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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I mean really? Lately, and before people have started stuff saying my boy friend was cheating, or doing something wrong, when he's not the type..and I'm tired of it.
I want it to stop, because it's making me so paranoid ..and I already worry so much.. I love my boy friend and we've been dating a year and 4 months I'm not ready to let go..
How do you deal with this?
Sometimes people pawn on the fact that there is happiness, trust etc. The fact people go around spreading rumors is a sign of jealousy. If you and your boyfriend are a strong couple then you two should be strong enough to ignore what other people say. Stop being paranoid about it, It is only giving them what they want. Trust him, Trust your relationship and most of all communicate with him and you to will continue to have that bond.
So recently, I have been dating this guy. My last boyfriend and I recently broke up too, but we're friends.
I really like this new guy. He's funny, quirky, adorable, and smart. We spent the whole day together on Saturday, and I'm seeing him today.
But I feel weird. I mean, he doesn't have a cell so we talk on yahoo and Facebook a lot. But lately he's been taking a long time to answer and when he does respond he just writes one word replies. Starting to get skeptical about this. Although he treats me very kind in person, I feel left out when we're talking through the computers. I feel like he doesn't like me. He spent so much time chasing me and flirting with me, but now, I feel like the thrill is gone for him. And another thing, he's super clingy. Always all over me when I see him, all cuddly and stuff, and I think it's cute but it's startin to get uncomfortable. Sometimes I think he just wants me for sex...
Should I be concerned? What should I say to him?
Talk to him, Express how you feel. The only true way to find out what he is in for is to test him by asking him questions. You want dirt on someone sometimes you gotta dig for it. On the other hand maybe he is just not really a computer person? Perhaps he would rather see and talk to you in person than over the internet. If he is in for sex then he would normally always talk about it, Ask for it or "hint it" if you really want to know..Then hold off on it for a while and don't rush things if he is willing to wait a little bit then your good to go but if he's pushy on the subject...Eh I don't know.
Okay , so i told you about kyle twice in asking you a couple of questions . So i've come to realize its never going to work , EVER ! im giving up on love , i feel like ' Fuck Love , Im Done Trying ' i don't know what i else i could do to get his attention anymore at all or just with any boy i don't know . . . its like if im not ugly than why won't anything good happen for me my personality is great so why !! i just quit on life i've been feeling that way for a while . . . and you guys are probably judging me not that i care with you perfect little lives . i Give UPP . please don't say talk go talk to a friend no will understand .
Look, Love just doesn't always happen when you want it too. You have to be patient and stop trying so hard. Sometimes when a girl tries to hard to get a guys attention they actually end up doing the opposite because it scares them off to the point where the intentionally try ignoring you.
If you tried to get his attention gradually and it didn't work then obviously the guy is just not into you. Find someone else who likes you for who you are but maybe you should take a break for a little while before you attempt again and next time don't go overboard.
I recently broke up with my first boyfriend, and I just had to because I felt we were growing apart, even though he had went on vacation. Now I'm really upset and have cried a little bit, and I think I miss him! He was really upset today, the first day after spring break and told me he wanted me back, even though our break up was 2 fridays ago. Although, a big part of me really wants him back, but then again, I dont know if I should just let go, considering the fact that we will be going to different schools next year, I am SO confused, please help me.
Sometimes people need time apart, Spending all your time together with your partner can drain the spark.
You gave little description on your relationship with your ex, Why did you feel you were growing apart? Do you really think the reason is fixable?
You stated you two will be attending two different schools next year, Will you be able to handle the pressure of being apart?
Sometimes breakup are a bitch but life does go on even in the worst cases. Aside from missing and wanting him back, Is it really worth it the time and effort..That's the main question.
So, on Tuesday I got my rook pierced. All very clean, professional, they used a hollow needle, I've been there before, blah blah blah. But on Wednesday, the bottom ball of my barbell fell off. I couldn't screw it back on because a) the rook is in a really awkward place and b) it was tender from JUST being pierced. I ended up going back to the piercers' the same day so they could fix it. My piercer screwed the ball back on but in the process had to twist my ear super painfully to get it tight and to make sure that it would stay on. Since that day (it is now Sunday)my ear has been red, puffy, and extremely tender. I'm terrified that I've gotten an infection. I'm doing all the recommended sea salt soaks and cleaning it. I've never seen any pus, nor has it bled. I just have the normal "crusties" that are light yellow. But it hurts worse than any piercing I've had. I would go back to my piercer and ask him to take a look at it, but the place is REALLY far away and sort of an inconvenience to drive to. So, do you guys think the piercer just irritated it (maybe tore it a bit)? Or could it be infected? :(
Sometimes there are certain places that just can't be pierced for certain people.
I've had my nose,lip and eyebrow etc. Some worked out and some didn't.
