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hey, what's up

my name's hollan, i'm 14 years old. i'm young, but i have been through alot and will probably beable to answer your questions(:

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i'm really nice, and i can try to help any of you

ask me, and i'll try my best to get back to you(:

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Ok, sooo I babysit two little girls and they are 8 and 9 years old. I'm 14 and they always ask me to bring something fun for them to do. And I don't have things they would like anymore considering I'm 14 !!! Then I always ask them what the wanna do, and they say idk, or ugh I'm sooo bored!!!!

So, any tips on what I can do with them or bring for them to play with????

karoke.
they usually love something like that, but you have to get involved too.

and also, when in doubt look to camp rock and hannah montana..

So i have already asked for advice on how to get my mom to get me a kitten and basiclly I want an animal. I have looked at all animals and my favorite has came up to be a rabbit. I have already researched these animals and I love them! So the whole rabbit wanting thing all started when my ma and I where at the fair and we saw bunnies for sale and we talked to a woman about them and she told us about showing your rabbit in contests! I like the idea. So when we came home she was all like "Ok well ask your father" because he is the hard guuy who does'nt let me have anything! And he was pretty cool about it. Noooooow when ever I bring up the subject she says "Oh Vanessa not right now" Or "In four years honey you can have on" But I WiLL BE IN COLLAGE IN FOUR YEARs or something like that. So how do I get her to get me a rabbit???!!??? PLEASE HELP!!! {Sorry this is soooo long!}

you have to prove to them in some way that you are responsible enough to take care of a life..

i have recently been self medicating myself and ive been acting very weird like should i jus stop takin all of it completely or wat??Also ive been cutting for 5yrs and ive tried stopping by using my coping skills and everything but my body has been giving up on me.There are times now that when i get mad i feel suicidal and i hear things>>>>HELP

definatley don't just suddenly stop. if you are supplying yourself with medicane and want to stop, then you need to gradually get off of it. for a couple of days take have of what you're taking now, and then cut down from that, and so on..

i hope i helped (:
hollan

what, and when is the best way to off yourself, like the fastest and easiest (without a gun cuz i don't have one) i've tried almost everyway (but a gun obviously) but i always get caught in the act please help me. even just telling me household items to mix for instantaineous death (sorry can't spell) and don't try to talk me out of it my whole life people had tried to talk me out of it and it makes no sense i have nothing going for me everything sucks my family hates and abuses me, i have no friends, my soccer team sucks, i suck, please help

gahh, i have have tears in my eyes, and i'm at school right now..

i'm certainly not giving you advice on how to kill yourself and i know that that's just what you're looking for but no one wants you to be gone, even if they act like they do..

really.. talk to me, i've been through this and still am..

summers coming up and I really want to lose weight for the bathing suit season...i would like to lose like 15 to 20 pounds in 6 weeks my mom told me the 1200 calorie diet but I was wondering is there anything else>>>thanks so much

weight watchers

does anyone know where to get cheap jeans from abercrombie, pacsun, hollister, american eagle, delias ... etc.

and where can you get cheap hoodies by roxy or surf brands like that?

thanks

plato's closet

when people write 3 what does that mean?

it's supposed to be a heart

How do you deal with stress??

i deal by writing:
songs
poems
stories
etc..

ok well im 14/f and live in small town USA I have been SI'ing for like 4-5 years now and i really wanna stop i am really wating to get closer to God ad this is just holdig me back from living the life i want to. See i started becuse it felt good it feel something other than emotions? idk how to word it but my father was abusive i was never touched but i saw what he did to my sisters and my brother and well i dont know if that has anything to contribute to it. Now that Im away from him and have been for a while i relized i want to change. I dont know how so I guess thats what im asking. HOW CAN I CHANGE AND STOP SELF INJURING???? That includes cutting and stuff like that anything that causes me pain.

Before you ask I never wanted attention and well am asking on here so i dont get the wrong type.

Allie

instead of hurting yourself try keeping a little journal that you can write everything that you're feeling in. i used to cut and hurt myself and i still do but not as severe. i made a contract with my psychiatrist that i won't hurt myself. you could make one with yourself and sign it and put it somewhere where you would see it if you think about hurting yourself.

Well, for the past year I've been feeling more and more depressed.

I criticise everything I do/say/think - no matter how small - which almost always makes me feel like a horrible person and a failure. Looking back on the things I have done/said/thought (again, no matter how insignificant they might be), I want to smash my head against a wall or somehow erase it all.

Most days, I wake up morning and I just sit there. I feel I have no reason whatsoever to get out of bed. Whats the point when it all means nothing anyway.

My grades are falling. I have no energy, even after sleep, or desire for the things I used to like.

I find it hard to concentrate and everything seems blurry.

Despite this, I try to act normal around other people.

It's getting to the point where I can't take it..

Sometimes I just want to end it all.. The main thing that has stopped me killing myself is my family and friends; I don't want to make them suffer. I know it's selfish and pathetic..

I don't know what to do any more..
I know I have people to talk to about this s**t, but I'm just to damn scared to do it.
They'll just say I'm pathetic and overdramatic..

