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I couldnt believe what was in his hand
A friend of mine and i went to the movies the other night, and as were pulling up, i see the guy i like standing next to a car down the lot. I was getting all excited when he stood up, and then i saw what he was holding, and i was repulsed. In one hand, he was holding a lit joint, and in the other, a half empty bottle of vodka. I had no idea he did these things!! And i have my values..i try not to associate with ppl who do harm to themselves in such ways. Even though his lifestyle goes against my beliefs, i cant seem to get over my feelings for him. I just dont how to do it. How do i 4get this guy?
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The best way you can get over this guy....Is find sum1 a lot better than him...You can meet good guys at a church? There is always a lot of guys out there that have better expectations then him.
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First of all I wanted to tell you that I think it's great that you are sticking to your values. You made the right choice. It is so easy to get pulled into doing drugs and drinking if you hang out with people who do things like that. When you start thinking about him, just try to remind yourself that he's not who you thought he was, that you have different values and that you guys most likely wouldn't work out anyway.
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I think yOu shOuld talk to him abOut hOw you feel..Of cOurse..yOu can`t just say "StOp drinking and smOking!!" bUt yOu caN teLL him thaT thOse facTorz affecT hOw yOu feeL fOr hiM..yOu wOn`t jusT FoRqeT him anD mOve On..yOu likEd him befOre you knew abOut it-why not after?? There are such thinqsz as exeptiOnz and when you feel fOr sOmeone like this..they are an exception!-Tiffany
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hey well first off try to remember that hes a nasty guy ..you know with all that shit that he does..and then think about yourself..and how if you ended up eit him how it could effect your life and maybe mess it up like that..and when you do that..you dont just effect yourself but everthing..like family and school and how people look at you..you shouldnt have to change for anyone..and if its for the worse..then just forget it..your better than him and deserve better than that shit..you naw mean? well good luck wit it..peace!
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I no this is hard and it happens 2 every1 but u just need 2 move on, find another guy 2 crush on
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You could try being open minded and get to know him despite his habbits, or you could just accept that his drinking etc makes you completely incompatible and find somebody else.
How much of an issue are these things for you? Can you see yourself spending time without him without feeling, in your own words, "revulsed"? If you can't even imagine this, then just steer clear of him. If however that was just your initial reaction and you think you could in fact get along with him and put his disagreeable habits to one side, then maybe proceed with caution - but from the sound of your post, I'd say that isn't likely. There's no formula for just getting over people - just try having fun on your own with your friends. Once your content and having fun by yourself you'll start noticing there are lots of great, avaliable guys out there who are far more compatible with you and your belief system. Good luck!
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Think of it this way, if u mess with this guy, then you're gonna be in that world, and that's somewhere you don't wanna be. Yeah, all kinds of people do this, but you don't, and that's the point. Get ur mind away from him. Try to keep urself busy is the best advice, and if you find urself thinking about him distract urself anyway you can.
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ok he may do things you dont aprove of but that doesnt mean you have to forget about him. if you are as strong as your beliefs then he wont have any kinda of influence on you so you have nothing to worry about... shesh
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It takes time, you'll find another guy to like soon! And he'll be better times 5. And just think about what he does! Gross huh? Yup..nasty..
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