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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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Ok so i'm 15 going into grade 10. I'm 5'10. Does the fact that i'm that tall bother guys? Like do they think it's unattractive

Well, it all depends on the guys.
My sister was 5'10" all throughout high school, believe it or not. But she still got asked out several times. But the problem was not that it bothered the guys but that it bothered my sister because they were shorter than her. Nevertheless there were few guys that were taller than her. Nowadays, it seems like a lot of guys are talller than they use to be which is a good thing for you =)

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I want to ask my mom about getting my cartilage pierced. I have 5 earrings now and I got them all before I was 12 so I am pretty sure she would be alright with this but I haven't asked her yet so I need some convincing points just in case.
I know piercing guns cause excess scar tissue and have a much higher risk of infection than needles do. Even if the gun hurts less I would rather just use a needle and be safe. I'm not sure how to go about finding a piercing parlor? I live near Philadelphia.
Anyway, everyone I have talked to said it didn't hurt much while being pierced, but then afterwards it was very sore. Is there anything I could do to cut back on the soreness after the piercing if I get it?
Thanks!

Well, since you got all 5 piercings before you were 12 and you still have all of them, it shows that you're responsible enough to handle old and new piercings =)

And with the soreness, take Advil before you get pierced. Put ice on it. Before you go to bed, take Advil again and make sure your head is propped up with pillows so that it is elevated above your heart =)

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im very good about keeping my room clean, except when i have friends over. we make a big mess and i know im suppose to clean up whatever im done with, but i dont want to when friends are over.

i dont mind cleaning it myself, but i was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on making cleaning my room more fun. or go faster.

i usually listen to music or something. and i get done after a few songs. and i sometimes watch t.v. and on commercials clean as much as i can.

so, if you have any more ideas, let me know please!

and sorry for such a dumb question.

Haha.
Well, cleaning rooms are not fun.
Basically, stay with one task. If you're cleaning up after cloths, clean up all the clothes. Don't start picking up clothes then suddenly move to your desk. If you move around from task to task, after an hour, you would've finished nothing and feel overwhelmed.

Break up your cleaning to certain times. 30min or 1hr should be fine. Clean for that long. Take a break. Clean for that long. Take a break. Etc.

Listening to music is always great. Try and stay away from distractions like the TV =P And you could even talk to someone on the phone while you clean. Perhaps a talkative person =)

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im a little confused about guys.
like how come their so obsessed about sex and everything?
im really curious and help would be nice :]
sorry if this is so stupid.

Hormones.
Puberty.
We all are at one point or another.
Regardless of gender.
Don't deny it lol

No question is stupid.. unless you're asking for the number for Santa or something.

But yeah. I don't want to be a sexist or anything but guys are guys. They're more attracted to sex than us girls are. It'll pass =)

~Emily
15/f

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im going to get my hair cut soon and i know what i want.
i want a choppy/jagged punky kinda of look. i dont want it short. i have medium length hair below my shoulders. my mom doesnt understand what i want and wants me to show her a picture. i have one picture but its small and not that great. so i need help finding a picture of a choppy haircut.

here is the picture i have.
http://i95.photobucket.com/albums/l142/ejuli/Hair/brownchoppy.jpg

http://www.aliciaway.tk/

Click Pictures link and it should be the 7th one.

Hehe.
My Chem fan here.
Alicia Way [simmons] is Mikey Way [bassist for My Chem and Gee Way's lil bro] wife =) She's gorgeous no matter what =)

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have any of you been in the situation where you have a really great guy friend and you laugh and have fun with them and you can be yourself around them? and you love to be around them and hangout? just talk about random stuff and but stupid with eachother and not mind to be the real you? then you get to thinking 'maybe i like him' or 'maybe i want to be with him' but then you think about kissing him and stuff and you just dont see yourself doing it? like, you think about it and your like 'no i dont see myself kissing him' or something? and it just seems wierd? well, thats the situation im in. he told me he likes me and everything and he wants to be with me and stuff. and hes asked me out. and i said 'lets wait and see, let me think about it' or something like that. the thing is, i think i waited too long. he has a girlfriend now. but he says he still likes me, and is waiting for me. help!

i need advice. what should i do? dont say 'go with what feels right' or something. have any of you been in this situation before? if so, then did you two get together and what happened with the relationship?

