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Im 13 and want to have sex with my boyfriend(secretly)
Im 14 and my bf is 15,Im a virgin hes not.
I really want to have sex with him but i want to do it secretly.I am just scared of the pain,and if i mess up while doing and im also scared of my reputation being messed up.
He doesnt force mi into it but when ever I bring up sex as a subject he gets quiet and starts biting his fingers.
I want to but i am scared of pregnancy.
His friends tell mi he likes me badly and my friends say he wants you body badly girl
We have been dating 7 months.I need help.
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I am old enough to be your grandfather. I hope some grandfatherly advice and the wisdom of my age will be helpful to you.
I found the website, shown at the end, while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urges without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. At your present ages you can have all the intimacy of sex using these alternatives without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
My advice is to wait a few more years, let you and your bodies mature a bit more so that you can fully enjoy a sexual relationship. Don’t let pear pressure force you to do something you may not be fully ready for.
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Maybe it's just me but when I was 13 or 14 I wasn't really wanting sex with my boyfriends.
I wouldn't do it if I were you. If you're scared, you're not ready. Your reputation might get messed up because your boyfriend will probably go brag about it to their friends, most guys do. So other people will find out.
If something messes up, you're so young, you couldn't handle getting pregnant so just wait till you're older.
You've only been together for 7 months, and you're 14.
Trust me, it will mess you up big time, emotionally and physically.
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Look, I personally think you are WAY too young to have sex. Not only that, but you're not ready. I don't think you know one thing about what sex is. It's not something you do just because your boyfriends friends tell you he really likes you. That does not mean anything if it's not coming from him. Especially at your age, guys will say anything to get some. You think it will be a secret, but he could be the type of guy to brag about it to his friends and it will get around. You're scared, and you're not ready. I think you're putting more pressure on yourself to have sex than he is. Wait a few more years and do it with someone who you LOVE and who loves you back.
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If you are scared of a possible chance of pregnancy then you aren't ready to be having sex, You can use a condom, birth control pills and even the pull out method but there is no such thing as 100% safe because anything can go wrong.
If you want to do it, Go for it but be safe about it and use a condom. Make sure YOU are ready, Don't do off of peer pressure.
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