So my friends and I are Curious, but to scared/embarrassed to ask our moms. How much do you bleed after your "cherry" has been popped? Is it like your period?
It really depends. If you use tampons, then you're unlikely to bleed much if at all because your hymen is probably already broken. If you do bleed, it won't be a huge amount - alot less than your period. If you bear in mind the fact that on average, your period is only around a teaspoon of blood anyway, you realise it's not alot at all.
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So do guys actually get pleasure and like fingering girls or do they just do it to make us happy?
It depends on the guy. Some genuinely enjoy doing it and it turns them on. Others get turned on by the fact that they're giving a girl pleasure. And yes, some do just do it to make us happy, just like plenty of girls do the same for them.
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When is the best time to have unprotected sex?
and how often do condoms break?
and when u have sex can it make ur period come a little bit later than it normally would, even though you are NOT pregnant?
There isn't really a 'best' time to have unprotected sex. Whenever you have sex, you run the risk of conceiving. You are at your least fertile just before and just after your period but there is still no guarantee that you won't fall pregnant.
When used correctly, condoms rarely break. Correct use means the condom is within its use-by date, that you are careful of nails and jewellery and that you put it on according to the instructions. If used absolutely correctly, approximately 3 in 100 women will fall pregnant. If used incorrectly, this rises to around 14 in 100.
Sex does not delay your period. Unless you're pregnant, then it'll delay it for 9 months or so. However, stress can. If you're worrying about your period coming then it can delay it.
Basically, if you're having sex you should ALWAYS use protection unless you intend to conceive. Regardless of your choice of contraception, you should also use a condom when sleeping with a new partner to avoid catching an STI.
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In my daughter's school there will eventually be a swimming unit in gym class some times in the following semesters and both boys and girls have the class together. Isn' t kind of wrong to force young people to be in bathing suits in front of each other? Even if its one piece? I assumed they would be seperate. Daughter is in 8th grade by the way
Is it wrong to have mixed sex public swimming pools? What about beaches?
Don't you think it would be weird if young people grew up thinking it was wrong to be around each other in bathing suits? Children of that age are much less likely to be uncomfortable in that situation than older children and teenagers.
I had mixed swimming classes at school up until the age of 16 and there was nothing weird or perverse about it. In addition to that, my parents took me to a public swimming pool every week for most of my childhood.
If you really can't accept the idea then I suggest you contact your daughter's school and ask her to be excused from swimming sessions.
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I'm 15 and I'm pregnant. I know it's not ideal. I know it's a bad situation. I'm not happy or proud of what I did. It's something I know I have to deal with though.
I told my mom two days ago that I am pregnant. She was really mad at me and told me that we'd get rid of "it" soon enough then.
I tried to tell her it's not what I want. I want to take responsibility. I know it's a hard road. I don't want to kill my baby or "get rid of it." I want this baby and I want to do my best with him or her.
My mom says I'm being stupid and on Monday she's going to call the clinic to schedule an appointment to have an abortion done.
I get where she's coming from, but it is NOT what I want to do. I want to give birth and raise my kid the best I can. I'm not perfect. Nobody is. I just want to try my best.
They always say it's 'my body and my choice' but I feel like my mom isn't giving me a choice here. It's my mistake and I want to do what I think is best. It's my baby I am carrying. I don't want to have an abortion. What do I do? How can I get help so she doesn't make me get one?
You can't have an abortion against your will. Even if your mother makes an appointment, you will have to have a consultation with a doctor to ensure you are pyschologically sound and understand the enormity of your decision.
Having a baby so young is tough. Like you, my sister got pregnant at 15 and it didn't turn out well for her at all. My parents raise the baby themselves and she has very little involvement. Of course everyone is different and plenty of young mothers do a good job but you must understand how incredibly difficult it is, especially if you don't have the support of your mother.
