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Over analytical
Sorry that I probably spelled that incorrectly. Long story short, I think too much. If something good happens, I think about it so much that I can turn it into a bad thing, and I think about bad things so much it eats me up inside and it's making me feel horrible, and not many people I know do this, or the ones that do, I'm not comfortable bearing it all to. I replay low moments in my life as long I have nothing way better to do. Basically, when I'm not talking, I'm mentally shooting down myself, I lower my self esteem about my personality and apperance and other things. Nowadays though, I don't have much of a life, so I can't really find other things to do to take my mind off bad things. All I have is my computer phone, and tv, because I'm 14, jobless, never have rides to go anywhere, so I can't even do clubs at school, I don't know many people. Sometimes even, what I do have makes me feel worse about my life, seeing people on t.v making something of themselves, or my friends passing me by, or complaining about their issues to me while I lend an ear and never complain about mine-untill now I suppose. There are so many things I want to do, plus size model, sing, dance, be a pageant queen, be an incredible gymnast, and all these things people believe if anyone in my family could do it, it would be me. Thing is, I tell myself theres no chance, and I'm not nearly as good at these things as I should be, and my parents probably wouldn't let me develop my skills as much as I would like to, because nobody else in my family has tried. Possibly during summer, but they would much rather have me study than take classes, or even go on vacation! So I forget my aspirations, tell myself I would fail if I tried, and go into some medical field, which I wouldn't mind, but I dont want to be a bad doctor, because my dad is a good doctor! Sorry if I went in circles a lot, but I need some help here! Thank you soo much.
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i'll admit i'm the same way!
alot of times when i start to over analyze situations(good or bad) i try listening to music..it seems to take my mind off of my situation at hand.
it's hard making your self esteem drop to a low point, take a toll on all the other aspects of your life,,,witch makes things harder
try to make light of things or keep yourself active and involved to send your mind in another direction..it may help
being by yourself is when thought process through your head the most...it can sometimes be dangerous with the end result ending in sadness or depression about ones life
try talking to a friend about the situations so you are getting more than one persons perspective on the whole thing
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i know exactly how you feel. i truely do. im your age and honestly sometimes it can suck. ok well first off dont think about the bad things in life, just think of how happy you are to be alive. Think you get to go to school and see your friends everyday. and for not knowing many people, well just go up to some people and introduce yourself, it cant hurt. plan things every weekend to look forward too. As for those dreams you have, well dont ever give up, talk to your family and tell them your feelings.. i used to and it made me feel better, like someone was listeing or if you dont want to tell your parents, tell a friend or cousin. it will feel like your getting something off your chest. tell your family this is really important to you. and at school do they have activity buses?? if they do you could just take those home. join school clubs (if you have activity buses or you can get a ride) get a ride from a friend thats in the same club. and for some things to do without a ride, go running, play outside, invite a friend over, call someone. try new things. and just remember the people on tv wether it be a reality show or just a regular series or movie, that their lives are fake. would you rather live a fake one or have reality? when something good happens in real life your going to be happier. and what you said about being a plus size model, well i was the same way and getting excersise and losing a little bit of weight can make a HUGE difference in the way you think of things. its weird but im not kidding. eating healthy and excersising can also releive stress. like i said before, just try new things and meet new people.
i really really do hope i helped.
and that you feel better =]
good luck!
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i think i know how you feel a little. I used to do that when I was in 7th grade. I moved a lot so I had to make new friends every year... well, until now. I had free time on my hands so I went online a lot and stuff.
but what i found was something inside me that i never knew i'd do.... i started to write songs. i started to express myself in any way possible. i guess it was kind of a prescription because it's helped me through a lot 3 years later i still do it.
what you have to realize is, sometimes life can seem so bad that you might want to kill yourself. but you have to think about what can come next. not next like the next day or a week, but maybe next year or two. don't look into the future as an adult, but into a future as like..another grade or something.
don't tell yourself you can't do anything because if you're motivated to get it right, you can do anything.
try to keep yourself busy with some kind of activity. although you don't have rides.. maybe you can go outside and do something that doesn't absolutely need a ride. me, i just went outside and started playing basketball....
it all might seem hard now and you might be thinking lowly of yourself and life, but, once you find something that's new and interesting.. it's going to stick and it's going to make you better.
don't worry too much. it'll all pass and good things will happen. you just have to wait...
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