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Going camping with my boyfriend?
I am 18 and about to graduate high school and I want to go camping with my boyfriend, but my mom don't want me to. So is it a bad thing to go camping with my boyfriend?
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There's nothing bad about going camping with your boyfriend.Depends what you get up to with you boyfriend if you are sharing a tent I think your mum is conserned about you losing your moral standards.You know what I mean.If you have introduced your boyfriend to you mum and have built a relationship of trust between them, Then I don't see why there should be a problem. I guess it's up to you in the end to put the record straight that there won't be any serious hanky panky.
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Well, I know what she is worried about but she needs to stop worrying because one ay you will not have to have her permission, oh you already dont need it, but make sure if you plan on having sex have protection your old enough to get it, and make sure your bf knows what he is doing.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. Hopefully the wisdom that comes with age will be helpful to you.
The problem your mom sees in you going camping with your boyfriend goes beyond the camping itself:
First: How experience of a camper is your boyfriend.
Second: Where will you be camping. Are you planning to just go off into the mountains or to a lake and pitch a tent; or does you boyfriend plan to go to a State or National Park where there are rangers who could check on you?
Third: This is the big one, the one that will be the hardest to overcome. While you are 18 and legally an adult; your mom sees this trip as an opportunity for you an your boyfriend to indulge in any sexual intimacy you two may desire. In mom's mind this is not a camping trip but a weekend of wanton sex. It does not matter if you and your boyfriend are sexually active, this is what your mom is seeing.
I can offer advice on the first two, the third well that is going to be up to you. I'll make a suggestion to offer.
As to your boyfriends experience as a camper. If he is an experienced camper you could have his parents assure your mom of this fact. That and combining it with going to a state or national park to camp should allay most of moms fears on those subjects.
As to the third problem. You could say to your mom; mom if you are concerned about Tom and I having sex: I'm 18, legally an adult. If I wish to have a sex life that is up to me. If I were to have a sex life I would take all the proper precautions to avoid getting pregnant and that is really all or more than I should have to divulge to you.
The other of course is that you are a virgin in which case you could say: Mom I am a virgin; Tom and I have discussed this and agreed that I will remain so until we marry, or words to that effect.
As I said the third objection is the hardest one to overcome. As a salesman for over 30 years identifying and overcoming objections are the keys to any successful negotiation, even with parents.
You of course can also throw out the fact that you are 18 and an adult now an can do as you please. Moms come back will be a parent favorite retort: "As long as you live under my roof, you live by my rules."
I've identified for you what mom's most likely objections are and possible answers to overcome them. Now it is up to you to sell mom on the fact that her objections may be meaningful but they should not worrisome.
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It's not a bad thing, but parents can be very protective and start to assume things. I know because my parents are the same way lol. Don't be upset with your mom because she won't let you, she's just worried about you. Maybe she'd feel more comfortable if an adult went with you guys.
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