Ask her what will happen if you refuse an abortion. If she plans to kick you out you need to seriously consider your options. Where will you go? How will you afford to raise a baby and look after yourself? What will you do about your education? These are big questions that you need to think about long and hard. If you can get your mother on side, things will be significantly easier.
Good luck.
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My friends have been excluding me out of their plans lately. when I'm around them they say that I'm their favorite because I'm so nice and I never make them mad but I don't get invited anywhere. Maybe this is just a phase but now I just hang out by myself :(
We've all been there. If there's a particular member of the group who you're closer to and can confide in, then perhaps have a quiet word with him/her. It's one thing leaving you out unintentionally, but doing it when they are aware of how you feel is another. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, try making plans and inviting them yourself.
If they continue to leave you out, you need to make new friends. In my last year at school, I was in with a group of girls who suddenly became very cliquey. I made an effort but when it became apparent that they just weren't very nice people, I left them to it and hung out with other people. No one deserves to be made to feel bad by their 'friends'.
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Do guys like girls with pierced nipples?
Some do, most don't.
I put off getting my nipple pierced for years because I was worried guys wouldn't like it. In the end I did it anyway because quite frankly, I couldn't care less. You'll find that it's generally girls who think that people with nipple piercings are 'skanky' or whatever, and that's usually because they're too scared to get it done themselves.
Unless it's going to affect your job or something along those lines, getting any kind of body modification is your choice. If a guy really has that big a problem that he doesn't want to sleep with you because of it, then he really isn't someone you want to be sleeping with.
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canyou still do it when you have a yeast infection
You can..but you probably won't want to.
It will be pretty uncomfortable and will cause further irritation, prolonging healing time. It's also possible to pass a yeast infection to your partner and it's unlikely that he'll take too kindly to that.
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Is it ok for a guy to hit his girlfriend, even if she did something to piss him off really bad?
If you're in a relationship with someone, you don't hit them.
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Is there I reason why there isn't a "See Friendship" button on this one kid's Facebook? The option is there for everybody else's Facebook that I go to, but it's not there for him.
He probably has his privacy settings adjusted so that either only certain people have access to that feature or no one at all.
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are chavs the english equivalent to ghetto gangstas in america?
No, not really.
In the broadest sense, a chav is a general word used to describe people who engage in anti-social behaviour. Stereotypically, chavs wear fake Burberry, tracksuits and lots of fake gold jewellery. The girls usually have all their hair scraped back off their face in a ponytail. Nowadays the word is usually just used to describe any white, working class teenager getting involved in stuff like drinking in the street and petty crime.
There are quite a few urban legends behind where the word came from. Some people think it comes from Cheltenham, a town in England, where the girls at the college would call men 'Cheltenham Averages', which was shortened to 'chav'. Another theory is that it is an acronym of 'Counci House Associated Vermin'. It most likely comes from the Romani word for 'child' which is 'chavi'.
The whole chav thing has almost become a style now though. Bands like N-Dubz pretty much base their image on the 'chav' style. Quite alot of British celebrities get labelled with it too. Really it's just a derogatory label for anyone displaying seemingly common behaviour.
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i'm 18 and still a virgin. i'm definetly not ashamed of it, actually i'm kinda proud. its not like i'm ugly, actually alot of people are surprised or don't believe me that i'm still a virgin i just refuse to give my virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it and i haven't met anyone worth giving it to yet (i know i'm old fashioned but whatever). i've had a few boyfriends and definetly many opportunities but i just didn't want to. but i feel like everyone my age and even a little younger has had sex. when i hang out with certain friends thats all they talk about. i mean somethings i can contribute because i've done everything else except actual intercourse. but i just feel like i'm alone. is there anyone out there my age virgins?
It's much better to remain a virgin until you feel good and ready than to regret having sex. I, along with plenty of my friends, have really regretted at least a couple of sexual encounters and it's not a nice feeling.
I've also got lots of friends who are still virgins and I'm 19. It's no big deal, people who care about that kind of stuff and use it against you aren't the kind of people you want to be spending time with.
You should be proud of yourself.
