Hey i'm volunteergirl and i play softball, i dance, and i'm an activist at my school. I love giving advice and i hope you check out my column!!!
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Member Since: April 11, 2008
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Last Update: July 15, 2009
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OK theres this guy his name is Jason! really I dont know too much about him considering I've only hung out with him for like a total of 2 weeks, and I've only known him for a little over a month. The first day I met him I was with my best friend to go hang out with her boyfriend and this guy jason just stood out to me. well anyways we stayed that night at his house and his kisses (undescribable)! Everyday for the next week after that I was around him. My problem though is that at night when we're in his room it's like we cared so much but the next day it was like nothing. maybe it was cuz when his friends asked me if I liked him I would say no just because it doesnt seem like Im the type of girl that could ever be more than a careless fling for him and I am scared of rejection! so anyways after that first week or a bit more I went about 3 weeks wuthout seeing him and just a couple days ago on my birthday I was hanging out with my friend mario and we ended up at jasons house that night.
The things I noticed that night was that in the week he was around me he saw and remembered things about me I never noticed. He could tell me exactly what I was thinking. and he made me happier than I have ever been with a guy. Then the next day it was like it didnt matter. I have two problems here. First one is its like when its just me and him he cares almost more than me but when we're around his friends he says he doesnt care. My second problem is I want to see him even if we can never be together but where he hangs out I dont know anyone really well there and I dont want to just wait for one of my friends to go around him for me to see him but I dont want to go there and not be wanted so what do I do? (link)
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Okay first calm down everythings all right. So you obviously have to like this guy or you wouldn't be in this situation. i can understand where you're coming from with being afriad of rejection becuase i'm terrified of it, but at the same time if you don't tell his friends or your friends that you like him then someone will eventually get him to go out with them. Maybe the reason he acted like he didn't care the second time around is because he likes you and his friends told him that you said you didn't like him.Another thing is he could also be afraid of rejection and as for your second problem you should take some of your friends that are girls and to the places he hangs out to mingle and test it out. I really hope this helps.
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Okay so the school Talent Show is coming up and me and my friend need a fun, fast song to make a dance to. Or if you know of any popular movies with like a 3 minute dance scene in it, we copy stuff good. Not Napoleon Dyamite, we already did that. But anyways, it has to be funny. Thanks ! (link)
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hey what about the song can't touch this... you could dress up in 80's gear and go all out
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I am a 29yo single male who has never had a girlfriend in his life. It makes me sad to see everyone else with their gf, and then there's me. There are times when I am feeling so alone and depressed. I don't know what the point of living is anymore. Seems like there's nothing left in life to look foward to except for. (link)
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okay stop and relax. There is way more to life than having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe the reason why you haven't had a girlfriend is because you are waiting for that special person. You don't have to rush into a relationship just yet. When you're ready that girl will come along and trust me you're not going to be single forever.
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Lol. Ok. Most of you should enjoy this..
I'm talking to the boy I like when he asks me for my number, and I give it to him, and then I want to leave before the conversation starts dragging on, so when my phone starts to vibrate I see my way out and say "sorry, I have to take this, so see ya later" I hear him say "you're ridiculous" while walking away.. but don't think much of it. Once I get to my room I try to call the number back, cause it wasnt listed in my phone book when it hits me -- HE WAS THE ONE CALLING ME SO I WOULD HAVE HIS NUMBER.
How embarrassing is that? What would you think if you were him? And what's the best thing to do.. try to explain or pretend it ever happened?
Silly, I know. But I didnt ruin my chances, did I? (link)
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oh wow. reading this just made my heart stop. if i were you i think i would try to pretend it never happend but if he brings it up just tell him you weren't thinking and if he doesn't bring it up completely he just gives hints to let you know he remembers just laugh it off because at this point there is nothing you can do. try texting him and if he replies back well then i think everything will be okay and if not there are a million other fish in the sea.
P.S. i will keep my fingers crossed for you!!
