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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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Ok so for my school i need to wake up at 5. and right now im at a thing where i dont feel sleepy until 3am and so then i wake up at like 1:30pm everyday. how do i fix this for school??!!! i want to actually be awake and alert in classes this year :/
You have adjust your body to its regular sleeping schedule. So a while before school starts (maybe 2-3 weeks before) get in the habit.
Try to avoid caffeine after dinner & aafter dinner, get yourself all ready for bed. Then if you still have a little time remaining, read, write, draw, whatever relaxes you. And Whenever you have to go to sleep, try and sleep. If that doesn't work, try taking some Tylenol PM.
I take them sometimes when I need to sleep earlier than usual.
Ok today was like so not your average day. I was wearing like my marc by marc jacob's expresso ballet flats and thats when I triped and fell on the stairs and twisted my ankle. Back in drama class I had some ice but I had to apply it to my ankle so I took both my flats off to apply the ice. I forgot to get the materials for the class (mind there were at lease 15 students) so I took off for 10 mins. next thing you know when its time to leave I they were missing. In the end I searched everywhere went to the office found one ballet flat deep down hidden in the desk and I could find the other one. So I ended up wearing clown shoes borrowed from the office. MY PARENTS ARE SOO CROSS WITH ME AND THERE LIKE STRESSING ME OUT BAD ABOUT MY ANKLE AND THE STOLEN SHOE. THEY WERE LIKE TOMORROW WERE DRIVING YOU TO DRAMA SCHOOL OR W.E. AND THEN WERE GETTING TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS. I REALLY THINK MY PARENTS ARE EMBARASSING I REALLY DON'T WANT Anyone to see them... I feel like I can handle it out on my own.. not sooo sure... WHAT SHOULD I DO?? THERE EVEN THINKING OF SWITCHING SCHOOLS FOR ME!!! OH MY GOD (DRAMA CAMP IS IN THE SAME SCHOOL I GO TO) sooo MAJOR STRESS!
Let me tell you that your parents can't transfer you over a missing shoe. It's not allowed. The board won't allow it. It has to be over major stuff. Not a frigging shoe. & I know your pain b/c my parents tried to transfer me, too.
Tell them that it's just a pair of shoes and that no one's going to take just one shoe. It's probably somewhere in the class, lost and found, or whatever. Maybe you just missed it. It happens to me a lot. Tell your parents that you'll find it and if you don't, it's nto the end of the world.
Ask your drama teacher or your fellow students if they saw your shoes. Erm,yeah. Tell your parents to not make a big deal out of this because they're just frigging shoes. Not $135917.
15/f. I'm kind of scared at the moment. I have masturbated a lot in the past....and the last time I have was like 4 months ago. Now, whenever I try to masturbate...just touching myself down there...doesn't feel right. It's kind of a numb, dull feeling. A bit painful sometimes. And I'm just really scared....could I have an infection or STD? as soon as I try and "do it"...I just stop right away. It feels too weird. Is this normal? maybe temporary?
I'm pretty sure you don't have an STD unless you're sexually active with a second party. Anywhos, maybe you weren't in the mood or you forgot how to "pleasure" yourself since it's been 4 months. Don't fret and chillax.
i am not sure if this is in the right catigorie but w/e....
Now i know u guys might not understand if you arn't in band but anyway:
I have this problem like i know the notes and the counting but for some reason i can't play it. i have to have someone else play it or hum/sing the tune. it's really getting on my nerves. I have tried privite lesson w/ the band director but it really doesn't help. what can i do???
Well, I play the violin. not exactly a band person, but I can probably help you. Yo're kind of lacking details here, but I'll do what I can.
Okay, the first thing you need to do is get the rhytm in your head. clap it with your hands, stump your foot, tap something. Whatever. Get the rhytm in your head. Then you try and sing it yourself. Don't play it. Just try and imagine what it would sound like either in your head or by humming it. Then play it really slowly.
I suggest you get a metronome with that gives you beats, a steady tone, and gives you the tuning screen. It's pretty expensive but it's very percise and very useful. Play your piece slow and try and memorize what everything feels like. As in play the same note or hold it in that exact spot for like 10 seconds. Take you hand off, etc. Then try and place it back in the same spot so you'l produce the same note. I knoww it seems silly and excruciatingly slow, but it's worth it. Anywhos, get one of those metronomes and practice staying in beat or use the tuner to get the right notes =)
Good luck and if what I just said didn't make sense at all, my inbox is always open =)
ok i have 2 questions plz answer both( there kinda weird but i need to no)
1: where do you put in a tampon i no its in your vigina but wear in it??
