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i should be proud right??..
15/f
well to start off I've never had a real true bf but like 2 in elementry school but that was stupid stuff. anyways now i'm a freshmen in high school and never havin a boyfriend is really starting to suck. and therefore no bf has resulted in never being kissed. and all my friends except for one (my bff) has been kissed, made out with a guy or done other stuff. and i don't wanna go around having sex but i just wanna kiss a guy and its really startig to make me feel like crap when i see people kiss i just think ughhh i want a kiss. but i want my first to be spcail not some random guy at a party. but i'm starting to worry that when i do get a bf and he kisses me he'll be like wtf she can't kiss? and ughh i know i should be proud that i'm not going out makeing out i have morals but i just feel soo stupid and loser-ish for never being kissed or anything and i don't know what to do.
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Dear Reader,
I understand exactly how you are feeling because I am questioning the same things about myself. It all has to do with finding the right guy. I have a unique personality that does not match a lot of guys and that is why have a harder time finding a guy who likes my personality. I am not exactly the most popular type of girl for guys. I can’t be described as a skinny, blond chick. You may have a similar problem like me or it could be different but remember to not sell yourself short. It is a fact that guys have a bigger sex drive then woman and that is why you must be careful when getting intimate with them. If you are not careful your fears may come true. Your could start to make out and if the first time you were good but the next time he didn’t like it as much then he may dump you moral of the story is that you will find someone but being single is ok and I know you want to follow the crowd but here’s a big hint. You are respected in the long run for having good morals and standing your ground with guys and being hard to get. You have a rock’ in personality and don’t you forget it. Good Luck!
P.S. Don’t sell yourself short and stay safe
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The way I see it you should indeed be proud of the way you are and of your moral standing. If it's any concillation I didn't get my first kiss until I was 23 and it was well worth the wait because it was with my first real girlfriend.
If you are with someone special when it first happens, no matter how old you are I seriously doubt they will think anything like that about you. Personally I'd actually find it kinda sweet/cute. If someone cares about you I really doubt they would think of you as a looser either and if anyone around you thinks that way about you it's rubbish you can just ignore. :] The fact that you have high morals and don't want to be going around to random guys and such make you quite the opposite of a looser, at least in my books.
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You're right. You should be proud. You've got morals & those other girls probably don't. Just keep waiting. Some kids don't get their first kisses for a while, so it's not like you're abnormal or anything.
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i know exactly how you feel i was in your boat once i am 15 and about four months ago i had my first kiss and i thought i would mess up my first time i was so nervious but ok let me tell you my story well ok well anyways i was so afraid to ever have a boyfriend i don't know why maybe because i thought that i wouldn't be good enough for they guy and plus i never had kissed anyone well i finally met a guy that i liked but i was stupid and when he asked me out i said no and then well i felt stupid so then the next weekend when he came over i wasn't there but my sister had told him that i would go out with his so well i came home and he was there and i was confused because at the time i didn't know if we were going out but i guess thats what he thought so i just played along and then i was like ok we are going out and well when he left that night i was so nervious that i just gave him a hug and then well then i sat on my bed and he was about to leave when he came up to me and well we madeout and i was like ok that was nothing but then the next day i was really nervious that he thought that i wasn't a good kisser so i was really nervious to kiss him again so i didn't really want to talk to him that much so then he left because i wouldn't talk to him but when he came back we started talking and one thing lead to the other and we ALMOST had sex but i wasn't ready so we just fooled around just making out and well that was like the best night i had ever had but then the next weekend he came down he tried to finger me and i said no so then he got pissed off and said he was going to leave then i got mad and i said it was time for him to leave we did makeout before he left but the next day i broke up with him because i knew he was just trying to use me i knew so yeah i know that this isn't what you wanted advice about but i did get my first kiss and for the first couple days i felt good about it so it was a bad choice to have my first kiss with but i did get it and now i don't feel loseris anymore
hope i helped
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Hey!
We all worry about that, so don't worry. Also, you're not a loser, and you should be proud that you have awesome morals. And yeah a lot of people have been kissed by the time they're 15, but I'm 15 too and I havnt been kissed, so it's okay, we're not alone. I think that a lot of people make a big deal out of a first kiss, because they've had one, but it's not really that much more special than the second or third one from what my friends have said.
I'm sure we arent bad kissers, for your first kiss, just let him take control and then as you get the hang of it let it go.
It sucks not to have a boyfriend, I know, but the right one will come along soon, so don't stress about it. Your morals and stuff is way more important.
Lastly, I always just tell myself, that if I have to change something just to have a boyfriend hanging off my hip in highschool when I could be out having fun with my friends having a great time while I still can, then is change worth it? I don't think so, if a guy whose decent comes along, thats great, but if theres no one until later in life, I'm cool with that too. So don't worry, it'll be fine, and you're not alone, so don't fret! You're awesome and you know it, so when someone realizes, then everything will all work out. I hope I helped, love ya,
Angie91
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