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Hi, I'm Jacky.
My life has been rough, because of me.
It got better, until I did stupid things, and now I feel like there's nothing else I can do to make it better, I just mess up more and more. The more I mess up, the more I look like a dumb ass.
First, I have a friend over and I sneak two guys downstairs at 11 at night, and my dad's caught us.
So, my dad and mom have absolutely no trust in me, what so ever. I actually think my family hates me, because I don't listen, and I do things I'm not supposed. I've been doing that, for the past years. Plus they found out I tried pot and I'm sexually active. So that's a huge minus. I get in huge fights with my parents, mostly with my dad. I feel like I just failed my family, honestly. I don't know how to talk or act around them anymore. I just feel uncomfortable and awkward.
And then, I reported this kid for selling drugs, which he sold them to me, and I told a teacher at school about it, and she ended up telling the principal on me, I thought I could trust her. Then I had to rat him out because of what I told my teacher, then I have to go to all this court shit and be a witness, which I don't really want to be. I wish this would've never happened, this kid is going to have a fucked up life with my involvement. What the fuck is wrong with me. It's all my fault. And I can't take it back. But that's my fault.
And 3rd, I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy. I couldn't stand my boyfriend, he's attracted to assholes, shit, and farts. And I'm being honest. He hits me. He's just a jackass. But he knows how to cover himself to make people believe him. But honestly, he was a huge part of my life. And now that's gone. But now I'm with the other guy, who hardly calls me, he says he thinks it's best because he doesn't want us to get too attached and end up being bored with each other. Now, I love talking on the phone, and really like him, but I don't know. I just think there's something wrong with me. I honestly think I'm hated by a lot of people. I do not know what to do with my life anymore. I'm really scared and stuck. I've cheated and lied before. And I've just been a bad person lately.
I wish I could've handled things differently. But, I didn't. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I've fucked up my life. I think a lot of people hate me too. But that's besides the point.
Please anybody, give me advice. I don't know how to start know, I have no idea what to do with myself anymore.
Thank you.

Hi Jacky first of all let me tell you that no matter what happens youre still a worthy person.
Im probably the first one to tell you this but ok remember that no matter how bad youve behaved there's always someone out there that loves you and thats God. Let me tell you that if answers are the thing youre looking for, there is absolutely NO ONE better than God to guide you.
God is so great that whatever you ask for he'll give to you if that petition comes directly from your heart.
I would suggest you try to prey to Jesus Christ ask Him for guidance. If you dont know how to prey then go to a church look for one nearby. You dont have to go to one if you dont feel ready but I HIGHLY recommend you do so you learn more about His wonderfulness. trust me you cant get better advice from anyone else. Only He can truly help you.
trust me i've seen it happened even killers repent and change for good. But its all thanks to His grace.
Please please Im encourage you to turn to Him. You'll see that once you let Him in your life everything and I mean EVERYTHING will get better.
Hope this helps you and that you decide to do this
God Bless You Jacky,

-Luna

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ok well im 14/f and live in small town USA I have been SI'ing for like 4-5 years now and i really wanna stop i am really wating to get closer to God ad this is just holdig me back from living the life i want to. See i started becuse it felt good it feel something other than emotions? idk how to word it but my father was abusive i was never touched but i saw what he did to my sisters and my brother and well i dont know if that has anything to contribute to it. Now that Im away from him and have been for a while i relized i want to change. I dont know how so I guess thats what im asking. HOW CAN I CHANGE AND STOP SELF INJURING???? That includes cutting and stuff like that anything that causes me pain.


Before you ask I never wanted attention and well am asking on here so i dont get the wrong type.


Allie

First of all im sorry about your abusive parent, ok now like the girl below me said God created us to live a life full of love and harmony and He doesnt want us to hurt ourselves. My best advice for you is to prey. Every time you get the urge or the feeling of hurting yourself prey, ask God to help you in prayer. Believe it He WILL help you if you ask Him to. But you have to believe He will cause remember He's always there to look out for us and to protect us. Also, since you mentioned you want to get closer to God preying will help you to do that as well. You could also try to attend a church and get involved this would help too. Allie Im here for you if you need anything and remember have faith my friend
God Bless You Always
-Luna

P.S. If you have no idea of how to ask Gd for help you can just be like "God I dont want to do this anymore please help me my Lord" or something like that...though its better if you use your own words, words that come from your heart.

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i have a lot of acne on my face and back.
ive tried lots of different types of acne cleaners, but it seems to only cause scarring on my face, and then i get more zits.
whats a fast working product that doesnt cause scarring?
and how might i get rid of the scars that i have now
pleaseee help!! thanks!

WOW this was me like 2 months ago. Well you have to be really careful when trying out products cause some can really irritate your skin and this will only make it worse TRUST ME. So yea I guess you should try the products mentioned below but be really careful ok. well for me yea I tried some Nitrogena product and it worked for a bit but the problem is once you start using them you cant stop cause u get acne once again and it comes faster and worse. So yea keep using those products oh and Nivea lotions also helps it clears your skin too.
hope this helps
-Luna

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i wanna take it to he next level but i dont know how.i have tickled him and he tickes me and to end this we usaully end it by just sitting there ,him holding me and me snuggling him. how could i do this?i think he wants to move to the next level ,but i think he wants me to make the next move.i am all confused.

