Dear Fellow Readers,
My name is Lauren and I am 14 years old. I have always loved giving advice to people and I hope you will have the convidence to ask me. I will check up on this section everyday to see if any questions are left.
Happy Advice Getting and Giving!
E-mail: Hilary4evaE@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Massachsetts
Occupation: Middle School Student
Age: 14
AIM: ForbiddenLXox
Yahoo: Hilary4evaE@yahoo.com
Member Since: March 20, 2007
Answers: 10
Last Update: June 24, 2007
Visitors: 986
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well okay im a 16/f and everywhere i go people from my school that i see like at the mall or on myspace or even at school always make fun of me. its like they hate me. and they'll say stuff like o your soo hairy thats why no one likes u or your anorexic bitch and this has been happening to me since6th grade. none of my other friends get made fun of so why me? i try to ignore people but they keep making fun of me. what should i do? (link)
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Bullies Why do they do it?
♥ If these bullies are boys some of them may have a crush on you and they hide their true feelings by being mean to you
♥ Some bullies think it will give them respect but when their not in earshot there being frowned upon
♥ Some bullies get pleasure out of making their peers scarred of them. They feel secure and safe knowing that they can control people
♥ They may be a underlining problem at home that is frustrating them and they don’t know how to release their feelings in a positive way
♥ If you act shy and quiet around school or when other people see you don’t standing up for yourself the first time you get bullied. People feed off that and form the type of person you are and if you have a very vulnerable image you are a target for other bullies
♥ If you get heated and you lose it your classmates will laugh at you and think it’s a joke and in the end you won’t win the respect of your peers. Then people will feed into that and start to bully you more
Bullies How to handle the situation?
☻ Go to a teacher and explain the situation. Tell who is involved and what happened and they will set things straight
☻ If problem persists then go to the assistant principal and explain the situation and maybe once they get a visit for the assistant principal they will stop picking on you
☻ It’s a good idea to ignore them totally. Don’t give them any information that they can twist and turn against you
☻ When someone is bullying you sometimes you may want to let the situation go and just move to another area where they are not around
☻ Ignoring the bullies and not saying anything back to them will make them give up and move on to another prey
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i go to a technical school, and im in the 9th grade so i havent chosin my shop yet, wer still tryin out all the shops. well i originally went to the school because i wanted to take envirinmental tech. but now i think i like autobody better, but my parents wont let me take it. my mom said if i dont take environmental then i cant go to that school anymore. I probably am going to take environmental still, but its really pissing me off that they' r tryin to make the dicision, its not fair, and its prettymuch just making me want to take autobody anymore. Wat should i do?Is this fair wat their saying? (link)
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Dear Reader,
I am in no position to override your parent’s decision but to a eighth graders understanding I think technical schools are selective schools and which you have to earn your way into the school. Explain to your parent’s how hard you worked to get into this technical high school and that you should have the right to choice what shop you want to major in. Don’t make any threats and don’t raise your voice because that is not the way to get what you want. Calmly explain how you feel and sometimes promising taking their suggestion into consideration and then saying but at the end I will choose what you want to do may change your parent’s views. I think it’s important to have your parents involved in your education but being in ninth grade and earning your way to a selective school I think you should have the ability to make decisions. Make them feel that their opinion is important and you may just get what you want.
-Lauren
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well to start off I've never had a real true bf but like 2 in elementry school but that was stupid stuff. anyways now i'm a freshmen in high school and never havin a boyfriend is really starting to suck. and therefore no bf has resulted in never being kissed. and all my friends except for one (my bff) has been kissed, made out with a guy or done other stuff. and i don't wanna go around having sex but i just wanna kiss a guy and its really startig to make me feel like crap when i see people kiss i just think ughhh i want a kiss. but i want my first to be spcail not some random guy at a party. but i'm starting to worry that when i do get a bf and he kisses me he'll be like wtf she can't kiss? and ughh i know i should be proud that i'm not going out makeing out i have morals but i just feel soo stupid and loser-ish for never being kissed or anything and i don't know what to do. (link)
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Dear Reader,
I understand exactly how you are feeling because I am questioning the same things about myself. It all has to do with finding the right guy. I have a unique personality that does not match a lot of guys and that is why have a harder time finding a guy who likes my personality. I am not exactly the most popular type of girl for guys. I can’t be described as a skinny, blond chick. You may have a similar problem like me or it could be different but remember to not sell yourself short. It is a fact that guys have a bigger sex drive then woman and that is why you must be careful when getting intimate with them. If you are not careful your fears may come true. Your could start to make out and if the first time you were good but the next time he didn’t like it as much then he may dump you moral of the story is that you will find someone but being single is ok and I know you want to follow the crowd but here’s a big hint. You are respected in the long run for having good morals and standing your ground with guys and being hard to get. You have a rock’ in personality and don’t you forget it. Good Luck!