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volunteergirl
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So i have this boyfriend that i adore (link)
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well first you have to know that it's going to be hard dating someone a year younger and trust me i should know. I do think this guy likes you and if doesn't then thats his loss. If it continues and you've told him to stop then just remember two can play that game.
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What exactly is under age dating? (link)
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to be quite honest it changes depending on your parents and honestly i didn't know you could be underage and dating. I would guess that most kids start dating around 13 if not a year or two earlier.
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okay october 31 was my friend's birthday, and i told her im gonna send a myspace comment saying happy birthday so i did and it was long message and a birthday funny picture and i send it at 12AM sharp but the thing is she didnt even apporve my comment and didnt even say thank you until now yet she approved her other friends birthday wishes and said thank you to them is this messed up or what?
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hi, um i also have a myspace and sometimes their are delays and you don't see the comment the first time but if you log back in later then it will appear. So honestly i don't think it's a big deal and if i'm wrong and she did it on purpose than just wait a couple of days and see if she is mad at you. I just don't think you should blow this out of proportion, it's not worth losing a friendship.
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So Im going out with this kid, hes awesome, and I know im ready to kiss him, and I want to make out with him but im afraid I wont know how to do it, Ive never made out with anyone before, and im kinda scared, he plans on making out on Thursday which is 3 days from now and I dont know how to get over this. (link)
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hey, first relax. it's okay to be nervous. if this is your first kiss than i'm sure he will understand and if it's not i still think it will be fine. Honestly there are a million ways to make out with a guy so just do what feels right. JUst make sure you stay in your comfort zone and everything will fall into place.
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a girl with a bf goes up to the mountains with a different guy who is just a friend who knows the girl has a bf.
she decides to get out to look out at the view and tells him to come too. Instead he touches her thing and says hold on. So she stops and starts to wait. he gets closer to her and begans to kiss her and she pushes him away and says, "what are you doing we are just friends and I have a bf?" he stops, apoligizes and begans again. then she pushes him away and tells him she wants to leave.
he doesnt take no for an answer and begans to touch her while she keeps saying no. she punches and kicks and all that. he doesnt stop. he gets his pants off and her shorts off.
does he get all the way in her or no? continue my story with details its for school. thanks! (link)
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This is an advice website you really shouldn't put that on here. Unless you want advice dont get back on this website with that story.
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so i went out with this kid for 4 and a half months, and he broke up with me cause he didnt know if he wanted a girlfriend, and he was moving (he was moving in 3 months), we thought we'd be going out until he moved, and maybe even longer, but before he left i wrote him a letter saying how im glad were still friends, and he told me how breaking up with me was a mistake and everything, but now he kinda likes my friend. and he came back to visit and they are awfully close, and my friends talked to me about it, and i told her i can't control what she does, but i dont know, lately i've felt like giving up on myself because i feel like now that im starting high school im fading as a person, it seems that nothing is going right and i am losing people, nothings ever drama free anymore. i was talking to him for like an hour on IM, and he was telling me how he remembered everything he said to me the day he asked me out, and at the end of the conversation he told me he loved me. Then i just saw him this past weekend and he still had the letter i wrote him in his wallet but i didn't get to talk to him that much, i just felt out of place whenever i'm around people anymore. i hate that feeling of change. I just want the past and i want things back to normal. I want to be happy but i feel like i'm never given a chance (link)
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Hey, well for starters high school is full of drama there is nothing you can do about that. If this guy told you he loves you and he still has the letter you wrote him i honestly think you will be okay. As you grow older you're going to realize that things are going to change. If you have a strong feeling in your gut that he loves you and you love him just tell him and get back together. Just do it before it's to late. I hope this helps.
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13 yr old
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like i think guyz are intimadated by me cause im pretty and nice and fun. Like, i know tons of guyz who like me (or show signs that they do) and then neva ask me out. I like this guy and me and him became really close as friends and i heard him talkin about taking me to the dance and then he neva asked me to the dance and he didnt ask me to dance at the dance! But, when i saw him at the dance he was all depressed and stared out the window the WHOLE time! So, idk what to do and yah. SO how do i get guyz not to be imtimadated by me and how do i get this guy to ask me out cause i am SOO not asking him out! But one more question: Should the guy or the girl always make the first move? and should the guy always ask out the girl?