A rook piercing can take up too a year to fully heal, If you are experiencing some serious pain then more than likely your piercing is infected and needs to be taken out.
I had my nose pierced several years ago, This sounds like the same problem I had. I went back to the place and the dude told me...Some people just can't have certain piercings and sorry to tell ya dude but I don't think the rook piercing is feeling ya...
Me and this guy has been friends for a while, and yesterday he invited me to go to the movies with group of people and he paid for my ticket because I did not have any money and it was a scary movie,
we sat next to eachother and the movie we were watching was really scary, so I held his arm
and then after that i held his wrist and next thing you know we were holding hands. Does that mean anything? or he was just holding my hands too just to be nice? Would you hold a girl's hand like that even if u werent attracted to her? would it mean anything to you? or im just reading this wayy to much? I like him but idk if he feels the same way about me.
Guys don't just hold a girls hand to be nice, Likewise the dude really likes you. If he didn't, He wouldn't of held your hand.
I just got a new Boxer puppy. Shes 3 and a half months old, and she used to live with her two parents and 5 other dogs which she got to play with everyday. So I know it's hard for her to not always have someone to play with. Today, (Sunday) I spent the day with her and she was mostly outside with me or sleeping on my lap inside. The only issue is that my mom doesn't want her walking around inside the house (but when she's not home, I let her) because she can't deal with the puppy peeing and pooping all over. So, sometimes, we put her crate in the garage which is heated (we don't keep cars in there.)She also sleeps in there at night. I put her in there and tied her leash to her cage so she could move around a few feet surrounding her cage. I also put toys and a bowl of water. 15 minutes passed, and she was still howling and barking. It really bothers me, and as much as I'd like to let her keep sleeping on my lap, I'm incredibly tired, and I'm in high school, so I have work to do. I don't know if she's barking because I'm teaching her wrong, or if she misses her puppy friends. I have no idea how to make her okay with being in her crate. The first two days that we had her, she was fine in her crate and slept after whimpering a little bit, but now she is full out barking and howling for much longer than normal. Help????
Your puppy is 3 months old and she is sleeping in a crate in the garage?...Well this explains why she is howling all night long.
She is a baby and no puppy wants to be left alone, Guess what now this isn't directed towards you..but your mother should of never allowed you to have a puppy if she can't handle the poop and peeing around the house. It's just what pups do, I would sit down and explain to your mother to allow the puppy in the house if you have to keep her in a room with a pee pee pad then do so but I really wouldn't be putting her in the garage all night long she is way to young for that.
My advise: Get a pee pee pad and train her to go on that until she gets a bit older. Also, Your puppy will in time forget her puppy friends. Do you honestly remember a whole lot when you were 3 months? No.
My friend is really out of shape. She's very uncoordinated, so she doesn't play sports. Almost all of her time during the summer was spent sitting in front of the TV. I've tried to get her motivated to do some excersize, but she won't. She gets stressed easily and she gets frustrated easily, so I think thats a part of why she doesn't want to excersize......maybe because she'll get frustrated when she can't do something. Sometimes I get a little worried about her because she is so out of shape....I don't mean to be rude when I say that....but it's true. How can I motivate her to live a healthier lifestyle by excersizing without nagging her and sounding like I'm being bossy?
The truth, You can't.
You cannot help someone who isn't willing to help themselves. If your friend wants too loose the weight then she has to find it within herself to get off the couch and do something about it. Nobody can force her to loose weight, I'm not saying you do but talking about it isn't going to motivate her it will only annoy the crap out of her. If you care about her well being then I would sit down and discuss it with her but repeatedly bringing up the subject is going to get her to bitch out. Do it in a non-obvious way by asking her to go on a walk at a beach or a park but just don't make it so obvious.
i want a guys stance on my delima, lately i've just been getting girls advice. So i've willingly hooked up with a 40 year old and i'm 21. But the one time we did have sex, i pretended to be asleep simply for the fact that i was kind of scared to actually go through with it, yet i didn't want to make it awkward at work if i had said no. So i of course pretend like nothing happened, even though i woke up the next morning asking where my clothes were at in his room, still playing it cool. I'm not too sure what he thinks i think had happened. But the twisted part is that i still think about actually having sex with him now. I don't really know what's going on in my head, but do you think it's wrong of me to want it? I need a guys input on what you think.
Is it wrong to want sex? No. However, From a 40 year old man?...Sort of
This man is twice your age and he is trying to sweep up a 21 year old certainly isn't on the top of the charts. I'm not going to say he is a pedophile because you are the legal age but I will say it is not normal for a 40 year old to be trying to "hook up" with someone your age as he is old enough to be your father. You pretending to be asleep, Here you let this man take full advantage of you. Assuming he was aware of your "unconsciousness" here he willingly took you for granted. Guess what, It's sick. If you didn't want to hook up with him then I would of stuck out the awkwardness and said "No." it is not appropriate for a guy to be asking out co-workers on the job anyway. I would keep your distant any future offers of hooking up say no. For the future don't pretend to be asleep, You will gain nothing.