P.S. Don’t sell yourself short and stay safe
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16/f Sorry about this being super long!
Ok..so...I want a vibrator really bad. I've been masturbating with my fingers for the past 2 years. I could easily order one on the internet because I have my own debited credit card, but because of my mom, me owning one would be very risky.
I actually got a mini-massager online(which is just a regular everyday massager) a few months ago and had it for about 2 short days...but my mom is so sneaky she came into my room, found the box and order form in my trash which said "massager" and she jokingly confronted me about it. I made up a lame excuse that i was giving it to my friend for her birthday as a gag gift. Then, she said "Oh haha I thought you were using it to masturbate or something HAHA!" and then, to make it seem more convinving, I told her "EW! i would never do that! now i'm not going to give it to my friend because thats gross and she'll think i'm weird". So, my mom decided she wanted it. And, well, I had to give it to her, just to backup my whole lie. (Actually, she's smart, and she might have had a hunch i was lying and was testing me...) It's not that i think my mom would care (she's a OBGYN and I think she's used to this kind of stuff)...it's just SO embarrassing and I don't want her knowing I masturbate. It would just be too weird if she knew. And the way she acted about it, like how she laughed, made me feel like a fool.
Anyway, she's VERY nosy and comes into my room a lot and looks through my stuff like drawers, so it would be hard for me to hide a vibrator anywhere.
So, basically, I was wondering what I could do about this issue. I'm not going to have a mother/daughter talk with her about it and I never want to, so please don't suggest that. Where are good places to hide things? What are other objects that vibrate that won't seem too obvious? I have one of those big back massage things, but it's too loud. I also run the risk of my brothers hearing me or something.
Just plain advice about this would be nice too. Thanks! (link)
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Dear Reader,
I am a thirteen year old and I masturbate frequently. The only difference between you and me is that me and my mom have a close relationship and she knows I do it and she is fine with it. Obviously a talk is out of the question so get a electric toothbrush online. I suggest it should have a low tone to it. I have a high tone so I only use it when my parents are out of the house. The head of the toothbrush should come off when you masturbate because it will feel better because if you have the rough bristles on your clitoris it’s going to be a mix of pain and pleasure. As far as charging it I suggest that you put it in a box in your closet and hang the cord out and plug it to the wall. Mine needs to be charged 24/7 because I want the best power. I have had my toothbrush shut off while masturbating and it would not turn on again because I forgot to charge it so when that happens I freak out because I am very dependent on it. I suggest you don’t brush your teeth with it or buy two one for your teeth and one for masturbating. I suggest you have the same brand and charge it in two different places. If she finds one say it’s for your teeth. Best of Luck!
-ForbiddenLXox
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im 15 years old, and my friend is too. so today we went to the mall and since we were there for a LONG time we decided to go to target. we went to the Condoms area, just cause (lol) and we took decided to take them in the fitting rooms and look at them. the fitting lady was there too, but she didnt seem to notice. she was really rude too. we were just there, but my friend decided to take one. we left the rest of them underneath a clothing and left.
as we were about to leave Target, one of the people stopped us. as we turned around the fitting room lady was holding the condoms at us and started yelling. she was like "yall stole it. I KNOW YALL DID. its ALL on CAMERA"
we freaked outt
she took us to the police that was in target. and we were like begging not to tell our parents. the Police was like "you know yall could end up in jail if this was more major.why did yall steal this"
but he finally let us go.
everyone in target was staring at us and it was So embarrasing.
Our faces weer on the camera but they never asked for our names or anything.
I just dont want my parents or ANYONE at my school to know about this. it was funny, but still.
Do you think Anything Bad will Happen??
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Dear Reader,
I think you should be more ashamed about what you did more then how your viewed in school if someone finds out about the incident. I am not trying to act as a mother to you I am just warning you that you can’t do stuff like that. Teenagers just like you can get put into detention centers for doing things similar to what you did in that store. Girls like you have been punished for running away, stealing, beating people up in school, drugs, and underage drinking. Those are a lot of common offenses and there are a lot more types of problems teens are locked up for. If you need a condom you can buy one it is not a wise choice to steal. Plus, when you go past the buzzer it will detect that the condom was not paid for. The price tag is still on the item. To answer your question unless they call your parents or if someone from your school spotted you then your reputation will probably not get trashed.
