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Is this a real friendship
I have a guy friend who has dated my best friend off and on.Her and him still talk like nothing ever happened between them. My guy friend lets call him S, has a weird friendship with me. He acts like he's my best friend when we are on the phone or not around a big crowd. But when we are with a group for example sitting down at lunch together (which is everyday except for when he has lunch detention or is absent he tells me to sit by him) he jokes about me,says bad things about me & talks about things that he knows & everybody else knows isn't true then I end up cussing him out. Then people are like how can you be friends with him & do that stuff. So its like we can only be friends around each other and only each other. Yesterday he told me I was his best friend that was a girl. And I am thinking are you serious which I knew he was. So should I #1 when we have lunch tomorrow not talk to him or sit near him but with a different group of people. #2 continue treating him the same & just act like nothings happening. #3 talk to him about the way he treats me. #4 none of the above if you choose this give an explanation. AND THE BIG QUESTION is he my true friend. PS is this signs of him liking me even though I don't date my bff's exes
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Well, what do you think? Do you want to sit away from him and see how he reacts or do you want to comfront him about how he behaves towards you (I wouldn't go for #2 since it would seem as if you don't mind what he's doing when it's obvious that you do care about what he says)?
I think that it would be best to talk to him about how he behaves because if he really does like you (as a friend or a girlfriend), then he should begin to act like that.
No friend (or boyfriend) says these sorts fo things about people whom they like; it just doesn't seem right. Talk to him and say that what he's saying is hurtful and that you'd like to be friends with him (which I'm assuming that you want), but he's not allowing you to be friends with him and saying bad things won't help.
I wouldn't call him your true friend to cut it right to the point. Just talk and see what happens.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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As you know all people are not the same and it's very hard to try and change some but if he talks to you on the phone and everythings A-ok then you deserve the same respect from S, when you're around others. Yes #3 talk to him about the way that he treats you and that you demand respect at all times,let him know how you feel and if this is a sign that he likes you he is definetly going about it the wrong way. In life always demand respect..
Lots of Luck ,
Val
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This is a possibility that he does like you.
But talk to him about the way he treats you and let him know that it pisses you off. And if he still does it after that, stop talking to him. Dont completely cut him off just dont tell him all your business and dont talk to him as much.
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