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14/F
It's more like 2 questions...confused!!
ok so I've liked my friend for about 5 years now but I found out he doesn't like me. He only thinks of me as a friend. I want to know if I should keep on liking him or just forget about him and stay friends with him??
Also his cuzin likes me too but I just think of him as a friend but ever since I found out he likes me, I've been thinking about him...What do I do??
They are both 15. (link)
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If he just likes you as a friend, then there is no reason to think of him as a possible romantic partner. You'd just be wasting your time. Now, who knows what will happen with some time, for now though, you just need to think of him as a friend.
The cousin is a little more tricky. Do you really think he would make a good boyfriend, or are you just attracted because he has feelings for you?
I ask because if you decide to be the cousins girlfriend, and then it doesn't last...is this going to make hanging around with your friend uncomfortable?
Mostly you need to follow your heart. Don't rush into anything.
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So at my new job I became friends with this lady. She's about 40, and I'm 18. Anyways, she invited me to her birthday party along with several of my supervisors and bosses. She really wants me to go, but I think it would be inappropriate for me to go because all the people that are going are much older, not to mention, my bosses. Especially since they would all be drinking and I wouldn't be. I know she would be disappointed if I didn't go.
So what should I do? Do I go to make her happy or do I not go? (link)
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I think you tell her happy birthday and explain to her it would be uncomfortable for you. Explain it to her just like you did here. You are to young to drink and that you'd feel a bit left out.
I'm sure she wants you to be there along with everyone else. But, I think she will understand.
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20F.
So for some reason I'm terrified of giving a guy a blow job or even a hand job ..never done it before! But I've had sex ..yeah a little weird. I feel like I've lucked out because I've only had sex with two guys and neither of them have asked me to do that to them before sex. Then I was talking to my guy cousin and he was like you gave him head before you had sex to make him last longer right? Now I'm worried I should be doing this before sex. I just love having sex though and would rather not give a hand job or blow job. Is this normal? (link)
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You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
You are not abnormal at all. There are just things you haven't tried yet. No need to be terrified though. The right guy will help you with it should you want to try either someday. Just don't feel you have to rush into anything.
As for your cousins comment...he isn't as worldly as he would have you think. Giving oral sex to a guy will NOT make him last longer. If anything just the opposite is true. :)
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I have decided I'd like to end my life. I have been without a job for 6 months and no longer have funds left. Nobody can help me and I feel that I am just wasting space at this time. There are no jobs available for me. I feel pathetic and alone. This weekend I will be left home alone when my roommate goes to spend the weekend with her parents in another state. What are some fast, easy ways to commit suicide? I'd like to this at home, peacefully, so that less people will have to see the body in the end. I'd like something that isn't too messy, if possible, but is fairly painless. Suicide tips? Thank you very very very much. (link)
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We really should put a warning on the site. No suicide tips here. Honestly, anyone giving them would be booted so fast.
You are depressed. It happens to us all. You are far from being the only unemployed person in the world right now. Start a support group in your area. Really, a good way to occupy your time and you could be a help to others as they help you.
You also need to get a job. ANY JOB. Work at McDonald's, mow lawns, whatever gets you out of the house and out of your funk. I don't give a rats ass what you are educated to do. I don't care if you worked on wall street and think a lesser paying job is beneath you. Times are tough right now for a LOT of people. You get off your ass and do whatever puts a meal on the table and pays the bills.
Sorry this sounds so harsh. You need to snap out of it. This will pass. Being dead is the end.
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Usually I have really bad menstrual cramps during my period as soon as it starts. I'm 21 now and have had my period since I was 11 so this is pretty usual. This month I don't have any cramps whatsoever. It's pretty terrific to have no cramps :) BUT I am curious if this is alright/safe/okay or what? It's not "normal" for me so I'm not sure if I should be worried or concerned over the no cramping during my period? Does not cramping during your period mean anything? (link)
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Not cramping is a GOOD thing! Nothing to worry about at all. Enjoy it because they will probably be back next month. Truly, it is nothing to be concerned about.
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I take birth control pills and have been for 2 months now. I was talking about it to my boyfriend and he was saying how we wouldn't have to use condoms if we were to have sex since I'm on the pill now. Is that true? Can you get pregnant while on birth control pills or not? (link)
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The pill is the best form of birth control there is. After 30 days on the pill, your chances of getting pregnant are very slim.
I would advise any single woman to still require your guy to wear a condom. There are some very life altering STDs out there. It is not a matter of trust to make him wear one. It could very well be a matter of life or death though.
Some women have gotten pregnant while on the pill. It is not 100%, no birth control is.
