I have been told by many people that I give great advice and lay it out how it is. If you want real advice feel free to ask, but only if you are willing to hear it how it REALLY is. I don't just give "feel-good" advice, I give the truth, or how I best see it. If you don't have anyone that will be honest with you, weather you like what they have to say or not, you'll never learn how to grow as a person. I'm best in the Relationship department, just because thats were people turn to me most, but feel free to ask anything and I'll do my best to help you. And rememeber I will only anwser honestly, so if its possible you might not like the truth think twice before asking. I do not do it to hurt you or to be mean, I do it to help you in the long run.
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My ex husband is my best friend he always has been and I suspect he always will be. I also have two children with him. Everyone who I date has a huge problem with this and I don't know how to reassure future dates.
There is quite obviously no chance of us two getting together - there is not only absolutely no romantic chemistry between us any longer. I was his "best man" when he got remarried and he has another child with his new wife.
I don't know how to ease people's minds. They tend to just jump to conclusions and it's really, really frustrating. (link)
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It's defiantly one of those things you want to lay out on the table right away when you start a new relationship. After filling him in on all the details I would set up a double date with you’re ex husband and his wife. This way your new guy can see that HIS wife is ok with you and her man being friends, and if you two are friends be sure to show that too. This shows your new man that you have nothing to hide and who knows you all might become close. But if you find that he can't deal, then he isn't the one. Your perfect man will love and trust you as long as you are honest from the get-go. He will love your children and hope that you would be best friends with their father. Don't worry your perfect man is out there! =)
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ok well I have been going out with my boyfriend for a year now and i am as much as in love with him as i was the first day we started going out. I was just wondering if anyone who can give me some advice on how to keep the relationship going as great as it is. I know there are ups and downs in relationships. I also want to know how to handle moving into my own place for a year while i am at beauty school and he is working a full time job. thanks and sorry if its confusing (link)
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For starters I am a little confused... Do you live together now, and you're planning to move out on your own to finish school? If that is the case, this will make your relationship that much BETTER!!! If things are going great and your moving into your own place that leaves room for you two to miss each other. And as far as keeping it on the wonderful level you have it on now, it's all about stepping back and looking at the problems at hand before dealing with them. This way you can deal with one another on a rational level and avoid a fight. Example: You make plans for a night for just the two of you but he forgets and make's plans with his guy friends. He tells you he sorry but he can't cancel its his friends birthday and he just found out about it today. You both can feel the tension in the room your so mad, but while he jumps in the show to get ready take this time to let out your PISSED-OFFED responses, when you have got it all out and calmed down go and talk to him and let him know how you feel (without trying to make him feel guilty or show how mad you really are) and figure out what the next step to fix the problem is together. But it sounds like your doing great all on your own so go with your gut. =)
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My best friend is going through a lot of crap in his life as far as his family and his dad's drug issues and such (which wouldn't have been a huge deal if his dad wasn't in a coma 3 years ago and is finaly getting his life back, but he's wasting it on druggies and neglecting his son.. plus his mom isn't in his life so hes being raised by grandparents and such because his dad is a mess)
So we were tight but recently he started treating me like $hit! He gives me dirty looks a lot of the time and it hurts like he11! I'm supposidly one of his best friends here. He's being nice to EVERYONE except me. he's being nicer to my good friend Aly than he is to me.
I just feel so hurt that he's taking out his issues on me. He claims he doesn't hate me and that when i ask stupid questions like "do you hate me" he gets bothered. And he also mentioned that i can be quite annoying at times.
So i'm not sure what to do...
I know he's going through crap... so should I be there for him to make him feel cared for as i was trying to do,
Or Should i just walk away for a while and let him be? (and see if he misses my prescence in his life and appologises or alteast starts being nicer to me)
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First I am wondering if you are a female friend of his? If so, man work differently. He is most likely pushing you away because you know TOO much about his home and family problems. Guys deal by pretending everything is fine, the important thing is that you are there when he needs you. Until then just back off and JUST be a friend. Hang out and be laid back about his problems, he will talk when he wants to so DO NOT bring them up unless he does. And as for him telling you to stop asking "stupid questions" never ask a guy if he hates you, for that matter never ask anyone that. Just take the vibe they're giving you and back off and be cool. It works every time I promise =) Just remember to be there when he wants you to be other wise you’re just his chill friend to hang with.
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The only thing that me and my boyfriend ever do is fight, and i am sick of it, so what do i do?
Also there is this other guy that i like so i am wondering if i should go out with him, and i don't really know if he likes me. How do i know if he does? (link)
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Honestly the fact that you're thinking about another guy while you’re in your current relationship tells me you don't really want to be in this relationship at all. My best guess to why you and your boyfriend fight all the time is 1 of 2 reasons: 1) You both are looking for an out or 2) You have reached that point where the "honeymoon" is over and it's time to work to have a stable and successful relationship. Relationships are NOT easy and to be able to be happy in one you can't settle, you have to be truly in love with one another or wasting your and the other persons time.
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