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I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.

I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.

My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!

The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.

I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.

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Thank you for clearing that up for me. I was in a bad place when I asked this. This really helped me not make a bad mistake. Thank you!

Thank you! You really helped me save myself from a bad relationship!

Thank you so much :) It really helped, I'm glad you chose to answer this question before you close your account.

thanks but i already do that..

my father is impossible to speak to its like its in one ear and out the other and for my husband i just couldnt take it anymore i got made and kinda yelled. saying i cant take living here any more i cant take yo not working etc. and walked away and took a shower. after him being a jerk saying i need to figure it out or hes leaving i said go ahead if that is what you want. and he apoligized and said hed look harder for a job..

its not about understnading or help, its about the question. what drugs would you use? its pretty obvious. and believe theres no idoubt i want this. not meaning to be rude, but the questions pretty clear, if people aren't going to answer it but just the topic around it then thats fine, but if they want to stop suicide, well its not what i asked for is it? if the question had been to help me and then i had said that the answers were bad, it would have been unfair. but that wasn't my question so i am right in saying people didn't address the needs of the question. i honestly dont care about their opinions on suicide or if their frined did it. i was talking to thoose who might know about it and what drugs or methods would work. if someones friend did kill themselves then fine but how did they do it? thats what i wanted to know

thanks

Thanks for reading, I'm glad I helped & you didn't get caught!

Thank you very much!

thank you soo muchh<3 :] cuz i had asked my friend the same question.. but she said to lie to her and tell her I was totally healed and everything but that didnt feel right, so thanks :]

roger is my god bro and i love mariah as stated in the previous letter

thank you. i've talked to my friend and explained everything.. but he still wont really talk to me. the other guy i've told him my view my friends view and everything. i believe that he is really sry. but the guy who actually threw the punches, i dont think he was. i think he just wanted to fight. i told the guy that i think this, and he swears its not, but i still believe that it is to a lot of ways my fault. i should have never taken him there when he kept telling me not to. but that had never happened to me before. i would never take him to get the crap beat out of him. i just want my friend to start talkin to me again. and then maybe eventually everything will go back to normal... i hope.. but thanks for the advice.

Thank you. Yeah I spoke with the pet store lady today and she pretty much said the same thing. So thank you. :)

Thanks, I know you're right. That's what i though as well, it's not fair.

My guidance counselour isn't very..... well I'll try. And she would tell my mom and it'd get messy.

thanks for your help :]

hey, well we were together for about 2months (yeah I know not that long) but we've known each other for about 2 years. And when we started talking to each other, wow I honeslty never felt like this before, we connected so quickly, we've gotten so close to each other, and I never usually get this close to someone..it was amazing! The reason why we broke up is because of the situation were in (you know already haha) because we don't want to get hurt in the long run, we've gotten so attached to each other, we just don't want it to kill us more when he leaves to Iraq and when I move. So its bad timing for us =\. I know that maybe its not right for us now, maybe in the future who knows.. but just the fact that I can't stand not being with him but its for the best.. and yeah your right, he is scared that I'll cheat on him when he's away or something, but I NEVER cheated on my boyfriends, I'm not tha kind of girl, and he knows that.. its because he got hurt when he went away.. and I understand how he feels because I've been hurt too.. and that's probably the other reason why we broke up.. we talk to each other almost everday, and I love talking to him, but I don't know what to do, I want to tell him that I miss and stuff but I feel like there's no point in saying that because it won't make a difference.. and most of all I'm scared to do go up to him and say it (I'm such a baby) I don't know... And I know he misses me to like crazy because my friend hannah told me he does, but he's upset because it has to be for the best.. I don't know... what to do about this, its so difficult.. My brother told me if you don't tell him you'll regret it in the long run.. is he right? I don't know =\

thanks

Thanks foril your help. I have been really confused latly. I am not going to break up with him but I have decided to make a few changes between us. Thank you again for your advice!!

Thank you so much! You're answer is really informed. I appreciate it!

that is exactaly me, I swear, I would honestly be the one to help somebody else.

Rating changed to a 2 by an L2 I know what I wrote Triquetra, I was just giving background information about our relationship about what all we had went through, and we could get past this that I just needed the encouragement. So maybe you shouldnt jump into this being about his ex? Idk why you reported me but whatever. No biggie. & Nahh I'm not in the wrong, your supposed to GIVE ADVICE. Not make ppl feel like shit. Not being rude, but its true. I know I responded unfair, but I was just responding to what you wrote back to me.

I got my period this morning, 4 days late. Thank you for the response though.

Thank you so much. It isn't my final decision, but I'm having a really hard time thinking about what I want to do in life. It's the equivalent of A levels. It's called the Baccalauréat since I'm in a French based international school. Your answer is very much appreciated though.

Thanks, I do know he likes me though. But thanks anyways.

thanks ! x)

thank you!!! i talked to him about it like you said. I asked him why he had given his friends my number, and he said he didn't. He said that his friend put it on him but it was actually someone else that gave his friend my number. you are right. thnk you!!..i'l do my best to get to that point where i can tell him how i feel.

i meant the american version, haha sorry Rating changed by L2 mod.

i guess you're right about him not being ready. thanks soo much for the advice. i'll use it everyday. :)

thanks

thanks so much. =]. i hope you find that girl you fall in love with.

thanks! this really helps!

