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Can he say no to me having an abortion?
First of all, no judgements.
If I were to get pregnant with my boyfriend and before the abortion time limit he decides to stray(cheat, leave me, etc) and I find myself suddenly unable to go through with the pregnancy for whatever reason, does he have a right to say no? In other words, can the law stop me from having an abortion if he doesn't want me to have one?
If that were to happen, I don't see why it would be fair that he makes me go through 9 months of hell so he can have the kid when he was unreliable and irresponsible enough to cheat or leave me... once again, no judgements, please. I just need to know my options..
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Maybe give some free advice about: Abortion?
Legally, as long as you are less than 24 weeks pregnant, and at least two doctors agree that having the baby would be a risk to your physical or mental health, or the baby's physical or mental health, you may have an abortion without the father's consent.
Though the law is clear, the moral issues of having a baby are not. It is up to you entirely to decide whether terminating the life of your baby is a decision you will cause you mental distress in the long term. Abortion is an option, but is never the only answer, if you were to have the child adopted, you would be giving the new parents the most amazing gift, you would not have to bring up a child that would remind you of the father, and the child would be happier.
Hope that helps and good luck!
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The answer is NO. He cannot legally restrict you from having an abortion. Your body, your CHOICE.
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You have nothing to worry about. The ball is all the way in your court.
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Your body is yours to do with it what you please. In the USA, Roe V. Wade makes the issue very clear - it's your domain to do what you wish if you decide you don't want to carry the fetus to term, but bare in mind that some states have conditions attached to that freedom.
Don't let his sperm anchor him to you. Do what's right for you. Planned Parenthood, or your local public health clinic are your best options toward figuring out what's right for you.
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Hi, I am old enough to be your grandfather. Hopefully the wisdom that comes with age will be helpful to you with your question.
Every state has different laws on this issue. Most states follow the rule that it is the women's body and she can do as she pleases.
This does not mean that your boyfriend cannot go to court ans seek a restraining order to enjoin you from having an abortion while asking the court to decide on whatever question he is presenting to have you go through with the pregnancy.
This is an extreme situation and generally something that happens between a husband and wife, more than boyfriend and girlfriend. It is also an expensive proposition for him as he needs to hire a lawyer and you can elect a public defender to be assigned to you if you cannot afford a lawyer.
He cannot also wait so long as to use the injunction as away to keep you from getting the abortion as to push you past the mark where your state may not allow abortions. The courts are wise to this and generally deny the request.
Your best protection against winding up in this situation is of course to use a good method of birth control.
Abortion is not meant as a form of birth control. It is an option of last resort. If you are using birth control and your boyfriend is using a condom; then your chances of becoming pregnant are reduced to less than 1%.
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Unfortunately, no.
While it may be "your body" the law doesn't quite grasp the fact that it's also HIS child. A child is 50% of his genetics. He reproduced WITH you. You didn't spontaneously become pregnant when he approached you, you know?
Any input he might have about a potential abortion would be directed to you. It would be up to you if you wanted to respect his opinion and ideas about his own child. Legally, he has no rights to the unborn even though it is considered to be his.
9 months of Hell isn't quite right. A lot of women really love pregnancy. A lot of women aren't ill during pregnancy. A lot of women feel empowered knowing that they carried a growing life inside of them for 9 months. I've never met a woman who said she experienced "nine months of Hell" after getting to cuddle her newborn. Single woman or not.
And, speaking of single, my God, do you know how many men and women are infertile and would give up A LOT to be able to have a newborn to raise as theirs? I know, first-hand!
On the opposite hand of your partner potentially being unreliable and irresponsible...have you considered the fact that YOU would actually be the person who CHOOSES to be connected to this person deep enough to be sexually intimate and risk the chances of pregnancy? What I'm saying here is, if you have a fear that you may possibly be choosing the wrong guy then hold off and make the RIGHT decision to begin with. CHOOSING to have sex is CHOOSING to take on the risk of possibly becoming pregnant. He wouldn't be "making" you do anything. If you're old enough to be having sex then hopefully you have enough mentality to figure out the consequences of such and reconsider your actions based on that knowledge of potential pitfalls.
Abortion isn't for people who are in the situation of being single parents. How many single parents are there that love their children and get by well? Plenty. Nobody is happy when they are left but it doesn't mean you should take that pain out on a child, born or not.
It might sound scary to not have a partner to help you raise a child, but, seriously, killing the child because of this? And your only worry is that the father would disagree with that decision? Honestly? That's what you're worried most about?
Consider this: If the man truly doesn't want you to have an abortion...maybe he's willing to take on the responsibility of raising that child. Obviously the child would mean something to him, even if it means nothing to you.
While you may be the one carrying it for 9 months, the father could actually choose to raise this child. For years. Without you.
9 months < Years
Feeling down for 9 months < Raising a child and putting their needs ahead of your own for YEARS
Neither of you want to raise the baby? Adoption. I'd willingly hold out my arms for the infant as soon as he or she came in this world. You wouldn't have to know any part of the rest of his or her life. Making sure a baby is taken care of, even if it isn't by you? Responsible.
And you can't say, "If he wasn't responsible enough to remain faithful then I'm not giving him my child!"
...murder isn't very responsible either. Running from your problems is not responsible. Making poor decisions, where you didn't quite think things through and build a sturdy foundation in a situation, is also irresponsible.
If all your worried about is "9 months of Hell" if your partner were to leave you then keep your panties on and build a relationship first.
Unwanted pregnancies are mistakes. Adults don't run from mistakes. We deal with mistakes. We learn from the mistakes. We take responsibility for our actions. We don't pretend the mistake never happened.
No judgments. Just honesty. Open your eyes.
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No, He would not be able to stop you neither would the law he can state his opinions but he cannot force you not too.
Abortion is a personal choice, It is your body. However, If you are a minor on the other hand your parents may have say in what you do.
I'm not judging you but I would make sure you are with the right person before bringing a baby in this world.
Good luck with what you do
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No of course the law can't stop you from having an abortion.
Your boyfriend can say no, but it is ultimately your decision. The person who carries the baby has the decision to abort the baby or not, because you are the one you will be the one carrying it for 9 months.
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