Assuming you guys have kissed umm I would say like one day while he's holding you just look at him straight in the eye. Then give him a long kiss. I would say a passionate kiss but not too passionate. Then stop and look at him again see how he reacts and if he freaks then you should Stop cause hes probably not ready for this. If this is the case then just have patience he'll know you want to move to the next level and he'll tell you when hes ready.
BUT if he doesnt freak or anything then go for it! try kissing down his neck this time, he will get the message. After that you guys do whatever you wanna do. Always considering each other's boundaries of course (you dont wanna make him do something he dont wanna or vice versa).
Hope this helps
N much luck to u
-Luna

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ok well i'm dating my ex again and we get along really well consdiering we've known each other forever and have dated a couple times. but this time it's kinda weird between us.. he calls and we talk for like 10 mins then he says he's tired and he wants to go to sleep. i mean i can understand this sometimes but HE DOES IT EVERY NIGHT. and it makes me think that he's bored with me or something.. do you think he is? what should i do to make him stop doing this? HELP ME!!!

Im sorry to say this but it sounds to me like hes only calling because youre expecting him to. I would say try not calling him one or two nights he'll want to know what happened. In this way you guys will have something to talk about.
You could also try to surprise him or like try to play games/ask questions while on the phone.

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This might be long:

14/f

So a couple of weeks ago, this guy that i know and that i used to mess around with took y virginity.

i wasnt really planning on it, but it happend.
and the time before that one that we were going to have sex, he told me that he wasnt the type of guy that sexs girls and stops talking to them.... well thats exacly what he did. we stoped talking ):

i talked to him like 2 days after we had sex, and he told me everything was str8 and that he wants to be friends and what not... and now everytime i text him or call him he doesnt answer.

i know i should just forget it and him and just leave him alone, but i cant. i find myself thinking about him ALL the time and wishing i could just see him.

advice? PLEASE!!!!



thanks!

First let me tell you I know you dont wanna think about it but you cant avoid it. Girls tend to get pretty attached to the guy that was her first (unfortunately for us). So yeah its gonna be hard to just not think about it. My best advice is to try to keep your mind busy and give him some space and time. who knows maybe hes just confused.
hope this help =D
-Luna

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Hey, im 14/f. Me and my mom kinda have a really bad relationship. Ofcourse, being a daughter I want to have a mother to count on and be able to tell her my secrets w/o her yelling or getting upset with me. I would like to have a nice mature conversation with her telling her that i wish to have a mother daughter relationship in which i dont have to be scared to tell her things nor do i have to sneek things by her. I also want her to understand that i am in deed growing and need to be allowed to do more things and have more priviledges. PLEASE HELP. HOW DO I TELL HER ALL tHIS IN A MATURE WAY? Thank you veryyyy much. :)

Definitely talk to her! dont write her a letter or call her. this other two wont work trust me. My relationship with my mom grew apart because she lives in another country and we talk only on the phone or e-mails. trust me it's not the same as in person.
so yea talk to her, stay calm, and explain carefully what you want in this way she'll notice how mature you are. Oh and most importantly DONT be scared remember she's your mom and she'll love you no matter what! hope this helps
Good Luck

-Luna

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How do you convert from being catholic to christian?

There is not an specific process if that's what you mean. But there are certain differences between the two. So just go to a Christian church and you'll see the difference like there's some beliefs that are not shared by both so once you define yourself as one (in your case Christian) then eventually you'll stop doing stuff or carrying beliefs from the other (catholic). Just let God guide you and you'll know what to do. trust me I've through this.
hope this helps

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Ok, I've been chosen by this teacher to help tutor this girl who's having trouble with spanish. I'm in highschool by the way, so anyways does anyone have any tips on what should I do? I never tutored before so I'm kind of nervous that I might not be of any good help.

Well first dont be nervous and dont let her intimidate you. remember youre there for a reason. And yeah just ask her how you can help her and guide her through her work but dont do it for her. That will not help either of you. But the first time just be like hey what are you having trouble with? or something then she'll tell you and you'll know what to do.
good luck

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is it legal for a fifteen year old and an eighteen year old to have sex?

Nope its not legal because one of the two is still under 18. Until both are 18 or older then it is legal.

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i put eyeliner on the top of my eyelid, and on the bottom one. and throughout the day it goes to the side of my eyes and leaves like a black spot on the edge of my eyes and goes underneath my eyelashes. is there anyway to prevent that? sorry if you couldn't understand it. i also tried using liquid eyeliner because it doesn't go away as easily, but as soon as i put it on, it goes right into my eye whenever i blink. it's like it doesn't dry quick enough. is there anyway to prevent that too? thanks in advance.

This happens to me all the time! but yea i dont think theres a way to stop it or at least I havent found one yet
so yea best advice: always carry a mirror with you so you can clean it up
hope this helps =P

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14/f I like my best friend, but he has a girlfriend. How do I stop liking him?

Omg I was in the exact same situation a few months ago but his gf was also my friend so it was even worse for me and let me tell you its not that simple. it took me quite a few time to get over him but yea the best thing you can do is to try to get your mind off him. go out meet some new guys!
good luck!!

hope this helps

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