PLEASE ANSWER ALL OF MY QUESTIONS!!! THANKS! (link)
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Okay, well if you're right that guys are intimadated by you which is unusual. You should ask some of your friends that are girls then you should ask some of your friends that are guys and see if they find you intimadating or think that other people find you intimadating. In order to stop being intimadating you have to find out what you're doing to be intimadating. If this guy really likes you then he will come around but in the mean time you could get one of your friends to go and drop a few hints saying that you like him and find out if he likes you. Then they could get you two together. It doesn't really matter who makes the first move, but if you make the first move that makes you bold. The guy doesnt' always have to ask the girl out. I hope this helps.
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Okay, well i really like this guy. and im in 7 th grade and hes in 9th grade. Last year he was on my bus. and everyone told him tht i was inlove with him. and i asked him out, but he said no =[. and we got some stuff in common. his sister is a year younger then me and we are friends. she tells me that hes mean and stuff like tht. but i really like him. and he knows who i am. we talk sometimes but never in person. only on AIM and we may say like 4 things to eachother. how do i get him to like me? i really like him. (link)
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Hey, okay well for starters you can't exactly make a guy like you. If he's not interested he's just not interested. Sometimes you just have to pick up the signs he said no once, you barely talk, and his sister says he's mean. Sometimes you just can't get everything you want. He is two years older and maybe the reason he isn't interested is because he wants to find someone his own age. If you really really want him i do have an idea. Okay first make him notice you. When you see him in the hallway or anywhere just walk pass him and don't say anything. Infact pretend he's not even there. Now when he talks to you don't be too anxious. Just be cool and collected. Being that you are in different grades and all you have to realize that he may not like you and that's just that. Well i can't guarantee that this will work, but i have hope. I hope this helped.
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my boyfriend is making me meet his family and friends it has only been 1 week into our relationship at the time.
now he wants me to meet some more friends and his sister and its been 21/2 weeks into our relationship
im coming off as shy because i dont know what to say or how to talk to them because i feel like we are rushing it. he on the other hand doesnt think so
how can i open up to his family and friends more.
what can i talk to them about or say because i want to be around them bc i really do like this guy so please help as much as possiblE
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Hey girl, you should just be yourself. You should pretend you're talking to your friends. Now when you're talking to his mother ask what she does for a living. When you're talking to his siblings ask what grade they are un and if they are in college ask what they major in. I hope this helps.
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help! I'm prejudiced about christians! I know this is stupid. What should I do? (link)
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Hey, this is an interesting question and to be perfectly honest you should maybe go see a pastor and talk to your parents.
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i have a boy in my class who sits beside me and is always flirting and likes me!!! But there is this otha boy sits rite in front of me and i like him and i think he likes me back and everytime the boy beside me flirts with me he gets mad...
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Hey girly, it seems to me like you have two great guys that like you, but it's not up to them who you choose. It's up to you. You have to ask yourself who do i like more. Who will i have more fun with and most importantly who will i stay with longer? I hope that helps.
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So there is this kid that i have like ALL through out middle school and like all of my friends are really good friends with him so i hang out with him a lot so me and him have become really close friends. So should i just stay friends with him or continue liking him the way i do? (link)
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Hey girl, okay i can't tell you whether to keep on liking him the way you do or just stay friends. That decision isn't up to me, but i will tell you this you don't just stop liking someone because someone tells you to. Before you tell him how you feel you should find out if he likes you. I hope that helps.