Hmm, where have I seen this situation before?
Oh, yes. Me =)
I have the exact same problem.
He's my best friend right now and I am so confused with him. Like I see him as the greatest guy friend ever but at the same time, I can't help but wonder if I still have feelings for him and what not.

I say that since he has a girlfriend, you lay low. And tell him that you don't want to risk the great friendship you guys have going on right now by going out. Tell him that you have mixed feelings for him and you can't really see yourself actually going out with him. Say that you'd really love it if you guys could stay friends because it lasts longer =)

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15/f

my friend's exboyfriend was really cute
and I liked him before she dated him
and it'll be a year in about a month and a half
that I have liked him and he's dating a girl I dont really like

before Feb. we talked almost everyday and he just stopped talking to me, now I see him every single day at band pratice and I don't know what to do, talk to him, ignore him, or just move on?

I say talk to him. Don't make moves on him, though

Wait. Back up. Ask your friend if she's okay with you being friends with him or more. If she says no, do you want to risk your friendship for a guy?

Anyways, talk to him and try to get a friendship going on. I tell you from experience that ignoring a guy that you've liked for so long is the worst idea ecver. You'll regret it. I know that I do. =/

Good luck

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i've never had a boyfriend, im 15 and i've kissed one person.....i really just want to have a boyfriend, that and to get more experienced, but, how?

Just be yourself.
You can't make yourself into some other person to have a guy like you because the guy wouldn't be liking you for you.
Don't worry. There's a guy for everyone and I'm sure you'll find yours soon, too.

Just don't be afraid to hide you nice, bubbly personality inside =) Talk to guys. I promise you that they don't have cooties. Flirt with guys you like. If they don't flirt back, there are hundreds of other guys out there =) don't let you lack of experience or a lack of returned back flirting discourage you. I'm sure there's at LEAST one guy that likes you and you don't even know it. There may even be two or three or who knows?

Haha. Well, I promise you that there is someone out there that likes you. Just keep your eyes open and you'll find someone =)

And tip: do NOT go out with someone because you feel bad for them or because you're desperate for one. I've been there and done that. It's not a pretty story.

~Emily
15/f

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I'm 15 and I'm female

well..I broke up with my last boyfriend on new years and he hasn't be the same so i was wondering what i should do..

he doesnt really talk to me much
my friends tell me he still likes me but
i dont want him to think i like and him and him starting asking me out..but still i want him to know im here but should i talk to him?
or stay quiet?

Ask him through the means of any chatting device or notes or in person:

Are we okay?
We're still friends, right?
I don't want the break up to end in a bad friendship and I hate to hurt anyone. Can we still be friends?

Let me tell you that having a bitter break up SUCKS. Haha. I've been there twice.

~Emily
15/f

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Does it really hurt to get a tattoo? Like, does it actually feel like someone drawing on your skin with a needle, or something like that? Just wondering; I'd really like to get a tattoo on my leg and I heard it's painful...?

Well, I have friends who got tattoos.
And from what I've heard, they hurt & can get very easily infected if you don't take care of it. One of them got a tattoo and he didn't take much care for it and it was so friggin nasty. lol

So if you don't mind tolerating pain and have advil or tylenol, you should be fine =)

~Emily
15/f

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I know the person I want to be, but I'm not totally sure on the route to take to become that person. I love those moments when I just disregard the thoughts of others, so I get the chance to be comfortable with who I am. I'm very kind to others and whatnot, so I don't have a reason to be insecure...I just feel awkward. I want to be able to embrace others more and not shy away from the hugs I'm offered. I don't want to be so alert anymore. I want to disconnect with my surrondings just a tad, so I can act naturally and not always question myself. I seriously need to relax and not be so uptight. How do I get to this point?

Haha. Well, I use to be that way until I met the most amazing girl and guy. Well, 2 guys?

Haha. Let's call them Fred, Bob, and Jill.
Fred and I've been friends since last year and we are inseparable at school. And I guess since he was so apathetic, I felt inclined to soften him up a bit? I guess that's when I became more "soft"? lol. Then I met Jill & she's a BIG HUGGER. I'm not kidding you when I say she's a hugger. She hugs people when she sees them and before she leaves them and I absolutly love her. And Bob is a big hugger, too. His hugs are a bit more energetic and twirly and what not.

