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15 and want to get pregnant really bad
I really want to get pregnant. Its not that I want to have a baby as much as just have that feeling of being pregnant. All pregnancy women are so pretty with that pregnancy glow about them and everybody is always rubbing their bellies and so excited about them having a brand new baby. I talked to my bf and said i really wanted him to get me pregnant and he was like kind of unsure but said he would think about it. I was thinking of going on and throwing away the box of condoms i have here so he'd like HAVE to do it with me without them? But then I'm just kind of unsure. I mean a baby is pretty time consuming and I don't want people to think I'm evil if I give it up for adoption. Being pregnant really is so cute though. Advice?
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I know a lot of girls your age who want to get pregnant, in fact I had friends your age who went through this same thing. However, it is completely different when your 15 and pregnant. That pregnancy glow is gone because your so consumed with school and your parents, not to mention rumors and judgements that will fly around your school making your life that much more stressful. You should wait until your AT LEAST 18, and even then that's a little young.
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I'm really glad I came across this. My sister got pregnant at a young age.
You're only 15 that is WAY TOO YOUNG not only to do it on accident but also because you want to. You do know that if you get pregnant and you decide to keep the baby you have this life to take care of for 18 years. You can't pawn it off on someone because you think about being a teen again it doesn't work that way you're a mom now you have to be one. If you decide to give it away what happens if it wants to find you in 15 years? What would you say? "Oh,I'm sorry honey. But when I was your age I wanted to be pregnant but not really keep you I just wanted to feel pregnant." A lot of people are not mature enough to bring a new life into this world and I'm sorry but you would be one of them. You need to understand that just because you want to be pregnant for the feeling comes along with other things and most of them are not as nice as you're thinking. You're an unwed 15 year old so right there people at your school and in your town will not think the best,you'll have to miss school,you'll be up and down with the baby(if you would keep it). I mean it isn't all as glamours as you're thinking it will be. Most of the things you have described are from woman who are married and want a baby not to be pregnant but to bring a life into this world to take care of it and raise it. Not to mention to hurts like hell. Have you tried passing a bowling ball? You shouldn't do it it is a selfish act you not matter what you decide to do with it if you get pregnant you're child will have a hard time with it almost like you didn't want him/her. PLEASE rethink this. If you need someone to talk to I can always put you in contact with my sister!!
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Sure, pregnancy is great; morning sickness, swollen ankles, huge weight gain, an aversion to foods, the potential of having serious complications, tiredness, aches and pains, needing to go to the toilet every five minutes...it's a blast. And you get the added bonus of carrying the stigma of teen pregnancy, which means you'll get dirty looks and strangers judging you. You'll probably have to drop out of school too, even if only temporarily.
Trust me, you do not want to be pregnant right now. As for wanting to just be pregnant and not have a baby, well that's just plain stupid.
My sister got pregnant at 15 and let me tell you now it was not fun for her. She had a terrible time and now she has a baby she doesn't want to look after. I adore my nephew but I think if she were able to turn back time, she wouldn't have been so stupid.
You are 15. You have plenty of time to get pregnant, preferably by someone who actually WANTS to have a baby with you and who you don't have to force into it.
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You're just going through a phase - lots of girls go through the same one. Your hormones are all over the place at this age, so it's pretty normal.
..but what you're thinking of doing is wrong. You can't pressure your boyfriend and you definitely must use protection.
You've said it yourself - you are unsure. When you want something 100%, you have no doubts and you would've wanted it for absolutely ages. Never rush in to something so huge at such a young age, just because you think it's "cute"
Being a mum is a full time job and for any 15 year old, it's not exactly the best idea.
Being pregnant isn't fun and games, your body goes through MASSIVE changes, physically and mentally. Do you really want to be left with stretch marks at 15? Do you really want the sickness and aches and medical check ups/classes. No, no and no.
You're only seeing the sweet side of it, I reckon if you read up about it, you'd change your mind.
Be smart and enjoy your youth. You've got YEARS to be thinking about becoming pregnant.
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Pregnancy is not a fun romp through the world with a big belly.
When you are pregnant your body steps up production of hormones. Between pregnancy and teenagehood, you will probably be borderline insane for certain periods and you will have no control over it until afterwards when the guilt sets in.
You'll gain probably around 40-50 pounds. Because your body isn't used to that weight, it'll hurt. Back, knees, ankles, pretty much everything from the neck down will hurt pretty regularly once the belly starts to expand.
Before that is the morning sickness. Stretch marks. More aches and pains. And other random effects. My aunt suddenly and inexplicably became allergic to shellfish following her first pregnancy.
At 15 your body isn't physically ready for pregnancy. Your mind isn't prepared. You've only ever seen pregnancy from the outside in, you're missing the drudgery and unpleasantness for the momentary glowy snapshots.