Me and my current boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and things are good. But recently I've been talking to my ex a lot and we even ended up kissing. I think I'm starting to fall for him again. What should I do?
Be honest and tell your current boyfriend the truth, It's not fair too lead him on.
Decide what you want to do about the situation, What is more important too you and who you can see yourself lasting with.
Why is your ex an ex? Can you see you two dating again and most of all is it the situation fixable. If you don't want to leave your current boyfriend then you need to stop contacting your ex, It's uncool to cheat and lead someone on.
How do you get a bigger butt?
I'm not sure if you are the same person repeatedly asking this question but just encase you are I'm going to give you the repeatedly same answer;
There is no way to get a bigger butt unless you have surgery. You've got what you got, Live with it.
ok so like a month ago i hung out with this guy from my work and wehit it off. and he was super cool and fun and we had a good time but he made it clear he didnt want a girlfriend bc he was sooo busy and blahblhblah
i did sleep with him a few times and i regret it....but i did it out of my own stupidity over gettin over a breakup and thinkin he really wanted more than friendship out of me...
now apparently hes had a girl for a week.he brought her to the party i was at last night...
AND she seems totally bland and everyone keeps saying how prettier i am hahaha
anyways why are guys so stupid and why did he do this i dont understand
It's this simple: He just wants to get laid
Sometimes men will say and do just about anything to get what they want out of a women. This guy isn't serious and she doesn't have to look like a supermodel for him to try and sweet talk his way into her pants.
Guys don't always use there heads and guess what...neither do women half of the time.
Except that he played you and move on
im 16/f and feel over weight, im 4'11 and weigh 160. my doctors says i should be weighing 130 or less. i hate the way i look i just want to die at times. my mother and I are looking for a plastic surgons in Rockford, Illinois that will do payments. we dont have much money but are able to make payments month to month. i just want to be happy and love myself. thank you.
All the columnist nailed it but I just have one little something to add; Liposuction is exactly how my Uncle died 2 years ago.
He didn't just die on the table, He died of massive side effects due to infections and complications of the surgery and was in and out of rehab for over 6 months. I would highly rethink your choice, You are young and can still loose the weight simply by dieting and exercise.
My boyfriend and I just broke up. I was waiting for him to decide what he wanted and yesterday he told me he still loved me and wanted to be here for me, but he didn't want to get back together. He said he won't dump and ditch me like my past boyfriends and he still wants to be friends. I was extremely upset. He hurt me so bad. I don't even know why we broke up.
He told me he never wanted to hurt me but he did. He knew it would break my heart but he left me anyway. He kept avoiding the fact he was dumping me though. He kept telling me he wasn't totally gone. I'm grateful he wants to be here for me, but it's not the same. I can't be friends with him. I'll end up making things complicated, i.e. Jealousy, developing more feelings, sitting back watching him be happy while I'm unhappy.
He's confusing me though. He told me yesterday we could get back together as long as I do one thing for him. He wants us to be on the same page and same level of trust and love before we split. I agreed to do so but he still won't get back with me. I told him this morning face to face I didn't like all these games and confusion. He either wants me or he doesn't. I told him if he really loved me he'd get back regardless of anything. I don't deserve to go through silly mind games or anything because I have been there before and I don't want to be there again. He said he's very indifferent. He doesn't know what he wants.
I love him very much. But I don't know what to do. I told him he needs to figure out his feelings, but I won't be here forever. I really love him and I can't stand being apart.
He won't even tell me why we split either. Every time I ask and tell him I deserve to know he gets all upset. He's angry with himself for hurting me. I just want to be with him again. I need help. I don't know what to do anymore.
He is playing mind games with you, He dumped you and now he is asking you to show a mutual respect for him?
Sometimes people break off relationships without given a reasonable explanation for it, It's just the way it goes sometimes. My advise; Move on and stop talking to him. Don't let him mess with your head because he doesn't deserve you in a relationship he sure as hell doesn't deserve you as a friend. Be the stronger one and know your better than that.
Im 14 and my bf is 15,Im a virgin hes not.
I really want to have sex with him but i want to do it secretly.I am just scared of the pain,and if i mess up while doing and im also scared of my reputation being messed up.
He doesnt force mi into it but when ever I bring up sex as a subject he gets quiet and starts biting his fingers.
I want to but i am scared of pregnancy.
His friends tell mi he likes me badly and my friends say he wants you body badly girl
We have been dating 7 months.I need help.
If you are scared of a possible chance of pregnancy then you aren't ready to be having sex, You can use a condom, birth control pills and even the pull out method but there is no such thing as 100% safe because anything can go wrong.