Nobody can possibly be expected to take their pill at the same time every single day. You will not get pregnant if you don't. Having worked for a doctor I can tell you that taking ANY pill at the same time every day is mostly because those who do are more likely to remember to take them.
All pills have what they call a "half life". I am not going to explain that here, but, taking it a few hours later than normal will not make you more likely to get pregnant.
For more info...
http://www.wdxcyber.com/ncontr08.htm
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my b/f and i broke up nearly a month ago, it was because he was working away a lot so we didnt get to see eachother so much. he said he wanted to think about getting back together i was very patient with him, i didnt contact him first, he always contacted me. but it got to the point where i just couldnt wait for him to play his games anymore, so i told him i hope he can make up his mind soon because i wouldnt wait forever for him. i do really love him but i just cant go on like this i needed an answer. do you think this was a good move or not? (link)
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I think it was the best move you could have made.
Life is to short to wait, as you said. If its meant to be, you'll meet up again when the time is right. In the mean time, don't sit and wait. Get out there and find the right guy for you!
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18/f
(itll be a year this october)
k so me and my boyfriend broke up because he LOVES me but is not IN LOVE with me, but im so completely head over heels in love.. wtf do i do. we recently hung out and now like everytime we hang out we have sex. i dont want that.... i want LOVEEE . everytime i ask if he has feelings for me like that again he says i can't rush him back into love n i wish i could but i know i cant . WHAT DO I DO. do i just hang out with him and not kiss him anymore? i sware to god this hurts so bad. maybe the more we hang out and not do anything..... he'll fall back in lovee :-( :-( (link)
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I guess he is at least being honest with you. He is using you for sex right now though, I'm sorry to say.
I would advise you not go that far anymore. Don't approach it by telling him "If you don't say you love me ...no sex" because he may be tempted to say he does just to get some. You don't want that either.
I am going to suggest an even more difficult approach. Don't even hang out with him anymore.
If he misses you, he will call. If he calls, hang out but don't put out. Tell him you don't want to be "rushed" into sex anymore until you have more of an idea just where your relationship is headed.
Do not discuss with him why its ok to have sex anyway. He will push the issue. Stand your ground and refuse to argue about it. Having sex with him will not HELP him decide a thing. Refuse to be used.
If its going to work out with this guy, it will eventually. Better to have some patience now and
not be used. It will only make it harder on you later if it doesn't work out. If it isn't going to work out, better you find that out sooner rather than later. Don't waste time with anyone who is unable to make up their mind.
Indecision about feelings of love are usually a good indication that there is none and won't ever be. I don't like having to tell you that, but its the truth. Life is to short to play games.
Thats hard to hear when you love someone who doesn't love you back, I know. Life does go on and there are still a lot of great guys out there just waiting for you to get over the wrong one.
Best of luck to you.
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19/f
I have been having an irregular period for about the last year or so. I first got my period when I was 13, and it didn't regulate until I was maybe 15. When it regulated itself, it stayed normal and then last July when I was 18, my period completely stopped. In December of 09, I started spotting and it stayed like that until I think April and then I got a normal period. That was my last normal period in almost a year. Since that period, I haven't had my period and I've gone back to spotting. There is no chance that I am pregnant (and yes, I'm 100% sure) and I'm not on birth control. I did some research online and figured it could be my diet or weight gain (but my weight gain hasn't been significant) but I don't know for sure.
I would've seen a doctor about this, but I lost my health insurance because I no longer live at home with my parents & am not a full time student. I'm going to try to get an appointment at Planned Parenthood, but until then, does anyone have an idea of what might be wrong with me? I know that none of you are doctors, but I'm worried and just want an opinion from others.
Thanks! (link)
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Most women have irregular periods. They are also thrown off by any number of things. Weight gain or loss & stress are a couple of them.
DO, see a doctor or clinic and put your mind at ease. Other causes are possible. You don't mention being in pain or anything though, so just guessing
you don't have any major female problems. I am not a doctor. Peace of mind is worth a lot when it comes to our health. Period problems can cause trouble getting pregnant when you are older and ready for that in your life. It sure doesn't hurt to get some answers now, because most problems can be resolved with medical attention.
Keep that appointment and get some answers.
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me and girlfriend broke up today. September 24, is our one year anniversary..We broke up because when we first got together, whe kissed two guys in the same day and i stayed with her. I love her now and know that she wouldnt have gone anywhere, but she was on a field trip today, and sat next to one of the guys she made out with. I blew up, and today was the day i was quiting smoking. She broke up with me because she is tired of getting yelled at, what can i do..I am male, 19 years old and she is 16 (link)
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Most girls aren't going to break up with a guy for yelling at them one time. If she is tired of getting yelled at, you may have an anger issue you need to deal with.
