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Stop Self Injuring
ok well im 14/f and live in small town USA I have been SI'ing for like 4-5 years now and i really wanna stop i am really wating to get closer to God ad this is just holdig me back from living the life i want to. See i started becuse it felt good it feel something other than emotions? idk how to word it but my father was abusive i was never touched but i saw what he did to my sisters and my brother and well i dont know if that has anything to contribute to it. Now that Im away from him and have been for a while i relized i want to change. I dont know how so I guess thats what im asking. HOW CAN I CHANGE AND STOP SELF INJURING???? That includes cutting and stuff like that anything that causes me pain.
Before you ask I never wanted attention and well am asking on here so i dont get the wrong type.
Allie
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instead of hurting yourself try keeping a little journal that you can write everything that you're feeling in. i used to cut and hurt myself and i still do but not as severe. i made a contract with my psychiatrist that i won't hurt myself. you could make one with yourself and sign it and put it somewhere where you would see it if you think about hurting yourself.
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first off self-abuse is a common but unhealthy thing that many people (myself included) suffers from
the reason that many people hurt them selfs physically is because internally them are bleeding(non literal)
it's a way of pinpointing all emotional pain into a physical being that is in your control. Being able to control how you feel makes you happy but is really killing you.
to stop you might want to consider seeing a therapist(i know is sounds stupid and you don't think you need one..but they really help you with some issues you may had never known you had)
or even confiding in a close friend or family member and they can put you on the right step to getting healthy
with yous dad being abusive it definably plays a role, no questions asked. his abusiveness to your family has scared you image of yourself and others. you may not realize the horrific and emotional toll it is taking on you
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perhaps when you were around and he was hurting your siblings you felt like you had to be hurt as well. Now that he's gone you don't have to. If it were me i would punch the pillow every time i wanted to SI. You can also go to many places (youth Centres) to cool down, or to get encouragement to stop. These places aren't just for SIers, any one can go so you don't have to say it's because of SI if you dont want to ! Another way is to talk to someone close to you about it and get their encouragement to stop! hope you stop soon :D Good Luck, Liz xx
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self injuring is a form of help but hey dont always help.I have learned in my past experiances in hospitals that if you make a list of 10 things that you would/could do that you like and try as hard as possible to do it now there are many things you can do besides SI you can watch tv,run,pace anything other than that.You dont wanna upset ur sisters and parents if you truely love them because they dont/wouldnt liek to see you as depressed as you are.
Xox
Ellie
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The first step in quitting is wanting to quit. I know that sounds silly, but a lot of people who say they want to quit cutting, never really actually commmit to it. It's difficult to stop, but commitment and self-love will get you there eventually.
You have to talk to someone. As strong as you may be, cutting is a powerful addiction, and you can't do it by yourself. Talk to a school councelor, or a friend. You'll feel so much better knowing you are not alone. Because you are NEVER alone if you have enough courage to ask for help. Someone out there will give it to you. Here are some tips to help with cutting, some may work. Some, maybe not. Just don't give up. You'll eventually find something that works for you:
Distract yourself. Color, draw, write, get online, do homework, read. Just do something. If you like the feeling you get when you cut, wear a rubber band around your wrist and flick it when you get the urge. If you like the way your arm looks after cutting, take a red marker or pen, and make marks on your arm.
The best advice I can give you is to take the 100 day challenge. Or 30, 20, or 10 day challenge. Just keep working your way up on the days. This is how you do it:
Get a calender, and tell yourself you aren't going to cut for however many days. Once you reach your end mark, you can reward yourself with something. Throughout the days, you can write in a notebook each time you get an urge to cut. Talk about why you want to cut, how you are going to distract yourself from it, etc. It helps some people, but can make it worse for others. Try it and if it helps, do it. If writing makes it worse, do something different to distract yourself. If you slip up, don't beat yourself up over it. You can always start over.
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First of all im sorry about your abusive parent, ok now like the girl below me said God created us to live a life full of love and harmony and He doesnt want us to hurt ourselves. My best advice for you is to prey. Every time you get the urge or the feeling of hurting yourself prey, ask God to help you in prayer. Believe it He WILL help you if you ask Him to. But you have to believe He will cause remember He's always there to look out for us and to protect us. Also, since you mentioned you want to get closer to God preying will help you to do that as well. You could also try to attend a church and get involved this would help too. Allie Im here for you if you need anything and remember have faith my friend
God Bless You Always
-Luna
P.S. If you have no idea of how to ask Gd for help you can just be like "God I dont want to do this anymore please help me my Lord" or something like that...though its better if you use your own words, words that come from your heart.
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i think that thats excellent that you want to get closer to you. I am here for you so if you want to send me a private email i understand but you dont have to if you dont want to. I am 13/F so i think i know what you are feelin.
To help cutting just say to yourself that god doesn't want you to hurt yourself or others. God created you and he doesn't want you to think anything less of yourself.
I hope this helps
god bless ya
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