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well i really wanna have my first kiss with my bf but like im scared and confused....like i dont wanna regret it or anything...but i really wanna kiss him....what should i do??
any advise on how to actually kiss? i have no idea how to!! help! (link)
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Dear Reader,
You cannot plan a kiss because then it isn't as romantic and you don't get the thrill and joy of locking lips. I suggest you got slow and steady and just wait for the right time. It doesn't happen overnight. Obviously you are uncomfortable with kissing your BF for the first time and if you talk to him about it he probably may be uneasy about it also. You don't have to be perfect. I believe there is no right way to kiss. Woman tend to say there is guys who are good kissers and bad kissers but I believe it is all on the partners taste. Some like it slow and steady, and other like small little pecks, others like deep,passionate kisses, and some like fast, french kisses. It is like sex couples have to learn what makes each other tick(if you know what I mean). It is the same thing with kissing, but regardless of how you do your partner will enjoy it and like it because you love each other.
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hi, i'm trying to find some school fundraising ideas for my freshman class in high schoo. Let me know if you have any ideas that you've tried, or know to work. Thanks (link)
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Dear Reader,
I go to King Philip Middle School. This school hosts three towns and is very active in fundraisers. In the beginning of the year a variety of seventh and eighth graders run for student council. There are a total of eight spots and four spots go to each grade. The student body votes on the people who should be on the council and then two weeks later after campaigning the school will announce the winners. You can set up something similier like that to. However I think it would be better if you get it assembled next year so you can get the most out of fundraising. Talk to your Principal about your ideas and try to get your peers and teachers involved. Some past fundraisers in our school...
-Beads of Hope (2 weeks Student Council sells beaded necklaces for $1 to raise money for Breast Cancer.)
-Box Tops For Education (Cut out the little Box Top coupons and drop them in the bucket near the office. Runs year round.)
-World On Fire (A fundraiser started last year by my history teacher. I raised $120)
-Readers Digest (Buy their merchandise and 40% goes to your school. Students can buy lots of prices depending how many tickets you get for how many issues of a catalog you purchase)
-Christmas Fundraiser (Math teacher told us to bring in one toy for kids for the holiday season)
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Well, I usually don't fo to school functions, but this time, I am. I want to the Spring Fling dance, at my school. It is semi-formal, and I don't know what to where. I guess my question is... what do I wear?! (link)
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Dear Reader,
If this is a semi-formal dance I would look at what your peers generally wear to school and take different ideas from their wardrobe and make it your own. To copy other peoples style is boring and doesn't make you noticed by any guys. So my idea is to jazz it up a little bit.
For example: Girls in my area where a skinney tanktop and then a light shirt over the tank top and then they let the top of their breasts peak out. It's not exactly slutty it's just diverting the guys attention. You may also have some blue jeans that are plain with no art but that can be settled with a jazzy belt.
There are many different combinations. If this sounds like some of the things teens in your area wear, experiment with the ideas above. I am speaking from the point of view of what things are like in my area it may be different for you. Just definatly ask your classmates.
-ForbiddenLXox
Best of Luck!
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I used to use singingfish.com A LOT for my music downloads....but now its somehow taken over by aol video. Does anyone know any sites where i don't have to download a program onto my computer, and has a wide selection of music to choose? Thanks (link)
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Dear Reader,
The program is called Limewire. This is a widely known illegal internet prorgram that allows you to downloads pictures, videos, audio, documents, and programs directly to your computer without paying a cent. You can get the free version or the paid version(which has more features.) My advicwe is to stick with the free version because judging by what you are describing above it seems like a free version will fit your needs. However their is a down side to downloading this sofeware. Your computer can get clogged with viruses unless you do your Anti-Virus program everynight. The choice is yours.
- ForbiddenLXox
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Today my friends were talking and one of them had walked up and something was wrong with him and she asked what is wrong and he wouldn't tell her and he kept pushing her forward so that i wouldn't be close to them becasue i guess he didn't want me to hera but he does things like this all the time and it makes me feel bad what should i do? (link)
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Dear Reader,
I understand where you are coming from when you feel alone and left out. I don't think your friend is trying to be mean but maybe he has known your other friend longer and that your friendship with him needs to grow more before the big secrets are dished out. It is also a good idea to look at his body language and facial expressions. If he seems to avoid you frequeantly then that tells you he does not want a friendship if he laughs if you tell him a big secret then he may not be a true friend. If you get scenerios like what aI said above to may want to evaluate your friendship and decide the path that you want to take. AYou could also talk to him about how you feel judging by the way he reacts your make a personal decision in your mind weither or not you want to continue being friends with this person.
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