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Q: there's these two guys that I like lets say ones name is Bob and the other 1's name is Jeff well me and bob have been dating on and off for about 2 years i like him so much...id do anything to make him happy and i mean anything but since my grades were going down because i was paying more attention to him then my homework. Well me and bob decided to break up for a while until my grades pull up... Bob lives in texas down in corpus chrisi and there was a huricane down there his friends talked to me and told me that he said he hated me and i havent hear from him since. That is until today. Well since his friends told me that he said he hated me this other kid asked me out and i said yes. Well this other kid's name is jeff and i kinda like jeff...he comes to my house and we hang out alot. He likes me too. I don't know what to do i really love Bob and well i know im too young to say that (im 14) but i really do love him and id do anything for him well i dont want to hurt jeffs feelings and i want to make bob happy i have no idea what to do! SOME1 PLZ HELP ME ILL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ADVICE!

It sounds like jeff would treat you better. He doesn't talk crap about you behind your back to his friends. So get over bob, your 14 it may seem like love but its not. all bob's gonna do is use you, belive me Ive gone through it. stay with jeff.

Q: Flirting...wow i am soo confused what flirting is and what some examples of flirting are...could anyone help me out please?

Flirting can be almost anything it can be hair twirling, smiling, or teasing. But flirting isn' just something you do with tha guy you like every1 u meet. like when you joke around with a friend that's a type of harmless flirting. I hope this helps.
Bad_gurl

Q: my boobs are always dry and itchy and there are black marks on them. why is that? and what should i do?

U should get some anti-itch cream and apply it every day. About the black marks I'd c a doctor.

Q: I have this one friend, but she gets really annoying sometimes. She'll talk on and on, and i never get a chance to say anything, and im not the quiet type. She always dominates the conversation, and is always being bossy. Most of my friends think she's annoying too, but i dont want her to have no friends, but also dont want to be her friend out of pitty. what can i do?

If she's controling and bossy she doesnt deserve friends. Don't hang w/her because she won't have if u don't. Eventually she'll realize that she needs to change

Q: well theres this guy that ive been dating for like the past 2 months or so and we both really like each other and we liked that we were dating but not officially b/f and g/f.. well ive decided that i like him enough to be with him but he says he still doesnt want a g/f and see im 14 and hes about to turn 18 ( tomorrow actually ) and about to graduate so i mean for one im jailbate or whatever you wanna call it and hes about to move on and i can kinda understand why he doesnt want a g/f but then at the same time he always says he doesnt care if i go on a date with another guy but whenever he even thinks i might like a diff guy he gets jealous and he calls me his baby and everyone associates us together so i dont know what to do -- ive talked to him about it before and hes just said he doesnt have the answers.. all he knows is that hes really grown to care for me and trust me but he isnt sure he wants a g/f right now.. what should i do? wait around or give up?

have u ever seen bring it on? because hes an Aaron. ur only fun until he can get away and find bettter booty. tell him to get goin

Q: OMG i have this huge problem i have this boyfreind taht im absoulty in love with! i would do anyhitng to be with him every second of mi life ! and if im not with him im not havin fun and if im not on hta phone with him im not havin fun! if im without him im tahinking about him and i dont kno whut to do mi cousin is 16 and she is tha same way and now all she does is hang out with her boyfreind! and she never does anyhting with her freinds OR ME and now im becomeing like that but tha thign is a cant control it it feels soo good to be around him
IS this ok whut can i do to help this
!!! IM CRAZY BOUT HIM !!!!
ps: me and him r really colse on our 2nd day goin out we kissed 5 made out adn now all we do is that im afraid of whut might happen next!
Plz HelP ASAP

gurl snap out of this hes just a guy i have sayin "ho's b4 bro's" which means that ur friends and family should come first i mean come on he could dump u in 3 months the world doesnt revolve around him. the reason u feel this way is probably because u feel needed but going crazy wont help beleive me ive been there and once he got what he wanted he was gone so dont get 2 attached

Q: Hi, there is this guy i like and i think he mite like me cuz we danced a lot, about a month ago, and he sorta follows me around school and one time he and his friends were sorta all lookin at me and pushin him towards me almost. anyway, i wanna go and try and talk to him but im really shy and he is too. Is there a way i can start up a good convo wit him and keep it goin, cuz heh doesn't talk much..tnx

find out an intrest that both of u have like music, go up to him and ask him his opinion on a cd that way it starts a convo and it makes him feel needed

Q: Hi well i love playing the piano but i hate goin to lessons. I just HATE lessons. Does any1 kno how to make myself want to go to lessons?

u cant get over it

Q: Okay well i recently went out with this guy that i really liked and he dumped me and we have been fighting for a while so yeah we have saying these horrible things to eachother. So yeah today i went back toschool and everyone was saying that he wants to go back out with me so one of my friends asked him if it was true and he said he wanted to talk to me and so I did and he said that he still liked me. So yeah lil did i know he has been going out with a psycho gurl ever since he dumped me. I kinda knew he was but he said that he broke up with her and that he wanted to go out with me and so yeah he has been asking me and so even though i want to its like i dont know and so his girlfriend came up to me today and said why was i tryin to take her man and i said that he told me that he broke up with her and she didnt believe me and so yeah she wanted to fight me and then i said no i wasnt gonna fight because it would have been 3 against 1 and my friends werent even there for me and so i got jumped and now they are very mad and i dont know what to do!!!!!PLZ help!!!!

how do u wanna fight? if u wanna do it derrty get more of ur friends and some of ur family and kick their asses, if u wanna stay out of trouble go to an adult if that doesnt work go to tha police

Q: Is Wiccan like some cult thing?