What can I do?

I've gone on for to long. Sorry for the rant and for wasting your time.. Thanks for reading.

(17, male.)

i'm not a doctor or anything but they definatley sounds like depression. i used to be that way and then i got help.

i have a problem, either im always sad or always mad. its like im never satisfied. and then when something makes me mad i think about everything that makes me mad and i become more mad. i feel like i have something to prove to everyone. i feel like i cant open myself up to anyone. because im going to get hurt. i always try and put people down just to make myself feel better. im insicure, and i feel like i need a hundred things i dont have the money for. i dont know what to do. please help.

exact same here..

you can try keeping a little journal and venting your feelings out in there. no one has to see it so just write whatever..

basically i used to be a normal girl untill a lot of shit happened. if something even so little goes wrong ill want to break down and cry and hurt myself.. ive abused drugs just once the other night, i feel like im entering something that could lead to worse things.. like actually takin my life. ive gone to a psyciatrist, a counselor, ive tried everythingg.. i just dont know what to do, any advice, not involving proffesional help?

you most likely break down with little things because you know what CAN happen even if it won't. i do that all now, after a tragedy struck in my life.

that's not really advice and i probably didn't help, but there's my say on it..

Ok, so i am 14.

all my info is below, and im sorry if it confuses you, but my main question is what kind of mental issue/problem do i have???

I know im a teenager and with my hormones changing i have mood swings. But some of my friends think im bipolar. I think i have severe depression, but have not been to a doctor b/c i dont want to tell my parents. I started being depressed and went through a suicidal time, in 5th grade, but i KNOW my parents love me, so i wouldnt do anything, and they dont know i have a problem.
other times, when im not depressed, im really hyper, and have a ton of energy ,and im hyper.

and then other times, which is very rare, im hyper-depressed. which freaks out my friends.

I write dark poems, and i feel really out of place. I hate my life, but i know i have family, and a boyfriend who love me. I dont know, i just want to know what kind of mental issue i have so i can kinda get help.

Also to help you know more about me, (if you dont want to read this part, you dont really have to) i think logically sometimes, and other times my mind wonders, and goes off somewhere else. I am in the middle of finding my true religion, and i am strong in my beliefs, but im confused about it at the same time. My mind is just lost, and OH also, i have kinda pycicness. I know things, or have premonitions (that i dont know are going to come true, but they do...) and other times, i could be talkin about something, then something to do with that happens. so If any of this helps you, please use it.

me and you seem like we have the exact story, but my parents know.

you might want to check into depression.

even the psycic stuff i have..

I love secondhand serenade and dashboard confessional. I hate mainstream bands. I need new bands ppl wont pose me on. any suggestions?

hey, i don't know if you'll like them but you can try meese, making april, the mile after

My brothers girlfriends 1yo Cat is very frisky and the apartment she lives in wants her to get rid of Tigger because he's having sex with all the other cats. Well that's really sad so I sad I would take him but my parents don't know about it. I'm already cleaning my room, being a perfect angel and paying for te expenses of the cat.
I need to make a very good arguement so i can keep Tigger because I dont want him put down

try telling your parents how you have been taking good care of him for a while without them even noticing, and just try to convince them that you can be responsible

hope i helped(:

I just bought my cat a second litterbox and it has a cover and a door flap to get in. her regular box is in the laundry room and we have to open the door for her so she can use it. she will not use this new covered litter pan...i have showed her many times and everytime I put her in there she runs away. i caught her peeing on the carpet. normally she is great with using the pan, but no she is not. I cannot have an uncovered one because of dogs and children. how can i get her to use the new pan?

if you ever catch him using the bathroom on the carpet, pick him up and make him stay in that litterbox until he goes. soon hhe should learn that that is where he needs to go and he'll probably get used to it

hope i helped(:

ok so my puppy who gets into everything... atleast it seems he does just started bleeding from his butt when he has a bowel move ment he has diarreah with blood in it what should i do and any ideas of what this mught be? HELP ME!!!

definatley go to the vet and have it checked out

I have been wanting to get gauges for my ears for a long time, but have never gotten them because I thought you had to have them done. I was recently told that if you have your ears pierced, you can do it yourself just have to work your way from a smaller gauge to a larger one. Is this true? If it is, do you know what gauge sizes are? Like what is the best size to start with?

you should starts out with a 16

hey im getting a boy puppy and i dnt know what to call him... he is a malteze cross shitzu and iv always wanted to call a dog tobey but now im not so sure does anyone have good dog names?? im getting him next week so i need heaps thanks

i just got a bichon and his name is riley(:

we went through soo many names though.. here's some suggestions..

hannah montana inspired:
olly
cyrus
oakin

i also think max is a cute name

Are private school (over public) people more hardcore in terms of drugs, trouble, and sex or is it just a rumor? Any reasons why?

it's a rumor..

all schools are basically the same, you hear more about it in public school though. with private schools they do the same things but try to keep it in the school for a good reputation.

in private school they are taught some about religion and stuff and to rebel, kids get into that stuff because they know they shouldn't.

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