2: if i put it in doesnt it mean like im not a virgin anymore because if you put it in its like i dont know but if you no what i mean then please tell me
P>S my mom says that im still to young ot use one so i dont no if i should and i hate pads ..
14/f
1. I'm pretty sure there is on part to every girls vagina and that's pretty much where your tampon goes in...so yeah. There's only one hole for your vagina and that's where it goes.
2. You're still gonna be a virgin. You're not having sexual intercourse with a guy. You;re still a virgin. If some other girls say you're not a virgin using a tampon, they're stupid and ignorant.
My mom won't let my use tampons either b/c I'll die from it >.> Yeah. I have a paranoid mom. =) Haha, but I know what you mean. If you want to use a tampon, go for it. Just make sure your mom approves of it. Argue with her that people who are 12 or 13 uses it. And that you know that you need to change it every couple of hours and that you'll wear pads at night instead of tampons. & that TSS is VERY rare
17/female
i have this "best friend" who we have hooked up with being "friends with benifits" on and off for the past 6 months.
once it's started does "fwb" last forever after that?
i would really just rather be his really good friend that we know everything about eachother but it just seems like every now and then he just wants his booty call, and of course he gets it.
what is the best way through all of this without losing him as my best friend?
If he really is your best friend, then he'll understand if you ask him nicely to end the fwb thing. If he gets mad at you and drops you as a friend, then, well, he's not worth it. It just goes on to say that he only wanted you for sex.
So the next time you meet him, ask him if you two will be best friends no matter what. And if he says yes, tell him that you just want to go back to your normal friendship & end the friends with benefit between you two.
what does it mean when you avoid someone whos moving and you avoided them for a while because you were really sad that she moved and you gave her a gbye and a sorry letter why were u ignoring her and when you cried front of them she cheered you up but it didnt work so she left and after those happening doensnt respond IMs and refused to talk to you?
btw she already moved but she still refused to talk to me why is that?
Maybe she's still getting settled in
Or maybe she just needs a break from everything & everyone.
I don't know how long it has been since she moved & maybe she made new friends? Just ask her straight out because that's the most accurate answer you'll get.
Im fucking tired of this. Everythime I try and ask her why she wants to come over she doesnt say and ask if jasons gunn abe home and if i say no shes like oh my mom wont let me or something dumbb like that. And when he is home thats all she doesnt is hangg out with him.
WTF
Tell her straight out that if she likes your brother more, go talk to him instead of lying to you and using you to get to your brother.
I'd be pretty pissed off, too, & I'd just say that your brother isn't home every single time she asks =P
15/f about 5'2 95-97lbs
Is that normal? I have been rail thin/stick skinny my whole life and a lot of people think I have an eating disorder. Infact one time I didnt have lunch and I made a comment about it and how I was hungry and she was like "Oh, thats how you do it".
Sometimes I look in the mirror and I feel wide. I started eating very healthy except on the weekends Im more lenient(sp).
My friend has the same problem and she does NOT have an eating disorder. She's just naturally really skinny but she eats normally, if not a little more. Except it's more of unhealthy stuff than square meals. Anywhos, her mom made her go to the nutritionist because she kept on losing weight. I don't know what really went on but you should schedule an appointment with a nutritionist sometime soon =) Good luck.
I have only taken 5 swimming lessons in my life. I can swim good, in the shallow end. Im going to a pool party in 3 hours and I dont know how to deal in the deep end without freaking out or almost drowning, and the person holding the party has been my best friend for 8 years, so I cant back down.
Please teach me the technique to floating and swimming in the deep end.
Especially how you can float in a somewhat vertical position in the deep end, without your feet touching the bottom of the pool. It just looks like a whole bunch of arm and leg flailing to me.
Thank you soo much!
I suggest you stay in, at the most, 4-5 ft deep water [You're a little over 5 ft, right?] And as the columnist below me suggested, ask one of your guy friends to give you a piggie back ride =)
Also, if you want to go to the deep end, grab onto the edges and just stay there and talk with a few people. You shouldn't have to swim the whole time, which brings me to the point--you don't have to be completely in the water. Just sit in the edges and talk to people.
