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How do I reassure them that I'm not getting together with my
My ex husband is my best friend he always has been and I suspect he always will be. I also have two children with him. Everyone who I date has a huge problem with this and I don't know how to reassure future dates.
There is quite obviously no chance of us two getting together - there is not only absolutely no romantic chemistry between us any longer. I was his "best man" when he got remarried and he has another child with his new wife.
I don't know how to ease people's minds. They tend to just jump to conclusions and it's really, really frustrating.
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It's defiantly one of those things you want to lay out on the table right away when you start a new relationship. After filling him in on all the details I would set up a double date with you’re ex husband and his wife. This way your new guy can see that HIS wife is ok with you and her man being friends, and if you two are friends be sure to show that too. This shows your new man that you have nothing to hide and who knows you all might become close. But if you find that he can't deal, then he isn't the one. Your perfect man will love and trust you as long as you are honest from the get-go. He will love your children and hope that you would be best friends with their father. Don't worry your perfect man is out there! =)
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My mom and dad were the same way. It's definitely not a bad thing..in fact it is great! My brother and I couldn't be luckier. Just make sure at the start of a relationship you lay it all out on the table. Tell them "Look I am divorced, I have 2 kids, and my ex-husband and I are best friends. This is good for me, this is good for the kids. If you don't think you can handle that by all means let me know now! =)"
I'm sure you are a beautiful person and a wonderful mother. I truly hope you can find a guy that is more approving (not that approval is what you wish for but it definitely relieves the stress huh?!)
<3 Leslie
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