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 months. he is 18 and just graduated high school in may. in all the time we've been dating, or since i've known him which was in august, he hasn't had a job. he had a car until he got his license suspended in november for a speeding ticket. this means that all this time we've been dating, I'VE been either going to his house to see him or been lugging him around everywhere we go and I'VE been paying for us to go out. and quite honestly, i hate it. he was supposed to get his license back in april but couldn't because it costs over $200 and he doesn't have the money. his parents are helping him and he's mad at THEM for the fact that he cant get it back. he has done some yard work and stuff for neighbors to get money occasionally but it's just not a stable job you know? he's not aspiring to go to college so whatever he does is just going to be a job, not a big career. he's takin me out and payed for me a few times, but it's majority me 95% of the time. we dont even go out every night or anything. his mom is apparently on his case to get a job, which he hates. he's always complaining of sittin around bored when im not there and ill ask him 'do you have a job yet?' or 'why not go look for a job?' and he gets ill. i understand that he doesnt want me nagging him about getting a job or getting his license back like his parents do, but on the other i dont just wanna lay back and let him think im some bank. i've had a job for a year and a half and i work for my money and i pay for the gas in my car that's used when we go out. i dont wanna push him about it because that's what caused my best friend and her boyfriend of almost a year to break up, because they were in the same exact position and she was sick of riding him around and paying for him, and he was sick of her nagging so he dumped her. i dont wanna be like that, but he's 18 for god's sake. he has to do SOMETHING with his life besides rely on other people or else it's not gonna be me that he relies on. everytime i ask him about finding a job, he's always like "im workin on it" or some smart remark, but i've never once seen him turn in any application anywhere, or heard him say he's been out looking for a job. i just want him to be responsible, and be able to get his license back and be able to have a [i hate to say this but..] "normal" relationship. that doesnt mean i want him to shower me with gifts and jewelry and go to a fancy dinner everynight, but being able to go out to eat or to the movies would be great sometimes without me having to pay. he has zero dollars saved up to get his license back, and not one speck of a job in sight and he could honestly careless. i know it bothers him that he doesn't have his car but i want him to DO something about it. i hate it, my mom hates it that im in this situation AGAIN because it was the same exact thing with my ex, and just UGH! how can i talk to him and try to encourage him to get a job without sounding like a mother? i've even tried by telling him places that are looking for help and would be easy, even part-time jobs, but no. what can i dooo? i hate doing this! (link)
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Okay, if you say you have made an attempt to get help him get a job and he still doesnt care then you need to set him straight. You need to tell him i like you alot but if all i'm here for is to be your personal driver and to pay for you all the time then i don't need you. You make sure that he knows if he doesn't get a job soon and get off his lazy butt then he is not worth your time. Don't let him hold you back of standing in the way of your dreams. Don't let him use you because you owe it to yourself to let him know that.
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ive started to ask for a lot of attention..not recently its been happening for a lot of years but i only realised recently! i lie to my friends mostly..but now to family as well. to my friends i lied about how my mum used to abuse even though she did not to the extent i described it and now i lied sayin i have a kidney problem and feritility problem...i want to stop lieing but how? please help me? or ill become someone i know im not :S please thank you and i already know im a horrible person so please dont tell me i am... (link)
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Hi, okay first step in getting rid of the problem is admitting you have a problem, which is good because you already know that. Next step go look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself 20 true things about yourself. Repeat this process until you feel you are ready to stop. The final step is to apologize to your mom and you friends for telling those awful lies.
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Hey ,
I was just wondering ,
some people say when you have acne , it depends on the things you eat , if I don't eat any junk food or any things like that will my acne die down a bit or will it keep on spreading?
thank you!
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Hey, first i would like to start off by saying i have been told that if you usually drink sodas alot, and then you cut down your acne will start to fade away. I tried it and it worked it just took a little while. While you stop drinking sodas you should also try to use an acne wash like Pro active or Neutrogena. You might even want to go see a dermatologist.
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My boyfriend of 5 months is having his birthday soon, and I'm really not sure what to get him. For my birthday, he got me a really pretty diamond heart bracelet, which I love. I don't have a job, but I hope to have one soon, but I really can't think of a nice gift. I was thinking like a scrapbook of things we've done, but I don't have too many pictures or anything, and I'd also like something he can use, that's thoughtful. Any ideas would be really appreciated! (link)
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Hey, okay well for one thing you don't want to get him the wrong gift, so here's what you do. Tell your boyfriend to write down five things he really wants, put them in a hat. Then you close your eyes and pick but don't tell him which one you chose.
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