No its not a cult its just another religion it doesnt mean ur going 2 hell plus some people dont even beleive in god or the devil so it depends on what u beleive

Q: How do you go on after infidelity?

u kick ass if ur husband cheated on u he needs his ass kicked and it will make u feel better, also have a lil "talk" with the gurl 2

Q: Sorry this is long, i rate high though! :)

The guy i used to date over the summer on and off started REALLY hitting on me last night. He practically offered for me to have sex with him (dont worry, i wouldnt have sex, but i could tell he wanted to do something with me) Then he told off this person for me that was pissing me off. And he said i owed him one. And I asked what he wanted from me. And he said he wanted to make out with me. (Keep in mind this was online so we couldnt have made out right then and there) So i said ok, because i still have feelings for him. Then a little later i asked if he liked me, or just wanted to make out with me. And he said "I dunno, never thought about it..." What do you think about all of this? Should i go for it?

gurl he is just playin u dont make out with him he'll expect more.
bad_gurl

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. We have our own home and we are usually happy. BUT sometimes we fight. When we fight I get an urge that lasts a really long time. Sometimes I want to leave so bad, but I never do. How do I get the strength to leave somebody I love even if it is the right thing for both of us. ( I am 19 he is 27 ) PLEASE HELP

ok all u need 2 do is pack your stuff and leave, that urge u feel is the feeling that tells u that u can do it u just needed some1 2 tell u how strong u really r

Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for a few months now but weve known and liked eachother for about a year...well we r really close n i decided to tel my parents about him and ive met his parents n stuff already...well 2dae i went to the movies with him and his family n his dad brought me home n dropepd me off and my bf walked me to the door...well my mom was like
"OH CAN I MEET UR PARENTS??" n my bf was like sure..and he walked her to his car...and i was like NO mom omg i cant believe u!1 and now i feel stupid! im scared to talk to him now bc im scared he mite think im a loser or watever for having my MOM go meet and talk to his parents and me standing ther having a lil fitt....wat can i do? idk im so embarassed im like not wanting him to call...=\

its perfectly normal 2 feel this way it happens 2 every1 dont worry he'll call if he really likes u

Q: so wat did MR. M say?

he said that i needed to tell my mom
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Q: Ok. So I'm a junior and I like this guy whos a senior. I have a sister whos a senior and she told this guy that I wanted him. The guy told my sister that I was fine as h*ll and asked why i never talk to him or ask him for his number. well that was 2 weeks ago nand then my sister told me this weekend that he said: why dosent your sister ever come and talk to me? well... i see him all the time and he never talks to me either.... so what sould i do? should i wait for him to talk 2 me? should i talk 2 him (i'm kinda shy around guys i like) or wHat? haha thanx!

just talk 2 him u cant let the guys make the first move

Q: My friend, lets call her tyisha, she is such a retard and needs help so what should I do
signed- friend of retard

Look i cant help u if i dont n y shes a retard so give me a better question MISS MARY CATHERAN TAYLOR VON SWEARINGER DUARTE

Q: My friend just broke up with her boyfriend of 8 months!me and her never hung out because they were together everyday! and now that they broke up shes with me everyday and has nuthing to do i guess and it doesnt seem fair!but now her n this kid like each other and will probably go out soon...and now shes always hanging out with him and not with me n i dno it bugs me! there is more too it but this is already too long...PLEASE help...wut should i do!?

ur friend needs 2 realize that friends come first because bois arent always gonna b there. just tell her hos b4 bros

Q: my boyfriend always calls me sayin "oh me and ____ were flirting again today"..and then the whole story like i wanna hear about that b.cz last time he did this we broke up so he could get with some girl (he didnt) then we hooked back up so i think were gunna break up so they can hook up and then when their done its back to me...whats he doin??? and then hes like "she rly rly cute but ur better"..which i dont belive bcz we dont go to the same school so i dont kno her and i wanna talk to him about this but i dont know how i mean if were gunna break up juss so he can get with sum other gurrl then i shouldnt stay with him right?? what should i do?

Gurl this guy is using u 4 in between his flings move on hes not worth the time if he wants to do shit like that play back

Q: A friend of mine and i went to the movies the other night, and as were pulling up, i see the guy i like standing next to a car down the lot. I was getting all excited when he stood up, and then i saw what he was holding, and i was repulsed. In one hand, he was holding a lit joint, and in the other, a half empty bottle of vodka. I had no idea he did these things!! And i have my values..i try not to associate with ppl who do harm to themselves in such ways. Even though his lifestyle goes against my beliefs, i cant seem to get over my feelings for him. I just dont how to do it. How do i 4get this guy?