im a 15 yr old chick and i absolutely love this guy (whos 18)with all my heart, and he likes me too we hook up all the time and its like were in a full on relationship except for he wont 'go out' wit me, he says he doesnt want to make it official because he doesnt want a hardout relationship. we recently had a fight and he said he didnt want to see me anymore, a day later hes saying im sorry im sorry i made a mistake will u forgive me!? but the thing is i have got really sick and i wont b able to 'do' anything for a couple of weeks, so then he says well.. were just friends then hey? im all better now and i still love him he came over last night coz were 'friends' now and before he left i told him how i felt about him and he said he still liked me too. i dont know if it should b like it was because every now and then he treated me badly, he stuffed me round all the time and i never knew where i stood with him, he wont commit but im not allowed to see other people so long as were seeing each other. im not happy with those conditions but i cant live without him, i wish he would change but he never will what should i do?
You deserve much better than this guy is willing to give you. You've said it yourself - he treated you badly, and he won't give you the commitment you want.
I know its hard to make a break from somebody you are involved with and have a history with, but it will be better for you in the long run if you leave this bad relationship before you get hurt. The sooner you get out of this bad cycle with this guy, the sooner you can find somebody who loves you in return and treats you as you deserve to be treated. Good luck.
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i have a question about pop-ups, and i didnt kno which category it was under. do yu guyz have those pop-ups and itz like 'shoot the monkey and win a free laptop'? well, do yu actually win with those things? or are they just there...
thx! =)
Things that sound too good to be true usually are. Although there are, of course, some genuine prizes that can be won in life, these are a rarity. Pop-up ads that flash and proclaim you've won unbelieviable prizes are probably just tactics to get personal details or money ("okay, now you've won, we just need a $10 cheque to cover postage and packing").
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My mom says I may have mono! What is mono and how can i cure it?! I am going to the doctor's today! And i'm a singer and I have aperformance next week do u think i will be able to perform by then or not??
The first step is to go to the doctors and have them check you out, as many bugs can have symptoms similar to the mono virus (tiredness, having a sore throat, general malaise) without actual being the virus. You'll need a blood test to confirm whether you have the virus or not. If you do, unfortunately it's unlikely that you'll be better for your performance, and it's important not to push yourself before your body is ready as this will actually slow your recovery. All you can do is rest, rest, rest and do the normal things like get plenty of fluids. I hope you feel better soon!
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This is a double question so apologies if it's long. There's a guy on my tennis team that i've been friends with since freshman year (i'm a sophomore) and lately I think he likes me. At a tournament, for example, one day he carried my bag for me, saved me a seat on the bus? *yeah it was wierd*, and had his arm around me for only like half a minute, my friends on the team say he likes me but does he? And if he does I don't really like him much in that way. If he does what do i do?
It certainly sounds like he likes you, although it is possible that saving you a seat on the bus was just a friendly act.
As for what you should do, I think you need to send clear signals. You can be friendly, but if you think something is flirtacious and crosses the line of what's normal friendly behavoiur, like putting his around you, make it clear that you aren't happy with that. You can try to do that non verbally by, for example, moving away slightly if he's getting to close, as this avoids the akward 'I'm sorry, this makes me a bit uncomfortable because I don't like you that way...' type conversation, but if he doesn't take the hint just having a polite but honest conversation with him might be necessary. It might be a bit akward, but it's better than letting him get the wrong idea and having to have the same conversation further down the line. Good luck!
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My bf is 17 and his penis is bent quite a bit to the right is this a normal thing?
he's a bit insecure about it.
I would say that it's normal and not something he should worry about, but it depends on how severe it is. I would say it was only a potential problem if it affects his performance. If he's really paranoid about it though, you could advise him to see a doctor just for reassurance that it's fine. Otherwise though, I'd just concentrate on reassuring him yourself by telling him that it doesn't bother you and that there are many other things about him that are much more important then the size/shape of his genitals. Good luck.
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well i have been going out with my boyfriend for a month now and i really want to make out with him but i have never kissed anyone before i am 13/f and i don't really know how to makeout with someone and i'm worried that i might do it wrong and he won't like me anymore because he has made out with girls before and i haven't. can you tell me what to do?
There are no "instructions". It's just about enjoying yourself and doing what feels natural to you.
It's natural to be a little nervous when it's new, but it is much easier if you just relax. Wait for the right moment when there's a spark between you and you know that you both really want to kiss, and slowly move in. Start off slowly and gently, then progress, seeing what you enjoy. Don't go further than you want or are comfortable with, but do just enjoying touching each other and being close to each other. That's what it's all about!
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last year, me and this boy wer boyfrend-girlfriend.In the beginning of June, he dumped me for this girl.Today in school my grade went outside to play. He kept hanging around close to me. He did that when he liked me.he just ran around with his friends near me a lot. I waz thinking Does he like me? Right afret that, we ate in the lunchroom. We're in seperate classes and my table is right next to his. That day instead of sitting next to the girl he dumped me for, the girls friend and his friend, he sat with this boy he never sat with before. They werent even friends.But he was sitting the closest he could 2 me.if he sat with all his friends, he would be sitting farther away from me. Then I thought-did he just sit with that guy s o he could sit near me? then doues he like me?
