and see how he reacts or do you want to comfront him about how he behaves towards you (I wouldn't go for #2 since it would seem as if you don't mind what he's doing when it's obvious that you do care about what he says)?
I think that it would be best to talk to him about how he behaves because if he really does like you (as a friend or a girlfriend), then he should begin to act like that.
No friend (or boyfriend) says these sorts fo things about people whom they like; it just doesn't seem right. Talk to him and say that what he's saying is hurtful and that you'd like to be friends with him (which I'm assuming that you want), but he's not allowing you to be friends with him and saying bad things won't help.
I wouldn't call him your true friend to cut it right to the point. Just talk and see what happens.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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25/f
I am 2 months away from finally marrying the love of my life. He's also 25, we both have college degrees, great careers, money to spend, and plenty of love. The only problem is that we each have a dog. Both of our dogs are very friendly with other people and other dogs, except for each other. When we first introduced them two years ago when we started dating, they viciously attacked each other on site. We thought it would go away, but nothing has changed. I don't want to force either of us to give up our dogs, but I don't want to not marry over something as seemingly trivial as this. Any advice?
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If both dogs are the same sex (generally male), it could be that they're competing for territory. Some dogs just generally don't like each other.
I'm guessing that something like this won't go away just by taking them out on walks. If all that they will do is fight, then it's likely that they will continue to do so. Not trying to be a downer, but it's what i think. I would surgest though, putting them in a room together, but with a boudary between the two of them, so that they smell each other and get used to one and another (NOTE: this may or may not work).
Dogs in the wild travel in packs as i'm sure you know. So to a dog, it's owners are it's 'pack' and it will defend its 'pack' from any intruders or from other 'packs'. If the dogs are both male, then that is what could be happening, each defending it's pack.
Try out what i said and see what happens (it does have to be for a while), then try it will see through plastic so that they see each other and get used to each other and take it from there.
I hope this helped and good luck with your wedding,
triquetra
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im going out with this guy jared
and hes in seventh grade and im in ninth
hes really supposed to be in eighth though.
anyway people at my old middle school are talking bad about me and seem to think im 'desperate' cuz hes not the first 7th grader ive gone out with.
But im not desperate! i actually really liked these guys and how dare them judge me. Jared and i love eachother and nobody can stop it.
we say it over the fone, IM, text, on dates.
But my 7th grade frends think its gross, cuz nobody liked him last year.
I certainly dont think its gross because hes really sweet.
I dont know why my 7th grade freinds are talking bad about us behind out backs, especially me. Im fourteen and hes thirteen. Only one year!
Why do these poeple care so much about my life anyway??!
Dont say its becuase theyre my friends because my friends wouldnt talk behind my back like that.
They USED TO be my friends.
what would you do if you were me?
By the way its not like i have no life.
ive had other bfs, who are older then me!
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Why are you worried about what other people think? The two of you are in love and that's all that matters (as you so rightly said!).
Just ignore the whispers and comments behind you, don't let any comments get in the way of your realtionship. Who cares what others think, if they disaprove, then that's what they think. Just stick together and work through this together as one
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hey! well im moving to Kansas and 5 yrs ago i already lived there so my bff is still there and im gonna go visit nxt week tp check things out. im super excited to see her (tho i HATE that im moving!) i will be there for a while and stuff and if i meet her friends (who will hopefully become my friends) and any cute guys what should i do? i know be myself but i mean im usually outgoing but kinda shy with people i dont know. i just never know what to say!!! so what should i do to break the ice? i guess talk about how im moving and where im currently living and like ask hey whats around here to do and stuff but besides that? things for when i meet new people after im here and cant just alway say whats around here? haha thanks!! :) (link)
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I guess it's the same with everybody; we're all nervous when we don't know people and we don't know what to say to them.
Ask her what's happened since she left and what's she's been doing since you last spoke/saw her. Then tell her what you've been doing or what's happened in your life. Ask her about the neighbour hood, what it's like, the kind of people who live around there. Ask her to show you the neighbour hood and ask her friends questions such as hoe long they lived there, brothers/sisters/neither?
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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