I can understand your being upset but this kissing happened a year ago, if I am reading this right. You have to get over it. She evidently chose you at the time.
You also need to realize that at 19, you are more mature than she is. You may have some idea where your life is going to go. She is 16. She is still making those decisions for herself. Sometimes that means moving on and dating more than person to be sure you are with the right one.
I would advise apologizing & then giving her some space. If it is meant to be she will come back to you. If not, then you need to move on and find someone else. Its painful, but you will be ok.
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How would you go about bringing up birth control to a parents who is 100% against sex before marriage? I wouldn't if I didn't have to, but I don't want to worry about getting pregnant.
- help (link)
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Good for you! I'm glad to hear that you want to be prepared & are taking responsibility.
Being a parent of former teens I can tell you one thing for sure. Any parent who is 100% against premarital sex, is even more against premarital pregnancy.
Talking about it won't be easy. they will have questions and you will need to be ready with some answers. Be honest with them. Even if you have no intention of having sex right away, people lose control and then it is to late. You should be prepared so if that happens, you don't have even more very hard decisions to make. Those decisions are ones you would have to live with for the rest of your life & some can be life altering.
Stay calm. Be prepared with mature answers to any question they will throw at you. If they just down right refuse to discuss birth control, take matters into your own hands and visit planned parenthood or your local health department. They can help you without contacting your parents.
Best of luck to you.
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Well school just started. Lately I have been really tired, I have also been avoiding my friends a lot. My mom keeps thinking I'm mad. I feel less energetic than I used to be, The girl I like doesn't seem to like me. I have been Extra Lazy, I'm M/15. I'm also losing interest in sports & video games, I feel dead & lonely, my parents think I'm dumb and think I don't know what goes on when I really do. I've NEVER felt this blank. I feel like there's no point in anything. I feel like I'm impatiently waiting for something. I feel as if my dreams will never come true. I'm usually never like this, but the past few weeks I just haven't felt the same about things. I wish I can start a new life & forget everything & everyone I know. I just don't know. I would never do it or wish for it, but I like to wonder what would happen if I died & what It would be like. IDK... (link)
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Sounds like you are depressed. Its not at all uncommon for teens to experience bouts of depression. You have a lot of life changes going on in your life in a big hurry. Puberty, girl/boyfriends, school grades & peer pressure, learning to drive, etc. A very busy time of life.
It also sounds like there may possibly be something going on at home that has you upset? "my parents think I'm dumb and think I don't know what goes on when I really do." If that is the case, get whatever you know is going on out in the open. It may help.
Regardless, depression is not a fun thing to experience. Most teens will get over it in a few weeks. If you don't, then you need to tell your parents you feel depressed and need to see a doctor. ESPECIALLY if you are having thoughts of suicide or death. Medication will help if you are having symptoms that just won't go away.
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ok well i was with this guy and was so deep inlove well anyway we had sex he came in me and the next day i ran out of birthcontrol so its been 2 months later and i got back on it and im feeling sick all the time when i smell some foods i get sick i get these sharp pains that start at my belly and run all the way down my vag im always tired and idk whats wrong is it the pill doing that to me is it stress or can i be pregnant i had a miscarriage befor i was on the pill and didnt know i was pregnant so i dont kno what to do (link)
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An over the counter pregnancy test will tell you if you are pregnant.
If you are feeling sick all the time you need to see a doctor. Pregnancy isn't the only thing you can get from unprotected sex. You need to be checked for an STD too.
Missed periods and tender breasts are the first symptoms of pregnancy. Though nausea and vomiting could be pregnancy symptoms, they usually aren't the only ones. Sharp pains are not an indication of pregnancy. They do indicate that something isn't right with you though. See a doctor or health clinic as soon as possible.
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Alright well i have had sex 4 times and all four times the condom has slipped off. It slips of half way and we just put it back on again, but oncee it totally slips off, i make him put a new one on. I wuz wondering if thats normal. aslo, if that makes it a greater risk for pregnancy. please let me know if you know. (link)
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Your boyfriend needs to find a better fitting condom. It should fit very snugly & not be loose at all. He also needs to make sure it is pulled down all the way on and be sure to hold the base when withdrawing to make sure it does not slip off.
So, I wouldn't call it "normal" for condoms to slip off. Its just a matter of finding one that fits properly. It does make you more at risk if one slips off. He needs to try a different brand or smaller size.
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What is masterbation? And how do i do it? (link)
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All we can do is give you a link for more info.