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I like a guy, and I told him because by facebook I had sent him an extremely stupid and emabarassing wall post. He was really nice about it, and didn't make fun of me at all. Four days after this, he sent me an e-mail telling me he just wants to be friends and that he likes someone else, but he said "right now" after both of these sentences. We haven't talked ever since, we're pretty much pretending the other doesn't exist. And after all these I want us to be more than friends, but I'm too afraid to do anything. What do you suggest?
He's made it clear that he just wants to be friends at the moment, and you need to accept that. Don't read too much into what he's saying, as it's unlikely he meant anything by 'right now'. Be thankful that he was so gracious about it.
It's bound to be awkward between you for a while, so just act normal, smile and say 'hello' when you see him but understand that you are not going to get anything more than friendship out of him.
It's hard when you have feelings for someone who doesn't return them but you will get over it. Eventually you'll meet someone who you click with and who will feel the same way about you.
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I'm 15 and got a facial from my local mall. When I was done, I obviously had to get something from there lol. So, the brand is something called Clarins Paris. What I bought was a moisterizer called HydraQuench Cream and it came with two free things, HydraQuench Cream-Mask and HydraQuench Intensive Serum Bi-Phase. Then there's Gentle Foaming Cleanser that came with a free Toning Lotion(for anyone who wants to look it up, it's the yellow one). And finally, the Hydra-Care Tinted Moisturizer SPF 6. Now, I'm very confused on what to put on first and when. What I usually did was put on Neutrogena foundation on my face and then eyeliner, mascara, and then this Neutrogena powder. However, now I have all of these different things. Since I have the two moisterizers, one tinted and one not, is it necessary to have both? I try not to put so much things on my face but I do want my dry skin to go away. Can someone please tell me what each one of the things do for you? and are they necessary or just a preferance?
You should cleanse, tone and moisturise every morning and before you go to bed. So as a general rule, use the foaming cleanser, followed by the toning lotion or HydraQuench Intensive Serum Bi-Phase and finish with a moisturiser. It's up to you whether you use the toning lotion or serum really, but as the other products you're using are HydraQuench, you might find the serum works best with them. If you skip any step, then skip the toner. Cleansing and moisturising are really essential for keeping your skin in good condition but toning is really just an extra.
Tinted moisturiser contains a small amount of foundation and should be used in its place. So if you're using it, cleanse and tone as usual in the morning then just put the tinted moisturiser on. There's no need to put foundation over the top. At night you should be using the HydraQuench Cream after cleansing and toning.
According to the Clarin's website, this is how you should be using the Cream Mask:
Apply once or twice a week to clean, dry skin (avoiding the eye area). Leave 5-10 minutes and then remove any lasting traces with a cotton pad dampened in Toning Lotion.
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ok so ive liked this girl for about a year and a half now and were always together and joking around and having fun. she has a bf that shes been with longer then shes even known me
and i pretty much told her how much i like her and yeah...
she said she liked me but she loved her bf and she tells me were best friends so that i cant like her
idk what to do
and help or advice would be appreciated
There's nothing you can do.
She's been with her boyfriend for longer than she's known you, that sounds pretty committed to me.
You must accept that nothing is going to happen betwen you for the forseeable future and just appreciate her friendship - it sounds like she dealt with the situation in a rather gracious and sensitive way.
If it's too hard to deal with just being her friend then tell her you need some space for a while, I'm sure she'll understand.
Please don't think I'm being unsympathetic in this situation - we've all been there - but the best thing for you to do right now is try and get over her. It will be hard but once you do, you'll be able to find someone who is just as funny/clever/pretty as this girl and who returns your feelings.
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Hello i've been on birth control for about 3 years now and my husband is going to be deployed for a year and we're going to try to have kids when he comes back so i wanted to get off birth control now to help my body become "natural" again. I've been off Yaz birth control for about a month and a half now and i still havent gotten my period. Is this normal? When should i expect it? Anybody else have experiences like this? Thanks in advance!