If you want to do it, Go for it but be safe about it and use a condom. Make sure YOU are ready, Don't do off of peer pressure.
my name is Rachel and iam 22 years old and my boyfriend billy is 29 but his black and iam afraid to bring him to meet my dad becouse he is really racist he told me that if I ever had a black boyfriend he would disown me and my whole dad's side of the family would disown me to. I don't have to worry about letting him meet my mom though becouse my stepdad is black but how do I let him to meet my boyfriend without my dad disowning me and saying mean things to him?
There is no easy approach, The best way I can possibly think of is to have a sit down with your father and try to bring it up in a calm matter. Your father may not be accepting and this is a risk you would have to take, If your father cares about your happiness he would learn to except and adjust to the situation. You are an adult now and your parents no longer have say on who you date. You have to decide what you want to do but remember on the other hand if you say nothing and he eventually finds out that could also come around too. It's just a risk you have to take.
Almost 15/F Guy is 20/M...
I've been talking to a guy online and he's from a different country. I like meeting new people, but at first he came off really strong.
He would call me, and text me, and comment on my pictures on facebook, which really was uncomfortable.
I texted him back and told him that he was being stalker-ish, at that time, he backed off and we became sorta "civil".
I have trust issues with guys, A LOT of trust issues, and I can't find myself to trust this guy much, but I am still talking to him.
He acts like he's met be before, and it's not freaky, I'm only curious. He asked me if he could call me sweetie, and I didn't really care, so I told him sure. Sometimes he asks me if I missed him when we don't talk and we'll have in depth conversations, which is nice because my guy best friend doesn't know half the stuff about me that this guy is guessing about.
It is nice to have someone to talk to that really gets me.
Anyways, how should I tell him to "back off" nicely? I don't want him to say sorry, I just want him to know that.....I don't know how to explain it. Maybe that: I don't understand why he is getting so close to me and saying things to me like that.
Cut complete contact
The internet is the easiest way for pedophiles and creeps to find their prey, This guy is 5 years older than you. Yes, he is a stalker but he also developed an obsession and people who become obsessed don't just back off.
Creeps on the internet come in all sources;
Some are master manipulators, Some are sweet talkers, Some are liars, Others use bribery etc. If you want it too stop then you are going to have to block him. Don't message him, Ignore him completely.
Next time, Don't give out your personal information. It is so easy for anyone to pretend to be someone behind a screen.
If he doesn't stop texting your phone, Then you may want to have the number changed. It is very easy for someone to Google an area code and get the location.
female/ 16 okay so recently me and my ex boyfriend we'll call him "trey" (not really his name)have been arguing a lot he lied to me about having a girlfriend and we did a couple of things (sexual) and i guess he told a bunch of people what we did.. so i got mad and stopped talking to him.. i ignore him and act like he's not there i know i'm doing the right thing but i feel so bad about the whole situation, i dont want to be his friend because i know that if i become his friend then we're going to be friend with benfits and i dnt want that. It's just hard for me to ignore him like that just because i still love him
He didn't love you, You were just his booty call.
When a guy cheats on a women it doesn't mean he loves them more or less the their current partner. I wouldn't be friends with the guy, He doesn't deserve your friendship at all. You have no reason to feel guilty he was in the wrong. This guy betrayed you, disrespected you and lied to you. Yes, It's a great thing you are ignoring the situation and moving on with your life you are showing him and other people who the bigger person is. Stay away from him he is bad news and the truth is karma can be a real bitch which I'm sure he will eventually get his half, It will eventually catch up too him. I would keep your distance you don't need assholes in your life put this all behind you and focus on meeting someone who will treat you right.
First of all, no judgements.
If I were to get pregnant with my boyfriend and before the abortion time limit he decides to stray(cheat, leave me, etc) and I find myself suddenly unable to go through with the pregnancy for whatever reason, does he have a right to say no? In other words, can the law stop me from having an abortion if he doesn't want me to have one?
If that were to happen, I don't see why it would be fair that he makes me go through 9 months of hell so he can have the kid when he was unreliable and irresponsible enough to cheat or leave me... once again, no judgements, please. I just need to know my options..
No, He would not be able to stop you neither would the law he can state his opinions but he cannot force you not too.
Abortion is a personal choice, It is your body. However, If you are a minor on the other hand your parents may have say in what you do.
I'm not judging you but I would make sure you are with the right person before bringing a baby in this world.
Good luck with what you do
I am a 14 year old girl. This guy in my class has a girlfriend but I think he kinda likes me what do I do if I kinda like him back?? We don't talk to each other though. What do I do?!
If he has a girlfriend I don't think it would be a good idea to do anything. If he likes you back then wait for him to approach you when he is available. You best bet though is to find someone who isn't in a relationship.