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broken friendships
Well we're in grade 9 and two of my closest friends hate each other to the guts! They have just been confessing about it in the beginning of the year and now it's been pretty rough all around with the hating and the insults when they meet each other in the halls. And the worst part, I'm just a bystander and i don't know what to do. They always talk about each other behind their backs and talk about it to me and I just don't know what to say and sometimes they'll get mad at me for nto agreeing or not saying anything.
What can i do?
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Tell them that you like them both. Then inform them that you don't want to be a bystander as they fight. Let them know it's up to them to resolve their differences. You don't want to hear about how they despise each other all the time.
Let them both know that unless something concerns you you're not there to pick sides or listen to their hatred towards the other person. You can offer to mediate the problem and help them talk it out but beyond that they either be civil in your company or don't mention their troubles with this or you stop hanging with either one until they work it out.
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Well, you need to find out as to why they hate each other. Nobody can hate unless they've got a pretty good reason to.
Talk to at least one of them and ask why do they hate each other? I mean, that would be a sensible place to start and then work from there. Don't under any circumstances sit both of them down together because past experiance has told me that that will only make things worse. Help them through their issues seperately and if they ask "Why are you doing this?" just simply say that you don't like to see them fight.
Good luck with the future,
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