Thank you. You do have a point, I was being selfish. I let him know today that I realized this and would help him with whatever he wanted, as long as he sang it well. Lol.

thats really not what i was looking for. and they arent still together because maybe guys cheat when they find out they're going to be a father.. who knows? they're really immature? most cases of teenage motherhood is not planned, but a lot of the mothers would never change that either. i wanted to know how it feels being a single parent and what it felt like to have the baby move around in your belly my mom says its one of the most amazing things in the world knowing that a baby, a part of you, is moving around inside of you.

That's possible... I'll think about it. Thank you for the advice ;)

thanks a bunch!

Thank you so much, I'm glad that you are able to relate to this struggle. :) Thank you also for your long answer, lol, it really helped. <3

we already did thoo, nothing works

thanks some one else told me that to woulod it really work? i know it's really random though haha but is there any other way i hate beets >.<"

Thank you (:

thanks. but i was kinda hoping for like cute sayings about leaving middle school. or the year.

lol thxs but i rly saw the situation in a movie, so it rly wasnt me :)

thanks u did help=D

You are so sweet for spending your time to answer my question. And you really thought out your answer and I appreciate it greatly. Thank you. Your advice was very helpful. When you said relationships aren't always as perfect as they seem & seem to fall apart. I really took some time to think about that. Because David & I do sometimes have our heads in the cloud 9. And loosing each other is what we fear most. Hopefully as long as we keep fearing that, we'll stay together. LoL. I ranked you a top 5 :) Thank you once again!

Insomnia is explicitly listed on every medication I'm on as a side effect (except, of course, ambien). You're the second person who's told me I need to ease up, and I might agree if I wasn't so tight on cash. I can't even buy a couch for my apartment. I was hoping to be able to after a few rehearsals...I dunno. Thank you for your input. =)

thanks

I know tbat I should be more understanding, but he needs to understand that I like guys, and he doesnt know that he's not that great lol. He thinks he's some hot straight and gay guy and I had to break the news to him... =\\ oh and Cole.. I don't think we'll be dating he was just messing around

Thank you. It all made sense. No, I'm not forcing myself to like someone...but I'm not sure. Things feel empty and boring. But perhaps I see/think things in a strange way? :] Your help is much appreciated.

my three friends aren't friends with my other friend so i can't go with all four of them obviously... your advice didn't really help at all... sorry.

thank you so much! im going to invite him over my house tonight :)

Thanks :D

thanks girl!

Thank you! I'll take your advice, it's fabulous!

im so sorry! my dad retired last year, but hes also working with some private organization. thank you so much for your advice, and now that i think about it, it probaly is harder on him than us. thank you soooo much!

thank you. I think I knew you were right all along, I just needed somone to tell it to me. Ill try turning it down. I value my friendship with the other guy and I dont want him in emotional agony! oh, and the unsolicited advice... great too. ill consider it, thank you!

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thank you and I loved the websites you linked me to. I even put them in my favorites

Thank you so much; this really, really helped!

thnks

thanks :) she was just mad that i offered to go to a funeral for HER. and she told her rents, and they got mad at me and now her family hates me.

ok thanks

thanx =D

you helped alot:) thanks & im trying so hard`

thanks!

I'd love to strengthen what I have and use it to help others. Thank you.

Thank you, but maybe I should have made this part clear: He doesn't know I saw Destiny and the guy. I am innocent in this situation. =) Thanx though!

thanks but i said im not a whore its a lie.

Thank you :)

thanks sooooo muchhhhhhhhhh!!!

hahaha i love it. its a guy's name though so that makes it even better. thanx =]

I couldn't find it, but thanks anyway.

thanks!

Thanks :]]

ty =)

thank you. i will use some of this advice.

i use a few of those myself ;]

Thanks. I'm about to talk to him as of now

It made sense. And I honestly don't know what religion my mom is into. Our family isn't exactly religious, but my mom is top at coming out with things like that :\ To be honest, it's not exactly a phase for my brother...he's always relied on my mom for clothes and so on, but then when he was responsible for his own life, he realized he had good looks and he's the one responsible for his actions :) But thanks so much! I'll defenetly mention that to her (once she calms down that is)

thanks. im doing some real soul-searching now.

i dont want to stoop to her level and say bad htigns about her. thats just wrong. thanks tho

Honestly, this is the best advice I've ever heard for this issue that has dogged me for years. That is why I give you the five. Problem is, I know longer have anyway to contact her by phone. So I'll at least try my best to stick to avoidance, except in regards to where I truly want to go.

Thank you so much!

yeah i stopped telling him lol thanks

thanks so much :)

Hey thnxs so much for taking the time to read my question! Great advice <3

Thanks! Ive been telling friends I dont like him, but I start to get butterflies when Im around him now. Its weird.

Thank you so much :) And sorry for swearing. I don't swear often, unless I'm in a bad mood.

yeahhh read the additional info

well duh i'm weak i have nothing to be strong for, and god hates me everyone stop telling this god stuff

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Thank you for the song. It is actually one of my favs too. Thank you!

wow, thank you it means a lot :]

thanks!

thank you so much<3

Thanks. it's nice to know that someone else knows how i feel. you're right. thanks for the advice

thx :)

thank you so much triquetraa! very helpful. i'm so relieved that i wasnt cheating lol

thanx!! :)

thank you<3

perfect, thats exaxtly what i was asking! thnx so much

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