So, what I'm saying is that it takes a little time to get relaxed with other people hugging you and what not. It took me like a year. Haha. So just go with the flow. The next time you're hugged, try and hug back. Try to find friends that are hugger =P

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Hi, i need some advice on what i should do about eating right... ok, a bit about me, im 14 and i run everyday to stay in shape for the track season, but my only problem is eating too much, and not of the right things


any advice?
thanks

Drink at least 8 cups of water everyday.
Try drinking warm beverages [water and tea mostly] because warm liquids make you feel full.

Store away the junk food where it's pretty annoying to reach. Get some fruits and veggies, cut them up into bite sizes and store them in separate baggies so you'll be more inclined to reach for them since they're ready to eat...oh, put them on the shelve that's about eye level.

Brush your teeth after each meal. Toothpaste + food is pretty much gross.

Good luck =)
~Emily
15/f

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I babysit these kids A LOT!! There is 1 two year old, one 3 year old, 1 one year old, and 1 eight year old. What kind of games can we play to not be so bored and just watch scooby doo 3000 times.

THANKS :D

I'm guessing the parents have been busy?
Haha. Well, 1, 2, 3, and 8 yr old. Whoa.

Okay, so Jack suggested good ideas:
Hide and seek
Tag
Go to the neighborhood pool
Play house maybe
Coloring
Puzzles
Why don't you bring your own movies?
Action figures/dolls
Duck duck goose
If the parents allow you, why don't you try baking something easy? Like have each of them pour in an ingredient and mix it up & afterwards, you can have the treat too =)

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me and my substitue teacher are really close friends. hes bout 40 and im 16. he is in the military and also does security at the mall and i visit him everday. he helps me with all my problems and is known around the city. all the kids love him. hes drivin me and my friends home a few times and he knows my mom. hes goin away to iraq soon and asked me if i wanted to go get chinese food on tuesday. weve been plannin this for a while and i have no problem with it. he knows i lvoe to drink and he jus recently asked me what kind of alcohol i want cz hes gunan get me some so i can dirnk. i kno its weird, but i am very close with him and he is leavin and i want to get suttin to eat. im jus wondering if i shood drink or not. i dont think he would everrrr try anything cz he knows my mom and is known around the town, and he busts drug dealers and works with the cops. please let me kno if u think i shood drink or not.

I say no.
You're not 21. You'll get in trouble.
His supplying the alcohol. It's illegal. He'll get in a shitload of trouble.
He is known around the town. Bad image.
40 and 16yr old...sounds a bit...you know.
He knows your mom...hmm, let's think about that. What if your mom finds out?

DON'T DRINK.

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hmm hi.
i'm just wondering if it's possible to lose about 60 pounds in a month.
and if so how?
PLEASE help would be GREAT.
:D

60 pounds in a month?
Unless you're going go fasting for a month or go get a liposuction, it's pretty much impossible. Even if you do fasting, it's impossible.

30 days in a month. That would mean you'd be losing 2 pounds a day. That's not very healthy if you live through it that is. So don't try to lose a gigantic amount of pounds in a short time. Make realistic goals dear.

Exercise & eat right. That's all I can tell you. If you want specifics, inbox me.

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I have the BIGGEST day of my life in two weeks! and i have this stomach and i need to get rid of it! its not big its small but is there any WAY i can get it to go away in 2 weeks! il work extra hard on anythin and like do 300 situps if i need to but i need to loose it in atleast 2 weeks!!so please any ways i can loose it in 2 weeks i will love you forever! haha and ill rate highh! to any advice please please im beggeg! and also if its like completely impossible then when is the shortest time i can get abs other then 2 weeks? Im hoping 2 weeks is a good enough time =] Thank you soo much in advance!!!

Ha. You're kidding with the 300 thing right? Unless you want to end up with serious back problems and throw up, I suggest you not do so.

Just as the columnist said below me: run.
Or just walking or jogging would be fine, too, although it won't burn as much fat as running will.
Don't push yourself with the running though! You will run out of breath too quickly and all that running for 5min won't be worth anything. So start off slow and increase your speed and remember to BREATHE. It usually takes 30-40min for your body to start burning STORED fat so you're gonna have to go at it with an exercise that takes 30min or more. Remember, it's better to jog or walk for 30+min than to run and fail within 5min. I suggest you run 1-2 miles every other day, if not everyday. Along with running, do other exercises like lunges, crunches, curl ups, push ups, weight lifting, etc. Don't push yourself because you're gonna be SORE the next day and for the rest of the week like whoa. Believe me, I've been there and it is not pretty.

Eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits. Stay away from junk food and beverages other than water and tea. Green tea has shown to boost your metabolism for a while. Drink 8 cups of water everyday...not all at once, of course. Try to eat foods that fill you up without adding much fat. Don't skip a meal and don't go on crash diets b/c your body will store fat.

Erm, some tips:
Cold water makes your body burn a little calories since your body needs to maintain its temperature and cold water lowers it.

Warm water/tea makes you feel full for a while

Brush your teeth after every meal. Toothpaste + food = yuck.

Celery, broccoli, apples, peaches, cherries, and a few specific foods are "negative" calorie foods. I mean, they do have calories but they're low enough that you actually burn like 20 calories. Example: an apple has 80 calories. It takes you 10 calories? to get it and get it ready to be eaten. And it takes about like 100 calories to digest it? So you do the math. But you can't live off of these foods for 2 weeks.

I doubt that you're going to see much results within 2 weeks, but hey, it's an effort, right?

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Im so scared im not going to have a friend next year, all my friends are going to be in seperate hombases!!!!!!!!!!!! I need tips on how to make friends because its hard in middle school,
THANKYOU!! :D

Haha.
I assure you that there is going to be at LEAST one person you'll meet. When I went into middle school, I had NO friends. The friends I had in elementry school all went to a different middle school, thus leaving me completely friendless. I basically made a friend in the first week or something like that. I'm still somewhat friends with her and I believe we were in the same homebase twice in a row =) That was super sweet.

I'm sure that your school has some kind of activities to do during hb or some kind of activity to get you guys to interact with each other. If not...well, you can always say hi to the person sitting next to you or whoever looks amicable. Don't worry. I've been through middle school and freshmen year of high school & I made friends who are seniors, juniors, and sad, but true: most of my friends are sophomores, well, rising juniors now. It's not hard to make friends in middle/high school unless you think/want it to be. Just relax, be yourself, and I'm sure there are going to be people you know or other people that are in the same situation as you are =) Good luck!

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I'm a loser and I failed out of school. I want to get into OXFORD, but they will not take me in. It is my dream to go inta oxfard or Harverd, and i is worried I will not make any moneyies later in the life of mine. What ame i going to do to get in?

Maybe you should've thought about that before you decided to slack off in school.

Oxford and Harvard are very prestigious schools with a lot of competition and it's going to be extremely hard to get in if you failed/dropped out of school.

The best thing you can do is try and find classes for adults that need high school diplomas and what not. Get your diploma then get into a community college. And that's where you start. Get a job [fast food, CVS, wherever] and earn enough money to get your through a community college. Then from there, you can restart building your life. It's never to late to accomplish something you want really bad.

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im a vegetarian (the only one in my family) so i need some help here.
can anybody give me some really good tofu recipes?
thanks =]

Haha, you're like me =)
I'm the only vegetarian in my family, too.
I pretty much cook my own food.
Don't focus everything on tofu, though. Eat some beans =P Erm, yeah.

I don't know if these will appeal:
Slice the tofu up into a square about 1/4 inch thick, sprinkle salt over each and let it soak up the salt while you heat a THIN layer of oil in a pan. And you basically put the tofu in there in one layer, let it get crispy and golden. Then turn and wait for the other side to do so. & you can eat it with salad or something like that =)

I don't know too many tofu recipes. But allrecipes.com is an AMAZING site. Just search for recipes that call for tofu and you'll get a bunch of them =) Try using the advanced search on there. Type in tofu for the ingredients you want and check the box next to vegetarian. You'll get hundreds of recipes. =) If you have any more questions, I'm your vegetarian to go to =P

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Okay, I just made a new website for teens. Well, actually, I moved the original website to a new one and made a bunch of changes to try to make it look more "teenish"...

Please honestly critique it and tell me what you think.

www.freewebs.com/bt4t

Okay, the music....
Yeah, not really going great for me.
I think you should just get rid of the music since there is no one type of music that everyone likes.

The font, you should make it more bubbly...if that makes sense...

I've noticed that on the home page, it says Click here if.... blah blah bah. I tried to click it...it didn't lead me to anywhere...lol

Make those fonts smaller & try and add more bright, fun colors to it =)

Other than that, I think you have a pretty good site going on there =)

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