This is pretty normal. It can take a while for your body to readjust after coming off birth control, especially if you've been on it for a long time, so it's difficult to give an exact time. I came off it after two years and it was about 8 weeks before I had a period but everyone is different. For now there isn't really anything you can do but wait but if you are still concerned, check in with your doctor to make sure everything's okay.
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So, I've been on birth control for almost two years now and never had a problem with it. My boyfriend and I don't use protection because of my BC. I know its not 100%, but we use the pull out method. Recently we've stopped doing that every once in awhile. What are the chances of me getting pregnant with/without the pull out method?
Many women in relationships choose not to use condoms when they're on the Pill as unless their partner is unfaithful, there isn't a risk of catching an STI. When taken correctly, the Pill is over 99% effective at preventing pregnancy. This means that less than 1 woman in every 100 will get pregnant in a year. In other words, as long as you are taking your birth control at the same time every day, are not on antibiotics and don't have any sickness or diarrhea then the chances of you conceiving are very slim.
However, there is still a chance, however small and the pull out method isn't always effective either. It's up to you to decide whether or not you want to risk the small chance but if you are worried, it might be a good idea to use condoms as a back up.
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I keep listening to "Heart Skipped a Beat." I love this song so muchhh! Does anyone know of any similar songs? Or bands in general?
As the person below mentioned, the whole album is brilliant. It won the Mercury prize for reason! 'Islands', 'VCR' and 'Crystalised' are especially good.
Check out Bat For Lashes (especially 'Daniel') and Bloc Party's albums 'Silent Alarm' and 'A Weekend in the City' for something a bit similar.
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Okay so... I believe in being abstinent until marriage... but I've had oral sex with about 6 guys, 3 of which I was not dating and 1 that was in (is in) another relationship. Do I feel bad about it? um yeah.. I'm 19 and I feel like 6 guys is way too many, i'm actually ashamed to even tell my friends they think its 4 or 5. So advice anyone?
We all do things we regret.
I'm ashamed of the amount of people I've slept with and I know I'm not the only one. 'How many is too many?' is unanswerable because it's a personal thing. If you felt fine about those 6 guys it wouldn't matter what anyone else thought. People are often too quick to judge the sex lives of others when really, it has nothing to do with them.
There's nothing you can do to take away the regret you feel for what you've done but you need to stop beating yourself up about it. Learn from your mistakes and remember them if you ever get yourself into a situation where you may do something you regret again. As for your friends, you don't have to tell them anything. Your sex life is a private matter.
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I really want to get pregnant. Its not that I want to have a baby as much as just have that feeling of being pregnant. All pregnancy women are so pretty with that pregnancy glow about them and everybody is always rubbing their bellies and so excited about them having a brand new baby. I talked to my bf and said i really wanted him to get me pregnant and he was like kind of unsure but said he would think about it. I was thinking of going on and throwing away the box of condoms i have here so he'd like HAVE to do it with me without them? But then I'm just kind of unsure. I mean a baby is pretty time consuming and I don't want people to think I'm evil if I give it up for adoption. Being pregnant really is so cute though. Advice?
Sure, pregnancy is great; morning sickness, swollen ankles, huge weight gain, an aversion to foods, the potential of having serious complications, tiredness, aches and pains, needing to go to the toilet every five minutes...it's a blast. And you get the added bonus of carrying the stigma of teen pregnancy, which means you'll get dirty looks and strangers judging you. You'll probably have to drop out of school too, even if only temporarily.
Trust me, you do not want to be pregnant right now. As for wanting to just be pregnant and not have a baby, well that's just plain stupid.
My sister got pregnant at 15 and let me tell you now it was not fun for her. She had a terrible time and now she has a baby she doesn't want to look after. I adore my nephew but I think if she were able to turn back time, she wouldn't have been so stupid.
You are 15. You have plenty of time to get pregnant, preferably by someone who actually WANTS to have a baby with you and who you don't have to force into it.
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