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masturbation
16/f Sorry about this being super long!
Ok..so...I want a vibrator really bad. I've been masturbating with my fingers for the past 2 years. I could easily order one on the internet because I have my own debited credit card, but because of my mom, me owning one would be very risky.
I actually got a mini-massager online(which is just a regular everyday massager) a few months ago and had it for about 2 short days...but my mom is so sneaky she came into my room, found the box and order form in my trash which said "massager" and she jokingly confronted me about it. I made up a lame excuse that i was giving it to my friend for her birthday as a gag gift. Then, she said "Oh haha I thought you were using it to masturbate or something HAHA!" and then, to make it seem more convinving, I told her "EW! i would never do that! now i'm not going to give it to my friend because thats gross and she'll think i'm weird". So, my mom decided she wanted it. And, well, I had to give it to her, just to backup my whole lie. (Actually, she's smart, and she might have had a hunch i was lying and was testing me...) It's not that i think my mom would care (she's a OBGYN and I think she's used to this kind of stuff)...it's just SO embarrassing and I don't want her knowing I masturbate. It would just be too weird if she knew. And the way she acted about it, like how she laughed, made me feel like a fool.
Anyway, she's VERY nosy and comes into my room a lot and looks through my stuff like drawers, so it would be hard for me to hide a vibrator anywhere.
So, basically, I was wondering what I could do about this issue. I'm not going to have a mother/daughter talk with her about it and I never want to, so please don't suggest that. Where are good places to hide things? What are other objects that vibrate that won't seem too obvious? I have one of those big back massage things, but it's too loud. I also run the risk of my brothers hearing me or something.
Just plain advice about this would be nice too. Thanks!
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umm under your mattress might be a good hiding spot and i also might suggest geting a dork w/ a lock ;-]
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Dear Reader,
I am a thirteen year old and I masturbate frequently. The only difference between you and me is that me and my mom have a close relationship and she knows I do it and she is fine with it. Obviously a talk is out of the question so get a electric toothbrush online. I suggest it should have a low tone to it. I have a high tone so I only use it when my parents are out of the house. The head of the toothbrush should come off when you masturbate because it will feel better because if you have the rough bristles on your clitoris it’s going to be a mix of pain and pleasure. As far as charging it I suggest that you put it in a box in your closet and hang the cord out and plug it to the wall. Mine needs to be charged 24/7 because I want the best power. I have had my toothbrush shut off while masturbating and it would not turn on again because I forgot to charge it so when that happens I freak out because I am very dependent on it. I suggest you don’t brush your teeth with it or buy two one for your teeth and one for masturbating. I suggest you have the same brand and charge it in two different places. If she finds one say it’s for your teeth. Best of Luck!
-ForbiddenLXox
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Manufacturers of adult novelty items are now marketing a whole line of vibrators that are categorized as "mini vibrators" some are barely the size of a tube of lipstick and many are waterproof. The companies are also selling some of these items with a case or bag that looks like you have cosmetics in it.
People will get banned from here if they give you links about such products but I'm sure you are resourceful. Getting a mini vibrator that comes with it's own container that conceals what it is may be okay.
You cannot buy it on the Internet yourself though or in a store as it's illegal be it on the net or not for them to serve you. You don't need trouble and nor do they from that. Have someone you know help you.
If you cannot get a lock on your door so it can only be opened with a key from the outside invest in a small lock box or filing cabinet where you can put your files, notes etc in as well and put said device in with it and lock it.
Your mother is an OB/GYN so you better believe she knows teen girls yoiur age are masturbating and suspects you do too like any normal teen. It would probably not phase her even if she found one in your room.
The only way to get her to stop snooping is to lock such stuff up in a lock box, file box etc where she cannot access it. Try buying a small lock or have the lock on your door changed so someone needs a key. Tell mom it's nothing personal but you need more privacy.
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Hmm, I would firstly have to agree with your assessment that she may have been trying to test you. Moms can be very smart even when they make it out that their not.
Since talking to your mom is out of the question I can say this - you are 16 and chances are your mom may already know that you masturbate. Truth of the matter is almost all teens do it be it guys or girls. Some are just more afraid to admit it than others. Saying that I can understand you not wanting your mom to know - I'd feel exactly the same way - it would seem weird, to say the least.
I did a little research for you and there are a lot of vibrators you can get hold of that are very discreet as well as very easy to conceal. I didn't post links to any of these products as you can be anywhere in the world and these were UK based companies. A number of vibrators are designed to fit neatly and easily into anything the size of a small handbag and look extremely discreet so anyone looking or glancing at it may not even realise what it actually is. Something like this may be the ideal choice and with it being so discreet as well as small it may be a lot easier for you to hide on your person or even somewhere in your room where there is no chance your mom would think to look.
A really good hiding place I used to have (and still have) is a book. Explaining the method to make it would be very long but it's basicly a hardback book which has been hollowed out about quarter of the way into the book where you are able to hide small items (depending on the size of the book).
One of my friends had the same problem as yourself and had requested to send the item she ordered to me and I forward it to her afterwards from where I live as it would be less suspicious that way and the package wouldn't be marked all on the outside by a sex aid suppliers name. Maybe you can do the same if you have a very close friend who you can talk about this stuff unless ordering the items to your own home is not a problem.
Sorry I can't be much more help than this.
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