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my dad and his family iis racist!
my name is Rachel and iam 22 years old and my boyfriend billy is 29 but his black and iam afraid to bring him to meet my dad becouse he is really racist he told me that if I ever had a black boyfriend he would disown me and my whole dad's side of the family would disown me to. I don't have to worry about letting him meet my mom though becouse my stepdad is black but how do I let him to meet my boyfriend without my dad disowning me and saying mean things to him?
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Sometimes families grow apart over many kinds of issues. Often they are mutual differences which cannot be reconciled. Other times, they are conditions which are unilaterally decided by one of the people involved.
To your father, the issue is that the person is black, not that you love them. You can try to help him see your view, but you must also accept the possibility that you might not be able to talk to him ever again after this.
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There is no easy approach, The best way I can possibly think of is to have a sit down with your father and try to bring it up in a calm matter. Your father may not be accepting and this is a risk you would have to take, If your father cares about your happiness he would learn to except and adjust to the situation. You are an adult now and your parents no longer have say on who you date. You have to decide what you want to do but remember on the other hand if you say nothing and he eventually finds out that could also come around too. It's just a risk you have to take.
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