I want you to think about something. You've undoubtedly heard jokes about someone being "a mistake" and people not liking the idea. Imagine if a kid found out "mom had me because she felt like getting knocked up, then she gave me away when she was done being pregnant"
Or worse, how would you like to explain to your kid that the reason you had them when you were 15 was because you wanted to glow? What kind of parental example does that set?
Last, don't expect anyone to be all thrilled for you that you got yourself knocked up. Your parents, your friends, your teachers, aren't likely to be rubbing your belly and smiling. If it were an accident they'd feel sorry for you, but if they know you did it just to be the center of attention for nine months most of them will treat you like the kind of person who gets themselves knocked up to be the center of attention.
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Ugh, I went through this phase. Lol up until I found out what responsibility is. No, I didn't get pregnant, but I took up other responsibilities like school, work, bills, and maintaining my long term relationship. After all that, having a baby would be cute, yes, but hard. Babies are time consuming. You need to be mature for your baby, you can't be selfish because you'll have to care for your baby since he or she can't care for themselves, you need to be strong by taking care of yourself throughout the pregnancy, giving labor.. the long nights and days with little sleep. I don't know, but I'd like to have a baby when I have money in my bank, my partner has money in the bank, stable jobs, own place, and plenty of time. I'd also like to know that my partner and I are in a stable position in our lives so there won't be any stupid arguments about how I look, the baby being annoying, etc etc. If I were you, I would not think about throwing that box of condoms away. It might seem so cute now, but will your parents take care of that baby for you? Will they help raising the child while you go to school and work? Will they sacrifice their sleep and time for a child they had no control over creating? Please, do yourself a favor, stay in school. Focus on graduating and becoming someone who will have a decent career and can manage herself without anyone's help. Because it will suck if you become pregnant, the dad abandons you and his child. You're 15, he's probably within three years of your age (13-18), and at those ages mature guys are hard to find. They exist, don't get me wrong lol. Point blank, take everyone's advice, please don't get pregnant anytime soon! Take care, and be safe :D
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Do yourself and your non-existent baby a favor, Don't get pregnant. Get a puppy then you willknow what it feels like to take care of a living thing. If you want to be cute or have a glow, put on some make-up girl.
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omg giving birth hurtz so bad take it from m3 girl dont make my mistake omg and i threw up like all the time even in class on all my friends it was so embearassing dont do it hun! xoxo
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Okay sweetheart you are 15 years old, which means you are high school, I doubt you have a job and you really really can't take care of yourself let alone a baby. Being pregnant is very very serious, you can't just get pregnant to be pregnant. If you get pregnant that baby is your responsibilty, that means you have a LIFE depending on you to take care of it. How do you expect to do that when you can't take care of yourself?? Babies are more than time consuming, they completely change your life. Its no longer about you, its alll about that baby. You don't get to go out have fun, hang out with friends, do after school activities, nothing. I am really surprised that you can get on here and talk about having a baby like its a dog. Its not.
You really need to sit down, research how much money babies are, how bad it HURTS to have a baby, the complications that can arise, how it will change your body, and alll the responsibilities that go along with it. It might also be a good idea to talk to someone from planned parenthood, they can give you brochures and lots of information about pregnancy and motherhood. Honestly, it would be pretty stupid to try and get pregnant at your age, it would completely change your life, in ways that you at your age aren't ready for.
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I don't answer questions for positive feedback I answer them because I am highly opinionated and a jerk... but seriously... I feel I need to tell you this.
Pregnant chicks are cute when they are happy they are pregnant. There is nothing cute about a girl who doesn't know what or how she is going to make it in the future. Please talk to some teenage moms before you decide to do this. See how they have to give up going out, hanging out, etc. In a few years, you'll be driving, breaking hearts and all sorts of other things girls like you do...
When your in high school, college, and even beyond you wont just be a girl.. you'll be a girl with baggage. Don't get me wrong, I think kids are great, but I also think you should go out live life and wreck shop before you willingly get knocked up. Trust me you can be cute with a scarf, you don't need to add a human life into the equation.
And also be careful with conning your boyfriend into knocking you up. That could chase him away. While tennage boys are all for the act of sex, it's the whole "I want to force him into impregnating me" thing that says "weird".
Oh and if that doesn't change your mind. Consider this. Morning sickness. Bloating, Hospital bills, complications in the third trimester and labor pain... repeat... labor pain. Oh yeah and babies shit a lot... just saying.
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I really don't suggest getting pregnant at age 15. Not only is it time consuming as you said, but you must have a lot of money to keep it alive and healthy. You shouldn't get pregnant just to get the feel of it either or the glow. You should get pregnant because you want and know you are ready to care for another human being. Babies are fragile beings. Your boyfriend might be scared to do it as he's probably not ready to take care of a baby either. It's a lot of work and not to mention, it'll interfere greatly with your education. I had a boyfriend who's sister was pregnant with twins and she had to drop out to take care of them. She's struggling with it too. Getting pregnant takes a great amount of responsibility and careful planning, so I suggest you think about all the pros and cons of it before you just jump right into it.
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