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Single Forever???
I am a 29yo single male who has never had a girlfriend in his life. It makes me sad to see everyone else with their gf, and then there's me. There are times when I am feeling so alone and depressed. I don't know what the point of living is anymore. Seems like there's nothing left in life to look foward to except for.
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What you need to do.
1) Develop a hook. Find something you can do or something you already do thats an easy conversation starter.
2) Find a venue. Somewhere you can meet girls and have enough time for a conversation. The first can help. Gyms are actually a great way to meet single people.
3) Have a wingman. A person on their own is actually far more intimidating than two or three people. If you are somewhere with friends, or even a friend, you must be someone people like to be around. Plus its good to have someone who can give you openings for jokes or build you up.
4) Ask questions. Trite, but women DO love to talk about themselves. One of the best ways to get a girls attention is to be able to hold an intelligent conversation about something you know nothing about. Get her on a topic shes knowledgeble about and let her "teach" you about it. Ask her to explain things.
5) Compliments and unexpected gifts are your best friend. Example. My girlfriend mentioned she likes a certain kind of dip. Its made from a mix thats kinda hard to find, and I went out and found her seven packets of it and drove an hour to get them.
Twelve dollar gift, she loved it and adored me for it. Don't spend alot of money, just spend enough that they know you listen to them.
6) Take things slowly. Its not a race. Talk to her, ask her what shes thinking.
7) Give them space. One of the best things you can do is give a girl time to think about you. If you go on a date, the next day send a text a few hours after you could be expected to have woken up "thinking of you". If she texts back, text a little but cut it off quickly, say you have something to do or something like that. Ask if you can call her later.
Call later, either ask her when or call her later in the evening when shes settled down from her day and has time. Talk for a little while, but again have something to do and get off the phone after a little while.
The trick here is to accept that you have some learning to do. You need to accept that you are going to fall on your face.
Go out somewhere, and start a conversation with the first person you get a chance to. Look at them and see if you can ask a question that gets more than a yes or no response.
Go to a bar and work your way around, just talking. Express interest, don't ask for numbers or anything, just practice talking to people, and if someone acts disinterested smile at them and tell them to have a nice evening.
You're going to fall flat on your face sometimes. Its part of the learning process. Keep calm and don't get discouraged, every bit of experience makes you wiser.
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well,you need to try to meet new people if your shy well your gonna have to break that habit go out more dont be shy to talk to girls go to parties try to be physically fit if your not get a new hair cut try neww stuff.
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okay stop and relax. There is way more to life than having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe the reason why you haven't had a girlfriend is because you are waiting for that special person. You don't have to rush into a relationship just yet. When you're ready that girl will come along and trust me you're not going to be single forever.
Thanks and remember to come back for more advice.
volunteergirl
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You won't be single forever, but you can't just wait and hope a girl comes around. You should actually be a little happier you never had a first taste of a relationship. Most people either get into one but never really know what love truly is. Other are able to get a notion but then they lose it and can't find it for all too long.
There's always a reason to live and there always things to look forward to in life. Its just one of those things. Plus you can't expect to get a girl if you mope about how you don't have one and everyone has one and blah blah blah. You should keep an optimistic approach about it. SO you don't have one YET but there are an infinite number of chances out there. Don't put yourself down, it only leads to more loss...
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I think I know what you mean. My situation is very different to yours but they run along the same lines. After each holiday, when I get back to school, I always hear as to how they've all had fun at these different parties which they've been to and so much goes on in their lives that I'm just sitting there and not being able to be part of the conversation and having to play catch up all the times and that's hard for me because I know I'm not the party type, yet, there is another part of me which wants me to be closer to my friends and I always feel... sad and alone as well and down because I can't share part of my friends lives and get to know them even better. And with each passing day, I constantly think about as to how I'll be when we leave school and lead our separate lives because I've grown to depend upon them and I can't bear the thought of leaving them behind as I go off into the world and I feel even more alone.
Whoa, rambling there and going way off topic!!! Anyway, don't let this get you down. Most people find their love later on in life, and just because you don't have a girlfriend, doesn't mean that you won't get one ever. There are more things to life that just love and you need to find it. For every person, there is always another meaning to life, not one person looks at life in the same way. You may be 29, but you've got the rest of your life ahead of you to find love. Your friends may've just found it earlier than you have.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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