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Best Friend vs. Boyfriend
Okay, my situation is kind of complicated so I'm going to try to explain to the best of my ability.
Some background info: I have a best friend, he is a guy. I can genuinely say I love him, he is always there for me and we hangout all the time.
Alright, so it all started a while ago, I learned he liked me, but at the time I didn't feel the same about him. Time passed and my feelings for my best friend kept getting stronger, but i just couldn't bring myself to tell him about it because I didn't want to ruin the friendship, you know? Well, I just kinda hid the feelings, even though I knew they were there. So just recently, he got into a relationship with another girl, which I'm okay with because all I want is for him to be happy. And the weird thing was that I got into a relationship the same day he did. I like the guy I'm with now, but I also have feelings for my best friend. Is that wrong? Part of me feels that I'm kinda not being fair to my boyfriend. I still want to be able to hangout with my best friend though. I just don't really know what to do.
If any of you watch or have watched Boy Meets World, I kinda feel like my situation is like Shawn and Angela. Two friends who are destined to be together, but go separate ways, date different people, and seem to never cross paths.
17/f.
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I think what would be best is to try and sort out your feelings for each of the boys. I think that it's understandable as to what you're feeling but you need to talk to your friend and see what he says. After all, he did fall in love with you at first, you just took more time.
It's an awkward position to be in and i can understand that you're not sure as to whom to be with at the moment, which is why i say to take a break from the current relationship to see how you feel.
I was in a similar situation to this, except she told me how she felt and i had nothing to give back. I still feel nothing so we're just friends.
Take most of the oppotunity which you've got. Get him back whilst he's still in your grasp.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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It's not the point that you aren't being fair to your boyfriend... He does have the right to know, but it's more about you and your friend. You aren't being fair to anyone. You need to tell your friend and let him know that he doesn't have to worry about your feelings, but also point out that you have a boyfriend. You aren't being fair to yourself because you aren't telling anyone, and you are stressing yourself out. If you feel it is big enough that you have to make a choice between them (your boyfriend and your best friend), you should tell both of them. If you do have to pick between the two of them, you need to think about who you think is more right for you, and who is more in your interest. If your boyfriend can't handle that you like another guy, he needs to get over himself, and you need to get over him, too. You can't help that you like other guys, and you are trying to control them. Just think about what you need and want for a minute. I hope this advice helps a little, and good luck.
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Personally, I don't think it is fair to your boyfriend that you have feelings for your best friend. You have to tell your boyfriend that you are unsure about your relationship and you need to tell you friend how you feel about him. Like you said, you are destined to be together. Tell him how you feel.
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