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/masturbationwomen.htm
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I have a situaton that i have been holding in for so long. I met this guy at work. It was really weird because there was this weird attraction that i felt the very first time i saw him. I did not know he was married or had kids. He would always stare at me and give me these deep intense looks. I loved it. I thought oh hes just really friendly but as time went on he made it known that he was into me. He didnt directly say it but it was obvious. So one night he gave me his number. it was at a very random time. I knew i would be putting myself in a bad situation but accepted anyway. Flirting is one thing but he took it this far. My attraction to him is unexplainable. So heres the hard part. He would text me and tell me how baeutiful i am and im every guys dream and just everything a girl would want to hear. It sounded so sincere. The guilt started to hit so i told him i cant talk to him anymore but soon apoligized and said i didnt mean that. He wont talk to me he wont respond to any of my text. Did i hurt his feelings or does he just not care. Im so confused. I just want to know how he feels but he wont respond to anything i say even when i think im saying something that will touch his heart and cant help but respond. By the way im 18 and hes 30. (link)
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You're to big a risk. He wants a playmate his wife won't know about. You hesitated (as you should have) so he backed off.
Do not pursue this further. I know he is saying things you want to hear...any girl would want to hear it! But, he isn't ever going to leave his wife for you. He will just use you. You don't need that kind of hurt, heartache and guilt in your life. He is in all honest a lying cheat. Why get involved with someone who is a liar when you know it up front?
There are some good guys closer to your own age who will treat you as a special girl. Look for one of those. this guy has probably done all this before. Don't fall for it.
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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can you look him up on facebook and send him a friend request? Just tell him you thought you would put his name in and found it. If anything it will get it out in the open he has one. If he doesn't friend you, then you know he is up to no good.
If he can't be honest with you about this, you'll never trust him. You wouldn't be wrong not to either. If it doesn't get resolved you may have to end it. Thats up to you of course, but If it were me, I think I would. Trust is a very important part of any relationship. If you don't have it, it will never work out in the long run.
Best of luck to you.
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we didn't technically have sex but a little bit of himself was inside of me. could i get pregnant? (link)
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Anytime the penis is anywhere near the vagina
pregnancy is possible. There is a small amount of sperm that leaks out when a guy gets aroused. It does contain sperm. The chance of you getting pregnant if he didn't ejaculate inside you is small.
But, it is not impossible.
I don't think I would go into a panic about it.
However watch for symptoms of pregnancy, Mainly a missed period. If you miss one, get a home test.
Be aware that panic and stress can delay your period too. In the future make him wear protection.
Its a lot better than stressing if things go a bit to far. :)
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half... I love him. I know I love him. We've been dating for a long time and we were friends for yeeeears before that. I know him inside and out, all his flaws and chips. The only problem is, he gets really really mad when I party. Which... okay. I know. I'm sixteen, I shouldn't be partying and drinking but still! I don't know... it's hard for me to argue it when he gets mad at me but I don't think he should control me. Ugh I just don't know what to do... My friends all party and drink so they'll say "foreget it, he'll get mad for a day and then get over it". Which is true but I hate disappointing him and making him mad when I know he only cares about me... I mean, I'm a teenager! He doesn't want to drink because he's working to get a football scholarship and can't afford getting caught. He doesnt' want me to do it because he's scared I'll get drunk and stupid and that he won't be there to protect me. Also he says its wrong... which it is. Gosh I don't know what to do!! (I'm sixteen/girl; gonna be junior, he's seventeen/boy; gonna be senior.) (link)
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You of course do what you want to do.
That being said, someone who doesn't drink,
Someone who isn't big on partying all the time,
will only put up with a partner who does for so
long. One of these days he will not just get mad
for a day and get over it. He will wonder why he
is always having to forgive you for doing what he doesn't like and find a girl with the same values.
Not telling you what to do. Just telling you what is likely to happen down the road.
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so im 17 and my bf is 21 i thought i would end up having a happy life with hin but 4weeks ago he got arrested and he told me it was because he violated probation. even though he was locked up he called me every day and he asked me would i wait for him and i said i will because he is my future husband. so one day i wanted to see his mug shot so i googled his name and i found out the real reason why he was locked up was because he's a drug dealer.... now im feeling like i dont really know him any more and is this what i really want in my life. he dont know that i know the real reason why he's locked up im just waiting till he gets out to confront him. should i try to help him change or should i move on. i really dont want to leave him. i love him soooo much. (link)
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You will not have that happy life with this guy. You will always be looking over your shoulder or waiting for the cops to knock your door down and rummage through your things.
Unfortunatley, the money people make selling drugs is to good for them to just stop. He probably won't be happy making a real persons wages. Love him or not, regardless of what he says, he probably will not change a thing. He has already proven himself to be a liar.
You would be better off telling him right now that you are done. Don't wait around and make it worse for yourself.
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