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hi this questions is for the girls, i would just like to know how old you were when you first gave oral sex (link)
i was 16
waiting till i was a little older made me feel more comfortable with myself and the other person. i had sex before, you don't have to go in order

hope this helped


Okay, so according to my mother, most girls get about 28 days (four weeks) between periods, and it lasts for about five days.

I get about 20 days (about three weeks) between periods. Is this unusual? Anything to consult my doctor about?

Also, I've been having some serious stomach issues. Sometimes I'm in the bathroom all day, sometimes I'm absolutely positive I'm going to puke (but I never do) and sometimes I'm in great pain.

Any ideas on what's causing this?

Thanks in advance for all the help. (link)
so alot of the time some girls just have irregular periods for the first few months or years for that matter.
playing sports can also affect it...the more you play the more irregular you become.

the pains in the stomach..could just be cramps(and you can take advil,tylenol, or midol is great. if after a while the pains continue and become unbearable, then i would talk you your mom about it and then take things from there.

good luck


ok, i "used" to be a cutter, please dont go on telling me how wrong it is.. i know and have heard it all before.. i have been cutting myself since i was 11-12 years old.. im 19 now.. and i have been really good lately with the whole cutting thing.. not doing it and having the will power to get over the feeling to do it.. but lately.. i feel so AAAHHHHH and just feel like i need to do it, i really dont want to.. i have been doing so well, and dont want to be that person anymore, but i just cant get it out of my head. i am fighting the urge to do it, and i just feel like i cant fight it anymore.. i dont know what to do.. most poeple dont know i do it, and those that know about it.. think im better.. so i really have no one i can go to.. without putting dissapointment on their faces.. i have no where to go, no one to turn to.. and i really want help, because i dont want to do it anymore.. but i dont know what to do.. everything is becoming a mess again in my life.. and i feel like i need it, and im afraid i cant fight the urge anymore..

and thoughts or ideas of how i can deal with this.. anything.. just any little thing you can think of? would be most gratey appreciated!!

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ok first off congrats on stopping!
thats the best thing you could do
and i know its' not easy.

now back to the question...

your not the only one who has the urges to start cutting again(including myself)...the average person relapses 7 times before becoming completely healthy.

confiding in a friend, family member
, or therapist is the best thing to do

get help about stopping the urges is the most important thing
or else it will go downhill from there.

keep yourself involved in stuff and surrounded by people...because i'm guessing you won't do it in front of someone.


good luck



ok well im 14/f and live in small town USA I have been SI'ing for like 4-5 years now and i really wanna stop i am really wating to get closer to God ad this is just holdig me back from living the life i want to. See i started becuse it felt good it feel something other than emotions? idk how to word it but my father was abusive i was never touched but i saw what he did to my sisters and my brother and well i dont know if that has anything to contribute to it. Now that Im away from him and have been for a while i relized i want to change. I dont know how so I guess thats what im asking. HOW CAN I CHANGE AND STOP SELF INJURING???? That includes cutting and stuff like that anything that causes me pain.


Before you ask I never wanted attention and well am asking on here so i dont get the wrong type.


Allie (link)
first off self-abuse is a common but unhealthy thing that many people (myself included) suffers from

the reason that many people hurt them selfs physically is because internally them are bleeding(non literal)

it's a way of pinpointing all emotional pain into a physical being that is in your control. Being able to control how you feel makes you happy but is really killing you.

to stop you might want to consider seeing a therapist(i know is sounds stupid and you don't think you need one..but they really help you with some issues you may had never known you had)


or even confiding in a close friend or family member and they can put you on the right step to getting healthy

with yous dad being abusive it definably plays a role, no questions asked. his abusiveness to your family has scared you image of yourself and others. you may not realize the horrific and emotional toll it is taking on you


Well my question is my friend is bisexual and she likes a person who isnt want methonds should she use to try to get over that person (link)
well there is no real method to get over this person

basically she needs to face the facts that most people choose to like only one gender..and a lot of the time is not going to be her.

she should try joining some gay/straight groups
if she has a myspace there are many groups online that she can look at(http://www.myspace.com/idoboth)
...and maybe find new friends who can give her advice on these things that you are non familiar with

hope this helped!


Sorry that I probably spelled that incorrectly. Long story short, I think too much. If something good happens, I think about it so much that I can turn it into a bad thing, and I think about bad things so much it eats me up inside and it's making me feel horrible, and not many people I know do this, or the ones that do, I'm not comfortable bearing it all to. I replay low moments in my life as long I have nothing way better to do. Basically, when I'm not talking, I'm mentally shooting down myself, I lower my self esteem about my personality and apperance and other things. Nowadays though, I don't have much of a life, so I can't really find other things to do to take my mind off bad things. All I have is my computer phone, and tv, because I'm 14, jobless, never have rides to go anywhere, so I can't even do clubs at school, I don't know many people. Sometimes even, what I do have makes me feel worse about my life, seeing people on t.v making something of themselves, or my friends passing me by, or complaining about their issues to me while I lend an ear and never complain about mine-untill now I suppose. There are so many things I want to do, plus size model, sing, dance, be a pageant queen, be an incredible gymnast, and all these things people believe if anyone in my family could do it, it would be me. Thing is, I tell myself theres no chance, and I'm not nearly as good at these things as I should be, and my parents probably wouldn't let me develop my skills as much as I would like to, because nobody else in my family has tried. Possibly during summer, but they would much rather have me study than take classes, or even go on vacation! So I forget my aspirations, tell myself I would fail if I tried, and go into some medical field, which I wouldn't mind, but I dont want to be a bad doctor, because my dad is a good doctor! Sorry if I went in circles a lot, but I need some help here! Thank you soo much. (link)
i'll admit i'm the same way!

alot of times when i start to over analyze situations(good or bad) i try listening to music..it seems to take my mind off of my situation at hand.

it's hard making your self esteem drop to a low point, take a toll on all the other aspects of your life,,,witch makes things harder

try to make light of things or keep yourself active and involved to send your mind in another direction..it may help

being by yourself is when thought process through your head the most...it can sometimes be dangerous with the end result ending in sadness or depression about ones life

try talking to a friend about the situations so you are getting more than one persons perspective on the whole thing


female/16 is it possible to be in love with somebody with in a week and you've never met them. but you talk for about 5 hours a night on the phone and all through out the day on text and aim.?
i mean i know that is stupid. but idk if im in love with them or thier persoanilty? im aware of the standards its just hard cause they live 10 states away and we met on myspace? shady....i know. but shes all i think about and i love talking to her so much ive neevr been this happy and lately i feel im on top of the world/ its weird cause im not a lesbian im confused if im bisexual but i love her and ive never met her? what do i do please help (link)
i feel you on this one..
i met my boyfriend that way
and i thought i was in love(almost positive about it
and we only knew each other for around the same amount of time)

finally we met and i was RIGHT i was in love

it's all a matter of making sure the person is being real with you,
and showing their true self to you and,
not holding back even tho you have never met
it is possible
some people just click so good
it might be the case with you


on the other hand,
you might think you are but are really in fascination that someone you have never met cares this much to talk to you and say that they care about you...

it goes both ways..but only you know if you truly love someone or not

you might just be in
love




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