Also, he's always looking at me wen i'm not looking at him. he also talks about me 2 his friends (but he mighyt be talkin bad or good about me).My best friend is in his class. So that day, i was talking 2 her a lot and he looked at me a lot and listened to our conversation a lot too. Also, a few days ago,he came and sat in my table talkin to this guy in my class that he like Never talked to before! Does he like me???
Note: I still like him!
You sound very young to have a boyfriend. Why not just talk to him if you like him? It sounds like he could well like you back. One of you just needs to make the effort, get past the embarssment and just talk. It won't be nearly as bad as you think, and if he likes you as I suspect he does, getting back together could be on the cards.
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my parents get mad at me whenever i say something about religion that doesnt agree with their views. they tell me im to young to have an opinion about that kind of stuff. and i do. and im not that good at communicating. so should i just tell them that i believe in god? even though i have doubts?
thanks.
It's okay to have doubts about your faith sometimes. It shows that you are thinking about things and forming opinions of your own, which is much better than believing something without question just because thats what you've been taught. If you parents tell you that you shouldn't be thinking such thoughts, politely tell them the truth, that you think you do believe in God still, but you are exploring and questioning your beliefs because you feel it's a necessary part of getting to know both God and yourself.
If you know you aren't good at communicating well on these sensitive topics, then always take a few seconds to think before you speak. It is okay to ask and question, but you need to think about how things sound to avoid causing offence or upset. Try not to ever say things out of anger at how you are treated (such as your parents not 'allowing' you to question God) as this will only make things worse.
Good luck, for both finding the right spiritual path for you and getting your parents to accept you and it.
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Hey!I was wondering if you can get colored contacts even if you don't need them because I only want to change the color of my eyes.Also, I would like to know if I would have to make an oppointment with an optomitrist(sorry about the spelling)before I get them?Thanks!
Yes, it is possible to get coloured contact lenses even if you don't have a pescription. You'll need to be shown at the opticians how to put them in (and remove them!) as this is quite difficult to master. Good luck!
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I'm 14 i have bluish green eyes, long dark hair, and tan skin. although i have been told by guys that i am pretty, they all say they could never date me because of my body. i am 5'8 130 LBs (a size two pants) with a size B cup. i have never met a guy who liked tall girls. i am starting to get selfsonscience. HELP!
You'll find somebody one day who likes you for who you are. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your body. Young guys might just be a little intimidated because of their own self-esteem problems, because the media presents this idea that the guy should always be taller and stronger than the girl. If the guys you speak to are just shallow then ignore them. If on the other hand they're just nervous about feeling small next to you then it's possible to set them at ease and help them realise how little it matters by not making an issue of your or their height, and laughing it off if they try and make an issue of it. Good luck!
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hey, I just realised you're from england...and hardly anyone on this site is. out of interest, where in england?
Well, I'm from London, but I'm currently at university in Manchester (which is towards the north of England) - the rainiest city in the country! At heart though, I'm still a London girl. :)
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i want to wear a strapless bra do they hurt casue i havnt worn one b4 lol isnt this stupid but i wnat to no and do they feel the same?
i dont no where to put this but ya!
You tend to buy strapless bras on the small side, as they need to be tight to stop them from slipping down. That can make them a tad uncomfortable, but you get used to them.
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ok i have liked this guy on and off for 4 years but i have never told him and it wants any deep feelings or anythign and we have classes this year and i told him that i liked him today cuz we were passing notes and he asked me who i liked and i told him i liked him even tho i know a friend of a friend likes him. after he read that he smiled and said we should hangout more cuz we never do.and that he thought i liked his friend. and then some other guys. i am not sure what to make of it cuz guys tell me this crap all the time but nothing ever happens and i need a good distraction right now! + he is way cute and oh so funny and like he just got doen saying on aim while i am typing this
d**********(10:02:10 PM): LISA
get back here this instant!
d********** (10:05:40 PM): i got to go now
d********** (10:05:43 PM): ill talk to you later
d**********(10:05:45 PM): night sexy lady
i understand it means nothign and i am not trying to make something out of nothing but i dont know i love flirting with him cuz he is cute and funny and uhhh yeah so tell me guys i already did something i wouldnt normally do.
any thoughts or comments would be verry nice
His behaviour is quite flirtacious, so he might well like you back. Don't over-analyse everything - just get to know him better by hanging out with him, and see how things develop. Good luck!
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whenever i see a really hot guy i think about us making out or having sex. i know it sounds really weird but is there something wrong with me?
That's what being a hormonal teeange will do to you. Having fantasies is perfectly normal. If you were driven to act them out and chased random men, I might be concerned, but this doesn't sound anything like what your experiencing, which is just a normal part of growing up and understanding your sexuality. Don't worry about it - you can keep your sexual fantasy and reality as far apart as you like.