As for the staying afloat in a vertical position--first thing you need to do is stay calm because if you don't, you will look like a spazzing out cat. So stay calm and kick your legs gently and wave your arms around in the water. IT's pretty hard to do for long periods of time so stay close to the edge =)
Have fun!
...getfingered up the butt? I mean...ok, he might like to get fingered but NOT like men but still...isn t it kind of Gay?
Every guy has things that he likes andd doesn't like and in this instance he likes this. But that doesn;t make him gay. If he likes it, he likes it. Bo big deal. If he developes an interest in guys, then he's bi curious or bi or gay. It's unfair to assume someone to be gay just because of wht they like.
I love spending all of my time at the beach. You might think it's because of the waves (which I do surf) or the soft sand, but it's not. I love it there because of one of the lifeguards. His name is Cameron and he is ADORABLE! I don't know what to do to get his attention. I walk by him all the time and try not to make it obvious but I really want him to hang out with me.
I also want to have more guy friends. Does anyone have some tips for this coming school year on how to behave or what to do? DON'T SAY "BE YOURSELF!"
thanks
Erm, you can pretend to drown...but I don't think that's a great idea. Go up to him and ask that you were looking forward to being a lifeguard one day and you wanted to know what you had to do [later on tell him that what you said was BS just so you could talk to him =P]
If it was me, I'd just go up with a friend or two and just say what's up and just strike up random conversations with him. But keep in mind that he still needs to do his job and not talk to a girl the whole time while he's on duty.
As for having guy friends, I'm sorry to say but the key is to be yourself. You shouldn't try and make yourself into something your not and make friend by doing so because your friends won't be YOUR friends...rather the person you want to be's friends. But try and get involved in different clubs and school activities. I'm sure you'll be able to find guy friends there. And just be yourself and don't be afraid to talk to a guy =) Pretend that they're like your girl friends [except don't go and talk about the female anatomy and what not..] Just be friendly to guys, talk to them and see if any guys want to partner up with you with labs or projects or any partner work things =) Ask a group of guys to go bowling or to the movies with you and your girl friends =) Good luck
what are some really funny your tube videos? your favorites?
Love Letters
Muffins
Shoes
Mad TV boob whisperer
Mad TV britney and madonna
Anything that involved Mad TV
There were two that I can't remember but one was a fake Next show that featured gay guys but one was a straight biker who got put on the wrong show. It's quite funny. And the other one was a Fanta commercial [fake, of course]
okay i only have a week and a half left to get this guy to admit that he likes me and ask me on a date or something. he is in my class and i really like him and he may like e...idk though. how can i get him to notice me or something!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Um, you can't get a guy to admit that he likes you if you don't know if he likes you >.>
But there are two options...okay, three.
Have your friend or someone other than you tell him that you like him. OR you can tell him yourself [And wehn I say tell, you can either say it or write it in a note or IM him or e-mail him]
OR you can ask him out yourself to go to the movies [either with a group of friends or just you two]
Just talk to him a lot and just slip in that you like him/want to get to know him better/go watch a movie with him.
ok well i have a problem i have liked guy for almost 2 years and i cant get him out of my head...i cant to get over him i just dont know how.... all my friends have been telling me i need to but its not as easy as it looks and i feel they just dont get it. i am getting really annoyed with thm!!!!!!!pleze help me before i go crazzzzzyyyy!thanx
I know what you mean.
I still like a guy and this is what, my 3rd year in a row? No, make that 4 years. And it pretty much sucks when the guy gets a new gf every month if not every week.
The best thing you can do right now is to accept that he's your friend and that being a friend with him lasts longer than going out with him. In other words, friendships are longer lasting and safer than going out with him only to have him break up with you/vice versa later on. Just try and maintain a friendship with him.
I consider myself somewhat lucky because the guy I've been crushing on for 4 years and I are bffl like whoa =)
is there any way that you can make your info on aim unavailable to a certain group of people on your buddy list? i have the orriginal aim and my mom wants to get a screen name so she can have another way to contact me and my info has stuff in it that she wouldn't approve of so if i put her into a certain category on my buddy list can i make my info unavailable to her?
Sorry to say, but no.