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ok well this is kind of wierd/hard to explain i guess. my ADOPTED sister got married the first of this month. we adopted her when she was about 23 or 24. odd I know, its a very long story lol. anyways yea she got married the first of this month and the guy has 3 kids and one of them is a boy. hes my age and i like him alot, i have no clue why but i do. she knows and the rest of the kids know and so does my so called " step brother in law " so yea so yea i have no clue what to do. I know he would never like me but i swear i cant get him off my mind. But i mean I would feel so freaking wierd dating my " sisters " step son! Hes not really friendly ya know. Lol, he doesnt talk to me at all. And hes in trouble alot, he sneaks out of the house and stuff. I cant talk to him because im so shy. I turn red when someone says something about him. But like I dont mean hes mean like " Get away from me " or anything. But around me and stuff he isnt talkative. So yea do you guys know what I should do? I dont get to see him often because hes harldy ever home. But like I dont think I could talk to him. So any ideas?? Thanks, If you need more explaination tell me. Also I hardly know him. Lol
It generally isn't a good idea to get involved with a family relative (even if it's a distant or non-blood relation) simply because its going to stir up a lot of weirdness and things would be very uncomfortable between you if you ever broke up badly and then had to continue to get along in a family setting.
Set up some boundaries. Get to know him a bit as a friend, but don't push it too far or this could re-awake your crush. Hopefully in a short amount of time things will naturally calm down and you'll just see him for what he is - a nice enough guy, I'm sure, but not somebody you should be involved with. Good luck!
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Hey there's this sophmore girl that I like... she's going to be 17 in Jan... (I'm a 14 yr. old freshman male) well anyways we've hung out and stuff, and with our other friend, but yeah I guess I kind of like her... and my friend was speaking to her and then I said what and then she's like oh... well I would probably like you if you we're older than me... and I was like oh... ok and I was kind of sad... I mean she just like told me this out of the blue haha... but anyways, my question is how can I get her to like me more??
To be absolutely honest, there's a lot of difference between the maturity of a 14 year old and a 16 year old. This girl probably doesn't want to date somebody who's much younger and presumably less mature than her. You can either accept that and move on, or try and show her that, although you are young, you aren't immature. One assumes that this girl finds you sufficiently mature to be on the same level as her as a friend, so perhaps you don't have to convince her of all that much to convince her you could be boyfriend material. Don't attempt to act like you are much older than you are, but just try to be chilled and generally on top of things and hopefully she'll see the older guy inside of you. Good luck!
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A friend of mine and i went to the movies the other night, and as were pulling up, i see the guy i like standing next to a car down the lot. I was getting all excited when he stood up, and then i saw what he was holding, and i was repulsed. In one hand, he was holding a lit joint, and in the other, a half empty bottle of vodka. I had no idea he did these things!! And i have my values..i try not to associate with ppl who do harm to themselves in such ways. Even though his lifestyle goes against my beliefs, i cant seem to get over my feelings for him. I just dont how to do it. How do i 4get this guy?
You could try being open minded and get to know him despite his habbits, or you could just accept that his drinking etc makes you completely incompatible and find somebody else.
How much of an issue are these things for you? Can you see yourself spending time without him without feeling, in your own words, "revulsed"? If you can't even imagine this, then just steer clear of him. If however that was just your initial reaction and you think you could in fact get along with him and put his disagreeable habits to one side, then maybe proceed with caution - but from the sound of your post, I'd say that isn't likely. There's no formula for just getting over people - just try having fun on your own with your friends. Once your content and having fun by yourself you'll start noticing there are lots of great, avaliable guys out there who are far more compatible with you and your belief system. Good luck!
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Ok .. i SUCK at cooking.. i try SO hard to bake cookies, cakes, and brownies but i cant they taste soo bad!! idk wat to do.. PLEASE HELP!
Baking can be great fun and end up with delicious results. Start with something really simple like a basic Victoria sponge recipie (see http://thefoody.com/baking/victoriasponge.html)to make fairy cakes in individual containers. These don't take long to prepare or bake (they should take less time than a recipe for a full-sized cake would, as your cooking small blobs) and as you grow more confident with the basic steps you can make them more interesting by adding things like chocolate, coffee or orange, and experimenting with types of icing to put on top. Good luck!
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i just recently had sex and im worried im pregnet...what are some signs that your pregnet?
The most obvious sign would be a skipped period. I've never been pregnant, so I can't answer from experience, but my mother said the first thing that really struck her as being different was that her sense of smell became really exaggerated.
These are not really reliable indicators, though. Stress can and frequently does make your period late, and it's hard to tell whether that strange queasy feeling you had is a) stress b) just a bug or c) actually morning sickness. The only way to know for sure is a pregnancy test. It's worth it for the peace of mind, I promise.
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Can I Give My Kitten Infants Tylenol?
That doesn't sound like a good idea. Even if it's okay to give the drug, you'd have no real idea of what dosage would be appropriate. It just isn't worth risking giving your pet an overdose - take it to the vets if your worried, and see what they have to say about medication. If they say it's okay and give you some dosage guidlines, then go ahead, but until then I'd err on the cautious side.
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