You can block her entirely but you can't block her from accessing your buddy profile.
You can delete your profile or make a new sn that your mom doesn't know about.
My best friend [ which is a guy ] and I just had this huge fight. I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. And he listens to all my problems even if they dont include him. I listen to his too.
So, I was telling him what my boyfriend did to me. Which was kiss another girl when I was sittin next to him. My best friend got real mad at him and said he was going to talk to him. Then the next day my best friend was all " Im not going to talk to your boyfriend. I feel bad for him. He doesnt deserve you. " and he knows that really hurt me. I have no clue where that came from. and now my best friend wont even talk to me...
I dont know what happened.
:'[
Um, maybe it's the whole guy/guy thing where they stick up for each other no matter what? I don't know. Sounds cliche.
Well, first I'd like to say that you should breka up with your bf. I don't know if he was joking when he kissed the girl or what but either way, that wasn't a very bf like thing to do to you. And he doesn't deserve you. You're too good for him [that's what your bff probably meant by that]
Hmmm, I don't know. The best thing you can to is talk to him and ask him what he meant by feeling bad for your bf and why he doesn't deserve you. Perhaps he likes you and he's mad at you for still being with your bf even though he kissed another girl. Bleh. But don't assume that fully, okay? Just talk to your best friend and ask him what's up.
alright so last night i asked my boyfriend if he was ever in love and he said yeah and i was like do you still have feelings for her? and he was like i always will but its was over along time ago and always will be.
so in a way that got me thinking would he ever love me?
or always lover her?
what if she ever came back, would he leave me for her?
even though it was along time ago.
Was she his first love? Because I can tell you that you NEVER forget your first love, but that does NOT mean that you'll never love someone else as much, if not more.
So yes, he will love you if everything works out between the two of you, but he will still have feelings for her. But it doesn't mean that he won't truly love you. But don't pressure him to love you or anything.
And he won't leave you for her if he really is into you. And you've got to learn to trust him & just ask him straight out the questions you asked on here. If he has nothing to hide, he'd be glad to answer, I guess. =)
me and my boyfriend have been together for a couple weeks
but weve been talking for like 2 months. i trust him and everything but should i have sex with him?
or should i wait?
im not a virgin so its not like my frist time.
what should i do?
Personally, I would wait if I've known the guy for only 2 months.
But it differs from people to people and if you think you're ready and if he is ready, then go right ahead =) If you're having doubts about whether or not to do so, wait, because that probably means that you don't want to [yet] and seeing that you're asking whether you should or shouldn't have sex with him on here, it kind of points out that you might not be ready as much as you think you are. But who knows. Maybe you do want to have sex with him
I got my first piercings done when I was a few months old. When I was a preteen, I found out I was allergic to nickel earrings. Just like my mom :/ About 3 years ago, I got 6 more piercings. None got infected, I always cleaned them and it was fine. I decided to change the earrings because they were huge diamonds and hoops and I just wanted tiny studs. I also bought pretty earrings to wear and for the longest time it didn't bother me.. until last summer when my ears would get so itchy.
Well my right ear suffered because I had long nails and pretty much scratched it to death to the point where it was bleeding.. I had more piercings on that ear than my left because someone ripped out the middle piercing in my left ear all the way down.
So i kept scratching the right ear, reopening it and it healed once.. but i reopened it after putting an earring in it for a few hours [so the hole wouldn't close]. My ear started to get a rash. The whole time.. I put some lotion on it to dry it out and it works now. Is it bad that it took nearly a year to heal?
Also why are my bottom piercings itchy but not so much my cartilage? And where can I buy non-allergenic earrings? pretty ones and studs? my mom keeps buying me hoops and those are a pain to close.
My holes are closing so I'm planning to get them repierced.
Well, with the piercings that are bothering you, you should take them out and let it close up and take a breather from piercing your ears.
I don't know why your lobes are having problems and not your cartilage but you can go to your mall or go to a professional tattoo/piercing place to get earrings. Try Hot Topic or Piercing Pagoda [They're the two main place to get earrings where I live]. You might want to buy 14 Karat/18 Karat/24 Karat posts [they still have a little bit of nickle in them] Platinum has no nickle [platinum and iridium] but it's heavier than most metals. Titanium is light & no nickle. So ask for platinum or titanium earrings since they have no nickles in them whatsoever